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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Decryptor(m): 3:26pm On May 21, 2020
They will endure it at home silently but come on social media to like Rant Hq and Nairaland to vent.

Anyway, to answer your question, women love men who hurt them and hurt men who love them.

If you check well now, na her type go dey pamper the man and will spend her last card to celebrate his birthday. Women are the most confused creatures on earth.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by iamdynamite(m): 3:26pm On May 21, 2020
Rickyzagy:
In as much as the man is wrong for beating his wife in front of the kids. The woman still stand on what she vowed for at the alter.

BTW will you marry her if she divorce the husband?
until the man kills her abi!!!!!!alter kor alternator ni

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Dyt(f): 3:26pm On May 21, 2020
WiLdFLame:


This is a western ducked mentality

Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by bukatyne(f): 3:27pm On May 21, 2020
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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by urboyAce(m): 3:28pm On May 21, 2020
Kaien:
This my next door neighbor, her husband is always beating her even in front of their kids. It has become a norm for her to receive beating two to three times weekly, he beats her and sometimes locks her outside with her two kids.

Most of the beating always happens when she asks him money for food, this her husband is rich always driving around with small girls in his car. When I ask her to leave, she would say no that she doesn't want her marriage to break up. I wonder what she is protecting. The type of abuses I am seeing, domestic violence is a norm, cheating is a norm.

Nigeria marriages are scary.
I am moving to a new apartment, just if my neighbor's husband ends up killing her, I don't want to be interrogated for murder.

Like... I'm speechless
The reason they endure the shit is because of tradition and religion!! Nothing more
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by stagger: 3:28pm On May 21, 2020
Kaien:
This my next door neighbor, her husband is always beating her even in front of their kids. It has become a norm for her to receive beating two to three times weekly, he beats her and sometimes locks her outside with her two kids.

Most of the beating always happens when she asks him money for food, this her husband is rich always driving around with small girls in his car. When I ask her to leave, she would say no that she doesn't want her marriage to break up. I wonder what she is protecting. The type of abuses I am seeing, domestic violence is a norm, cheating is a norm.

Nigeria marriages are scary.
I am moving to a new apartment, just if my neighbor's husband ends up killing her, I don't want to be interrogated for murder.

This sort of silly generalization is what I hate. How many marriages in Nigeria have you seen to make the conclusion that "Nigerian" marriages are scary? Do you not hear of people murdering their spouses in the US and other places for insurance money?

Stop this constant blackmail of anything and everything Nigeria. I hate it!

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Exc2000: 3:28pm On May 21, 2020
undecided

when they lack skills to give them income they remain there.... grin this is currently happening to my ex, in her mind she must marry early, and since I wasn't ready she moved on to a guy who had more money, sells car and was a yahoo big boy.. just 5years in and she chats me up daily complaining of one thing or the other, he cheats, he is diabolic, smokes sk, drinks, beats her.. but spends on her non stop, at this point even if she tries to leave her family , church , pastor and financial her position wouldn't let her, at 30 she has BP problem but still slays hot hot

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Dyt(f): 3:29pm On May 21, 2020
bukatyne:


Basically before the hook up culture angry embarassed cry

Maybe that was even the best

By now I would have probably had 5 kids cry cry
Stay home
Stay happy

Come to think of it, I haven't really read/heard of abuse during those times..

Did it not happen?
Then how do these generation of men/women get to that stage?
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by bukatyne(f): 3:30pm On May 21, 2020
mrblessed:
Since the discuss is on women and their pigheaded resolve to remain in an abuse marriage, I didn't see where your point contradicts mine. If anything, it corroborates my views on the high expectations demanded from women. Yes, marriage seems to confer some semblance of "respect" to men, but it is women that are routinely stigmatised or taunted for failing to meet these expectations.

Women make up about 50% of the society.

It is impossible to stigmatize 50% of the society if they vehemently refuse something.
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by enemyofprogress: 3:30pm On May 21, 2020
Op what did you did when you sawed the woman bean beated by her husband? Instead of you to help her and stand up for her, you came here tolding us rubbish. As far as i am concerned you are a carword jo.


Vickyrotex that woman beater go fit you and ajepako
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by HIV1: 3:30pm On May 21, 2020
Yeah it is right for them to be beaten! It is Karma catching up with them. It is hard to find a Nigerian Lady below 25 years that has not collected not less than N1m from different guys. Every small opportunity , they sent account numbers yet they wont marry those ones . Eventually, when they finally decided to settle down, God in His infinite mercy answer the plea of those ex- es hence appoint them husband to punish them. grin
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by joepepsy(m): 3:32pm On May 21, 2020
Most women men beat up in their marriages are the ones who got married cos of money, if you marry your friend, he won't raise a finger on you.
Kaien:
This my next door neighbor, her husband is always beating her even in front of their kids. It has become a norm for her to receive beating two to three times weekly, he beats her and sometimes locks her outside with her two kids.

Most of the beating always happens when she asks him money for food, this her husband is rich always driving around with small girls in his car. When I ask her to leave, she would say no that she doesn't want her marriage to break up. I wonder what she is protecting. The type of abuses I am seeing, domestic violence is a norm, cheating is a norm.

Nigeria marriages are scary.
I am moving to a new apartment, just if my neighbor's husband ends up killing her, I don't want to be interrogated for murder.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Nobody: 3:32pm On May 21, 2020
HUSBAND SCARCITY undecided undecided undecided

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by VickyRotex(f): 3:33pm On May 21, 2020
enemyofprogress:
[s]Op what did you did when you sawed the woman bean beated by her husband? Instead of you to help her and stand up for her, you came here tolding us rubbish. As far as i am concerned you are a carword jo.


