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Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by krushdripper(m): 7:02pm On May 15, 2020
A time would come when young ladies would wish they never broke the hearts of young boys that loved them when they were young girls.

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Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Beelion: 7:02pm On May 15, 2020
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

You need as a matter of urgency to surrender your life to Jesus because your life is not your own. You need Jesus!
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Raalsalghul: 7:03pm On May 15, 2020
MOnkeyBabe:
The most Painful part of it is that he doesn't want to Get married to them

What the Bleep is wrong with you people.

Is it by force to get married to someone?

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Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by TruthHurts100: 7:04pm On May 15, 2020
Monfeels:
I want to share my problem with you guys in the hopes that maybe I'll get some good advice or at least some insight into my problem.

When people first meet me their impression of me is that I'm good looking, cool and intelligent. Most girls usually assume that I have a girlfriend or a legion of side chicks that I Bleep whenever I want to.

The truth about me is that I've never been in a proper relationship with another woman before. All I've had is sexual partners that I stop talking to after I have sex with them, and girls I get intimate with just to control them and get them to fulfil my desire of having a female to own, please me and do my biding, and then I get bored of them and cease contact and move on like I never knew them.

The reason for this behavior is that I don't possess the emotional resources needed to engage in a healthy relationship with another human being. I have no empathy and I usually feel no guilt or remorse for my actions. It's impossible for me to care genuinely for another person. I don't feel people's pain or suffering and I'm not moved by the death of family members or friends. I simply do not care for any other person but myself. I've been this way for a very long time. I lack the ability to maintain relationships with people hence why I lose friends often. Relationships are usually a means to an end for me and when that end is met, I become irritated by the person I've gotten close to.

Despite the fact that I don't see the point in relationships, I still find that I get jealous of couples in healthy relationships. It's not like I want to experience what they experience, just that I am envious of the fact that they are participating in something I can't participate in.

When I find a girl that I want to get close to, I'm usually consumed with jealousy over her previous relationships, and over any current relationship she has with any member of the opposite sex, even if it's merely platonic. All I want is for her to devote all her time to me and shower me with attention and love. The problem with all this is that I don't want to reciprocate this behavior. In fact the idea of devoting attention to, and showering affection on someone else irritates me. It's all pointless, but I enjoy when it's done to me.

Another weird side to all this is that I don't just want to control the girl, I also enjoy making her feel bad, but in a way that makes her crave for me more. I enjoy poking holes in herself esteem, making her second guess the presumably good qualities she thought she possesed, making her not feel wanted by me, and making her do more to please me.

I don't love women, I only become obsessed with them. Obsessed to the point that I'm constantly tortured by thoughts of them being sexual with another guy especially when it's someone she has dated before. I want her all to myself and even if she had sex with someone before I met her or before we became close, I am filled with anger and jealousy whenever the thought crosses my mind, and I want to punish her for that. It's like I want to erase her past and replace it with me. I want to be all she's ever had. I don't want anyone else in her life and I don't want anyone else in her past.

All this must sound crazy to you guys but this is my reality and it's eating me up. I need advice.

How old are you? Do you masturbate? If yes, when did you start? Do you watch porn?

Answer the question and I will help you.
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by biggy26: 7:04pm On May 15, 2020
Monfeels:
I want to share my problem with you guys in the hopes that maybe I'll get some good advice or at least some insight into my problem.

When people first meet me their impression of me is that I'm good looking, cool and intelligent. Most girls usually assume that I have a girlfriend or a legion of side chicks that I Bleep whenever I want to.

The truth about me is that I've never been in a proper relationship with another woman before. All I've had is sexual partners that I stop talking to after I have sex with them, and girls I get intimate with just to control them and get them to fulfil my desire of having a female to own, please me and do my biding, and then I get bored of them and cease contact and move on like I never knew them.

The reason for this behavior is that I don't possess the emotional resources needed to engage in a healthy relationship with another human being. I have no empathy and I usually feel no guilt or remorse for my actions. It's impossible for me to care genuinely for another person. I don't feel people's pain or suffering and I'm not moved by the death of family members or friends. I simply do not care for any other person but myself. I've been this way for a very long time. I lack the ability to maintain relationships with people hence why I lose friends often. Relationships are usually a means to an end for me and when that end is met, I become irritated by the person I've gotten close to.

Despite the fact that I don't see the point in relationships, I still find that I get jealous of couples in healthy relationships. It's not like I want to experience what they experience, just that I am envious of the fact that they are participating in something I can't participate in.

When I find a girl that I want to get close to, I'm usually consumed with jealousy over her previous relationships, and over any current relationship she has with any member of the opposite sex, even if it's merely platonic. All I want is for her to devote all her time to me and shower me with attention and love. The problem with all this is that I don't want to reciprocate this behavior. In fact the idea of devoting attention to, and showering affection on someone else irritates me. It's all pointless, but I enjoy when it's done to me.

