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Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by Boss13: 12:46pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Nelso2: I had initially thought this story was part of Nairaland gimmicks and had a change of mind when you responded. I have also extensively read the comments here from women and simps. Chief - your wife is cheating on you and the evidence is there. While some chaps here have provided brilliant tech-savvy ways to obtain evidence, I would say you already have the evidence you need. You do not need to read certain things that may cause emotional distraught to you. You are a man and the leader of your house. You have to take charge now because women are children with breasts. Call your wife, sit her down. Do not shout at her, do not raise your voice, be firm and stern. Tell her you went through her phone (she may be embarrassed and want to defend herself). Tell her you are her partner and there is absolutely nothing wrong in going through her phone. Don't use the word Husband (so she doesn't feel subservient to you) rather use the word, Partner. Reassure her there will be no consequences but her sneaky actions MUST end today. However, there will be consequences if you find out she is lying. Ask her firmly who the guy is and what is the nature of their relationship. Yes - she would lie (like I said women are children with breasts and will never accept responsibility), and of course, you should expect it. After she is done with her lies, tell her you don't believe her, and she should call the man in your presence and end things IMMEDIATELY right in your presence. After their conversation, get her phone and get the Whatsapp barcode. Inform her you have hacked her phone because she has lost the trust you have for her and she has to work to earn that trust. Also inform her you are not stupid and that it is possible she may continue the relationship and that when she considers doing so, she should note the consequences and that includes losing her marriage and family. Inform her of the consequences, be firm about it. Also, let her know you will be monitoring the phone regularly. Restrain yourself from any insult. This is not the time to trade words, fight, cry, or blackmail. This is the time to take charge of your family and rescue it from predators. When you are done, leave the house to go cool off somewhere so she can digest her stupidity while you decompress. Do not have this discussion physically with anybody else. Now - my next advice to you is this - NEVER EVER TRUST A WOMAN - NEVER. Do not give these children with breasts the opportunity to run out of order. At this moment, you MUST begin to develop Alpha strategies. Begin to develop yourself and seek out opportunities to increase your earnings. As a man be prepared to lose your wife at any moment. Why do I say this, it is only these children with breasts that can decide if their marriage is important to them or not. However, you must begin to take action for yourself. Women (sorry children with breasts) are attracted to successful and powerful men just like men are attracted to beautiful women. Your focus and objectives are to never lose that edge of being ambitious and successful. If your wife decides to act childish, as they usually do, let her go and never take her back. Our goal as men is to achieve success, be a great provider and protector, and not an attention giver. You are not responsible for your wife's happiness. Do not fall for the nonsense of maybe you stop giving your wife attention that is why she is cheating. The needs and wants of women, same as men, are insatiable - and that means you can never satisfy anybody in life. Achieve your goals, create and make your dream happen and when you do get to the zenith of your career or goals, you would see the plethora of extremely beautiful women at your disposal beckoning to please you. This is my advice to you, young men and men who are married. Greetings from Canada. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by ghettochild(m): 12:46pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Nelso2:Try hacking her whatsapp.. Cos she has nothing to hide she won't be deleting the msgs.. Hack her whatsapp, get ur proof n send that cheater out of ur home Or better still, use ur wife's whatsapp to send her lover.. Am honey as Bleep msg n ask where he wanna meet her. And give the 54yr old a drilling by area boys |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by Lakesydha4real(m): 12:55pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
SLAP44:hi 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by larryking540: 12:57pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
bukatyne: Nigeria men ,or men in general have been give the ideology that they are the ones to spice their relationship up not the woman,it's as simple as telling me I married a log of woood.... I keep telling people mostly guys ,make money and have money to the extend of u coming home and even if u say u are going to the toilet your wife will say u are funny ......na who get money even if e complain it's always funny to a woman .. ... |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by Lakesydha4real(m): 1:01pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
SLAP44: |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by larryking540: 1:11pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Janosky: The question I keep on asking ,does even man not need love attention and understanding,,,,, Women were made to love ,man own na hustle , Any way sha the percentage of joblessness is high in 9ja I will not blame some guys who sit at home looking for a married woman to confuse in her matrimonial home ... I like apostle suleman ,he said one day ,while still dating his wife back then ,he told her all these I love u every day ,I love you every day don't expect it from me all the time o, because no be I love u ,u wan chop o or the children wan chop o |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by Gentlesoul96(m): 1:15pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
