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Sixfeetbelle:
Seriously, very few men on this forum are insightful. You are definitely one of them. Kudos

dairykidd:
Okay maybe that wasn't a good enough example and mind u I'm not talking about missing anything I'm talking about being sexually frustrated due to her partners shortcomings. Now ur sex game is wack and u marry a virgin with no sexual penetrative experience. Now believe it or not a lot of virgins know how to pleasure themselves while keeping the hymen intact. Even if she eventually becomes ur Mrs. there's a high tendency for her to rediscover her sexuality especially when ur a no good sexually with a dot dick that lasts only 30 seconds. Remember this girl is not a fool. She went through school,made crazy friends and good ones even though she decided to remain chaste. Iit doesn't mean she has no knowledge of sexual satisfaction or orgasms. She's not a dunce. The only difference here is that she has never experienced it.

Now to the experience part. She has been having boring sex with u for almost 2 years now which is her only sexual experience and let's assume she never masturbated herself to full climax before. She reads books and internet articles about these things, watch movies about them and her friends discuss how their husbands or ex used to make them turn to jelly through good fvcking. Armed with all these info she wonders why hers is just like a normal routine duty come, open, slam in slam out and done. The human mind is very powerful and always ponders on the unknown especially when.it promises secret hidden pleasures. If she is psychologically okay she would definitely want to explore one day by touching herself to even see if she can truly get that euphoric feelings her friends are always on about. She does it once twice thrice and becomes addicted to her fingers while ur stupid dot dick is just for procreation. It wouldn't be long before she gets another able dope dick to fill ur spot.

2. Asides just touching herself which almost every lady does even the sexually satisfied ones... She most likely would have had the fantasy of her firat sex with u as mind blowing and orgasmic as she has read somewhere or was made to believe by her peers only for u to show up with ur 2 seconds dot shiit combo... its not the way she dreamt it. Very far from it. And then reality hits hard as she realizes she's stuck with ur limp shiit for life. Media and friends/ peers plus her knowledge from reading and educating herself all thoae years of waiting only to end up still daydreaming of what it would feel like to be able to fulfill that craving... Its natural.

She doesn't need to have experienced great sex to know ur game is wack. She has her body to and the body never lies. If u still want to argue after this breakdown bro then u are on ur own.. Capeesh?

Sixfeetbelle:
But virgin guys and girls won't have problem in this regard. Why? They both know nothing and are at the same level. So they carry each other along.

ubunja:
A man doesn't have to blow a virgin's mind with mind blowing sex for her first time sex for her to attach. A girl will attach no matter the quality of sex. Girls are out here attaching to guys who rape them. True story. That's why even in the Bible God commands a man who rapes a virgin to marry her. Crazy as it sounds. This attaching thing is a beast of a thing I tell you.


Do mention me in your future posts. I like your thought process.

And I will comment separately later on another part of your post above.

PerfectMaster:
@ bolded you are contradicting yourself.
Your first write up already suggest virgin need experience men. Which means a virgin guy would be totally useless since he has no experience.

Sixfeetbelle:
Since men don't have that seal of purity, I suppose then that they are allowed to explore and acquire all they need sexually before settling down.

The virgin thing (mainly for the woman) is with the hope that the man already knows one or two things in that department. Now he meets a virgin, obviously agrees to no sex during courtship (to avoid disappointments) and can use that time to prepare adequately for his new home. I don't believe a man who's about to settle down is still experimenting.

I see no reason why he has to cheat if he teaches his wife all his sexual kini and learns of hers too. Why pay all that bride price that gives you express right to enjoy her to the fullest and still go outside?

Do you remember that video about a wife fighting a side chick over anal? I think the man is a big fool for not teaching his wife about that sexual kini. If she refused him anal, it wouldn't make sense for her to have behaved like that. She was pained.

Magnoliaa:
You are a feminist?

Sixfeetbelle:
Just like the title, I wish to make some things clear since a lot of misunderstanding rose from a single comment I posted on a thread that I didn't realise would ever hit front page. I'm not yet familiar with attaching links, so bear with me.

The comment: "That's why I pity men who want to marry virgins as a measure to hide their awful bedmatics. Women gossips about their sex life and before you know it, virgin wife will want to experience all these things but won't tell the husband cause 'she's a virgin and shouldn't know about those things'. Las las, na Okey, your driver that will educate her more"

I'll reiterate it as often as I feel it until at least some men pick up on it and improve which was the intention behind the harmless post in the first place.


