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tyup:
Reading some few lines i knew the whole message would be senseless n really when that guy said 9ja babes in Canada 're less attractive n not good looking dang i now believe

mehnn Op wor wor ehn Tuueh

Besides only a lonely lady would have such time to reply breaking in messages just like you've done

whizqueen:
Hey dear, what’s up?! It’s been a while, Do you use Instagram or Twitter?

greenskittles:
I have to admit that this is a more balanced thread. At least she acknowledged what both parties get wrong. The original thread low-key felt like one of those women-bashing incel threads. Even the MGTOW movement had to split into factions because the mainstream part had been taken over by crybaby incel men. I like this.

Culturedboss1:
This OP said alot of Facts.
Visited Canada 3years ago on a tourists Visa.
Met alot of Nigerians schooling there and I must say our girls over there own one social media channel or the other which has generally been linked to depression.
I met alot of our girls tho but one in particular I met at Ontario when I went to see the famous Niagara Falls.She that had me subscribed to her different channels from YouTube to Instagram to Snapchat where she kept on talking about Celebrities and their fashion sense every dam day.She kept uploading and updating.I just gave up.
And I noticed all the other Naija girls I met were also on similar shiit.If it's not talking about fashion and make-up, it's about one useless trending dance move.
I kept wondering what all that was about and these are mostly peeps basically sent to Study.
SomeOne Said Something,At first when u go abroad u tend to chyke a fellow Naija chic but their formings over there no be here.
Why even stress yourself over our babes with attitude and bad manners when a white Chic will be winking and giving u green light at lil or no expense??Forcing me to subscribe and listening to ur boring bullshiit Clips!! Is the worst thing I've ever been subjected to.
Modified;Can Someone pls stop Liking my Posts here??Don't Need those Likes..E get Why.

whizqueen:
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.

I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.


Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.


Why did we immigrate? Bros are you kidding me? Canadian govt is paying me $2000 monthly and other benefits for losing income due to covid-19 Is that happening in Naija right now? All the money donated by philanthropist in Nigeria would soon disappear into the thin air without our govt giving explanation of any sort. Ofcourse, it's not bed of roses abroad neither were we expecting a man wrapped in a gift bag but please don't let your sentiments cloud your reasoning as to why people make immigration decisions abeg.


I personally feel attacked I recently posted a video on my YouTube Channel about finding love & online dating in Canada. It's asif this hope saw my video and wanted to attack me


What makes you think we would be interested in you to begin with? Don't pride yourself too much plis dear


If you like let the OP influence your decision and stop you from chasing your immigration dreams, last last it's up to you to decide what you want for your future.


Whilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.


Most Nigerian men hate to see it happen, there are laws that protect women here and they would prefer dying single than to see women as their equals. A good number of them are control freaks and would rather their woman be at their beck and call for everything as opposed to having their marriage work as a partnership. Nigerian married man knowing the laws of the land will still go ahead and cheat on his wife with a girl living in the same condo with his wife. Una no even dey fear or respect una madam. If atall you really want to cheat, you cannot travel to Nigeria and secretly mess with girls that fancy IJGB crew or allen avenue. As expected, some women do exploit the situation but if you find yourself a god-fearing person and you do the right thing, no divorce laws or child custody issue would stop y'all from flourishing.


White men dont find us attractive? Laughs is Swahili
On the contrary most men of other races have FETISH for Nigerian girls and Black girls in general. Maybe not long term in all cases tho but they reaaaaaaally fancy us and admire our enthusiasm towards life. Whilst most Nigerian girls would likely not wanna go for the likes of 'Ryan', 'Billy' and co it's not cos we don't find them attractive. Firstly, Naija guys are smart, intelligent and goal oriented. You see the average ones already have plans for their future and working towards it unlike the counterparts who are comfortable with just a high school degree. If a Naija guy is even into technical jobs he would try to be the best at it and work towards starting his own company in the near future. Secondly, coping with someone with a different culture, lifestyle, food, etc is honestly stressful. I was talking with one Persian guy and he said before we can kiss or hold hands, we have to be temporarily married. The other chinese guy is only about 5ft tall, I'm just wondering what he would look like in that department

In Nigeria, when you visit a guy at home, some would expect you to know that's express ticket to get laid with them. But here if you visit a guy at home, you can be almost certain that if you guys have sex it's cos you wanted it, no guy will try to lure or manipulate you to straff them or tell you when you came to my house what were you thinking. They know it's important to ask for your opinion or even avoid the whole situation altogether.

Something the OP failed to address is that the Loneliness spans across both men and women living in Diaspora. Even the white people find it hard getting a partner for themselves much less an immigrant that would probably take some time to fully settle in. The system is built to have everyone mind their business, that togetherness or family-spirit is missing.

All the naija guys and ladies in Toronto have finish dating themselves. It's such a small city, everyone knows eachother thru another person only a matter of time before you find out that; the guy toasting you is ex with your colleagues' friend. Or the guy you matched with on the dating app went on a date with your housemate the day before. Some would be married and they would be on the dating apps lying to other women.

Some of us don't even mind going back home to bring men here, but 'em guys just they find paper. Only few genuinely love and care for you. I kuku know people here already do that as business tho, some ladies/guys now charge up to $30,000 to marry people from home to help them get residency here.

There are tons of Nigerians in Canada groups on WhatsApp and Telegram some are just for singles and you find people of age 35, 40, etc filled with both women and MEN. Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport? Oh well your guess is as good as mine. Their eyes go open finish.

