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whizqueen:
Be like I would start looking towards those Indians now She is, if you G is sure why not

india ke. How many Indian men u don see marry black. Racist mofos

whizqueen:
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.

I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.


Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.


Why did we immigrate? Bros are you kidding me? Canadian govt is paying me $2000 monthly and other benefits for losing income due to covid-19 Is that happening in Naija right now? All the money donated by philanthropist in Nigeria would soon disappear into the thin air without our govt giving explanation of any sort. Ofcourse, it's not bed of roses abroad neither were we expecting a man wrapped in a gift bag but please don't let your sentiments cloud your reasoning as to why people make immigration decisions abeg.


I personally feel attacked I recently posted a video on my YouTube Channel about finding love & online dating in Canada. It's asif this hope saw my video and wanted to attack me


What makes you think we would be interested in you to begin with? Don't pride yourself too much plis dear


If you like let the OP influence your decision and stop you from chasing your immigration dreams, last last it's up to you to decide what you want for your future.


Whilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.


Most Nigerian men hate to see it happen, there are laws that protect women here and they would prefer dying single than to see women as their equals. A good number of them are control freaks and would rather their woman be at their beck and call for everything as opposed to having their marriage work as a partnership. Nigerian married man knowing the laws of the land will still go ahead and cheat on his wife with a girl living in the same condo with his wife. Una no even dey fear or respect una madam. If atall you really want to cheat, you cannot travel to Nigeria and secretly mess with girls that fancy IJGB crew or allen avenue. As expected, some women do exploit the situation but if you find yourself a god-fearing person and you do the right thing, no divorce laws or child custody issue would stop y'all from flourishing.


White men dont find us attractive? Laughs is Swahili
On the contrary most men of other races have FETISH for Nigerian girls and Black girls in general. Maybe not long term in all cases tho but they reaaaaaaally fancy us and admire our enthusiasm towards life. Whilst most Nigerian girls would likely not wanna go for the likes of 'Ryan', 'Billy' and co it's not cos we don't find them attractive. Firstly, Naija guys are smart, intelligent and goal oriented. You see the average ones already have plans for their future and working towards it unlike the counterparts who are comfortable with just a high school degree. If a Naija guy is even into technical jobs he would try to be the best at it and work towards starting his own company in the near future. Secondly, coping with someone with a different culture, lifestyle, food, etc is honestly stressful. I was talking with one Persian guy and he said before we can kiss or hold hands, we have to be temporarily married. The other chinese guy is only about 5ft tall, I'm just wondering what he would look like in that department

In Nigeria, when you visit a guy at home, some would expect you to know that's express ticket to get laid with them. But here if you visit a guy at home, you can be almost certain that if you guys have sex it's cos you wanted it, no guy will try to lure or manipulate you to straff them or tell you when you came to my house what were you thinking. They know it's important to ask for your opinion or even avoid the whole situation altogether.

Something the OP failed to address is that the Loneliness spans across both men and women living in Diaspora. Even the white people find it hard getting a partner for themselves much less an immigrant that would probably take some time to fully settle in. The system is built to have everyone mind their business, that togetherness or family-spirit is missing.

All the naija guys and ladies in Toronto have finish dating themselves. It's such a small city, everyone knows eachother thru another person only a matter of time before you find out that; the guy toasting you is ex with your colleagues' friend. Or the guy you matched with on the dating app went on a date with your housemate the day before. Some would be married and they would be on the dating apps lying to other women.

Some of us don't even mind going back home to bring men here, but 'em guys just they find paper. Only few genuinely love and care for you. I kuku know people here already do that as business tho, some ladies/guys now charge up to $30,000 to marry people from home to help them get residency here.

There are tons of Nigerians in Canada groups on WhatsApp and Telegram some are just for singles and you find people of age 35, 40, etc filled with both women and MEN. Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport? Oh well your guess is as good as mine. Their eyes go open finish.

A good number of Naija guys are single and desperately finding love as well as ladies. Truth is, we all crave for love. And that's not a bad thing to want. Finding a good match or significant other is a honestly a game of chance. Home and Abroad, White or Black race finding a partner is truly difficult and if you got lucky finding that one special person, you better love and cherish them truly.

I rest my case; I am in the comment section waiting for someone to jump on my mention and before you do so just remember: Opinions are like as5holes and everyone is entitled to one. So this is my opinion, I have free time today

Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely

Thank you for this response

I don't know what joy Nigerian men derive in mocking single women or singlehood.

I don't understand what kind of sadism they practice, that they constantly seek to remind Nigerian women of how worthless they are to them and to the world.

