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The danger of a single story.
The danger of telling one side of the story.
Obviously you're telling the story in a way that makes your friend the victim. We don't have the details here; let the affected people who have the detail sort it out.

instinct57vm:
I have a female friend who got married last year October precisely.

What are your opinions about this issue? Thank you.

u lost me with dat mothers brother, sisters uncle, wifes friends husband

OP or admin, why post this story twice...could it have been an oversight? Just wanted calling your attention to it. Tnx

instinct57vm:
I agree with most of your thoughts, but trust me I have heard both sides of the story. The hubby failed to give any indicting accusation. He simply mismanaged the situation and exposed his wife to his family bruhaha. In conclusion i saw a guy that wasn’t ready to marry in the first place

How happy is your family? I pray you are married to strict man Because you need a home that will be like a correctional center. A lots needs to be unscrew from your head and replace with what you actually deserve. You are lagging ma'am

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll leave to regret the curse of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ...... Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

@bolded text....sorry but wait oooh So I should hate my mom because I wan marry Shebi?

only if we hear from the man, it would've make sense

This food, salt, maggi and pepper no dey am.

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll leave to regret the curse of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

For ur small mind abi

tonididdy:
Me and my mom maybe cat and rats sometimes even in the presence of outsiders but the day you will take that as a yardstick to disrespect her... I go wound you, this warning includes my to be wife that's if I ever Marry.
I love privacy and my home is built to that regard. I have the boys quarters to my mom while my GF lives in a seperate room than me in our 3bed room house.
Only male visitors are allowed... Should my gf mother come visiting. She won't last more than 3days tops otherwise wahala go dey (if them one carry them daughter, make them carry)

You put your mama for BQ like a housemaid. What a son!

instinct57vm:
I have a female friend who got married last year October precisely.

Fast forward to March this year the Mother In Law came to stay with the couple in a bid to visit her hospital within the couple’s area for medical checkup, reason being that she stays a bit farther away in the same state.

Upon her Mother in law’s arrival, she came with my friend’s husband brother accompanied by his girlfriend who all planned staying and eventually stayed without prior notice.

My friend(the lady) is a banker and was only informed casually by her husband while she was at work on the day of their arrival. His excuse was the mother called impromptu about the visit which I don’t think is bad anyway.

These couple stay in a three bedroom apartment and only one room has bed in it. This is the room the couple sleep.

The first two days of the mother inlaw, brother and brother’s girlfriend arrival, the couple had to sleep in the living room while the mother in law and the brother in law’s girlfriend slept in the couple’s room.

As days goes by, the husband who is self employed suggested the the rest of them will handle cooking in the house due to the wife’s tight schedule as per banking job in Lagos.

Part of the consequence of their visit is that they have overthrown the kitchen and like most ladies my friend wasn’t cool with this but tried to keep her cool.

The lady(my friend) became curious and asked the husband to clarify if the mother in law and co intends to stay with them permanently. The husband subsequently flared up with the allegations that his wife doesn’t want his people around. This happened to be the third time his wife asked this question in the space of two weeks.

One thing led to the other on the third time of asking this question my friends husband beat her up and chased her out of the house while the mother stood and watched without interfering.

Efforts to reconcile has proved abortive as the husband refused to let her in again and categorically said to my friend’s dad he isn’t interested in the marriage anymore. The mother in law refused to interfere.

PS: The hubby’s mother is a separated single mother.
PS: My friend and her hubby both contributed to pay the rent
PS: The hubby’s father is not in support of all the happenings and all efforts to reach his son proved abortive since the misunderstanding. He wouldn’t answer his dad’s calls.

What are your opinions about this issue? Thank you.

Your female friend was never married in the first place. She was only cohabiting with a man, and when the man got tired of accommodating her, he chased her away.

Let your friend just forget about the useless man and prepare her mind that she is single and was never married at all!!


Some men are idiots that torture people's daughter in the name of marriage, I don't blame them, I still blame ladies for that

mcdokwe:
people should stop creating problems in other people's homes. Why would I be visiting my brother along with my sick mother and carry a tag along girlfriend to go and stay in another woman's home.
It is unfortunate that none of the three of them has sense.

But then, there might be an underlying issue that prompted the husband's action.

The brother inlaw is stupid
He even has the audacity to bring hiss gf
I'm sure they'll be having sex in there too

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll leave to regret the curse of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

Not bad of taking side of ones mother but der r ways of doing it tat won't hurt the wife and the mother

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll leave to regret the curse of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

New mother indeed. Lolllllll.

instinct57vm:
I have a female friend who got married last year October precisely.