A good number of Naija guys are single and desperately finding love as well as ladies. Truth is, we all crave for love. And that's not a bad thing to want. Finding a good match or significant other is a honestly a game of chance. Home and Abroad, White or Black race finding a partner is truly difficult and if you got lucky finding that one special person, you better love and cherish them truly.

I rest my case; I am in the comment section waiting for someone to jump on my mention and before you do so just remember: Opinions are like as5holes and everyone is entitled to one. So this is my opinion, I have free time today

Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely

RuudVanNisteroy:
The more subscribers you get, the more Youtube advertising revenue you get. Everyone is trying to diversify their income stream. The employment market in Canada is unstable if you don't work in the healthcare sector.

You need at least 10 thousand subscribers to start making Youtube advertising revenue. There are people on Youtube making millons of dollars from corporate sponsors, who pay them to advertise products to their millions of subscribers.

Kekereekun123:
most of them don't have 1k views. Its a subtle form of advert to get husband

MizMyColi:
Good evening Tallesty

IdioticNLmods:
I no insult anyone.. I'm just stating the obvious! Saying someone is tall short beautiful or ugly is not an insult.
Thanks

Roon9:
Inside life.... OP no be fight o
A friend of mine was recently hooked up to one of these Nigerian ladies abroad. Omo they couldn't last up to 2 weeks. Two of my friends in the US came down to Nigeria to fetch their wives when they wanted to get married. We all know why they and by extension most Nigerian men do that

Astark:
oga time has changed,those backward mentality of women been inferior is over.

You and your wife are both equal now, treat her bad in sane country and you'll loose everything and might never recover

RuudVanNisteroy:
Husband through Youtube and Instagram?I am not understanding.
The Youtubers with millions of views and subscribers started like them with 1k views.
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ajani27:
Imagine her without make up....

MizMyColi:
This is one reason I dislike putting my life out there.
Too much negative energy.

Some people just project their negative lives to you. They are so desperate for it to become your reality as well.

However, the less they know about you, the easier you can live your life and be truly happy.

I get that privacy and publicity has its perks, however, I'd favor a private life any and every time.

Godbpraised:
you actually did not need to respond this way, you should have responsed on the on the orginal thread, the tone in your response depicts you are proud and have an issue of submitting to a man. If you are confident of yourself then find a white man.

RuudVanNisteroy:
Husband through Youtube and Instagram?I am not understanding.
The Youtubers with millions of views and subscribers started like them with 1k views.
[img]https:///media/8-17-2015/hhVJjT.gif[/img]

Nephilim:
chaii! These Canadian gals are truly ugly! Lolz. Na so one gal wey dey Canadian dey chat me up, make she send her pics, she no gree, she con finally send one she snap for inside darkness, chaii! I no fit laff lolz lolz!

Anyway apologies, you are not ugly okay! You are beautiful in your own way. if you need a boyfriend! Pm lolz

djon78:
And so what. Do you even know how Vanessa Bryant was looking when Kobe married her?

That babe was a stunner
And Kobe genuinely loved her even till death.

African American women Akata are the worst. Many successful black men don't even near them.

area74:
In my opinion, I think Nigerian women in diaspora don't easily give in to Nigerian men home or abroad. My experience : a female friend of mine in Canada introduced a US based Nigerian lady to me. Coincidentally, we all graduated from the same university in Nigeria before they traveled abroad. Within a week, she started acting funny as if I will be desperate for her 'living abroad status' forgetting that I am also doing well in Nigeria. From the second week, I also stopped communicating with her till I got legally married to another woman here in Nigeria. Till this moment, she is single and wants a relationship. If I had married her, it would have been very hard to cope with such woman

adewumiopeyemi:
All my brothers are base in Canada
Mum just went recently for visit
Because of
Corona issue she has to stay there because if she come to Nigeria she has to be isolated for 14 days
Am I was meant to write my IELTS exam on April 18
Everything suspended till further notice
Am deam tired of this country

xendra:
lmao, dsame Nigeria women y'all condemn all the time confused bunch.

it is plain ego and d fear of losing it that makes Nigerian men unable to make any relationship work with successful ladies.

whizqueen:
If you want you can check out my YouTube Channel, I make videos on Life in Canada and immigrating to Canada, the process, the cost and available pathways

Khayceeofficial:
You shot yourself in the leg first
Shame!

Mstick:
Anybody with a brain knows that thread was created to massage the ego of Nigerian men.

Nigerian men like to praise themselves and make it look like women from other continents are falling over themselves to date them but believe me it's 100% false.

Black men are just the worst honestly, you see them opening threads upon threads insulting and humiliating black women but you would NEVER see men from other races do that. Are their women perfect? NO! but they respect and protect them anyway.

The reason why most of this black men go after white women is because of the standard the white men set for their own women, they built a country and environment where there women can thrive meanwhile our own men are still here debating if we're allowed to serve them garri with one meat.

Debating whether their wives should serve them garri with one meat got me cracked.
1 Naija men are revered by women if other race, this is a fact

2. Naija men should learn to respect our women and via Versa
3. Naija ladies abroad should also be open to marrying guys at home as the men are doing.

May God help us

RuudVanNisteroy:
The more subscribers you get, the more Youtube advertising revenue you get. Everyone is trying to diversify their income stream. The employment market in Canada is unstable if you don't work in the healthcare sector.

You need at least 10 thousand subscribers to start making Youtube advertising revenue. There are people on Youtube making millons of dollars from corporate sponsors, who pay them to advertise products to their millions of subscribers.