SirMichael1:
From the beginning of your comment, you sounded like one who has wisdom and after I read the 'modified 2', I knew for sure that you were beyond saving.

Please shift......

tonididdy:

For a lady I give you a hard thumbs up

A man will work round the clock to provide for family and you still want him to be Romeo round the clock.

A man working 'round the clock' doesn't stop him from initiating romance. And women work 'round the clock' too and still manage to juggle stuff in the home.

However, in a case where one partner is not capable to initiate romance or time together (nature, nurture, circumstances etc.) the onus is on the other partner to initiate the fun time.

Two is better than one for a reason.

OdefaGirl:
Sir..... I will advise you to trust your partner and stop being paranoid.......see ehh, what women go through to make sure they keep that love for their hubbies is too much....... you will hear a woman tell you 'Oga I'm married' and his response will be...'I'm married too, we can tango well'......... keep loving your woman and she will reciprocate.....no doubt, the man might be wooing her.... but she shouldn't be giving him green lights unless she just wanna be naughty and play a bit.....all the same, women reciprocate hubby's love ...a lot.

But if you wanna be free from mistrust, just quietly tell her to stop flirting with the man before it becomes something else.

Modified: You alone know what you want in your home, peace or problem of trust?
We won't be there......

Modified 2: Op, sorry ok..... your head go full and scatter, shebi you carry your marriage, no be boyfriend and girlfriend matter come here...... what were you thinking, huh?
Oya see comments read, since you didn't know what to do or who to privately confide in.....
Ntoorr!!!!

Lol odefa
say na ntoor

DeRay98:


If it was the other way round would you have advised the husband to do same?

This is a very 'strange' question.

What do you think?

desthan:


Correction, a cheat will always find an excuse to cheat.

Has nothing to do about being secure.

I can 100% say this may be true for a man, but not for a woman. a woman may hate the idea of cheating yet do it because we like validity

Hack into her WhatsApp chat so that whenever she's chatting with the guy, the chat shows on your phone also. No need to stress her. With that, you can know all her shady deals

Stephenomozzy:


Have you dated an introvert before? (I am dating one). Not very often will she loudly express that she's needing things to be spiced up, she'll just leave few clues here and there and believes you should pick the clue and work things out while she "does her own part". It becomes easier when you know your woman.

I'm in no way inferring that a boring partner should be cheated on Sis. And who knows op may just be paranoid.

But other than just speaking point-blank that OP's wife is cheating (that's a recipe to ruin their marriage), I've offered one way OP can try to make things better and read the situation in a more optimistic angle.

Deleting chats and re-saving contacts is not been paranoid, let's say it as it is.

The issue is still very manageable if madam is willing to.

I don't get who you are alluding to be introverted here however, there is no excuse for the wife's behavior.

If your husband is boring, spice up the marriage with his money worst case.

Use the wrapper to cover your body, use your body to wrap the wrapper: the goal is to cover the body.

Oga, the bitter truth is dat she's very much likely cheating on a scale of 1-10 she's definitely on 7.. Why would I delete messages if I'm not hiding anything... Do you know the rsn people put passwords on their phones, they have sth t hide or "Protect"..

PS she's going t deny it like a serial born liar that she is, so don't ever bother trying t know the truth 4rm her, women would make u go after another man, kill him & then u land in jail, she steals your assets and go whoring with another man again y in prison or dead, Two men wasted one is dead the other serving life in kpiri kpiri correction center, the bitch! Leaves on..
PS not all women are like this..

bukatyne:


Deleting chats and re-saving contacts is not been paranoid, let's say it as it is.

The issue is still very manageable if madam is willing to.

I don't get who you are alluding to be introverted here however, there is no excuse for the wife's behavior.

If your husband is boring, spice up the marriage with his money worst case.

Use the wrapper to cover your body, use your body to wrap the wrapper: the goal is to cover the body.

I'm so proud of you, you successfully did not understand what I said.

But I agree with the bolded part of your submission. Cheers!

Nelso2:
Saw a contact on her phone late last year, saved as aa1 and each time he wassup her it's either he calls her my friend or my love.

Confronted her but she denied, saying it's her customer that is owing her money. Been searching for the contact but couldn't find it again after then.

Recently, I searched on her phone while she was sleeping, went through her wassup again, saw a number saved as 3, had to checked on it, behold the profile picture is the same man. Funny part of it, each time she chat wit him, she deletes the chat at the end of it. Been mad since and about to confront.

The man in question is almost 54 and I am in late 30s.

