Good Nairaland I don't normally do this, bringing my family issue here but this issue is pissing me off.

Here is the story. I got married last year, and I thought I have known her enough that was why I married her. But to my surprise I started discovering that she is too stiff. She is too hard. When she says she is not doing something, that is it, she won't do it.

Sometimes if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give.

She gives me time for sex. Presently am down with fever and the only thing she has ever asked me is how is your body. No what will you take or something. Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.

You dated her enough to know her response to matters or were you two just fvckin?
Na now you wan bend person wey stiff?

You're thinking of quitting the marriage without working at it so your child will suffer?You've got to man up.
People may hardly change when they are grown.You need to talk to your wife from time to time and make her see reasons to compromise sometimes.
The best way to encourage someone to give is by showing examples of giving too.Make sure you do this to your wife often - time,attention,help with house chores and money.

Elders you're needed here o.



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Treat her the way she treats you! Don't be crossing express for someone that can't cross a gutter for you.

You know the risk of crossing express these days. Be careful.

Marriage and sacrifices is rather inseparable...

Most marital issues wouldn't be noticed when there is enough financial resources to go round...

An obvious case of "ego-play" due to inexperience common among newly weds.

ManOfSteel doesn't encourage marital acrimony

thorpido:
You dated her enough to know her response to matters or were you two just fvckin?
Na now you want bend person we stiff?

Though on and off we dated for one year, but I never knew she is like this

Her attitude is because you're obviously broke.

Go out and hustle.
Stop asking your pregnant wife for money.

Be her provider and she'll become FLEXIBLE.

You cannot tell me that you didn’t notice this rigid behaviour during courtship.

Better discuss with her to find a solution.

Also, hustle to get enough money. You’re a man. Even their so called Feminism will not make a naija woman spend her own money on a man. Better take care of yourself.

As for the sex, you must let her know in clear terms that she cannot use sex (Withholding it vindictively) as a weapon to punish you. Any woman who does that deserves to be cheated on.

thorpido:
You dated her enough to know her response to matters or were you two just fvckin?
Na now you want bend person we stiff?

You're thinking of quitting the marriage without working at it so your child will suffer?You've got to man up.
People may hardly change when they are grown.You need to talk to your wife from time to time and make her see reasons to compromise sometimes.
The best way to encourage someone to give is by showing examples of giving too.Make sure you do this to your wife often - time,attention,help with house chores and money.

This is not the issue of Manning up, you don't know what I am experiencing. she gives me time table for sex. is not like I am demanding. the last time I slept with is over three weeks ago. I have talked with her. Her younger sister have talked with her, she is to adamant.

With the Advent of technology, internet and exposure, it has been become quite unfortunate that ladies these days have become less submissive in their role as wives and help mates.

Ideally, women should be submissive, humble and all that but realistically this is far from the truth. What is most troubling is that at the onset of the relationship, they wear the cloak of a wolf in sheep clothing. As the relationship enters the business ends of things such as a full fledged marriage, there are certain characters carefully hided will begin to manifest.

When a lady starts her motherly obligation of child bearing, other unknown characters are pushed to the forefront. In all fairness, the change women have to make as a lady to woman to a mother is terrific. There pressures unimaginable, that only mothers can relate to. Failed expectations on the part of the man. Financial pressures, the rigors of child bearing and raising them up can be a game changer in the emotional make up of women. Worth mentioning at this point, is the changes ladies undergo while pregnant. Her preferences and urges changes. Things she likes becomes things she hates and vice versa.


Sometimes, these changes take such a Hugh toll in the life of a woman that she can go into depression. It can get better or worse.


Communication should therefore be the pillar of every relationship. Communicate, communicate and communicate. Marriage is a university, you can never master. You keep learning

Ningen:
Her attitude is because you're obviously broke.

This is one of it

AfroKnight:
You cannot tell me that you didn’t notice this rigid behaviour during courtship.

Better discuss with her to find a solution.

Also, hustle to get enough money. Naija women respect money more than their husbands.

