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instinct57vm:
Uncle if you have females in your circus and you typed this then I wish them same thing that happened to this lady.

Baba calm down, personally, I dont judge with emotion and that's one of my problem in dis part of the world.
I know how times I dun collect blow from some beast (husbands) trying to save situation. One thing i hv come to realise is that this is day, the type of ladies and guys we hv are totally different from what they society had back then.
Ladies want to be rubbing sholder with men. Remeber u said one thing led to anoda which prompted the husband to beat her (I hate domestic violence) but she did not tell u those things dat led to anoda thing.
U mentioned about my sisters: I see Every nigerian lady as my sister. Baba I hv handled case whereby the wife painted the husband as devil's fada but when the whole thing came everybody found out dat the wife was the devil herself. That's why once is wife matter, is very difficult matter. PLS NEVA U BE EMOTION I NALIN JUDGEMENT, GOOD MORNING SIR

instinct57vm:
Early march, by early April d wife was out already.

Na wa o. 6 months old marriage. They are newlyweds for Gods sake, why all this family wahala. The MIL should know better, except she never wanted them together in the first place.

instinct57vm:
Are you minding that idiot, look at how he typed nonsense with confidence. Person wey that NGO go still sack

I know you are angry. Don't take things here to heart just be there for your friend at these trying times.. She needs support right now

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll leave to regret the curse of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ...... Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

Another bullshit. Can your brain ever conceive anything sensible even once in a while?

Sadly some idiots are even liking the bullshit you dropped here.

Bj5all:
You told you a man that is close to his mother doesn't make a good husband? Or don't you know most men treat their wives like they treat their mum?

There is a difference between a good man and a stupid one irrespective of how close they are to their mother. Some are never close to their mum and still treat their wives sooo badly. Others are close to their mum and their wives are lucky to have them.

Don't go about giving marriage advise you know nothing about. It's obvious you are not married yet.

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Lots of donts in marriage, yet the observers of these 'donts' are still having marital challenges.
The surest advice is every marriage should have Jesus Christ as its counsellor.

instinct57vm:
I have a female friend who got married last year October precisely.

Fast forward to March this year the Mother In Law came to stay with the couple in a bid to visit her hospital within the couple’s area for medical checkup, reason being that she stays a bit farther away in the same state.

Upon her Mother in law’s arrival, she came with my friend’s husband brother accompanied by his girlfriend who all planned staying and eventually stayed without prior notice.

My friend(the lady) is a banker and was only informed casually by her husband while she was at work on the day of their arrival. His excuse was the mother called impromptu about the visit which I don’t think is bad anyway.

These couple stay in a three bedroom apartment and only one room has bed in it. This is the room the couple sleep.

The first two days of the mother inlaw, brother and brother’s girlfriend arrival, the couple had to sleep in the living room while the mother in law and the brother in law’s girlfriend slept in the couple’s room.

As days goes by, the husband who is self employed suggested the the rest of them will handle cooking in the house due to the wife’s tight schedule as per banking job in Lagos.

Part of the consequence of their visit is that they have overthrown the kitchen and like most ladies my friend wasn’t cool with this but tried to keep her cool.

The lady(my friend) became curious and asked the husband to clarify if the mother in law and co intends to stay with them permanently. The husband subsequently flared up with the allegations that his wife doesn’t want his people around. This happened to be the third time his wife asked this question in the space of two weeks.

One thing led to the other on the third time of asking this question my friends husband beat her up and chased her out of the house while the mother stood and watched without interfering.

Efforts to reconcile has proved abortive as the husband refused to let her in again and categorically said to my friend’s dad he isn’t interested in the marriage anymore. The mother in law refused to interfere.

PS: The hubby’s mother is a separated single mother.
PS: My friend and her hubby both contributed to pay the rent
PS: The hubby’s father is not in support of all the happenings and all efforts to reach his son proved abortive since the misunderstanding. He wouldn’t answer his dad’s calls.

What are your opinions about this issue? Thank you.