I don't understand this need to demoralize each other, because it only seems to exist within the black race.

whizqueen:
IRCC is still processing applications. If you have your documents ready, submit it. Go to travel section to learn the process or check my YouTube channel, like is on my post. Goodluck

Thanks

Please don't mock someone about their appearance. You're not anyone's creator and the last time I checked, NOBODY UGLY.

tyup:
Reading some few lines i knew the whole message would be senseless n really when that guy said 9ja babes in Canada 're less attractive n not good looking dang i now believe

mehnn Op wor wor ehn Tuueh

Besides only a lonely lady would have such time to reply breaking in messages just like you've done

GraGra247:
She didn't in my eyeview. She in fact refuted them all.

Read again. She clearly confirms that they are finding it difficult to find partners. The difference is that she claims it cuts across both male and female.

She also hinted that white men like to use and dump them.

Mstick:
Anybody with a brain knows that thread was created to massage the ego of Nigerian men.

Nigerian men like to praise themselves and make it look like women from other continents are falling over themselves to date them but believe me it's 100% false.

Black men are just the worst honestly, you see them opening threads upon threads insulting and humiliating black women but you would NEVER see men from other races do that. Are their women perfect? NO! but they respect and protect them anyway.

The reason why most of this black men go after white women is because of the standard the white men set for their own women, they built a country and environment where there women can thrive meanwhile our own men are still here debating if we're allowed to serve them garri with one meat.

if you have never dated a white girl..you should please shut up..
One major reason black guys go for white girl is because their love is pure and honest..in most cases she will never cheat on you..but I can't say same for Ngerian girls..who are mostly hoes. .but bitch ass self entitled girls..whose display of love is motivated by money and material stuff..and I tell you when compared with foreign girls..on a larger scale Nigerian girls are far worse. Many guys who have played home and away match will tell you same thing..

Rickjordan:
With evidence from many nlanders,I have no option than to declare my original op from the first threat as my convincer am now his Convincee... TORONTO here I come....

But seriously this thread does not in any way prove him wrong

Shibaraba:
Op simply justified the first thread. Like your gaptooth though

And it made front page. Let me use this opportunity to pass a message .Do you know that when you give you actually receive? People dey hungry for this lock down. Some you go see outside dey laugh but Owu Don blow dem. Please pick your phone, call that your family and friend. This is an opportunity to make people smile. Yes scammers dey...But even if you're scammed while doing good the blessing remains the same. Even if na 1k give. You just might save a life. Hunger bad

(Miss you Hungerbad. Rip)

is d guy with d monicker hungerbad dead?

CinnamonTea:
I'm on Lipstickalley (forum) and all the black British women there say the same, cautioning against marrying British black men, including Nigerians. It's no wonder many female British Youtubers end up dating or marrying white men.



Have they met every Nigerian woman here?

Besides, many Nigerian men here are divorcees (after marrying white women for papers) or single fathers.

I read Lipstickalley sometimes

Lol don't get me wrong, I won't act like there's scarcity of Nigerian couples or anything, I just find it funny how some of the guys on here like to paint Naija men as prizes. Asides Nigerian women, women from SOME African countries and I guess I could throw in a very small portion of Jamaicans (both homebased and diaspora), NOBODY is checking for Naija men generally like that as a whole

Also, even though they're all technically black, I like to differentiate between British black men, British Nigerian men and home based Nigerian men because the differences between them is another topic on its own lol

I really don't think there is a need for a counter thread.
The OP simply put, further buttresses the fact that most Nigerian girls in the Diaspora are lonely. Meanwhile, @Op you've got a nice set of teeth.

I've always longed to do my Masters in Canada. However, if any Nigerian girl deems it fit to come down to Naija for a supposed husband material, I'm readily available.

tyup:
Reading some few lines i knew the whole message would be senseless n really when that guy said 9ja babes in Canada 're less attractive n not good looking dang i now believe

mehnn Op wor wor ehn Tuueh

Besides only a lonely lady would have such time to reply breaking in messages just like you've done

You are so mean...Lmao

Yes yes yes!!!!!!


Op yes!

I completely, absolutely, with no reservations whatsoever, totally agree with you!

Una too like argument pass fight for this nairaland i swear. Anyway, whether you all argue from now till tomorrow the OP from the other thread was SO RIGHT.

This OP Whizyqueen while trying to counter that thread has even indirectly confirmed some of the things he said in that thread.

For instance....

She has a YouTube channel like her fellow lonely girls

In term of beauty she is

Celepope:
That is what most guys use in consoling themselves. It is true though in some parts of Europe (Black men and not just Nigerian men) but not in places like Canada and Europe where Nigerian guys can't even go near them except those in college.

Honestly, it tends to come from the ones who aren't actually used to being around oyibo people lol

pocohantas:
Hmmm. “Foreign women rush Naija men”

Jealousy

Mstick:
Anybody with a brain knows that thread was created to massage the ego of Nigerian men.

