my guy a woman that can be disrespectful in front of my mom is not strong enough to carry my kids.

You are very weak

First class Simp First class Simp

I have seen a similar story and I know how it will end

Zeeknow3245:
I have seen a similar story and I know how it will end

How did it end?

MY son! You haven't found a wife!

Bro i need answers. Have you ever been upset with this girl before?

Bro another thing. I think she misunderstood your mom. ask her if she understood what your mom said,

funkmrflexx:
We Have Been Dating For 1 Year and 6 months now. I’ve met her parents , we wanted to get married last year but her dad told me to wait till she finishes school which is supposed to be next year. I’m 25 years old , she’s 22 . I live alone in the city while my mom lives in the village . My younger sister who I’m sponsoring through school sometimes comes to my place during holidays and weekends . My girlfriend practically lives with me because she comes from a type of an Abusive family. So she lives with me . And I even assist her with school fees and house rents sometimes .I’ve spent even more than her father for her school. Everyone In my family knows her and she’s a very wonderful girl. Typical wife material . She supports me every time even when I’m broke. I’m not the type of guy that dates a lot of girls . I don’t even cheat on her . Since I met her I’ve done away with a lot of ladies. I’m 100% committed to the relationship

But the problem is that she Has very bad anger issues . I mean she can destroy your property when she’s angry and I’m the quiet type . I don’t like hitting a lady expect once in a while a general brain resetting slap. When she starts she doesn’t listen to anyone . Not me , not even her parents. So anytime she’s angry like this I will just find a way to make her laugh. Both of you can just be eating and she will get angry if you ate the fleshy part of the meat and left oily part for her(we have quarreled because of that I mean serious quarrel ) . Sometimes I get tired of the whole situation. At the end even when she’s wrong I’ll let her for peace to reign . So I try to manage the anger at home so it shouldn’t go out

So we went to visit my mom in the yesterday. Because of curfew we slept over . So my mom bought us mangos this morning and told us to carry .
My girlfriend then said she doesn’t like mango that if I want to eat my mango I should carry it myself . Then my mom(she the type that always shouts at every body . The real wahala woman) told her that if she can’t carry the mango then she should just put it on my head for me to carry na(If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) .
That was the only thing my mom said . Then she sparked . Started shouting my mom . That she should stop talking to her like that that she doesn’t like it. In fact she’s going home . So she carried her bag and started going home . Every one in the compound started saying it’s ok (Na dat thing why dem tell u Dey make u Dey vex so) she was still shouting. I was even try to calm her down but no way . She was still shouting. Even my sister who had never seen her angry before became angry(na so you b? She said). I was really disappointed In her

The issue is what even made me angry is how she reacted. If she didn’t like what my mom said made her angry . At least she should have waited till we got home(this was the first time we were both sleeping over) then she would tell me . Or she could have called my sister and told her what my mom said . After all the fracas . She went inside the room till we left . I just told everybody to just leave her.

So when we got home I told her what she did was wrong that she shouldn’t have reacted like that. Na there war start. She started yelling and shouting at me that if my mom talks to everyone like that she won’t take it (my plan was to tell her that she should apologize to her. Because my mom already apologized that she won’t talk to her again like that. Which I know she will o . So we can just forget about the issue . But she never accepts she’s wrong ) She said I took her to my village to intimidate her in front of my family people, I was really angry and called her uncle and told him what happened. He said there was nothing wrong with what my mom told her (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) . And that he would talk to her .

I even scolded my mom before I left that I didn’t like what she said what she did that’s she was just causing issue . My girlfriend said when my mom said the word (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) that I should have immediately rebuked my mom . But me sef no see anything wrong with what my mom said( If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)


I just Dey follow her uncle advise and leave her be until she calms down and I talk to her

So my people what’s offensive in this word? If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)

But this her attitude don tire me. Break up is not on the card for me at least not yet. She always thinks that they are other guys out there because she has a lot of toasters but I know they can’t do quarter of what I’m doing for her . In this modern time it’s difficult to see a guy who will allows his girlfriend stay with him thereby losing his freedom to do certain things. A guy who doesn’t cheat , a guy who takes care of her . Does everything for her .

I just think the things she went through in her family is affecting her physiological. And sometimes when I think about leaving her I feel pity because she can’t go back to her parents house .

Your mum that did nothing, you scolded her,your girlfriend that did everything, you left her,my friend nah kpekus wey she dey give you dey confuse you.
Run for your life now....that girl is not cultured

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD !!!