OdefaGirl: This is not the worst place to get advice. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by larryking540: 1:18pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Boss13: Greetings from UAE bro I love that statement,u are not responsible for your wife happiness,,, Na love , attention and I love you every day family wan chop ,,,,,, These are things as a guy u supposed don tell your woman while still dating ,,a woman should know marriage no easy ,so if u day expect your man to day give u attention while e mate day hustle na she con kw |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by ledaman: 1:18pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Aaaaarghmed:Hmmm! Big time player |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by OdefaGirl(f): 1:19pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Gentlesoul96: Let me correct myself...."advice on marital infidelity" |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by MarrisManah(m): 1:20pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Nelso2:A quick one, what do you know about the man... Married.? Wife.? Kids..? business/job.? Financial worth..? Maybe the man is feeding you and paying your rent.. On a serious note, knowing what kind of man he is, will go a long way in chosing how to deal with the situation. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by ModestGal(f): 1:22pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Nelso2:Good for you, why checking your wife's phone |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by emmaodet: 1:26pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
bukatyne: Ka ro idi maso, ka ro aso mo idi, koko nipe ki idi mati gbofo |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by Nobody: 1:28pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Nelso2: Your wife has a sugar daddy. A married man too. Time to talk |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by Boss13: 1:29pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
larryking540: Greetings, That is why I said women are children with breasts. Only children and vulnerable people, including elderly ones, need attention. And for women to say that because she is not receiving sufficient attention hence a good reason to cheat is ridiculous, disingenuous, baffling, and stupid. I am not surprised because I am yet to see a woman who accepts responsibilities and accountability. However, I am not saying creating beautiful memories with your wife or significant other isn't important, but that should not be the sole responsibility of a man - that is not a man's job. Young men must know this and not fall for the wild fantasies of these children with breasts because their fantasies will never stop and are even on high steroids with the advent of social media, Hollywood and Nollywood movies, and romantic novels. Men should focus on their dreams and goals, and achieve them. Be a good provider to your family and protect your family from external influences and that includes potential male lovers. 2 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by Pravedk: 1:33pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
I used this method some weeks back, best decision i did. Mama was banging a guy she keeps telling me was just a friend from work greatme2good: |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by Twoclans(f): 1:33pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
okpalaAnambra: Rolls eyes 1 Like
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Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by bukatyne(f): 1:39pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
emmaodet: Thanks jare. Once I know the proverb in 'English', I run with it. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by larryking540: 1:46pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Boss13:Am not yet married ,but I have vowed a woman can't change my dreams ,my goals and my ambition ,never ,they can add to it but tampering with it because of their wild fantasy can't happen , |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by Boss13: 1:53pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
larryking540: Great - focus on your dreams and achieve them. Women will come. The more you achieve your goals, the more you open the doors to access high valued women. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by Nobody: 1:59pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Boss13: No offence but this is such a "white boy" approach. This would work with Western women and not Nigerian women. You do this to a Nigerian woman and she will laugh at you behind closed doors for she will perceive you as being weak. And seeing women as children with breasts.....hmmmm....that's a bit sexist and derogatory. Like you said, communication is necessary but with no emotions attached. He should speak to her with enough evidence, punish her by detaching his emotions for awhile and focusing solely on the kids and take mental notes of her reactions. She has to see that there will be consequences for such actions, both ways. Abstain from sex for a month or two. She'd start to wonder a lot of things in her head and if she truly loves you, she'd start to feel guilty. Now this is where you kick in the real talk (pour out your heart) and if her actions show no sign of guilt, then your marriage is almost over. You'd both have to save it, if it's worth saving. And how you do that is by rebuilding from scratch The keys to a happy marriage are as follows: 1) Communication 2) Perseverance 3) Knowing how to control your tongue 4) Appreciation 5) Respect 6) Loyalty 7) Don't stop learning especially positive things 8} Romance - this part, a lot of Nigerian men and women lack, out of laziness and selfishness. They always wait for the other party to start it first or always find someone to blame for not being romantic 9) Support - this includes taking care of responsibility without being told (no gender roles defined). And constantly looking to better yourself and your partner 10) Self Discipline - 95 percent of Nigerian men lack this. Blame it on their parents and constant desire for the pleasures of life without thinking about the future. Nigerian parents are letting their kids raise themselves without knowing it. That is why most Naija men have no control over sex, social media, money and power. They lose their minds and values when they are overwhelmed with too much of the aforementioned. 