Nigerian men like to praise themselves and make it look like women from other continents are falling over themselves to date them but believe me it's 100% false.

Black men are just the worst honestly, you see them opening threads upon threads insulting and humiliating black women but you would NEVER see men from other races do that. Are their women perfect? NO! but they respect and protect them anyway.

The reason why most of this black men go after white women is because of the standard the white men set for their own women, they built a country and environment where there women can thrive meanwhile our own men are still here debating if we're allowed to serve them garri with one meat.

I agree with you on this one,met dis girl some years back & she conditioned me No Pali No Marriage,Been there now with my family and up till now shes still SINGLE!!

ajani27:
Imagine her without make up....

That imagination is worse than imagining one floating on a bubble raft in the middle of a shark-infested sea with no food to eat and having covid-19 symptoms where even if you are found by rescuers who know about your COVID-19 status, they'd still not come close to you and let you die in pieces.

IdioticNLmods:
This Op no even fine at all.. No wonder they said Nigerian girls in Canada are too ugly. All these long story to cover the loneliness you girls go through over there, i wasn't even able to read a quarter cos it's gibberish. If i was a learner i would have read it all and probably sided with you but fortunately for me I'm not.. What the other op said is nothing but the pure truth cos I've seen it in reality and other guys has seen the same thing, we can't all be mad.
If you and some wack females believe that the previous thread was just to massage we men's ego then that's you girl's fuckin cup of tea. I've never really liked Nigerian females and i will never settle with one, so I don't give a fvck about where you girls travel to or your relationship lives. Secretly, i was even angry with the other Op for opening that thread, i don't want you Nigerian girls to be enlightened on that matter cos it will give me joy seeing you girls over there looking dejected
The idea of that thread was for you girls to plan well knowing fully well that you all carry marriage matter for head, but i can see you girls are so pained that it made you missed the point!

Shut up

Roon9:
Inside life.... OP no be fight o
A friend of mine was recently hooked up to one of these Nigerian ladies abroad. Omo they couldn't last up to 2 weeks. Two of my friends in the US came down to Nigeria to fetch their wives when they wanted to get married. We all know why they and by extension most Nigerian men do that

I thought na only me notice that most of those 9ja girls really just something else

whizqueen:
It depends on your qualifications, age, adaptability, etc. Plenty programs are available you can check Travel sections for Details, my YouTube Channel or Canada.ca for guide

Thanks

whizqueen:
1. A commenter advises that ladies should rather focus on getting married before a career. I beg to differ that perspective is just lame to me.
2. It depends on what they want for themselves. If you want a family then find a partner, if you want just a child get a donor or adopt one
3. I don’t like d1ldos

You're not worth the effort... Beauty ..wo ... just

Decryptor:
The OP's "counter thread" has damage control written all over it.

And what's more...her profile picture is solid proof about what the OP of the other thread said about "the facial disposition" of Naija ladies living in Canada and as to why men over there find then least desirable!

Only someone with low self esteem gets off of attacking people for their looks

Put up your own miserable picture, let's see if you can match OP in looks.

Is she not prettier than most of the women you guys like to drool over?

That is how all of you said Dora Akunyili's daughter is ugly and has a strong face, even while you could see her wedding pictures to a pretty white man.

Pathetic

The problem is too much pride, and some are bitter.

safarigirl:
Thank you for this response

I don't know what joy Nigerian men derive in mocking single women or singlehood.

I don't understand what kind of sadism they practice, that they constantly seek to remind Nigerian women of how worthless they are to them and to the world.

I don't understand this need to demoralize each other, because it only seems to exist within the black race.

Wee you shut up? So you want to be running your package instead of settling down?

ovielistic:
Na..some of them fine oh ..like 10%..Lol!! The remaining worwor die.lol

Weecked

Fidelismaria:
I'm not impressed

Seconded. The general response level is dry. Funny enough my spirit told me it would be her. Gbam I was right. I just saw her video two nights ago on YouTube.

Mstick:
Anybody with a brain knows that thread was created to massage the ego of Nigerian men.

Nigerian men like to praise themselves and make it look like women from other continents are falling over themselves to date them but believe me it's 100% false.

Black men are just the worst honestly, you see them opening threads upon threads insulting and humiliating black women but you would NEVER see men from other races do that. Are their women perfect? NO! but they respect and protect them anyway.

The reason why most of this black men go after white women is because of the standard the white men set for their own women, they built a country and environment where there women can thrive meanwhile our own men are still here debating if we're allowed to serve them garri with one meat.

This is my issue with black men in general. The suffering black women suffer from is because black men refused to build a functioning society compared to their Western, Asian or Arab counterparts. Globally, it is men that build functioning societies and make the environment conducive for their women and children. Unfortunately, black men have not done same and they (including myself) deserve every bashing from black women.