Fast forward to March this year the Mother In Law came to stay with the couple in a bid to visit her hospital within the couple’s area for medical checkup, reason being that she stays a bit farther away in the same state.

Upon her Mother in law’s arrival, she came with my friend’s husband brother accompanied by his girlfriend who all planned staying and eventually stayed without prior notice.

My friend(the lady) is a banker and was only informed casually by her husband while she was at work on the day of their arrival. His excuse was the mother called impromptu about the visit which I don’t think is bad anyway.

These couple stay in a three bedroom apartment and only one room has bed in it. This is the room the couple sleep.

The first two days of the mother inlaw, brother and brother’s girlfriend arrival, the couple had to sleep in the living room while the mother in law and the brother in law’s girlfriend slept in the couple’s room.

As days goes by, the husband who is self employed suggested the the rest of them will handle cooking in the house due to the wife’s tight schedule as per banking job in Lagos.

Part of the consequence of their visit is that they have overthrown the kitchen and like most ladies my friend wasn’t cool with this but tried to keep her cool.

The lady(my friend) became curious and asked the husband to clarify if the mother in law and co intends to stay with them permanently. The husband subsequently flared up with the allegations that his wife doesn’t want his people around. This happened to be the third time his wife asked this question in the space of two weeks.

One thing led to the other on the third time of asking this question my friends husband beat her up and chased her out of the house while the mother stood and watched without interfering.

Efforts to reconcile has proved abortive as the husband refused to let her in again and categorically said to my friend’s dad he isn’t interested in the marriage anymore. The mother in law refused to interfere.

PS: The hubby’s mother is a separated single mother.
PS: My friend and her hubby both contributed to pay the rent
PS: The hubby’s father is not in support of all the happenings and all efforts to reach his son proved abortive since the misunderstanding. He wouldn’t answer his dad’s calls.

What are your opinions about this issue? Thank you.

thìs ur frnd would do worse to her daughter inlaw.

PS: Mother over wife.

wether they told d story in parts or full.... which Kain mother in law go carry brother n gf join body go visit son!!!!

a married son for that matter

vampaya family

am married and I don't tolerate excessiveness from my mom..... mom's can be over possessive, u av to let her know she's "ur wife not our wife"

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll leave to regret the curse of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

are u praying to have a son dat wil forsake u wen u grow old?

Bbbwings:
The brother inlaw is stupid
He even has the audacity to bring hiss gf
I'm sure they'll be having sex in there too

the husband is a fool, the brother of the husband is an idiot, their mother is a bad omen!!


That Lady was never married at all! She was married to herself!

Ok

instinct57vm:
I agree I couldn’t have typed everything word for word but this is the summary and key parts and from this summary. There’s nothing the husband will say that will justify his actions of sending his wife out 12am midnight. Yes I repeat 12am! You think everyone is sane? [b]Pray u dnt meet insane ppl. [/b]The wife didn’t beat up the mother! That’s the only offence I consider grievous

Why not snatch the husband so you can show him how insane you are ?

Lalasticlala,same topic on front Page been duplicated. Remove one please.

The story is not complete.. Biko tell us all so that we can judge with human mind.

You heard from the woman a painted a guiltless story. She has hiden a lot from you. Tell her to expose what really transpired or see her husband for clarity.

Bj5all:
You told you a man that is close to his mother doesn't make a good husband? Or don't you know most men treat their wives like they treat their mum?

There is a difference between a good man and a stupid one irrespective of how close they are to their mother. Some are never close to their mum and still treat their wives sooo badly. Others are close to their mum and their wives are lucky to have them.

Don't go about giving marriage advise you know nothing about. It's obvious you are not married yet.

My brother....God bless you for this awesome piece.....Oil dey ur head

Reconcile what .......she should move on with her life..let him marry his ppl

Nice

solmus:
may you witness same as a mother, may your son treat you the same way you suggest someones mother be treated... may you son's wife also keep asking for when you would leave the house of the child you spent every penny you begged for online to train say amen if you agree to your own comment

Don’t mind her she’s so dumb and shallow minded

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll leave to regret the curse of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

stop giving stupid advice! This actually shows your ignorance. So does it mean if your son is close to you, he won't have a successful marriage? You need to be schooled gal!

solmus:
may you witness same as a mother, may your son treat you the same way you suggest someones mother be treated... may you son's wife also keep asking for when you would leave the house of the child you spent every penny you begged for online to train say amen if you agree to your own comment

Don’t mind her she’s so dumb and shallow minded [b][/b]Na ppl like her Dey tie man head

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll leave to regret the curse of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

But you will want your sons to be very close to you, abi?

Women and hypocrisy