Being a virgin doesn't mean the lady is an ignorant introverted fool. On the contrary, I believe a virgin, especially in this day and age, is someone who isn't ignorant about sexual practices, probably has some sexual fantasies of her own, who isn't introverted and shy and yet, refused to join the bandwagon of those who believe in immediate gratification. There are exceptions, but I believe this is what is more obtainable.

Having the above definition in mind, I made that statement, hoping men would key into that insight. However the numerous mentions I received showed me starkly that comprehension is quite hard to grasp. So I'll go further and add.

"If you're a one-minute man, marrying a virgin won't help your issue later on in your marriage. She may deal with it now but with time, it would turn into a big problem. If the only sex positions you know are missionary and doggie style (which some learnt about five years ago), trust me, you need to be more versatile in the other room. It will definitely help your marriage with a virgin wife in the long run. Some virgins may confide in you if they don't feel satisfied, some won't say anything (maybe from upbringing), some may have low libido and be okay with it while some will have high libido and crave more. There are lots of possibilities. How would you deal with the excesses?

In addition, like someone explained to me, virgins attach to their first sexual whoever. If you blow her mind (and her pucci) on the first night, chances are she'll always think of you, even if you guys end up separating or divorcing. I've heard women talk about a 'womb shifting' experience and the like and I can tell the man was exceptional. Wouldn't you like to give that experience to your virgin wife on her first night? Don't you think such experience will attach her to you completely? Don't say because she's a virgin, she won't know. That's like being overconfident. I wish you would apply wisdom when it comes to dealing with female nature.

Which brings me back to why I made this post: the mentions were too much last night. It was looking like a mini attack tbh. I do not appreciate publicity in that manner especially when some men missed the point totally and were weighing virgin versus non-virgins and declaring they will marry virgins. Trust me, I wish above all else that those who sincerely want virgin wives will find and marry them. Hopefully, if they marry their choice, divorce rates will lower.


NB: To those who sent emails, I appreciate them but I'm afraid I won't be replying them now. The heat is too much and I'd like to believe your email wasn't prompted because you misunderstood my post. If you're sincere, you can send an email on a later date and time. My apologies.

Thank you.

Sixfeetbelle:
I suppose I may be. Replying too many comments may be at fault here.

My initial post was to debunk whatever belief that virgins won't know horrible sex when they experience it. Which otherwise strengthens the comment: virgin couple will know how to handle themselves in the bedroom.

Sixfeetbelle:
I agree with the movement.

Sixfeetbelle:
I see your point, yes, but the man is a dog. If he can't teach his wife to enjoy sex with him, he's a waste of a man. If he's goes back to olosho cause wife is bad, another man will replace him.

What do you even mean by wife is bad in bed?

@bolded ... are you serious??

Which other man will replace? You are acting as if you don't know the kind of society we're in and how it treats women who are divorced.

Men deserves the best bedmatic treatments,
too, don't you think? Who ever said the onus is on the man to please the woman and make sure she's dandy all freaking time? If practicing makes one better, then both men and women should practice. To give their partners the best. A woman can be bad in bed; why are you asking how? And sleeping with as much men would help her become better. If men sleep around to satisfy their virgin wives -- who will be the 'loose' women? Who will be the virgins?

Dangrace01:
If you are encouraging men to up their game by practicing with olosho also remember old habits don't die easily


If you want a man to up his sexual game by practicing with olosho then you have no right to call him a dog.

Why would I waste my time teaching you when I have olosho ready to give it to me hot hot.

As I said your gender at risk with your ideology and thought.

Magnoliaa:
...and what does that make you? Do you only agree with it when it's convenient/beneficiary?



@bolded ... are you serious??

Which other man will replace? You are acting as if you don't know the kind of society we're in and how it treats women who are divorced.

Men deserves the best bedmatic treatments,
too, don't you think? Who ever said the onus is on the man to please the woman and make sure she's dandy all freaking time? If practicing makes one better, then both men and women should practice. To give their partners the best. A woman can be bad in bed; why are you asking how? And sleeping with as much men would help her become better. If men sleep around to satisfy their virgin wives -- who will be the 'loose' women? Who will be the virgins?

Magnoliaa:
Just imagine what she's saying... smh.

And coming from someone who supposedly supports feminism.

I'm not surprised, anyway. A browse through her profile and peeps she follows is a huge telltale.

