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Nonsoboy4life:
Doesn't mean much who initiated it

Snaagg:
Dande55 feels the need to brag about a non-existent man .. in a desperate bid to hide the truth about her miserly existence.
No happily-coupled woman talks with so much bitterness and venom. Trust me.

Snaagg:
This post indirectly admits how much inferior you believe women are to men. But of course you're too daft to realise it.

Well done!

Chommieblaq:
This post sum it all
Gone are the days of Obiageri, Oriaku etc
At the emboldened, it has become so stale, sex should no longer be held as a leverage, did the lady not enjoy and participate in the act willingly?

Thank you Sir!

Remaboy:
Lol. No be you go tell me sef.

I sabi all of them. In reality, they live in the kitchen but would be forming online fighters

Snaagg:
Especially that c0c0c@ndy AKA Minister of kitchen affairs.
I dey always gbadun those delicacies they post in the food section sha.

Love seeing these "empowered women" doing what they're supposed to do for their men = cooking and cleaning! Haha.

KingSatan:
As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus".

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!

Dande55:
Isn't it flabbergasting to say that you don't care about something, but you've spent a whole lot of time gossiping about same thing you cared less of. Misplaced priority.

Dande55:
[s]Why spend so much time gossiping about something that's non-existent? You dumb fvcks should get busy please, or are you jealous that no woman can be proud to brag about you on a public forum cos of how much of a failure you are.[/s]

Liposure:
Between a man and a woman who is more entitled. A woman will collect hair money, upkeep money, fork money, food money, child support and still have the gut 2 say men are scum. Who is fooling who

Dyt:
Never ever
I mean never settle for an entitled man

pansophist:
Wow insightful post. I'm literally clapping my hands as I read through this. Astute. Though, I'll add more to it.

As a Nigerian diaspora myself, I agree with what you said. I'll like to date a Nigerian lady, but all the ones I met are in need of a mugu, not necessarily a man to grow together with, so I gave up. They are walking business where their asset, skills and professionalism starts and end with their body. The arrogance, entitlement, and seeing herself as the next best thing, is sickening.

And yes, feminism failed woefully with them because they practice feminism like a buffet, where they pick all the sweet sides of it, while leaving the one they do not want (such as equally financing their home for example). Most black british men are with other race of women than black, and part of the reasons you have highlighted, so I will stick to it.

I was in Accra last year with five Dutch colleagues (two males, three females), and my friend who came from Nigeria to Ghana to chill with us was shocked by the behaviours of these Europeans. Every time we went out at night to chill, the ladies paid for themselves, and didnt expect the men to do it. Something as basic as paying for yourself as a woman, along side their outstanding interlocution, was alien to him, as he said he never saw it before back home.

He went on a date with one, thinking maybe they paid for themselves because we were friends, but no, the girl paid for herself, and was genuinely interested in him. We stayed for a month, and they were hanging and chilling all through that period and if it happens that we stayed longer, their relationship would have gotten serious because I know her, and she genuinely liked my friend.

To Nigerian men (and even good women inclusive), the world is your oyster. If you dont like the partner you're seeing around you, go elsewhere. Your naija passport alone will shoot you to other ecowas countries, as well as some in the Americas such as Dominica and Barbados. You are not a tree, dont be stuck with what you dont want.

Remaboy:
When a woman has no basis, she tries to remain relevant by bringing the man's ego down with childish insults.

That shows you are cracking

Dande55:
Calling a 19year old school drop out, he knows where he is placed. Call him to help You, weak larva ass.

Snaagg:
Hi Dande55,

Report this too:








Mynd44, Seun, Lalasticlala, Royalroy
.. if you're gonna start issuing out bans, Dande55 mustn't be exempted.

kowalsky:
This is the post that should have headlined the thread.

For me, in today's world, women are more powerful than men. This fact is already subliminally apparent - the now incessant bickering/attacks against women online and everywhere else goes a long way to show that men are challenged by this new uprising.

Very soon it'll become an accepted fact no one can repress.

As a woman all it takes for you to flourish is to master your feminine aura. Do it well enough and men and the world under them will grovel at your feet.

Now, imagine that you master this naturally given perk and then muster up enough conviction to be ambitious, just like men are.

This is what is happening right now. Women are challenging men on the front of being ambitious, all the while still retaining their God given arsenal of feminine charm.
The result is they are now domineering over their male counterparts. Virtually every girl today 'cannot marry a man in their class ' they gun for better men.
They have a plethora of options. They fvck whoever they want (within their scope). Men foot their bills. And many other men are doormats...

Men (for the most part) don't have these luxuries. many eventually marry down.

wany:
And what improvement was he looking for going for her kind.you attract your kind.