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Sorry to say but are you fine?

A feminist thread. I expect OP's reply to be critical and unapologetic. And it was.

ibkayee:
LOL

Which oyibo women are rushing naija men? Jokes aside, please explain

the grandmas that have one leg in the grave they keep bringing to the registry

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Seems the guy was right afterall, see your youtube videos.. . Dont worry I will watch

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I thank God I've never ever really sought traveling out permanently
I'm having a blast in naija
Thanks to God

Na dem.


Ugly Naija ladies in CA.


Wish u Goodluck

She started well.... To all feminists who mindlessly lift foreign culture and try to force it in our society... Africa women has never been neglected � in African society. Copy copy is just worrying all of you. Even in the pre-colonial society, women had a roles just like the umuada in Igbo land. Aba women riot of 1929 would tell you how much women have been active in the running of the African Society. Go and read about how the whites treated their women in the old society, they were banned from participating in activities in society. George Elliot a female writer had to take up a Pen male name(George) so that her book can be published and read. Women were considered irrelevant and expected to stay at home and spin wool in the old western world. Stop � copying them, they’re fighting for their right. African men treat women with much love and respect ✊.

ProudBiafran:
It is a place for desperate people I think

yeah people who cant make it in england or america or nigeria seem to flock there. its a weird place to be. i have been there before. just 3 days of being in that country i got depressed. i think the electromagnetic frequency in that airspace covering the country is very low.

Na biafla we-men Dey travel go Canada. Btw is it only me that noticed the Igbo girl in the YouTube video is ugly? Very ugly ooo

Both threads are wrong although have valid points. In all the real intentions are destroyed when you read the comments that follow. The generalizations on all single women and “Nigerian men” on both is just clear show of bitterness. However I advice ladies migrating even interstate in Nigeria to consider their love live as every aspect is important more so abroad. For the part that clearly seem to attack both gender in the threads or imply superiority/dumbness to a gender is completely unnecessary. Every article is meant to discuss both views and offer a way forward, I find that lacking in both and completely suggest the mods to delete both threads as they encourage hate.
My opinion

wetin concern me with Nigeria women , na white toto I won poke

whizqueen:
If you want you can check out my YouTube Channel, I make videos on Life in Canada and immigrating to Canada, the process, the cost and available pathways

Ghen Ghen
Lalasticlala smiling in one corner now, food don don

you actually did not need to respond this way, you should have responsed on the on the orginal thread, the tone in your response depicts you are proud and have an issue of submitting to a man. If you are confident of yourself then find a white man.

whizqueen:
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.

I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.


Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.


Why did we immigrate? Bros are you kidding me? Canadian govt is paying me $2000 monthly and other benefits for losing income due to covid-19 Is that happening in Naija right now? All the money donated by philanthropist in Nigeria would soon disappear into the thin air without our govt giving explanation of any sort. Ofcourse, it's not bed of roses abroad neither were we expecting a man wrapped in a gift bag but please don't let your sentiments cloud your reasoning as to why people make immigration decisions abeg.


I personally feel attacked I recently posted a video on my YouTube Channel about finding love & online dating in Canada. It's asif this hope saw my video and wanted to attack me


What makes you think we would be interested in you to begin with? Don't pride yourself too much plis dear


If you like let the OP influence your decision and stop you from chasing your immigration dreams, last last it's up to you to decide what you want for your future.


Whilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.


Most Nigerian men hate to see it happen, there are laws that protect women here and they would prefer dying single than to see women as their equals. A good number of them are control freaks and would rather their woman be at their beck and call for everything as opposed to having their marriage work as a partnership. Nigerian married man knowing the laws of the land will still go ahead and cheat on his wife with a girl living in the same condo with his wife. Una no even dey fear or respect una madam. If atall you really want to cheat, you cannot travel to Nigeria and secretly mess with girls that fancy IJGB crew or allen avenue. As expected, some women do exploit the situation but if you find yourself a god-fearing person and you do the right thing, no divorce laws or child custody issue would stop y'all from flourishing.


White men dont find us attractive? Laughs is Swahili
On the contrary most men of other races have FETISH for Nigerian girls and Black girls in general. Maybe not long term in all cases tho but they reaaaaaaally fancy us and admire our enthusiasm towards life. Whilst most Nigerian girls would likely not wanna go for the likes of 'Ryan', 'Billy' and co it's not cos we don't find them attractive. Firstly, Naija guys are smart, intelligent and goal oriented. You see the average ones already have plans for their future and working towards it unlike the counterparts who are comfortable with just a high school degree. If a Naija guy is even into technical jobs he would try to be the best at it and work towards starting his own company in the near future. Secondly, coping with someone with a different culture, lifestyle, food, etc is honestly stressful. I was talking with one Persian guy and he said before we can kiss or hold hands, we have to be temporarily married. The other chinese guy is only about 5ft tall, I'm just wondering what he would look like in that department

In Nigeria, when you visit a guy at home, some would expect you to know that's express ticket to get laid with them. But here if you visit a guy at home, you can be almost certain that if you guys have sex it's cos you wanted it, no guy will try to lure or manipulate you to straff them or tell you when you came to my house what were you thinking. They know it's important to ask for your opinion or even avoid the whole situation altogether.