Another weird side to all this is that I don't just want to control the girl, I also enjoy making her feel bad, but in a way that makes her crave for me more. I enjoy poking holes in herself esteem, making her second guess the presumably good qualities she thought she possesed, making her not feel wanted by me, and making her do more to please me.

I don't love women, I only become obsessed with them. Obsessed to the point that I'm constantly tortured by thoughts of them being sexual with another guy especially when it's someone she has dated before. I want her all to myself and even if she had sex with someone before I met her or before we became close, I am filled with anger and jealousy whenever the thought crosses my mind, and I want to punish her for that. It's like I want to erase her past and replace it with me. I want to be all she's ever had. I don't want anyone else in her life and I don't want anyone else in her past.

All this must sound crazy to you guys but this is my reality and it's eating me up. I need advice.
Nothing is weird in this world, including your personality, everything originated from the fall of man. So if you are not saved, what you need is salvation and the infilling of the Holy Spirit, it changes everything.
The Bible clearly states, "for the love of God has been shared abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost. Bro, just believe and testify later.
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by olyrayy(m): 7:04pm On May 15, 2020
XhosaNostra:



Yeah. Are you one too?


Yeah. I am.

You know... the female of our species is the rarest....
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Liposure: 7:04pm On May 15, 2020
Babyforever:
I must tell you i like my man that way but he shouldn't hurt me but he should be all over me cool
goodluck 2 u dear
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by MOnkeyBabe(f): 7:05pm On May 15, 2020
pDudd:


Nothing strange about you.

You are a sociopath. You have antisocial personality disorder (ASPD).
OhSheh
XenDRA vs. nOStra
Misogynist VS SOCioPAth grin

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Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by TGON(m): 7:06pm On May 15, 2020
You only skim the surface when it comes to emotions, so noone can get close enough to inflict any sort of pain. Get them before they get you type of thing. Underneath the seemingly uncaring facade, there's actually an extremely sensitive person that's scared to death of getting hurt, so they put up all these defences to protect their mushy core. Something like a human crustacean cheesy One person will manage to break down your walls though, mark my words. But it'll only take one person. It won't be easy sailing. There'll be a lot of vacillation between enmeshment & suffocation on your part. Good luck to the poor girl smiley[/quote] u sound like u av bin dere....i had some of dose traits some years back (at some point i even tot i had no heart)...used 2 fink i'll 4eva b like dat until voila diz lady came into my life n made me realize i am actually a very soft person...she brought out a part of me i neva knew existed...right nw we're in a 2yr relationship wif marriage in sight...n i still cnt find d me of yrs ago
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by babadee1(m): 7:07pm On May 15, 2020
Monfeels:
I want to share my problem with you guys in the hopes that maybe I'll get some good advice or at least some insight into my problem.

When people first meet me their impression of me is that I'm good looking, cool and intelligent. Most girls usually assume that I have a girlfriend or a legion of side chicks that I Bleep whenever I want to.

The truth about me is that I've never been in a proper relationship with another woman before. All I've had is sexual partners that I stop talking to after I have sex with them, and girls I get intimate with just to control them and get them to fulfil my desire of having a female to own, please me and do my biding, and then I get bored of them and cease contact and move on like I never knew them.

The reason for this behavior is that I don't possess the emotional resources needed to engage in a healthy relationship with another human being. I have no empathy and I usually feel no guilt or remorse for my actions. It's impossible for me to care genuinely for another person. I don't feel people's pain or suffering and I'm not moved by the death of family members or friends. I simply do not care for any other person but myself. I've been this way for a very long time. I lack the ability to maintain relationships with people hence why I lose friends often. Relationships are usually a means to an end for me and when that end is met, I become irritated by the person I've gotten close to.

Despite the fact that I don't see the point in relationships, I still find that I get jealous of couples in healthy relationships. It's not like I want to experience what they experience, just that I am envious of the fact that they are participating in something I can't participate in.

When I find a girl that I want to get close to, I'm usually consumed with jealousy over her previous relationships, and over any current relationship she has with any member of the opposite sex, even if it's merely platonic. All I want is for her to devote all her time to me and shower me with attention and love. The problem with all this is that I don't want to reciprocate this behavior. In fact the idea of devoting attention to, and showering affection on someone else irritates me. It's all pointless, but I enjoy when it's done to me.

Another weird side to all this is that I don't just want to control the girl, I also enjoy making her feel bad, but in a way that makes her crave for me more. I enjoy poking holes in herself esteem, making her second guess the presumably good qualities she thought she possesed, making her not feel wanted by me, and making her do more to please me.