PerfectMaster:
In other words you just just twisting fact to prove a point.
A virgin has no experience to compare with so can easily appreciate the sexual proficiency of her man.

This is just one of the myrads of reasons why a virgin is the best in terms of marriage and the least is because of sexual experience.

My question how would a virgin know that a sexual experience is without if she had no experience?

Can you know the taste of of something without testing it?

Sixfeetbelle:
Just like the title, I wish to make some things clear since a lot of misunderstanding rose from a single comment I posted on a thread that I didn't realise would ever hit front page. I'm not yet familiar with attaching links, so bear with me.

The comment: "That's why I pity men who want to marry virgins as a measure to hide their awful bedmatics. Women gossips about their sex life and before you know it, virgin wife will want to experience all these things but won't tell the husband cause 'she's a virgin and shouldn't know about those things'. Las las, na Okey, your driver that will educate her more"

I'll reiterate it as often as I feel it until at least some men pick up on it and improve which was the intention behind the harmless post in the first place.


Being a virgin doesn't mean the lady is an ignorant introverted fool. On the contrary, I believe a virgin, especially in this day and age, is someone who isn't ignorant about sexual practices, probably has some sexual fantasies of her own, who isn't introverted and shy and yet, refused to join the bandwagon of those who believe in immediate gratification. There are exceptions, but I believe this is what is more obtainable.

Having the above definition in mind, I made that statement, hoping men would key into that insight. However the numerous mentions I received showed me starkly that comprehension is quite hard to grasp. So I'll go further and add.

"If you're a one-minute man, marrying a virgin won't help your issue later on in your marriage. She may deal with it now but with time, it would turn into a big problem. If the only sex positions you know are missionary and doggie style (which some learnt about five years ago), trust me, you need to be more versatile in the other room. It will definitely help your marriage with a virgin wife in the long run. Some virgins may confide in you if they don't feel satisfied, some won't say anything (maybe from upbringing), some may have low libido and be okay with it while some will have high libido and crave more. There are lots of possibilities. How would you deal with the excesses?

In addition, like someone explained to me, virgins attach to their first sexual whoever. If you blow her mind (and her pucci) on the first night, chances are she'll always think of you, even if you guys end up separating or divorcing. I've heard women talk about a 'womb shifting' experience and the like and I can tell the man was exceptional. Wouldn't you like to give that experience to your virgin wife on her first night? Don't you think such experience will attach her to you completely? Don't say because she's a virgin, she won't know. That's like being overconfident. I wish you would apply wisdom when it comes to dealing with female nature.

Which brings me back to why I made this post: the mentions were too much last night. It was looking like a mini attack tbh. I do not appreciate publicity in that manner especially when some men missed the point totally and were weighing virgin versus non-virgins and declaring they will marry virgins. Trust me, I wish above all else that those who sincerely want virgin wives will find and marry them. Hopefully, if they marry their choice, divorce rates will lower.


NB: To those who sent emails, I appreciate them but I'm afraid I won't be replying them now. The heat is too much and I'd like to believe your email wasn't prompted because you misunderstood my post. If you're sincere, you can send an email on a later date and time. My apologies.

Thank you.

Sixfeetbelle:
She will appreciate if the man has sexual proficiency to begin with

Virgins aren't idiots. Let's agree on that first.

We both know orgasm comes in stages, like an ascending whatever. She will feel the first part one of these days and her body will crave to witness it last longer. If subsequent days of such moments build up, frustration will evidently set in. It's easier for both virgins since she knows he's as clueless as she is so they both find solution together. If you aren't a virgin, I know your wife would be of the opinion that you should know more than her and may likely not help you. Or why do you think men complain of ladies who just lie down like a log in the bedroom?

Stop being naive and think it won't happen. Some married women that cheat were exposed to a different side of sex they've never met before and knew instantly that it was what they were missing the whole time. Some even left their husbands to run away with their lover cause of such.

See, if you don't believe she'll know, please continue as you are. Everyone to their own reasoning.

zexy2030:
yea, conclusively we said we marry virgins and make them our w.hores, simple! Their lipidos r varied on exposure.

Some virgins have had anals, some give bjs while some watch errotic movies or porn, even some masturbate while bathing or grind on their bed, while some massage their breasts/clit/lesbianate/fingering to orgasm, or dirty talk..but still seen as virgins because no dick was involved( these types when given a dick once, u have just let d beast out,that beast that has been nursed from her puberty years)... just waiting for an opportunity while dey don't have such opportunity as they tend to be disciplined and loyal due to parental discipline.