Something the OP failed to address is that the Loneliness spans across both men and women living in Diaspora. Even the white people find it hard getting a partner for themselves much less an immigrant that would probably take some time to fully settle in. The system is built to have everyone mind their business, that togetherness or family-spirit is missing.

All the naija guys and ladies in Toronto have finish dating themselves. It's such a small city, everyone knows eachother thru another person only a matter of time before you find out that; the guy toasting you is ex with your colleagues' friend. Or the guy you matched with on the dating app went on a date with your housemate the day before. Some would be married and they would be on the dating apps lying to other women.

Some of us don't even mind going back home to bring men here, but 'em guys just they find paper. Only few genuinely love and care for you. I kuku know people here already do that as business tho, some ladies/guys now charge up to $30,000 to marry people from home to help them get residency here.

There are tons of Nigerians in Canada groups on WhatsApp and Telegram some are just for singles and you find people of age 35, 40, etc filled with both women and MEN. Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport? Oh well your guess is as good as mine. Their eyes go open finish.

A good number of Naija guys are single and desperately finding love as well as ladies. Truth is, we all crave for love. And that's not a bad thing to want. Finding a good match or significant other is a honestly a game of chance. Home and Abroad, White or Black race finding a partner is truly difficult and if you got lucky finding that one special person, you better love and cherish them truly.

I rest my case; I am in the comment section waiting for someone to jump on my mention and before you do so just remember: Opinions are like as5holes and everyone is entitled to one. So this is my opinion, I have free time today

Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely

Abeg Miss/Mrs whizqueen... Hook me up with a single Canadian based babe I promise not to misbehave or disappoint I take God beg you. Just Pm me I'll reply

dont mind that op, he is madt.
he is just spreading shit

Thanks. The original thread is justified.

Ayinke93:
Read all what you wrote, read it one more time, now ask yourself; have I made sense from this jargons I wrote? Afterwards sit back and think of ways to improve your life.
This is my last response to you. I don't have time for people whose brains are filled with sawdust like you.

saw dust is such an understatement i'd have prefer Relaxer

my Life is much more improved than ur awkward desire for a free $2000/month Olèè

It's just a matter of time Nigerians will over populate the whole of Canada.

Out of every 5 Nigerians planning to travel out of Nigeria , 3 will tell you they are planning to travel to Canada.

Almost all the guys that resigned from where I work are now in Canada. That makes me wonder if Canada is the next paradise or may be it is easier to migrate to Canada compared other developed countries.

Anyways Sha, if God open way for me, na to follow the bandwagon.

As for the loneliness and boredom, I no send for dat one, as far as I get a good paying job to establish my self.

Who marriage and social life epp by the way

LastGee:
Please I'd like to know what the job market is like over there?

Like the chance of Firms hire a legal immigrant without a professional degree. Example Someone that studied science lab tech.

you will easily get a survival job at $15 or $14/hr. you work there while you work your way up. First two years may be hard but not as difficult as Nigeria (for some) as if you are down in the dirt there are social assistance program you can apply for and use while you restrategize. If you want to go back to school then you could take a loan and pay back bit by bit over the years

A lovely mature response.

lefulefu:
nigerian girls in nigeria are not lonely ooo
anyone in naija tellin u she is lonely is not being honest with u
an average naija girl will get 850 misscalls from guys
470 unread messages from whatsap
700 unread messages from facebook
1800 likes on instagram
6000 likes on facebook
and u say dat one is lonely?
lonely how?

I know one lady will come to counter that thread.


Smh for some.

ibkayee:
LOL

Which oyibo women are rushing naija men? Jokes aside, please explain

You na abi you no be oyibo woman? see as you just they rush us anyhow

If Nigerian guys can date other races or countries easily. Naija girls should be able to do. Same too na . Whizqueen is ya friend single. Mofe link up

whizqueen:
If you want you can check out my YouTube Channel, I make videos on Life in Canada and immigrating to Canada, the process, the cost and available pathways

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I just have one thing to say sis. Please sorry. Take it easy on us abeg you

whizqueen:
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.

I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.


Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.


