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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Goddyj(m): 8:26pm On Apr 29, 2020
I can never marry a 'church woman'.
90% of the so called serious church ladies sleep with their pastors, deacons ushers, youth leaders, choir masters and 'fire filled brothers'.

Argue with me if you like, I'm talking from experience.
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by bcbones: 8:26pm On Apr 29, 2020
Drince:
SMH

It was just one cold night like that, it was only the cap that entered sef... grin

Story for the gods
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by champman(m): 8:27pm On Apr 29, 2020
Lordsonn:


Thanks. It is really affecting me. I am a lecturer in a private university, I lectured online yesterday via zoom, all the students and management discovered that something is wrong with me somewhere. I performed far below the way I used to lecture because i was really worried and depressed. I have another lecture by 4 pm today, I will try to look happy. They don't know what i'm passing through... i'm a young man of 33 years. the woman is even older than me, after i discovered her real age
Oh! I know how this feels.i was able 2 overcome similar probs 3 yrs ago.it nearly consumed me.I WANT 2 SAY THAT U SHOULD CALM DOWN A LITTLE SO UR BRAIN CAN CHILL.CHECK D ADVANTAGES & DISADVANTAGES OF DISCONTINUING D MARRIAGE.AFTER THEN,U CAN DECIDE I GUESS.HOWEVER,U NEED HAPPINESS IN UR MARRIAGE COS IT'S A LIFELONG THING
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Insideout20000: 8:30pm On Apr 29, 2020
OGand99others:
cry cry cry
2255998505
Zenith bank

Man must survive

Thanks so much
Paul chibuike Nwali
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by lereinter(m): 8:35pm On Apr 29, 2020
From what you described you married an experience olosho

Just go report her to SARS

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by OnPointMan(m): 8:37pm On Apr 29, 2020
okey4reel:

I am experiencing such at the moment now, as soon as I told her that I can't get married to her cos of all the things I discovered which are similar to it's all hell went loose, she started insulting me and my family, presently she has refused to leave my house and I am forced to go n stay with a friend till after the Lockdown

So woman drive you comot for your own house till further notice grin

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Funkybabee(f): 8:41pm On Apr 29, 2020
Some women are just so desperate because of marriage..

So sorry there nothing for you to do than to accept her back.

You have to develop the habit of let go, I mean let heo of the past because it will keep hunting u down. Pray and seek for God peace. U need peace at ur mind because ur heart is full of regrets. After all u can now sit her down, tell her that u have forgive her and some things u don't want her to do if she wanted the marriage to stand.

Pray and I hope God will give u peace, remember u asked forgiveness from God everyday and if it's part of divorce. U can not marry again because of Christ order.
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by OGand99others: 8:41pm On Apr 29, 2020
yeah that's me
Insideout20000:

Paul chibuike Nwali
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by faithfull18(f): 8:43pm On Apr 29, 2020
Lol, superstory.
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by GreatResearcher: 8:48pm On Apr 29, 2020
faithfull18:
Lol, superstory.
Why do u always like supporting bad thing?
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by paul100(m): 8:49pm On Apr 29, 2020
Inside life
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by naturefellow(m): 8:50pm On Apr 29, 2020
omolasho:

Whao! This is serious bro. I hope God whom both of you failed to get involved in the beginning of this relationship would in his infinite mercy now intervene.
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by naturefellow(m): 8:50pm On Apr 29, 2020
omolasho:

Whao! This is serious bro. I hope God whom both of you failed to get involved in the beginning of this relationship would in his infinite mercy now intervene.
bro, no be small thing. My heart sank after reading this. This is Next Level deception! And to think the lady was a prophetess.

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Codes151(m): 8:51pm On Apr 29, 2020
Lordsonn:
Greetings to you all. I want to go straight to the point. I opened this account because of my marital problems.

From the day I met my wife, she was after marriage. In less than two weeks of meeting her, she started pressurizing me to meet her family members which I succumbed to.

These are what she told me at the beginning of the relationship:

1) She had HND from Kaduna Polytechnics
2) She has Diploma in Computer Science
3) She is a professional cake baker
4) She was three months pregnant
5) That she was 27 years

My discoveries after marriage:

1) She doesn’t have any HND, infact no good WAEC result
2) She cannot even connect laptop to printer and print. She don’t know much about computer at all.
3) She doesn’t know how to bake cake. I discovered that the cake I asked her to bake for me, she gave the contract to her friend.
4) She was never pregnant. She had fibroid and that made her tummy big
5) She was 33 years.

NOTE: the reasons why I believed all she told me at the beginning was because she was a prophetess in her church. She speaks in tongues and prophesy many times and most of the prophecies came to pass.

I was even surprised that in less than two weeks of our relationship, she made move for sex and we started having sex. I did not even think of pre-marital sex because I thought she was a holy woman.