If I handle you, i would beat STUPIDITY out of your body. You rebuked your mother because of a disrespectful leech !!!

You are the worst SIMP on Earth.

How can you be this DULL !!!

May my enemies not give birth to a son as weak as you !!!

Cc Ubunja Martinez

Until she use 2 by 2 on dat ur Gorimapa head... i no go talk again o.

Oga sir, if u cant live with this woman as she is now, separate now before it is too late

Never expect she will change after marriage. SHE WILL BE TEN TIMES WORSE. yes u read right, TEN TIMES WORSE

If you are happy with your wife shouting at u in public, continue with the relationship.

If you are happy with your wife insulting and abusing your mum at the slightest excuse, continue with the relationship.

If you are happy to have hot water thrown at u, continue with the relationship.

If not, separate now.

This girl will not change. No prayers or miracle will make her change. She is traumatised. Her abusive family background has damaged her psychologically. To change, she will need trauma focused psychotherapy.

A word is enough for the wise.

Do not bring ant infested wood into your house, unless u are willing to have lizards come for a feast. Continue with her if u can tolerate her at 10 times worse. If not, seperate now

This idiot has been thoroughly and deservedly condemned by everyone who has commented so far.
There's nothing else left for elders like us to say.
Kudos to all who commented, and rightly performed the work of the elders.
Good night, idiot! I pray your brain resets on waking up tomorrow morning.

Never ever marry her! Never ever marry out of pity! Never!!! The issue she's is temperament. It's very dangerous. I've had similar experience, you guys would be having fun, next thing trouble don start. That thing would affect your blessings not now but when the two of you become one. Dump her a$$. Believe me, when you marry her, she'd start beating you up! It's better to separate now before it's too late!!!

GreatChizzy:

May God not give us Sons that would scold their mothers because of girl friends.

Amen and amen. His mum should have flushed him down the toilet has mensuration.

See bother boda wey mumu ☺️��don’t worry she will soon break your Tv or plate on your head you are weak!!! and a big disgrace to manhood asslicker woman wrapper

I don't date nor befriends mentally derailed girlfriends. You disrespect my mum.
Gonner is your name.
@op if you still keep this your girlfriend, you will later commit suicide.

I don't date nor befriends mentally derailed girlfriends. You disrespect my mum.
Gonner is your name.
@op if you still keep this your girlfriend, you will later commit kill ur self.

GreatChizzy:
Like seriously you "scolded" your MOTHER?
You scolded your mother for a "girl friend" whom you had already knew had anger management issues? I hope your mother has other sons besides you; because you are a shame and a reproach to that woman you call your mother.

May God not give us Sons that would scold their mothers because of girl friends.

If your mother steps out of the line, you should caution her. Because she's your mother doesn't put her above mistakes.

Any lady that tries dat wit my mama is a gonna.

I luv my mum,u can't b rude to my mama.

I haven't walked u down d aisle nd u already insulting my mama nd my family,wat will happn wen i eventually marry u? dat means u wouldn't wanna see my family or want dem visiting.

Op marry her nd i promise u dat she will b a stumbling block between u nd ur mama nd family.

Her type wouldn't want ur family members to kum visitin.

Why will u b sponsoring a lady u not yet married to skul?. It usually ends in disaster.

Op you mumu die, Just because of ordinary gf.. Since you no get sense, you go get after you marry the devil

Sixfeetbelle:


If your mother steps out of the line, you should caution her. Because she's your mother doesn't put her above mistakes.

Did you even read the story before quoting me?

I cannot "caution" my mother over a "girlfriend" and there is no such a thing as my mother "stepping out of the line" in dealing with my girlfriend. I am African!!! And raised well by both Parents, terms as "caution" cannot be used by me when addressing my Parents.
May God never give me a Child that would "caution" his mother because of a "girl friend".

GreatChizzy:


Did you even read the story before quoting me?

I quoted you based on what you said. The story was too long so I didn't bother

Bro but wait no vex ...When they gave birth to you, your mum gathered people and they did naming on your head... Wetin this guy dey talk self...
-Your story no add up, you put a woman home that you are yet to marry her parents are aware(because her family is dysfunctional) they said nothing
-As a big boy you took responsibility for her education(and your sis too as well)you feed,clothes and I believe you also send money to her parents
-You took her home to spend the night with your mother and she shouted at your mum for reasons best known to her in your present,you didn't do nada instead you scolded the person who gave you life because of ordinary bleep you dey collect(ordinary girlfriend) and Instead you call her people to complain and you are waiting for her to apologize
-which one come be I never cheat on her before, I intend to keep the relationship and you say you be 25yrs,honetly you never mature
Wetin you write make sense? Abeg Just sit down at the corner of your house and think about what happen if you normal at all or you deserve that woman you called your mother
If you be my brother I swear I go give you chase even for your dreams I go dey pursue you beat stupidity out of your body Haba!!!!!