Vickyrotex that woman beater go fit you and ajepako[/s]


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WB7sqiZD0bg
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by bukatyne(f): 3:33pm On May 21, 2020
Dyt:


Maybe that was even the best

By now I would have probably had 5 kids cry cry
Stay home
Stay happy

Come to think of it, I haven't really read/heard of abuse during those times..

Did it not happen?
Then how do these generation of men/women get to that stage?

Hookup culture as in people having sex without commitment; one night stands and all sorts.

I am sure there was abuse then, it wasn't just widely known due to lack of mass media.

And the people now are too fickle, can't bond properly with a spouse because their souls are fragmented in 1,000 men or women.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Nobody: 3:33pm On May 21, 2020
Our women has been so influenced to think the western idea of relationship is good yet they fail to see how the western society has failed , rampant divorce left and right. They say they are happy but it’s all facade of the bitter depth but sadly they propagate this on and on hence the western society is a failed state.

Our women get tempted to recreate the western shit while the westerners envies our society. Who told you your mom who endure her marriage is not happy. Endurance is a virtue

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Nobody: 3:34pm On May 21, 2020
Poverty, shame, deceit in believing in prayers

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by enemyofprogress: 3:35pm On May 21, 2020
VickyRotex:



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WB7sqiZD0bg
monetize the prayers jo
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by PHijo(m): 3:35pm On May 21, 2020
*3 main reasons*


1. They are financially dependent
2. They are obliged to stay in tune with societal expectations
3. Their religious beliefs makes it difficult for them to separate

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Oladayo12(m): 3:36pm On May 21, 2020
bukatyne:


Leave to where? cheesy

I am wondering why you are salty this blessed afternoon.
It still hit my imagination till date how some people reason, how on earth is her old moniker that of your business? please, please and please respect yourself. This op topic is a critical issue affecting most women out there and this shit have to stop. once again please respect your dear self.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Ladycewhy(f): 3:36pm On May 21, 2020
fergie001:
Its an African thing.
this statement is bogus,last time I checked "Stockholm syndrome"is not in any Nigerian dialect. Women stay with abusive partners all over the world for different reasons .The only difference is the reason a European woman will stay with an abusive partner will be different from the reason a Nigerian woman would.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by bukatyne(f): 3:36pm On May 21, 2020
WiLdFLame:
Our women has been so influenced to think the western idea of relationship is good yet they fail to see how the western society has failed , rampant divorce left and right. They say they are happy but it’s all facade of the bitter depth but sadly they propagate this on and on hence the western society is a failed state.

Our women get tempted to recreate the western shit while the westerners envies our society. Who told you your mom who endure her marriage is not happy. Endurance is a virtue

@bold:

shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Dyt(f): 3:37pm On May 21, 2020
bukatyne:


Hookup culture as in people having sex without commitment; one night stands and all sorts.

.

I didn't get it
I was thinking of the old fashioned match making thing
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by ariefadenco: 3:37pm On May 21, 2020
bukatyne:


Permission to ask a question:

What did you love about him despite his toxicity?


People who are toxic or abusive stricto sensu are usually very manipulative. Many of such persons are selfless. The material benefits the sufferer derives in such relationship makes it difficult for them to leave. It takes lots of courage to leave a toxic relationship. No one is 100% toxic, they have lots of good attribute to complement their toxicity which makes the sufferer subtly fall in love with them.

If you want to control a person, be nice to him and make him believe he cant survive without you.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by unionpowerk: 3:37pm On May 21, 2020
If they don't Abeg suggest Solution ,Probably Divorce the husband ,Marry another man ,How about if the new hubby still abuse her ,She should finally stay alone with her Kids as a single Parent .How should a Nagging and stubborn wife be handled too .The story goes on and on and on,How should a man handle a wife that bleeps around ,how about the wife that bleeps husband closest friend ,How about the issue that would make a man that has never abuse wife before get tempted to lay hands on his wife .Bla bla bla ,Op Do not focus on a Scene ,How about before the Scene.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by adeniyimam(m): 3:37pm On May 21, 2020
Dyt:


Yes, I still loved him when I walked away, it wasn't so easy but I had to for my mental health..

Now, not everyone have that courage to, considering the kind of society we came from
You made the right decision
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by kawkab: 3:38pm On May 21, 2020
- Societal perception of single and divorced women.
- Low Self Esteem.
- Poor financial base/lack of financial independence.
- Tacit societal support of abusive men.
- For their children.
- Unknown reasons

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by olabiyi247(m): 3:38pm On May 21, 2020
There is no genius reason, whatsoever for anyone to endure such life. Marriage only complement you, it doesn't complete you. God already created you completely. If you allow your husband/wife to kill you, he/she will continue life after you have gone. So, borrow yourself brain

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Dyt(f): 3:39pm On May 21, 2020
WiLdFLame:


Our women get tempted to recreate the western shit while the westerners envies our society. Who told you your mom who endure her marriage is not happy. Endurance is a virtue

Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Dyt(f): 3:39pm On May 21, 2020
adeniyimam:

You made the right decision

Life is too short my brother
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by bukatyne(f): 3:39pm On May 21, 2020
Dyt:


I didn't get it
I was thinking of the old fashioned match making thing

I guessed as much which was why I broke it down:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hookup_culture
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by pippimp(m): 3:40pm On May 21, 2020
ojun50:
I don dey ask this question for more than 20years

When a woman is unlucky enough to live in an environment where opportunities and poverty reigns supreme, that woman will be docile as p#$k. Have you ever asked why the rate of spousal abuse is not as high in normal countries? In a normal society, the woman will just pack her sh#t, move to a new place, get a job, pay her own rent, buy her own car, and pretty much do whatever the phuck she wants. Can most women in phucked up societies do that?

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