The problems after marriage: several people began to beg me to forgive her and continue with the marriage. I find it difficult but she was still living in my house. I was just being forced my her family and her family members persuaded some of my family members to beg me too. I tried to love her but hatred for her was just building in my heart.

The fibroid surgery was successfully done and she got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy. I thought the coming of the child may make me to forgive her but I could not recover from her betrayal. I even hate her more.

She wrote WAEC last session and got nine credits but the memory of her betrayal is giving me a lot of psychological trauma. I love an educated woman and cannot see myself glued to an illiterate woman in the name of marriage.

Major problems that made me sent her out:

1) She refused to go to my church. She always want to go to her church and even want me to join her there which I refused.
2) She doesn’t like education at all. She hate going to school and will never carry book to read.
3) Anytime I have disagreement with her, she will call her elder brother. And they will come and talk to me, sometimes in a very condescending manner
4) She is not submissive, very arrogant and talks with anger, authoritatively.
5) She is a societal woman, she loves joining several associations of women and be going to meetings every sunday which I don't like.
6) She value clothes more than human being. She can use any money from the family purse to buy Hollandis, lase, George etc just to dress to her church for show off. I am introvert but she is extremely extrovert.

I sent her out of my house three weeks ago. She is trying to come back in the disguise that she doesn’t want her child to be only one, that it will make the child suffer in the future but I told her I cannot allow her to my house again. I love my little child and I cannot live with such a woman who is full of lies and pretense. I just have hatred for such kind of people.

What do you think I should do?

your are mean! You want to divorce her after having a child? You married her based on material things?

Do you have any of the following? (Stated above?)

May God forgive u
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by naturefellow(m): 8:52pm On Apr 29, 2020
iyke926:
You were scammed.You have to divorce her.

Someone opened a thread on Nairaland, giving reasons not to marry a lady above 30. The dude was making lots of sense in the writeup but trust Nigerians, he was bashed... insulted. When I read this thread, I just had to remember that. Personally, I can't settle with a Nigerian girl above 30 because there are reasons, why she is 30+ and unmarried.

Shine your eyes, guys. Don't be decieved by beauty.
man, life lessons full this Nairaland. Super stories on steroid

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by faithfull18(f): 8:53pm On Apr 29, 2020
GreatResearcher:
Why do u always like supporting bad thing?
Where are the bad things I supported?
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by meobizy(f): 8:55pm On Apr 29, 2020
Me and this writer are on the same level when it comes to skill. It still doesn’t make his story true. I just dey vex say I miss the contract to pen this write-up. See free 4,000/5,000 NGN wey I miss.
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by eROCK247(m): 8:56pm On Apr 29, 2020
You should have ended the marriage on the basis of insincerity. Everything about her was a lie from the onset.

But you complicated matters by paying for her surgery, impregnating her and probably sponsoring her SSCE. A child is involved now but if you've decided on divorce, do it. Don't sacrifice your happiness cos of fear or pity.

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by VISTIN(m): 8:57pm On Apr 29, 2020
She's an illiterate, but she wrote WAEC and got 9 credits.

She had fibroid but now a baby boy for you.

Baking case is not a rocket science, since she can get 9 credits from WAEC in one sitting, she can equally learn baking in a matter of time.

Bros, she's a good woman. If you can look out for the positive things in her, you both will make a wonderful marriage.

Meanwhile, remember you never said anything positive about her, doesn't she have one good aspect?

I put it to you that you needed a prophetess and you got one. Spirituality is more important than materialism.

For me, I've learned not to judge from one side. Definitely she has her own part, she can't be that bad.

If this story is not fake anyway.
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by AdemolaA2: 8:59pm On Apr 29, 2020
MedicH:
You both are immature and u Mr man u are very silly and a disgrace to manhood.


To me , He’s not silly and any disgrace to Manhood .. if only you understand what it means to live with such a woman under the same roof .. I just pictured myself in this man’s shoes.. I would obviously do the same without any doubt !!!
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Myzzyfrazzy(m): 8:59pm On Apr 29, 2020
This is not fake this exact description matched the desperate lady i met last year. she refused to tell me her age was so religious thank God i caught her dating another guy. that was how i escaped.. she was so dull..
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Godshope: 9:01pm On Apr 29, 2020
In as much as I hate Lies, Pretence and Deceit; Use Ur Wisdom and Ur Spirit. Love is not Forced on Anyone.
Though U made a mistake by not allowing Urself to know whom Ur fiancee was.
Wisdom 1st!
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by vincentjk(m): 9:04pm On Apr 29, 2020
gamapoy539:
FAKÈ story and a HÒAX! believe this at your peril.