I don't love women, I only become obsessed with them. Obsessed to the point that I'm constantly tortured by thoughts of them being sexual with another guy especially when it's someone she has dated before. I want her all to myself and even if she had sex with someone before I met her or before we became close, I am filled with anger and jealousy whenever the thought crosses my mind, and I want to punish her for that. It's like I want to erase her past and replace it with me. I want to be all she's ever had. I don't want anyone else in her life and I don't want anyone else in her past.

All this must sound crazy to you guys but this is my reality and it's eating me up. I need advice.

Repent of your sins and give your life to Christ. Then none of this will be a problem for you ever again.
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Vikky014(f): 7:08pm On May 15, 2020
Monfeels:
I want to share my problem with you guys in the hopes that maybe I'll get some good advice or at least some insight into my problem.

When people first meet me their impression of me is that I'm good looking, cool and intelligent. Most girls usually assume that I have a girlfriend or a legion of side chicks that I Bleep whenever I want to.

The truth about me is that I've never been in a proper relationship with another woman before. All I've had is sexual partners that I stop talking to after I have sex with them, and girls I get intimate with just to control them and get them to fulfil my desire of having a female to own, please me and do my biding, and then I get bored of them and cease contact and move on like I never knew them.

The reason for this behavior is that I don't possess the emotional resources needed to engage in a healthy relationship with another human being. I have no empathy and I usually feel no guilt or remorse for my actions. It's impossible for me to care genuinely for another person. I don't feel people's pain or suffering and I'm not moved by the death of family members or friends. I simply do not care for any other person but myself. I've been this way for a very long time. I lack the ability to maintain relationships with people hence why I lose friends often. Relationships are usually a means to an end for me and when that end is met, I become irritated by the person I've gotten close to.

Despite the fact that I don't see the point in relationships, I still find that I get jealous of couples in healthy relationships. It's not like I want to experience what they experience, just that I am envious of the fact that they are participating in something I can't participate in.

When I find a girl that I want to get close to, I'm usually consumed with jealousy over her previous relationships, and over any current relationship she has with any member of the opposite sex, even if it's merely platonic. All I want is for her to devote all her time to me and shower me with attention and love. The problem with all this is that I don't want to reciprocate this behavior. In fact the idea of devoting attention to, and showering affection on someone else irritates me. It's all pointless, but I enjoy when it's done to me.

Another weird side to all this is that I don't just want to control the girl, I also enjoy making her feel bad, but in a way that makes her crave for me more. I enjoy poking holes in herself esteem, making her second guess the presumably good qualities she thought she possesed, making her not feel wanted by me, and making her do more to please me.

I don't love women, I only become obsessed with them. Obsessed to the point that I'm constantly tortured by thoughts of them being sexual with another guy especially when it's someone she has dated before. I want her all to myself and even if she had sex with someone before I met her or before we became close, I am filled with anger and jealousy whenever the thought crosses my mind, and I want to punish her for that. It's like I want to erase her past and replace it with me. I want to be all she's ever had. I don't want anyone else in her life and I don't want anyone else in her past.

All this must sound crazy to you guys but this is my reality and it's eating me up. I need advice.
..You are a bully simple.
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by IbrahimSkiba(f): 7:09pm On May 15, 2020
Monfeels:


Second quote from you.

You seem obsessed with me already.

You know if you met me in person you'd think I was the nicest, sweetest guy you've ever met. Plus I'm good looking and very intelligent with a nice accent and great vocabulary. I'd sweep out off your feet girl
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Divay22(f): 7:10pm On May 15, 2020
Kekereekun123:
Any story with new moniker is fake
I think so too. Just to draw attention.
Lately we've been seeing controversial issues and they are always from new monikers and painfully their stories get to front page.
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by mechanics(m): 7:11pm On May 15, 2020
Abstain, you must not have sex with them.
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by YhubieIsidore(m): 7:12pm On May 15, 2020
Just to add... I also share his cold heart with regards to the death of a loved. I'm of the impression that everybody dies at some point. And when it eventually happens, I just smile and say"shit happens". I don't really intend to brag about my sociopathy. I just want to be reassured that its okay to be me
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by MOnkeyBabe(f): 7:14pm On May 15, 2020
tardell007:
sorry to say but op your a psychopath,inability to feel empathy,remorse for a wrong deed,and very manipulative. science research lately have tried to look into brains of psychopathic children in an attempt to help modify brain functions and prevent them from being future criminals. it all boils down to a brain defect which makes it difficult to feel empathy, remorse and analyse the consequences of your actions. All serial killers from ted Bundy to Jeffrey dahmer share one thing in common they are all psychopaths.( The dangerous few) . Early brain intervention can help. peace.
I was almost becoming this till JeSus cry saved me. Gave all my Pain & huRt to him and he wiped my teaRs Away
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by bigcee(m): 7:15pm On May 15, 2020
Naughtysite:
Poverty stress Disorder.

