ariefadenco:


People who are toxic or abusive stricto sensu are usually very manipulative. Many of such persons are selfless. The material benefits the sufferer derives in such relationship makes it difficult for them to leave. It takes lots of courage to leave a toxic relationship. No one is 100% toxic, they have lots of good attribute to complement their toxicity which makes the sufferer subtly fall in love with them.

If you want to control a person, be nice to him and make him believe he cant survive without you.

WiLdFLame:


This is a western ducked mentality

Lovers should own each other

We all know too much of something is bad

There is a reason it’s called opposite sex
What happens to making friends with sex of your species?
Eve was made for only one Adam not two

You were not committed to the relationship as he was period save us all the westernized bukum

Dyt:


That was his imperfection, except that, dude was a great guy, he loved me a great deal but that his anger thing was what I couldn't deal with, he was obsessed, I mean dude even fought men that looked at me, that was how bad it was..

There are so many things that makes one great in a relationship, he loved me with care, was scared to lose me thereby over protection..

One thing that turns me on in my relationship is when my partner trusts and owns me
It makes me fly, dammnit

I just couldn't stand the toxic part, he became abusive, I couldn't say hi to men, I couldn't even talk/chat with men and he couldn't stand me smiling and laughing with others while I frown at him, it makes him feel like he should kill me

Takotsubo:
It is important to always go back to the beginning.

People who are born into abusive homes will most likely subconsciously tilt towards abusive partners.
When a child grows up seeing dad and mum fight,or mum.being beaten up,they watch mum cry and struggle ,they believe that in relationships it is normal to cry and struggle too.


When they speak to their crying mum,she may say daddy loves us,it's my fault for not cooking the food well,or it's my fault I was rude.

They then adapt to this notion and begin to reason in like manner.



They learn at a tender age that this is what marriage is or this is what love is. Some believe if their partner is not beating them or if their partner is not abusive,they don't really love them.

They then marry abusers and of course the cycle continues.Their own interpretation of marriage is that beating and abuse is normal so why should they leave?
Their mothers stayed so why should they leave?

A broken family is worse than an abusive one so why should they leave?

They take on the culture of self blame,they come on the internet and see where people recount worse and still remain ,people tell them to adjust themselves further and marriage is for better or worse so again the question remains: Why should they leave?

When your self confidence and esteem are eroded from a very young age,it is almost impossible to be emotionally normal.

They think they are staying for their children and forget it is still the same vicious cycle.

Truth is they do not believe they deserve better,they have never known better and will remain trapped in a prison that is not just physical but mental.

It is the very brave ones that begin to question issues and then decide to leave.

It's not just about money,even rich women are abused but remain.

When a person is traumatised,they view and interact with the world differently.

awoo47:
tbh, is either a guy is a serial cheater or he behaves lyk dat
u jus have to pick one...

Nd while will u frown at him nd smile to other guys??
except u get ulterior motives

Dyt:


Well
When he abuses me nko
I was mentally and psychologically disturbed
I tried to leave but he wouldn't

I wasn't happy
Hence my frowning all the time
We lived together and it was a tough o

When he calls he feels the vibe at the background, he waits for me to get home to start asking why I am not happy at home and when I tell him, he starts to cry and pounces on me for not being happy with him

I was strong enough to walk away

bukatyne:


Women make up about 50% of the society.

It is impossible to stigmatize 50% of the society if they vehemently refuse something.

Dyt:
Some say for the Mrs tag
Some for the money
Some say for their children
Some say all men are same
Some don't have a reason

I used to judge these people alot till I was involved with a toxic partner, I walked away several times but dude kept coming back until the day I stood my ground it was enough

Yes, I still loved him when I walked away, it wasn't so easy but I had to for my mental health..

Now, not everyone have that courage to, considering the kind of society we came from

awoo47:
tbh, is either a guy is a serial cheater or he behaves lyk dat
u jus have to pick one...

cooltola:
not really , some women have no where to go so they stay put and endure till they endure no more. Some are too embarrassed to tell a family member and will keep the beating to themselves. Some are hoping their husbands stop , some do not want a divorce

Larcardii:
how do u guys love toxic people??......like I don't get

A305:
Unconsented BDSM

MICOBIN:
Beware of these 4 killers of a sweet relationship. They are also called the 4 Horsemen of Relationship Apocalypse. You have to be on the lookout to when these tendencies begin to rear their ugly head up in your relationship and manage them properly. They are all as a result of emotional outburst or emotional overwhelm. The way they are being managed will determine if a certain relationship will be salvaged or not.
These 4 horsemen are:
1. Criticism: This is the negative flipside of complaint. Complaints are not bad infact they are constructive to any relationship. They help put things back in order when both partners have a good listening habit. Complaints are targeted at a specific action at which your partner failed. Criticism on the other hand convey distraught mixed with negative words targeted at your partner.
Look at these:
Complaint: There is no petrol in the car. Why didn't you fill it up like you said you would?
Criticism: Why can't you ever remember something? I told you a thousand times to fill up the tank and you didn't.
You see! Criticisms are demeaning. Let's learn to honour and respect our partners. Be nice.

2. Contempt: Contempt is a feeling of disgust........

Continue reading on
https://businesshob..com/2020/05/4-major-killers-of-sweet-relationship.html?m=1#more

Ladycewhy:
this statement is bogus,last time I checked "Stockholm syndrome"is not in any Nigerian dialect. Women stay with abusive partners all over the world for different reasons .The only difference is the reason a European woman will stay with an abusive partner will be different from the reason a Nigerian woman would.

Kaien:
I don't see how my old moniker is of concern to you, just post your opinion and leave.