Even if mum is a single mother,or slay mama,no woman reach my mama,u hear? So stop typing nonsense

Sailor22:
Even if mum is a single mother,or slay mama,no woman reach my mama,u hear? So stop typing nonsense

Ode does it mean other people don’t value their mother. I pity the innocent gal wey go marry u dingbat. Get the Bleep off my mention kid!

brownemmanuel43:
Baba calm down, personally, I dont judge with emotion and that's one of my problem in dis part of the world.
I know how times I dun collect blow from some beast (husbands) trying to save situation. One thing i hv come to realise is that this is day, the type of ladies and guys we hv are totally different from what they society had back then.
Ladies want to be rubbing sholder with men. Remeber u said one thing led to anoda which prompted the husband to beat her (I hate domestic violence) but she did not tell u those things dat led to anoda thing.
U mentioned about my sisters: I see Every nigerian lady as my sister. Baba I hv handled case whereby the wife painted the husband as devil's fada but when the whole thing came everybody found out dat the wife was the devil herself. That's why once is wife matter, is very difficult matter. PLS NEVA U BE EMOTION I NALIN JUDGEMENT, GOOD MORNING SIR

I agree with most of your thoughts, but trust me I have heard both sides of the story. The hubby failed to give any indicting accusation. He simply mismanaged the situation and exposed his wife to his family bruhaha. In conclusion i saw a guy that wasn’t ready to marry in the first place

I think there is more to it...
In reconciling marital issues, you have to listen to both party before jumping into conclusion...
If the man is not mad how will he jump beat his wife up juts because she's asking a reasonable question....
There is more to it...

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The man is just trying to show his control power in front of his mother if this is the first time of laying hands on her

Let the lady relax and focus on herself. No one is worth dying for this days. If you are financially strong to take care of your self do. Let him marry his mother if he want to.

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll leave to regret the curse of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

. There are men who loves them mother like kilode. you can go ahead and sleep with him wife no problem. But touch him mama na die be your name. Asin u beat him mother. He dont mind sleeping in jail.

instinct57vm:
I have a female friend who got married last year October precisely.

Fast forward to March this year the Mother In Law came to stay with the couple in a bid to visit her hospital within the couple’s area for medical checkup, reason being that she stays a bit farther away in the same state.

Upon her Mother in law’s arrival, she came with my friend’s husband brother accompanied by his girlfriend who all planned staying and eventually stayed without prior notice.

My friend(the lady) is a banker and was only informed casually by her husband while she was at work on the day of their arrival. His excuse was the mother called impromptu about the visit which I don’t think is bad anyway.

These couple stay in a three bedroom apartment and only one room has bed in it. This is the room the couple sleep.

The first two days of the mother inlaw, brother and brother’s girlfriend arrival, the couple had to sleep in the living room while the mother in law and the brother in law’s girlfriend slept in the couple’s room.

As days goes by, the husband who is self employed suggested the the rest of them will handle cooking in the house due to the wife’s tight schedule as per banking job in Lagos.

Part of the consequence of their visit is that they have overthrown the kitchen and like most ladies my friend wasn’t cool with this but tried to keep her cool.

The lady(my friend) became curious and asked the husband to clarify if the mother in law and co intends to stay with them permanently. The husband subsequently flared up with the allegations that his wife doesn’t want his people around. This happened to be the third time his wife asked this question in the space of two weeks.

One thing led to the other on the third time of asking this question my friends husband beat her up and chased her out of the house while the mother stood and watched without interfering.

Efforts to reconcile has proved abortive as the husband refused to let her in again and categorically said to my friend’s dad he isn’t interested in the marriage anymore. The mother in law refused to interfere.

PS: The hubby’s mother is a separated single mother.
PS: My friend and her hubby both contributed to pay the rent
PS: The hubby’s father is not in support of all the happenings and all efforts to reach his son proved abortive since the misunderstanding. He wouldn’t answer his dad’s calls.

What are your opinions about this issue? Thank you.