But there are virgins when u meet them at a particular age sexually naive just know they have formed a pattern of life, which could be so hard to change, at age 25 a woman is expected to have experimented all sexual fantasies, if she hasn't then prolly she has low lipido or has an orientation so bad about sex or perhaps circumcised, we know what we do to check her exposure, not pretence..I can catch any girl who had sex(any type) before even if she claims virgin, just within 3wks of communication, all I need is a link to that girl, then it will be properly investigated, incase u have a girl telling u lies she is a virgin as a lady, just few things I will tell u to observe after that observation, I'm sure u will be sure she is not a virgin as claimed.

Now back to ur writing, our women today are sexually liberal because we have adopted western culture but don't get it mixed up, when we tell you we want virgins, virgins are kind of women who have urges but have high discipline to channel their desires/sexual energies to something else more constructive... the longer they stay as virgins the more constructive and more focused they are as wives. A lady who hump from one dick to the other definitely is building a chaos around making choices in life, as she would get more distractions as she grows up even when married, if she couldn't focus to keep her pussy from being fvcked definitely, if properly exposed to sweet distractions she will keep increasing body counts even after
marriage.

So many girls would claim they lost their virginity due to trust on their first love but its not enough excuse to be gullible to loose your body to someone who knows the rule about fvcking a girl, we know some lost it through parties(fun), exercises, and rapes but how true are these, as these lies keeps increasing as the relationship progresses.

Now I got ur point but its more advantageous to marry a virgin than to marry non-virgin who has lost control over what she wants in her life and stick to it.

Note:
when I talk virgins, guys, I'm not talking about teenagers. I mean >25

ubunja:
A man doesn't have to blow a virgin's mind with mind blowing sex for her first time sex for her to attach. A girl will attach no matter the quality of sex. Girls are out here attaching to guys who rape them. True story. That's why even in the Bible God commands a man who rapes a virgin to marry her. Crazy as it sounds. This attaching thing is a beast of a thing I tell you.


Do mention me in your future posts. I like your thought process.

And I will comment separately later on another part of your post above.

PerfectMaster:
she would appreciate it but that does not mean she would cheat or not cheat.
Listen virgins do not cheat because the man is a pro or not a pro but simply want to taste what it feels like from another man, that is when she is morally bankrupt.
Over all a virgin would hardly cheat but a non virgin has being there before so it is easier and they can always compare.

I hope your ignorance is reduced.

Sixfeetbelle:
Do you think a woman >25 who choose to wait till she's married will appreciate a situation where the 'overhyped' sex is as boring as twiddling your thumbs? She may not cheat of course, but the devil works in mischievous ways. Don't give him room.

Sixfeetbelle:
Don't be overconfident. Simple.

funmisticqueen2:
so in essence, go for low hanging fruit.

Lol, so this is the new way to embrace mediocrity in bed? Men will never cease to dissapoint me

Magnoliaa:
...and what does that make you? Do you only agree with it when it's convenient/beneficiary?



@bolded ... are you serious??

Which other man will replace? You are acting as if you don't know the kind of society we're in and how it treats women who are divorced.

Men deserves the best bedmatic treatments,
too, don't you think? Who ever said the onus is on the man to please the woman and make sure she's dandy all freaking time? If practicing makes one better, then both men and women should practice. To give their partners the best. A woman can be bad in bed; why are you asking how? And sleeping with as much men would help her become better. If men sleep around to satisfy their virgin wives -- who will be the 'loose' women? Who will be the virgins?

Magnoliaa:
Just imagine what she's saying... smh.

And coming from someone who supposedly supports feminism.

I'm not surprised, anyway. A browse through her profile and peeps she follows is a huge telltale.

Sixfeetbelle:
Don't be overconfident. Simple.

Sixfeetbelle:
I don't understand what you're trying to pass along tbh.

If being a feminist means I'll have to throw away morals I grew up with to join a movement, count me out.

My agreement to the movement is to be a voice when women are at a disadvantage. Patriarchal system in Africa makes a sexually unhinged women at a disadvantage when it comes to marriage.

It's because of the society we live in that I encouraged men to up their game so women won't have to be perceived as promiscuous and whatnot. There are already oloshos in that line of work and for women's own advantage, they shouldn't be sleeping around with every guy they date.

Practicing for the man is to help the woman since society already gave them that free reign.

