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Giwoni:
Good day NLanders
I'm a medical student, and gf( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her . Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents. Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket, It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day ( for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.
In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.
I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life , but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022(which supposed to be 2021but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled ( this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, ( I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.
thanks

Giwoni:
Thanks. I appreciate

missimelda01:
It could be that her parents influenced her decision, she wouldn't mention marriage in the first place if she didn't see a future with you or maybe she got bored of the relationship and found someone else...things like this happen, it's sad.

I already told you to move on, life happens.

Ricchcream:
Why must you marry before leaving to study overseas? Is it a requirement, or just your brother's suggestion?

I suppose, from your account, that your brother is the one taking care of you, and by extension, your girlfriend, financially. Does he know about her? .

Giwoni:
is not that I have too much money but it that she was my first love! Thanks

Giwoni:
Good day NLanders
I'm a medical student, and gf( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her . Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents. Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket, It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day ( for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.
In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.
I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life , but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022(which supposed to be 2021but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled ( this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, ( I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.
thanks

jumpampass:
You are mumu man. Take red pill and go ask for refund.

Giwoni:
Good day NLanders
I'm a medical student, and gf( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her . Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents. Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket, It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day ( for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.
In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.
I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life , but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022(which supposed to be 2021but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled ( this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, ( I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.
thanks

Johntitus:
Hahahaha... You're your problem. How can you shoulder the responsibilities of a lady you've not married? Sha, no too much money dey shack you.

coronavirus19:
Iswear, na because the guy get mney to spend. I don't blame him, when too much money don chop baba sense comot

Jas80:
This guy I know you

Bush2013:
I am a medical student too but in Ebonyi. If you r in Ebonyi we can Meet because I am in town. You bleeped up but we can't throw the baby away with the water used in washing him

Giwoni:
willing

Giwoni:
Good day NLanders
I'm a medical student, and gf( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her . Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents. Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket, It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day ( for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.
In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.
I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life , but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022(which supposed to be 2021but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled ( this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, ( I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.
thanks

DominusPrime:
I'm happy you've braced up for insults. You are a really big fool not to know that you cannot train a lady through the university and she will end up with you. Only a minute number will. A whole medical student? This gullible? When in my school medical students are the most sought after you are here being fooled by a young girl.
Let me tell you what a girl told me just b4 she broke up with her bf cos of a doctor. Her mum told her that even though she's studying mls she must come back with a doctor as husband o. Cos the other girls who are marrying doctors don't have extra breast and yansh and she cannot understand why she will send her to medical school and she will say she married a radiographer...
To be honest that is the most wicked thing I've heard a mother tell her daughter about any man in the medical field irrespective of designation but that's to tell u how much doctors are sought after cos everyone knows they run out of the country once they are done. So for u to be played for a fool right from 200 level beats me. Now who is better off after you both count your losses? Of course she is cos that money you gave her could have been used to better yourself or just left in the bank to accumulate dust. Hope you've learnt your life lesson. We as men must fall mugu to get wisdom. All of us bashing you have been in this shoes but yours is by far the dumbest I've ever seen.

Wait, you even passed up an opportunity to travel out cos of her? Ah my brother whomever do you this thing no go die well...even the ladies here would laugh at your stupidity...

iphanyi10:
since you said you don't mind the insults, op you are a fool!!! a very big one!!!
1) you allowed her control the relationship from the very start
2) you think you can't get someone better if she leaves
3) you even dismissed a chance to have a better education all because of a girl you are not married to
4)you lavish her with Money to show your masculinity.
5) you act desperate and in need with her.

now that we have established the fact that you have been a fool, let's talk about the solutions.

1) show her you love her but don't act thirsty
2) set ground rules but learn to relax them when need be
3) give her money when necessary but don't be her ATM.
4)don't talk about the marriage proposal again, refer to no1

let me tell you something, if you've actually wrote the truth in your post, she would be the one on the losing side if the relationship ends, she is always acting this way because she knows you're easy to manipulate. no one wants to lose someone precious as you. Be a man!!!!

antidisestablis:
I just want to ask you a question. All the money you are given to this lady where did you get it from?
Leave the lady alone, her mind is made up she can never marry you.

opineflu:
what an experience bro,let me clear man that girl never loved you one bit.
Knowing well that her mother would never support such matrimony,she kept that from you for a long time.It so bad she went ahead collecting your investment with no promise of a sound dividend..she had your fooled bro, i know moving on would be hard, considering the trust you bestowed on her.
Man staying away and starting afresh is the right and sound decision lest you breed bad blood between both families.it way deeper than you can comprehend

lefulefu:
you are in med school and u allowing woman wahala to weigh u down and u know med school is quite challenging.If i were u i would just jejeli dump the girl and face my studies head on.She has already told u that if u fail any of the external medical exams she will break up with u.that ought to tell u she is a good digger.Dont know why some of u guys are weak anyway.There more beautiful female nursing students u would come across as u do ur medical course so why u scared to break up with her .anyway its ur life sha .for me i cant allow woman issue to weigh me down..not when i have a challenging course at hand.If u let this girl keep distracting u u will fail ur exams.see her as someone placed by the devil to become an obstacle to your road of success.if u start seeing her as that u will know the right action to take .

Jaybeth:
Hmm.....This thing called love has sent so many men into permanent depression, extreme hatred of the opposite sex and financial emptiness. The O.P has learnt his lesson.Pick up your self and always remember to love yourself first in your next relationship. For a girl you haven't married, for a girl you weren't the one that paid her fees upon her admission, never allow yourself to be manipulated into thinking that you are responsible for her day to day survival.You have been inducted into the club of broken hearted guys.Pick up the pieces and move on.Nothing do you.

Chi59:
Anambra people trended on twitter the other day.
My advice for anyone dating anambra person, if you're not from the place yourself is to see the person's people one on one and find out where you stand before you go any further.
They hardly marry non indigenes.

missimelda01:
You only told us the things you did for her, what of the things she did for you?
Did you notice at any point in the relationship that she was acting uninterested?
Marriage is a huge step, did you both have marriage in view while dating?
Parents have huge influence on some people, maybe she's one of them.

In conclusion, it's not advisable to convince someone to marry you.. move on with your life, you'd find someone else who'll feel the same way about you.

Chi59:
Anambra people trended on twitter the other day.
My advice for anyone dating anambra person, if you're not from the place yourself is to see the person's people one on one and find out where you stand before you go any further.
They hardly marry non indigenes.