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safarigirl:
Very predictable lot.

Is it not them that are on 90 Days Fiancee, dating mongrels and trolls on top Green Card. Women that a white man would not touch with a 50-foot pole, but Nigerian men will kiss their asses on international television. Those are the men that are calling OP ugly. Do they have spec in this life?

See their spec here.

Jim99:
We don hear

We go still pick white/latinas/asians over una

Nothing change

Kizzygentle:
Dm me on WhatsApp pls let me know how d immigration process. Am highly interested but don't know how to go about it. Thanks in anticipation. +234 902 179 1413. Thats my WhatsApp line.

Akpaamunsi:
U shut up your dirty mouth, ashewo thread active member. The bish is in her 30s.

I remain Akpaamunsi Agwu

Plead:
Marriage isn’t an achievement.

Nigerian men stop carrying women matter on top your heads like gala! They’re not complaining about the loneliness (if they’re truly lonely).

They didn’t go to Canada because of marriage ,they went there for things more important to their own well-being and if marriage comes,it’s just a +.

CinnamonTea:
Lmao, I know right. Non-Nigerian women here who date or have dated Nigerian men are also having a rethink. I met an Ethiopian girl (I'm calling her girl but she should be around my age) sometime last year. She was trying to sell me a product while I walking through a mall, stopped me because I look 23, lmao. We got to talking and turned out her last two exes were Nigerian who both cheated on her. And she's sooo pretty. She told me she can never date another Nigerian man. Also know a Caribbean lady (via work) who has a daughter with one. They actually met in London, she moved here because of him, helped him get papers and all, only for him to do a 360 on her. Their divorce was finalized last year. Nigerian men stay ruining their reputations.

Yes to the distinction! There are differences between Canadian black men, Nigerian-Canadian men, fresh-off-the-boat Nigerian men who just arrived here, and home-based Nigerian men. Could you start a thread on this?

CinnamonTea:
Lmao, I know right. Who's really checking for them like that? Non-Nigerian women who date Nigerian men here are also having a rethink. I met an Ethiopian girl (I'm calling her girl but she should be around my age) sometime last year. She was trying to sell me a product while I walking through a mall, stopped me because I look 23, lmao. We got to talking and turned out her last two exes were Nigerian who both cheated on her. And she's sooo pretty. She told me she can never date another Nigerian man. Also know a Caribbean (via work) lady who has a daughter with one. They actually met in London, she moved here because of him, helped him get papers and all, only for him to do a 360 on her. Their divorce was finalized last year. Nigerian men stay ruining their reputations.

Yes to the distinction! There are differences between Canadian black men, Nigerian-Canadian men, fresh-off-the-boat Nigerian men who just arrived here, and home-based Nigerian men. Could you start a thread on this? I'd like to pinch in as well.

Ladycewhy:
the bolded was the whole reason for the sexist thread .

safarigirl:
Very predictable lot.

Is it not them that are on 90 Days Fiancee, dating mongrels and trolls on top Green Card. Women that a white man would not touch with a 50-foot pole, but Nigerian men will kiss their asses on international television. Those are the men that are calling OP ugly. Do they have spec in this life?

See their spec here.

tyup:
Reading some few lines i knew the whole message would be senseless n really when that guy said 9ja babes in Canada 're less attractive n not good looking dang i now believe

mehnn Op wor wor ehn Tuueh

Besides only a lonely lady would have such time to reply breaking in messages just like you've done

Powerintoxicate:
you spent time constructing this thrash. No man can cope with a talkative woman like you troublesome and uncouth. Rubbish

whizqueen:
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.

I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.


Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.


Why did we immigrate? Bros are you kidding me? Canadian govt is paying me $2000 monthly and other benefits for losing income due to covid-19 Is that happening in Naija right now? All the money donated by philanthropist in Nigeria would soon disappear into the thin air without our govt giving explanation of any sort. Ofcourse, it's not bed of roses abroad neither were we expecting a man wrapped in a gift bag but please don't let your sentiments cloud your reasoning as to why people make immigration decisions abeg.


I personally feel attacked I recently posted a video on my YouTube Channel about finding love & online dating in Canada. It's asif this hope saw my video and wanted to attack me


What makes you think we would be interested in you to begin with? Don't pride yourself too much plis dear


If you like let the OP influence your decision and stop you from chasing your immigration dreams, last last it's up to you to decide what you want for your future.


Whilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.


Most Nigerian men hate to see it happen, there are laws that protect women here and they would prefer dying single than to see women as their equals. A good number of them are control freaks and would rather their woman be at their beck and call for everything as opposed to having their marriage work as a partnership. Nigerian married man knowing the laws of the land will still go ahead and cheat on his wife with a girl living in the same condo with his wife. Una no even dey fear or respect una madam. If atall you really want to cheat, you cannot travel to Nigeria and secretly mess with girls that fancy IJGB crew or allen avenue. As expected, some women do exploit the situation but if you find yourself a god-fearing person and you do the right thing, no divorce laws or child custody issue would stop y'all from flourishing.