Why did we immigrate? Bros are you kidding me? Canadian govt is paying me $2000 monthly and other benefits for losing income due to covid-19 Is that happening in Naija right now? All the money donated by philanthropist in Nigeria would soon disappear into the thin air without our govt giving explanation of any sort. Ofcourse, it's not bed of roses abroad neither were we expecting a man wrapped in a gift bag but please don't let your sentiments cloud your reasoning as to why people make immigration decisions abeg.


I personally feel attacked I recently posted a video on my YouTube Channel about finding love & online dating in Canada. It's asif this hope saw my video and wanted to attack me


What makes you think we would be interested in you to begin with? Don't pride yourself too much plis dear


If you like let the OP influence your decision and stop you from chasing your immigration dreams, last last it's up to you to decide what you want for your future.


Whilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.


Most Nigerian men hate to see it happen, there are laws that protect women here and they would prefer dying single than to see women as their equals. A good number of them are control freaks and would rather their woman be at their beck and call for everything as opposed to having their marriage work as a partnership. Nigerian married man knowing the laws of the land will still go ahead and cheat on his wife with a girl living in the same condo with his wife. Una no even dey fear or respect una madam. If atall you really want to cheat, you cannot travel to Nigeria and secretly mess with girls that fancy IJGB crew or allen avenue. As expected, some women do exploit the situation but if you find yourself a god-fearing person and you do the right thing, no divorce laws or child custody issue would stop y'all from flourishing.


White men dont find us attractive? Laughs is Swahili
On the contrary most men of other races have FETISH for Nigerian girls and Black girls in general. Maybe not long term in all cases tho but they reaaaaaaally fancy us and admire our enthusiasm towards life. Whilst most Nigerian girls would likely not wanna go for the likes of 'Ryan', 'Billy' and co it's not cos we don't find them attractive. Firstly, Naija guys are smart, intelligent and goal oriented. You see the average ones already have plans for their future and working towards it unlike the counterparts who are comfortable with just a high school degree. If a Naija guy is even into technical jobs he would try to be the best at it and work towards starting his own company in the near future. Secondly, coping with someone with a different culture, lifestyle, food, etc is honestly stressful. I was talking with one Persian guy and he said before we can kiss or hold hands, we have to be temporarily married. The other chinese guy is only about 5ft tall, I'm just wondering what he would look like in that department

In Nigeria, when you visit a guy at home, some would expect you to know that's express ticket to get laid with them. But here if you visit a guy at home, you can be almost certain that if you guys have sex it's cos you wanted it, no guy will try to lure or manipulate you to straff them or tell you when you came to my house what were you thinking. They know it's important to ask for your opinion or even avoid the whole situation altogether.

Something the OP failed to address is that the Loneliness spans across both men and women living in Diaspora. Even the white people find it hard getting a partner for themselves much less an immigrant that would probably take some time to fully settle in. The system is built to have everyone mind their business, that togetherness or family-spirit is missing.

All the naija guys and ladies in Toronto have finish dating themselves. It's such a small city, everyone knows eachother thru another person only a matter of time before you find out that; the guy toasting you is ex with your colleagues' friend. Or the guy you matched with on the dating app went on a date with your housemate the day before. Some would be married and they would be on the dating apps lying to other women.

Some of us don't even mind going back home to bring men here, but 'em guys just they find paper. Only few genuinely love and care for you. I kuku know people here already do that as business tho, some ladies/guys now charge up to $30,000 to marry people from home to help them get residency here.

There are tons of Nigerians in Canada groups on WhatsApp and Telegram some are just for singles and you find people of age 35, 40, etc filled with both women and MEN. Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport? Oh well your guess is as good as mine. Their eyes go open finish.

A good number of Naija guys are single and desperately finding love as well as ladies. Truth is, we all crave for love. And that's not a bad thing to want. Finding a good match or significant other is a honestly a game of chance. Home and Abroad, White or Black race finding a partner is truly difficult and if you got lucky finding that one special person, you better love and cherish them truly.

I rest my case; I am in the comment section waiting for someone to jump on my mention and before you do so just remember: Opinions are like as5holes and everyone is entitled to one. So this is my opinion, I have free time today

Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely

As usual, them don go Fabricate everything together. This will only fetch likes on Nairaland, it won't in reality

baralatie:
that is why I am suspicious of exactly what was the aim for opening this thread

the way people present views on Nairaland make me laugh. I

Marriage isn’t an achievement.

Nigerian men please stop carrying women matter on top your heads like gala! They’re not complaining about the loneliness (if they’re truly lonely).

They didn’t go to Canada because of marriage ,they went there for things more important to their own well-being and if marriage comes,it’s just a +.