If both are Virgins, learning between partners would be symbiotic. But I don't suppose a man who believes he's king in the bedroom will listen to opinions from his 'ignorant' Virgin wife. Or do you?

Replace in this case meant having a secret lover, not necessarily her leaving the marriage. I know society won't favor her if she's divorced so I'll never advise it unless absolutely necessary.

In western worlds, it's whoever pipes the tune, but in this society, let's manage the system until it breaks down completely.

Magnoliaa:
And that's the thing with some individuals who choose to "support" a cause and turn around to say, 'if xyz is this, then I'm dropping it like a hot potato." It points to being double-minded, uncertainty and the willingness to run away/come back. At one's will: simply a lack of commitment/devotion. Like what does the movement entail before you joined?? That is a dangerous attitude. Like a black man saying if fighting for his rights will cost him his life, then no, he's not fighting. He values his life.

No one is talking about morals here. Who mentioned that?

You uphold the patriarchal system (which put women at a disadvantage) on one hand and still want to speak out for them.

Let me be specific: you said bride price gives a man full access to enjoy his wife.

You made the woman out to be a commodity here. Pay bride price=do anything. The effects of the bride price system can be observed.
So do you want a man to pay your bride price?
Do you also want equality? How do you marry those two? This is the reason why I asked if you practice feminism when it's only 'sweet.' You also called a man a dog and waste. So I guess a woman can be a waste too in some cases.
Women can expire. And be shamed for their bodies. I really hope you don't complain when these happen, because it doesn't seem as if you get the concept of respect for people and fair treatment.




Wow. Beautiful. You tagged women 'olosho' and 'loose' earlier. Do you know that if men practice around like you proposed,
there will be an abundance of 'loose' women? Will patriarchal men marry them? So you want them to be put at a disadvantage. Is that concern for them?




Men should up their game so women won't be perceived as promiscuous (this doesn't even contain any truth anymore, women are sexually free).
Who will men practice with? If the man leave wife for 'olosho', and another man comes to satisfy the woman, the purpose of her not being seen as loose has been defeated. Two men have her already. (Downplaying the marriage institution to sexual gratification is another case). It's okay to practice with an 'olosho', but not a 'normal, marriageable girl?? ??' If 'olosho' didn't damn the society, she wouldn't be one.




Contrary to what you think,
this has been happening and is still happening. And it never helped the virgin women in any way. In was built on the hindered sexuality of women. Men used to have concubines; they have side chicks now. They've been doing what you're advising them sef. I'm not sure if it was you or if I read from someone else about the how prostitution was run secretly in the previous ages. It's the same 'prostitutes' that pretend to be virtuous. Should your support for feminism be about how women should 'navigate' in the oppressive system or how they can break free and dismantle the system?




How does a man need multiple women to be experienced but a woman (even a virgin) won't need numerous men to be experienced? Leave the society out of this.
Answer out of the societal context.




How do you manage something and expect it to break down? You don't dismantle something by enabling it. How exactly will it break down if we are not speaking against it/changing narratives? How else did you think the Western world get to where they are?

Sixfeetbelle:
Arguing points like this with you isn't going to solve anything, so I'll just be plain about it.

I do not believe in tearing down the current society to build another one. Rather, I believe in a society where women are perceived as higher and better than they were thought of before. I believe in a society where women don't have to be promiscuous or dress provocatively to show they are liberated or free. I believe in a society where women are responsible for themselves and their actions. I believe in a society where women can be a voice, a machine for positive change without having to turn into someone that is seen, even by fellow women, as frustrated and vengeful.

Maybe that is not what Feminism is about, but if feminism has at least one of my beliefs, then I'm glad to say I identify with it.

ModelX:
Sixfeetbelle.

Please read carefully. It's nothing personal. The reason all men subconsciously want virgin wives is rooted in biology.
Do you know that just like pheromones, the nose can pick up on subtle scents of disease? A virgin just smells fresher. Higher body count leaves this nasty lingering smell. Fact.
Because the more important fact is that most women who have had multiple partners have dormant STIs. Very difficult to cure, antibiotics only suppress them and they flair up from time to time. Women who will now carry a petri dish of bacteria to birth offspring.
Normal men, including the men in your family, want a healthy mother for their kids and the best way to assure that is to go for untainted pússy. Sounds basic but all life truths are basic. Small dick game, bonding etc are a part of it, yes, but that's the major reason up there. An evolutionary adaptation to deal with these new resistant STIs. Virgin brides are more important than ever.

Again, nothing personal.