White men dont find us attractive? Laughs is Swahili
On the contrary most men of other races have FETISH for Nigerian girls and Black girls in general. Maybe not long term in all cases tho but they reaaaaaaally fancy us and admire our enthusiasm towards life. Whilst most Nigerian girls would likely not wanna go for the likes of 'Ryan', 'Billy' and co it's not cos we don't find them attractive. Firstly, Naija guys are smart, intelligent and goal oriented. You see the average ones already have plans for their future and working towards it unlike the counterparts who are comfortable with just a high school degree. If a Naija guy is even into technical jobs he would try to be the best at it and work towards starting his own company in the near future. Secondly, coping with someone with a different culture, lifestyle, food, etc is honestly stressful. I was talking with one Persian guy and he said before we can kiss or hold hands, we have to be temporarily married. The other chinese guy is only about 5ft tall, I'm just wondering what he would look like in that department

In Nigeria, when you visit a guy at home, some would expect you to know that's express ticket to get laid with them. But here if you visit a guy at home, you can be almost certain that if you guys have sex it's cos you wanted it, no guy will try to lure or manipulate you to straff them or tell you when you came to my house what were you thinking. They know it's important to ask for your opinion or even avoid the whole situation altogether.

Something the OP failed to address is that the Loneliness spans across both men and women living in Diaspora. Even the white people find it hard getting a partner for themselves much less an immigrant that would probably take some time to fully settle in. The system is built to have everyone mind their business, that togetherness or family-spirit is missing.

All the naija guys and ladies in Toronto have finish dating themselves. It's such a small city, everyone knows eachother thru another person only a matter of time before you find out that; the guy toasting you is ex with your colleagues' friend. Or the guy you matched with on the dating app went on a date with your housemate the day before. Some would be married and they would be on the dating apps lying to other women.

Some of us don't even mind going back home to bring men here, but 'em guys just they find paper. Only few genuinely love and care for you. I kuku know people here already do that as business tho, some ladies/guys now charge up to $30,000 to marry people from home to help them get residency here.

There are tons of Nigerians in Canada groups on WhatsApp and Telegram some are just for singles and you find people of age 35, 40, etc filled with both women and MEN. Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport? Oh well your guess is as good as mine. Their eyes go open finish.

A good number of Naija guys are single and desperately finding love as well as ladies. Truth is, we all crave for love. And that's not a bad thing to want. Finding a good match or significant other is a honestly a game of chance. Home and Abroad, White or Black race finding a partner is truly difficult and if you got lucky finding that one special person, you better love and cherish them truly.

I rest my case; I am in the comment section waiting for someone to jump on my mention and before you do so just remember: Opinions are like as5holes and everyone is entitled to one. So this is my opinion, I have free time today

Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely

whizqueen:
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.

I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.


Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.


Why did we immigrate? Bros are you kidding me? Canadian govt is paying me $2000 monthly and other benefits for losing income due to covid-19 Is that happening in Naija right now? All the money donated by philanthropist in Nigeria would soon disappear into the thin air without our govt giving explanation of any sort. Ofcourse, it's not bed of roses abroad neither were we expecting a man wrapped in a gift bag but please don't let your sentiments cloud your reasoning as to why people make immigration decisions abeg.


I personally feel attacked I recently posted a video on my YouTube Channel about finding love & online dating in Canada. It's asif this hope saw my video and wanted to attack me


What makes you think we would be interested in you to begin with? Don't pride yourself too much plis dear


If you like let the OP influence your decision and stop you from chasing your immigration dreams, last last it's up to you to decide what you want for your future.


Whilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.


Most Nigerian men hate to see it happen, there are laws that protect women here and they would prefer dying single than to see women as their equals. A good number of them are control freaks and would rather their woman be at their beck and call for everything as opposed to having their marriage work as a partnership. Nigerian married man knowing the laws of the land will still go ahead and cheat on his wife with a girl living in the same condo with his wife. Una no even dey fear or respect una madam. If atall you really want to cheat, you cannot travel to Nigeria and secretly mess with girls that fancy IJGB crew or allen avenue. As expected, some women do exploit the situation but if you find yourself a god-fearing person and you do the right thing, no divorce laws or child custody issue would stop y'all from flourishing.


White men dont find us attractive? Laughs is Swahili
On the contrary most men of other races have FETISH for Nigerian girls and Black girls in general. Maybe not long term in all cases tho but they reaaaaaaally fancy us and admire our enthusiasm towards life. Whilst most Nigerian girls would likely not wanna go for the likes of 'Ryan', 'Billy' and co it's not cos we don't find them attractive. Firstly, Naija guys are smart, intelligent and goal oriented. You see the average ones already have plans for their future and working towards it unlike the counterparts who are comfortable with just a high school degree. If a Naija guy is even into technical jobs he would try to be the best at it and work towards starting his own company in the near future. Secondly, coping with someone with a different culture, lifestyle, food, etc is honestly stressful. I was talking with one Persian guy and he said before we can kiss or hold hands, we have to be temporarily married. The other chinese guy is only about 5ft tall, I'm just wondering what he would look like in that department

In Nigeria, when you visit a guy at home, some would expect you to know that's express ticket to get laid with them. But here if you visit a guy at home, you can be almost certain that if you guys have sex it's cos you wanted it, no guy will try to lure or manipulate you to straff them or tell you when you came to my house what were you thinking. They know it's important to ask for your opinion or even avoid the whole situation altogether.