Guy I don't ask her for money. But there are I got broke, and I want to go do something that will bring money, just maybe transport fare to that place and may money to do something that will bring bigger money, she will bluntly refuse

Ningen:
Her attitude is because you're obviously broke.

Nigga I don't know you. Are you married

delkuf:
Guy I don't ask her for money. But there are I got broke, and I want to go do something that will bring money, just maybe transport fare to that place and may money to do something that will bring bigger money, she will bluntly refuse

Your English is horrible. You finish secondary school?

No offense bro but you type like a village man.

Davash222:
Treat her the way she treats you! Don't be crossing express for someone that can't cross a gutter for you.

Thank bro. this is what I am thinking of doing

Graysons:
Your English is horrible. You finish secondary school?

No offense bro but you type like a village man.

Professor, that's not why he's here.
Communication is said to be complete when the receiver decodes the information passed to him by the sender.

Graysons:
Your English is horrible. You finish secondary school?

No offense bro but you type like a village man.

No offense bro, but you nor go school reach me

delkuf:
Guy I don't ask her for money. But there are I got broke, and I want to go do something that will bring money, just maybe transport fare to that place and may money to do something that will bring bigger money, she will bluntly refuse

I have edited my previous comment.

I will tell you one truth. It is better to borrow/collect from your friend (your guy) than from your wife even if it’s for small expenses.

Also, don’t accept that nonsense timetable for sex. Women can be illogical all day but when it comes to enjoyment of sex they’d rather get “rational” and set up impractical timetables. They will deny themselves the pleasure in the bid to deny you. Don’t accept that nonsense.

Sex should not be used as a weapon for manipulation.

Davash222:

Professor, that's not why he's here.
Communication is said to be complete when the receiver decodes the information passed to him by the sender.

Tell that to GrammarNazi1

Is that how people quit marriages? Something tells me you're the one with a problem in the marriage

delkuf:
No offense bro, but you nor go school reach me

Then go and correct yourself. Educated man.

delkuf:
Good nairaland I don't normally do this... Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.

There must have been red flags which you chose to ignore except you're telling us she's a professional pretender

People often make the mistake of assuming they can change an adult when they get married despite seeing all the signs during courtship

AfroKnight:

I have edited my previous comment.

I will tell you one truth. It is better to borrow/collect from your friend (your guy) than from your wife even if it’s for small expenses.

Also, don’t accept that nonsense timetable for sex. Women can be illogical all day but when it comes to enjoyment of sex they’d rather get “rational” and set up impractical timetables. They will deny themselves the pleasure in the bid to deny you. Don’t accept that nonsense.

Sex should not be used as a weapon for manipulation.

Thanks any way. The only thing I will do is what davash said.

Graysons:
Then go and correct yourself. Educated man.

guy, I don't have issue with you. Stop putting your stupidity online

sweettease:
Is that how people quit marriages? Something tells me you're the one with a problem in the marriage

That gut that is telling you is wrong. I love her. Any time God bless my hustle, I give her the best. but when you need little things from her, she won't do it.

delkuf:
Good nairaland I don't normally do this, bringing my family issue here but this issue is pissing me off. Here is the story. I got married last year, and I thought I have known her enough that was why I married her. But to my surprise I started discovering that she is too stiff. she is too hard. When she says she is not doing something, that is it, she won't do it. Something if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give. She gives me time for sex. Presently am down with fever and the only thing she have ever ask me is how is your body. No what will you take or something. Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.

Na wa ooo two of una no date? or you just go village go marry her?

Kobicove:


There must have been red flags which you chose to ignore except you're telling us she's a professional pretender

People often make the mistake of assuming they can change an adult when they get married despite seeing all the signs during courtship

That's what she is a professional pretender

SaintBishop:
Na wa ooo two of una no date? or you just go village go marry her?

On and off we dated for one year

delkuf:
On and off we dated for one year

It is well. I'm not married so I don't know what advice to give.

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""Something if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give""
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Sir Kuku tell us the real truth that she didn't borrow you money You requested for Please tell us the full story not half story