You know at times women can be annoying,probably the the wife said more than that to the husband....But if truly the husband acted based on just the wife asking how long they plan to stay,shows that the husband is uneducated and lacks fundamental love to his wife,because issues like this doesn't warrant him to chase his wife out.

instinct57vm:
I agree I couldn’t have typed everything word for word but this is the summary and key parts and from this summary. There’s nothing the husband will say that will justify his actions of sending his wife out 12am midnight. Yes I repeat 12am! You think everyone is sane? Pray u dnt meet insane ppl. The wife didn’t beat up the mother! That’s the only offence I consider grievous

You share a story in favour of your friend while seeking suggestions and views from us, and at the same time judging your friend's husband and inlaws. That means our suggestions and views does not matter since you already concluded.

I'm sorry for your friend. All I could say.

instinct57vm:
I have a female friend who got married last year October precisely.

Fast forward to March this year the Mother In Law came to stay with the couple in a bid to visit her hospital within the couple’s area for medical checkup, reason being that she stays a bit farther away in the same state.

Upon her Mother in law’s arrival, she came with my friend’s husband brother accompanied by his girlfriend who all planned staying and eventually stayed without prior notice.

My friend(the lady) is a banker and was only informed casually by her husband while she was at work on the day of their arrival. His excuse was the mother called impromptu about the visit which I don’t think is bad anyway.

These couple stay in a three bedroom apartment and only one room has bed in it. This is the room the couple sleep.

The first two days of the mother inlaw, brother and brother’s girlfriend arrival, the couple had to sleep in the living room while the mother in law and the brother in law’s girlfriend slept in the couple’s room.

As days goes by, the husband who is self employed suggested the the rest of them will handle cooking in the house due to the wife’s tight schedule as per banking job in Lagos.

Part of the consequence of their visit is that they have overthrown the kitchen and like most ladies my friend wasn’t cool with this but tried to keep her cool.

The lady(my friend) became curious and asked the husband to clarify if the mother in law and co intends to stay with them permanently. The husband subsequently flared up with the allegations that his wife doesn’t want his people around. This happened to be the third time his wife asked this question in the space of two weeks.

One thing led to the other on the third time of asking this question my friends husband beat her up and chased her out of the house while the mother stood and watched without interfering.

Efforts to reconcile has proved abortive as the husband refused to let her in again and categorically said to my friend’s dad he isn’t interested in the marriage anymore. The mother in law refused to interfere.

PS: The hubby’s mother is a separated single mother.
PS: My friend and her hubby both contributed to pay the rent
PS: The hubby’s father is not in support of all the happenings and all efforts to reach his son proved abortive since the misunderstanding. He wouldn’t answer his dad’s calls.

What are your opinions about this issue? Thank you.

people should stop creating problems in other people's homes. Why would I be visiting my brother along with my sick mother and carry a tag along girlfriend to go and stay in another woman's home.
It is unfortunate that none of the three of them has sense.

But then, there might be an underlying issue that prompted the husband's action.

And sometimes, you people they call friends should mind your level of involvement in other people's relationships. Problems that could have been overlooked are often escalated by so called friends and their no-good advice.

The lady to move on. NEMESIS will caught up with them.

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll leave to regret the curse of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

Can you support your husband over your mum? I'm not supporting the man, but your view is baseless

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll leave to regret the curse of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

Does this story sound real to you?

The guy's family are very bad people ,means that they never liked the lady , secondly ,...to the extent ,the lady was a little bit forward,....infact that marriage was never meant to be

Wolgrace:
You share a story in favour of your friend while seeking suggestions and views from us, and at the same time judging your friend's husband and inlaws. That means our suggestions and views does not matter since you already concluded.

I'm sorry for your friend. All I could say.

The most sensible reply here

Wetin concern you ?

Dem suppose match your mouth with baton. Your write up support more of your friend, which in this case you support her attitude towards her husband and you know it may result to the end of the marriage. I guess you want your friend to loose her home or maybe you are just the stupid jealous realist i've met before ....

The husband's mum came to exhibit why she couldn't stay in her husband's house. The man himself must be dumb. He is on a long thing.