Sixfeetbelle:


If your mother steps out of the line, you should caution her. Because she's your mother doesn't put her above mistakes.

what are u saying? somebody charged back at her in-law to be is that moral ? He later went to scold his mother for a leech and parasite girl friend who has nothing to offer than usual pussy chai!! Even if his mother did wrong thing he can only correct her politely in a private place not not in d public. I know OP is afraid of losing her because of beauty mtchwww. She has studied his weakness as being afraid to lose her to another man because of beauty and the money he has spent so far and thereby using it to black mail him emotionally. See OP , never marry a woman out of pity or because of beauty, marriage is far complex than that. well cultured,beautiful and morally upright pussy plenty I swear . If she wants to go let her go ,let her realize that you will b fine without her ,the more you start acting as a man the earlier the better.

Chai!!!!
See person son ooo..
Your girlfriend disrespected you mother, you still come scold your mother join.
It seems for you to get this mind, you must likely be the breadwinner of that family.

How much do you even give your mom to warrant that humiliation you gave that woman.

Even if girl carry Toto swear for you, e no suppose bad like this. You are simply a bad son.

You better forget all the money you have spent on that girl and break up with her ASAP. Then go and apologize to your mother.

If you continue with that girl, it will only end in tears.

Lanre6:

what are u saying? somebody charged back at her in-law to be is that moral ? He later went to scold his mother for a leech and parasite girl friend who has nothing to offer than usual pussy chai!! Even if his mother did wrong thing he can only correct her politely in a private place not not in d public. I know OP is afraid of losing her because of beauty mtchwww. She has studied his weakness as being afraid to lose her to another man because of beauty and the money he has spent so far and thereby using it to black mail him emotionally. See OP , never marry a woman out of pity or because of beauty, marriage is far complex than that. well cultured,beautiful and morally upright pussy plenty I swear . If she wants to go let her go ,let her realize that you will b fine without her ,the more you start acting as a man the earlier the better.

Whether publicly or privately, if your mother errs, you chastise her. Simple.

My advice is "flee and never look back" you are watering the wrong plant. I'm talking from experience, I watered a wrong plant for 8 years thinking she was going to change but she got worse. Guys/ladies from toxic or dysfunctional home create unhealthy and chaotic atmosphere for those around them.
I started adding weight after I quit that relationship, contracts started rolling in. I feel embarrassed anytime I remember that I was once in love with a toxic person. If you check wella, girls like that are good in bed, they hate corrections, the mood swing has a dedicated button in their armpit, they're manipulative and they make inflammatory comments about their own family members they feel they're not benefiting from.

Ladies like that are the reason some of us drop money in the offering box when we go to church; so that our paths will never cross in life.
Don't look at what you have spent so far, I think I did more than what you have done, but it's negligible when compared to your potential peace of mind. Any girlfriend that doesn't respect you in public is an impending calamity. To cap it all, guys study the love language and temperament of your partner to avoid stories like this one. Peace unto us all.

For no single lady to comment here tells you the kind of ladies we have nowadays.

Not just an in-law, any lady that reacted this way to any woman old enough to be her mother is not only rude and arrogant but lacked basic morale values needed for a prospective wife and mother.

This is the only thread I have seen on Nairaland that everyone is aligned that:

1. She is rude and arrogant
2. She is a potential disaster for you in near future
3. She is not mariageable
4. You should marry her at your own peril
5. Your action of scolding your mum instead of this girl was wrong

GreatChizzy:


Did you even read the story before quoting me?

I cannot "caution" my mother over a "girlfriend" and there is no such a thing as my mother "stepping out of the line" in dealing with my girlfriend. I am African!!! And raised well by both Parents, terms as "caution" cannot be used by me when addressing my Parents.
May God never give me a Child that would "caution" his mother because of a "girl friend".

Stop putting your parents on a pedestal. That's all I have to reply you.

Whatever you see in a relationship is exactly what you see in marriage without changes. My mum always says "there should be nothing like pity when it comes to marriage "

If you can tolerate such nasty attitude, please do. I hope she doesn't slap your mother or you in the public one day.