Something the OP failed to address is that the Loneliness spans across both men and women living in Diaspora. Even the white people find it hard getting a partner for themselves much less an immigrant that would probably take some time to fully settle in. The system is built to have everyone mind their business, that togetherness or family-spirit is missing.

All the naija guys and ladies in Toronto have finish dating themselves. It's such a small city, everyone knows eachother thru another person only a matter of time before you find out that; the guy toasting you is ex with your colleagues' friend. Or the guy you matched with on the dating app went on a date with your housemate the day before. Some would be married and they would be on the dating apps lying to other women.

Some of us don't even mind going back home to bring men here, but 'em guys just they find paper. Only few genuinely love and care for you. I kuku know people here already do that as business tho, some ladies/guys now charge up to $30,000 to marry people from home to help them get residency here.

There are tons of Nigerians in Canada groups on WhatsApp and Telegram some are just for singles and you find people of age 35, 40, etc filled with both women and MEN. Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport? Oh well your guess is as good as mine. Their eyes go open finish.

A good number of Naija guys are single and desperately finding love as well as ladies. Truth is, we all crave for love. And that's not a bad thing to want. Finding a good match or significant other is an honestly a game of chance. Home and Abroad, White or Black race finding a partner is truly difficult and if you got lucky finding that one special person, you better love and cherish them truly.

I rest my case; I am in the comment section waiting for someone to jump on my mention and before you do so just remember: Opinions are like as5holes and everyone is entitled to one. So this is my opinion, I have free time today

Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely

ibkayee:
LOL

Which oyibo women are rushing naija men? Jokes aside, please explain

ibkayee:
Lool they don't have a great reputation at all. There will always be exceptions but generally, (outside of the group of women I mentioned) and asides a few isolated cases here and there, they aren't on anyone's radars like that

Knowing this place, I don't think the thread would get much of a diverse response or be that productive to be honest, it will mostly be frustrated guys who've never stepped foot outside of their cities, let alone the country derailing. That's why I prefer places like lipstick alley for discussions like this lol

Ladycewhy:
Loneliness is not a function of location . Anyone can be lonely anywhere. How these motherfuckers come up with this their sexist threads beats me

lefulefu:
nigerian girls in nigeria are not lonely ooo
anyone in naija tellin u she is lonely is not being honest with u
an average naija girl will get 850 misscalls from guys
470 unread messages from whatsap
700 unread messages from facebook
1800 likes on instagram
6000 likes on facebook
and u say dat one is lonely?
lonely how?

safarigirl:
Very predictable lot.

Is it not them that are on 90 Days Fiancee, dating mongrels and trolls on top Green Card. Women that a white man would not touch with a 50-foot pole, but Nigerian men will kiss their asses on international television. Those are the men that are calling OP ugly. Do they have spec in this life?

See their spec here.

Decryptor:
The OP's "counter thread" has damage control written all over it.

And what's more...her profile picture is solid proof about what the OP of the other thread said about "the facial disposition" of Naija ladies living in Canada and as to why men over there find then least desirable!

whizqueen:
Don’t forget to tag me on that thread. I’m happy to share. Best wishes on your immigration journey. It’s truly worth the stress!

ibkayee:
Lool they don't have a great reputation at all. There will always be exceptions but generally, (outside of the group of women I mentioned) and asides a few isolated cases here and there, they aren't on anyone's radars like that

Knowing this place, I don't think the thread would get much of a diverse response or be that productive to be honest, it will mostly be frustrated guys who've never stepped foot outside of their cities, let alone the country derailing. That's why I prefer places like lipstick alley for discussions like this lol

Nikepucci1:
Can never be seen with this white matured lady but sure me die,if you reach her age ehn you go worwor pass am....see as you be for your 20s now....20s oooooo!!!

whizqueen:
If you want you can check out my YouTube Channel, I make videos on Life in Canada and immigrating to Canada, the process, the cost and available pathways

GraGra247:
I was totally convinced that silly guy on the earlier thread was talking gibberish.

His line of reasoning wasn't carefully thought out.

ibkayee:
Lool they don't have a great reputation at all. There will always be exceptions but generally, (outside of the group of women I mentioned) and asides a few isolated cases here and there, they aren't on anyone's radars like that

Knowing this place, I don't think the thread would get much of a diverse response or be that productive to be honest, it will mostly be frustrated guys who've never stepped foot outside of their cities, let alone the country derailing. That's why I prefer places like lipstick alley for discussions like this lol

tyup:
Reading some few lines i knew the whole message would be senseless n really when that guy said 9ja babes in Canada 're less attractive n not good looking dang i now believe

mehnn Op wor wor ehn Tuueh

Besides only a lonely lady would have such time to reply breaking in messages just like you've done