This your comment made me laugh so much this night. As in why conclude he made up the story? Don't you think women do more than this nowadays?
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Onbami(m): 9:04pm On Apr 29, 2020
MrSly:
This is outright deceit and cheating of highest order. In fact the lady in question suppose to be handed over to EFCC for fraud charges. In my church (Catholic) this marriage never existed between th both of you because it was built on lies and deceit. That is to say that you are not even married to her in first place.

Your church dey crase...
When you dey Bleep her 2weeks into the relationship them no tell you that you have eaten the forbidden fruit and liable to accept the seeds thereof..

Ewu
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by SecretSpy666: 9:04pm On Apr 29, 2020
Thank you all. Your advises are being considered
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by SURElee(f): 9:10pm On Apr 29, 2020
As far as I'm concerned you have no excuse what soever. She told you this and that. Did you court at all? Courtship is for communication, asking relevant questions and verifications.


A lady tells you she went to school, no photos? No certificates? No NYSC photos to show for it? This is what happens when you use courtship period to chop only suya and shawarma, you end up crying I want to divorce my wife/husband. Na lie you stay there and and face your mistakes and failure to do the right things.

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Daughterboard(m): 9:12pm On Apr 29, 2020
Lordsonn:
Greetings to you all. I want to go straight to the point. I opened this account because of my marital problems.

From the day I met my wife, she was after marriage. In less than two weeks of meeting her, she started pressurizing me to meet her family members which I succumbed to.

These are what she told me at the beginning of the relationship:

1) She had HND from Kaduna Polytechnics
2) She has Diploma in Computer Science
3) She is a professional cake baker
4) She was three months pregnant
5) That she was 27 years

My discoveries after marriage:

1) She doesn’t have any HND, infact no good WAEC result
2) She cannot even connect laptop to printer and print. She don’t know much about computer at all.
3) She doesn’t know how to bake cake. I discovered that the cake I asked her to bake for me, she gave the contract to her friend.
4) She was never pregnant. She had fibroid and that made her tummy big
5) She was 33 years.

NOTE: the reasons why I believed all she told me at the beginning was because she was a prophetess in her church. She speaks in tongues and prophesy many times and most of the prophecies came to pass.

I was even surprised that in less than two weeks of our relationship, she made move for sex and we started having sex. I did not even think of pre-marital sex because I thought she was a holy woman.

The problems after marriage: several people began to beg me to forgive her and continue with the marriage. I find it difficult but she was still living in my house. I was just being forced my her family and her family members persuaded some of my family members to beg me too. I tried to love her but hatred for her was just building in my heart.

The fibroid surgery was successfully done and she got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy. I thought the coming of the child may make me to forgive her but I could not recover from her betrayal. I even hate her more.

She wrote WAEC last session and got nine credits but the memory of her betrayal is giving me a lot of psychological trauma. I love an educated woman and cannot see myself glued to an illiterate woman in the name of marriage.

Major problems that made me sent her out:

1) She refused to go to my church. She always want to go to her church and even want me to join her there which I refused.
2) She doesn’t like education at all. She hate going to school and will never carry book to read.
3) Anytime I have disagreement with her, she will call her elder brother. And they will come and talk to me, sometimes in a very condescending manner
4) She is not submissive, very arrogant and talks with anger, authoritatively.
5) She is a societal woman, she loves joining several associations of women and be going to meetings every sunday which I don't like.
6) She value clothes more than human being. She can use any money from the family purse to buy Hollandis, lase, George etc just to dress to her church for show off. I am introvert but she is extremely extrovert.

I sent her out of my house three weeks ago. She is trying to come back in the disguise that she doesn’t want her child to be only one, that it will make the child suffer in the future but I told her I cannot allow her to my house again. I love my little child and I cannot live with such a woman who is full of lies and pretense. I just have hatred for such kind of people.

What do you think I should do?


Have you informed your parents? Only the support of your family that can safeguard yoi from these predicaments. The two families can agree / mediate on the issue.
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Sundaycomputer: 9:15pm On Apr 29, 2020
gamapoy539:
FAKÈ story and a HÒAX! believe this at your peril.
don't say so
Have Data such a girl like that, but trust me I was so excited because I learned from her

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by timadek: 9:17pm On Apr 29, 2020
Your storey does not make sense. Try again.
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by machiavelli95: 9:17pm On Apr 29, 2020
Truvel:
Don't Send Her Away, U Also Av Ur Own Faults 2. Besides, U Should Av Make Investigation Well B4 Getting Married 2 Her. Don't Send Her Away, Live With Her, With Time U Would Get Used 2 Her.

Chai!!!! People like you enable wickedness with your so called piety!!!

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by timadek: 9:17pm On Apr 29, 2020
Your story does not make sense. Try again.
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Myzzyfrazzy(m): 9:18pm On Apr 29, 2020
OP take it slow and forgive her let time heal you. to reduce complicated life in the future..you don enter you don enter sort it out bro..me nor support born 4 2 gate

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