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll leave to regret the curse of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

Claptrap trash

new mum kill you there

Let any woman called my wife do anyhow with my mum, you'll know that i have nothing in common with you. Nonsense

instinct57vm:
I agree with most of your thoughts, but trust me I have heard both sides of the story. The hubby failed to give any indicting accusation. He simply mismanaged the situation and exposed his wife to his family bruhaha. In conclusion i saw a guy that wasn’t ready to marry in the first place

Why don't you tell us this story from the husband's point of view let us decide if he is/was not ready to marry in the first place

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Kobicove:
How can 3 people from the same side of the couple visit a newly married couple and plan to stay so long?

I don't care if there are ten bedrooms.
They all came to chase the lady away
3 people at the same time

A lot of women have disdain for the husband's family. But house wey we pay rent equally no one can chase me out o

instinct57vm:
I have a female friend who got married last year October precisely.

Fast forward to March this year the Mother In Law came to stay with the couple in a bid to visit her hospital within the couple’s area for medical checkup, reason being that she stays a bit farther away in the same state.

Upon her Mother in law’s arrival, she came with my friend’s husband brother accompanied by his girlfriend who all planned staying and eventually stayed without prior notice.

My friend(the lady) is a banker and was only informed casually by her husband while she was at work on the day of their arrival. His excuse was the mother called impromptu about the visit which I don’t think is bad anyway.

These couple stay in a three bedroom apartment and only one room has bed in it. This is the room the couple sleep.

The first two days of the mother inlaw, brother and brother’s girlfriend arrival, the couple had to sleep in the living room while the mother in law and the brother in law’s girlfriend slept in the couple’s room.

As days goes by, the husband who is self employed suggested the the rest of them will handle cooking in the house due to the wife’s tight schedule as per banking job in Lagos.

Part of the consequence of their visit is that they have overthrown the kitchen and like most ladies my friend wasn’t cool with this but tried to keep her cool.

The lady(my friend) became curious and asked the husband to clarify if the mother in law and co intends to stay with them permanently. The husband subsequently flared up with the allegations that his wife doesn’t want his people around. This happened to be the third time his wife asked this question in the space of two weeks.

One thing led to the other on the third time of asking this question my friends husband beat her up and chased her out of the house while the mother stood and watched without interfering.

Efforts to reconcile has proved abortive as the husband refused to let her in again and categorically said to my friend’s dad he isn’t interested in the marriage anymore. The mother in law refused to interfere.

PS: The hubby’s mother is a separated single mother.
PS: My friend and her hubby both contributed to pay the rent
PS: The hubby’s father is not in support of all the happenings and all efforts to reach his son proved abortive since the misunderstanding. He wouldn’t answer his dad’s calls.

What are your opinions about this issue? Thank you.

The man is being controlled by the mum but it's totally wrong for the Mum to share the same matrimonial bed and the brother that came with his girlfriend that's immature and foolish

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll leave to regret the curse of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

My new mum? Will you continue staying with me when I run out of money? Will you nourish and provide for me when I have nothing? Lol, new mum indeed. You want to wear shoes that are bigger than your whole body.


@ OP, stay away from such family matters. I don't see why the guy will beat his wife over that question when she's part owner of the house. This matter is bleeped abeg, I can't talk.

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll leave to regret the curse of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

Hehehehe, it's a cycle, and it will soon reach your turn too. If you're a new wife today, someday you'll be a mother of a grown man. Let's see if you allow a wife come inbetween you and your dear boy you've been nursing as apple of your eyes since he was in your womb.

Oyinbo people say, 'a man can have many wives, but you can only have one mother.'

Me and my mom maybe cat and rats sometimes even in the presence of outsiders but the day you will take that as a yardstick to disrespect her... I go wound you, this warning includes my to be wife that's if I ever Marry.
I love privacy and my home is built to that regard. I have the boys quarters to my mom while my GF lives in a seperate room than me in our 3bed room house.
Only male visitors are allowed... Should my gf mother come visiting. She won't last more than 3days tops otherwise wahala go dey (if them one carry them daughter, make them carry)

that is their own problem