It’s obvious she’s hiding something from you and for her to be going to the extent of deleting there chats and changed the name after you challenged her my brother something is fishy act fast before is too late(remember that no woman will open her mouth to confess unless cut red handed) Ji Masun

zedegit:


You must be a learner.

hahahah, am not na

Tj3502:

Your name has says it all.....mechanic
Mhen looking @ u,u gat nothing upstairs

You are talking about yourself, you don't even know why am even using that name, so that's none of your business.

Chuky7:


Lol odefa
say na ntoor

15 pages and still counting...... I wonder the advice he will read and take action on.........

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xendra:
Yep its called cheating, even though they may not have had sex yet, she is definitely enjoying the wrong type of attention (that is also classified as emotional cheating.)
Are you cheating on her? or making her feel less in any way? it could be from lack of attention, feeling invincible to your man, feeling like you are not on his priority list.......and so on

usually a woman will only do this if she nolonger feels secure in her relationship.

or she naturally craves attention also.

Where is foundation of the marriage built upon? If at all it built on a solid rock call Jesus; she is spiritually conscious never to cheat on you at all. Women outside the word are easily by what they see around them. She is seeing another man and they is nothing you can do about it. Who bought the phone she is using

Psalms5522:


SO IS NAIRALAND THE PLACE TO SEEK MARRITAL ADVICE? MY FRIEND I BEG YOU STOP SEEKING MARRITAL ADVICE FROM PUBLIC FORUMS. WHY YOU NO JUST STAND FOR YOUR STREET JUNCTION DEY ASK EVERY PASSER BY FOR ADVICE. PEOPLE HERE GET WORSE PROBLEM THAN YOU. THIS IS THE ADVICE I CAN GIVE

OP, this is the only answer to your problem

mechanics:
hahahah, am not na

You don't always take a woman's word at face value. Some can lie for Africa and use a few tears to garnish it and serve you.

sapientia:


OP, this is the only answer to your problem

I beg tell am well well

zedegit:


You don't always take a woman's word at face value. Some can lie for Africa and use a few tears to garnish it and serve you.

So na men word we go take for face value abi?

Well na who put Im dirty pant for nairaland make every comment on how e dirty reach na Im I blame

Nelso2:
Saw a contact on her phone late last year, saved as aa1 and each time he wassup her it's either he calls her my friend or my love.

Confronted her but she denied, saying it's her customer that is owing her money. Been searching for the contact but couldn't find it again after then.

Recently, I searched on her phone while she was sleeping, went through her wassup again, saw a number saved as 3, had to checked on it, behold the profile picture is the same man. Funny part of it, each time she chat wit him, she deletes the chat at the end of it. Been mad since and about to confront.

The man in question is almost 54 and I am in late 30s.

. Oga, she is already cheating. One thing u guys must know is that cheating doest start with sex, cheating starts from the day ur wife meets someone and starts hiding it from you. Hiding a relationship from you is already a sign that she knows its unholy and has bad intentions. Cheating starts in the mind, not with the body.

Nelso2:

It is obvious she might be cheating. Noticed too that she has been calling him through normal calls and wassup calls frequently. The man calls her too and they flow well. The call records are just too glaring.

update us on your line of action and what you discovered

Heineken:
yes bro you can even when the messages has been deleted.

Can you please show me how?

I am a very willing student.

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bonnyhope:


Is distance not a limitation to this whatsapp web?

No it's not.

OdefaGirl:




15 pages and still counting...... I wonder the advice he will read and take action on.........

Lol he will have to filter the man that seems suitable

is that you on your profile pic??

hack her WhatsApp.. go to YouTube to learn how to do that.. you will catch her red handed...

I could remember what parted me.and my ex was that... deleting messages shows that there's something fishing among them. .. could u imagine that my ex was dating an old man of 60 while she's 26yrs? One day she forgot to delete their chats even with naked pictures she sent to that man . Behold she got married to that man at last. After all I've done for her. My brother be wise. .. after lockdown ur wife will definitely meet that man or else maybe they have been meeting who knows? Since you're married.... try to win Your wife back oh! if u still love her with prayer sha! Women can do unthinkable. Talking from experience .

Nelso2:
Saw a contact on her phone late last year, saved as aa1 and each time he wassup her it's either he calls her my friend or my love.

Stop confronting her, free your mind and do proper investigation. Don't be naive or lazy. Installs a paid spy app on her phone and listen to their conversation or her location on your fone.
Write down the phone number and investigate about the man secretly.
Just have fun with the matter at this stage and if you find her wanting, provide her with all the evidence and then decide on what next to do with her.