When lack of money, motivation, opportunities makes people hate others, coupled with low self esteem.

Happy people don't display these negative traits
Correct, lol grin
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by IbrahimSkiba(f): 7:16pm On May 15, 2020
Monfeels:


Second quote from you.

You seem obsessed with me already.

You know if you met me in person you'd think I was the nicest, sweetest guy you've ever met. Plus I'm good looking and very intelligent with a nice accent and great vocabulary. I'd sweep out off your feet girl
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Jobiski(m): 7:16pm On May 15, 2020
It depend on how u view women,your relationship with them should have a reasonable purpose.
Read books that focuse on building relationship.
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by IbrahimSkiba(f): 7:18pm On May 15, 2020
Monfeels:


Second quote from you.

You seem obsessed with me already.

You know if you met me in person you'd think I was the nicest, sweetest guy you've ever met. Plus I'm good looking and very intelligent with a nice accent and great vocabulary. I'd sweep out off your feet girl
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by horlermidey12(m): 7:18pm On May 15, 2020
The kind of problem u av its more powerful than world war cuz the aspect u ar covering or ur attitude its bad
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Nobody: 7:21pm On May 15, 2020
Eniolakiite:
To where ?

anywhere,to toast u ....
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by horlermidey12(m): 7:23pm On May 15, 2020
The fact is that,seat down and ask urself dz questions that"when its time for me to gt companion,can we cope together as a couple,answer the question by urself and always pray fervently,its a must u stop all ds so as to build up a generation and enjoy the aspect of life.gud day
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by TuFab(f): 7:23pm On May 15, 2020
By acknowledging that something is wrong, you've solved half of the problem. I respect that in you sir.
You have chronic Narcissistic Personality Disorder, NPD.
Kindly visit a psychologist to correct d other half.
I used to have a bf with these traits but his case was worse because he thought he was perfect and every other person was abnormal.
All d best to you.

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Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by bammo: 7:24pm On May 15, 2020
BusterG:


I’m an experienced psychologist bro.

First rule of analyzing mental disorder is to be honest with reality.

I just told him the truth.
If you were a real psychologist, you'd give him a helpful advice, not telling him to accept his fate and just die
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by soonest(f): 7:26pm On May 15, 2020
You are simply a psychopathic narcissist, see a psychologist asap
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Goalnaldo(m): 7:27pm On May 15, 2020
lordthree:
OP you are a Sociopath, that's not an insult it just what you are.

You must've experienced something in your childhood that made you the way you are.

Profile of the Sociopath

1. Glibness and Superficial Charm

Manipulative and Conning
They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They may dominate and humiliate their victims.

2. Grandiose Sense of Self
Feels entitled to certain things as "their right."

3. Pathological Lying
Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and abilities. Extremely convincing and even able to pass lie detector tests.

4. Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt
A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way.

5. Shallow Emotions
When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises.

6. Incapacity for Love

Need for Stimulation
Living on the edge. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments are normal. Promiscuity and gambling are common.

7. Callousness/Lack of Empathy
Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others' feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them.

8. Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature
Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others.

9. Early Behavior Problems/Juvenile Delinquency
Usually has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties, yet "gets by" by conning others. Problems in making and keeping friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals, stealing, etc.

10. Irresponsibility/Unreliability
Not concerned about wrecking others' lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed.

11. Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity
Promiscuity, child sexual abuse, rape and sexual acting out of all sorts.

12. Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle
Tends to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises for the future, poor work ethic but exploits others effectively.

13. Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility
Changes their image as needed to avoid prosecution. Changes life story readily.

CC: Monefeels
Richardonald

You can go ahead and take this Sociopath test below.

https://psychcentral.com/quizzes/psychopathy-quiz/
I took the test grin grin see my results

Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Monfeels: 7:27pm On May 15, 2020
IbrahimSkiba:





Yes, thats because I'm attracted to weird piece of shît like u



I guess you are capable of murder, with all those rubbish you spewed.


You lack empathy. Sick fuçk

You are attracted to people like me? Hmm interesting.

Would you meet me in person if you had the chance?
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Angelfrost(m): 7:27pm On May 15, 2020
Ishilove:

All I read is just one selfish modafucker badly in need of repentance

Lol... It might be a bit hasty to draw such conclusions.

Dude probably needs a chat with a counselor.
Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Monfeels: 7:30pm On May 15, 2020
IbrahimSkiba:





Stop fantasizing, you sick prick

Is that you on your profile?

Your face looks appealing

Torturing you would give me so much satisfaction.

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