11) Possess a listening ear and a giving heart. -And this includes sacrifices 12) God - This is the most important part of all. If a man admires not the ways of Christ, teachings or discipline of the scriptures, he would have no balance and let himself be raised by the world Best regards A married man(a whooped one too) : |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by Lyns32uk(m): 2:00pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
mobile-tracker app is one. specialbobby: |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by Legendguru: 2:20pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Yes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by Viciyke00(m): 2:26pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Aaaaarghmed: Wisdom no go kill you my brother. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by Boss13: 2:32pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
WUdec: In all honesty, I do not see any difference from what you wrote to the practical approach I provided for him to take control of his marriage, protect the unity of his family and curb the excesses and stupidity of his wife. When you said the wife would laugh at him and consider him being weak, I am clearly lost and do not agree with you. Are you proposing alternative methods - I did not see any or do you consider him beating his wife, which I think does not solve the problem but may get him into trouble and possibly collapse his marriage. I will not advise him to abstain from sex for a month - that's crap, but his wife has to go for a medical checkup at a hospital of his choosing and provide evidence. That is part of the consequences. Whether he chooses to have sex with the wife or not is completely up to him. However, his attitude and disposition toward his wife MUST completely change. He must hold her accountable and inform her the new changes are because she has lost his trust and has to earn it. The wife MUST now work to save the marriage and not pass that buck to him - as women usually do. He must continue to keep the wife on the edge by moving his attention to achieving his goals. The wife must either consider fighting to save the marriage or take her options of leaving. However, if he sticks to achieving his goals and increasing his earnings, the wife is left with no choice but to fight to keep her husband and family because the man is becoming a man of value. Your proposed recommendations 1 - 7 should be in every healthy marriage. 8 (Romance) is overhyped and when you have a constructive discussion with couples, they clearly do not have a good understanding of what it even means. Appreciating each other and creating good memories is good but does not stop cheating or even unhappiness in women and don't forget women have mood swings and sometimes do not even know what they want. While your recommendation No 10 (Self Discipline) is important in every facet of life and success, you cannot teach one how to be discipline - that is a personal decision and choice. I also think your proposed recommendation no 12 is out of place and not an ingredient to a happy marriage. I also think it is part of the reason people do not accept responsibility for their marriages. If you want a happy marriage, couples MUST work hard to achieve it. Finally - women are children with breast and I think I have explained the reason why I consider them to be children with breasts. You may find it derogatory or sexist or even include some of the fancy new terminologies feminist use these days such as misogynist. There is an abundance of evidence to show that women are children with breasts. It is now up to men to know when the woman in their lives is acting childish and call them on their BS and straighten them up. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by Nfrank: 2:34pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Nelso2: Spy on her WhatsApp chats |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by Gentlesoul96(m): 2:40pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
OdefaGirl: Maybe.... Just that some advice are reasonable and probably from those who have once have similar experience before |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by CsRockefeller(m): 2:55pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Pravedk: Your wife? |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by larryking540: 3:01pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Boss13: Sure man , definitely ,not dis sarcastic slay queen who bring drama to a guy's home |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by specialbobby(m): 3:03pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Lyns32uk: Is it on playstore? Nd how can i do the registration Track the person when is in the same state with me |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by oshorstan(f): 3:04pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Nelso2: I am a single man in a serious relationship with the most beautiful and loyal woman in the world. But I have come to observe something about babes. They need 1000% attention, else they will become friends with someone else. If you are dull, they will look for someone else to fill that void. If the guy is raw, you may lose your woman to his flirty words. Women loves gists...... Else the demon called Bestie will take her from you 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by mechanics(m): 3:21pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
zedegit:You don't just generalise. |
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