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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Morrismoti: 9:09am On May 23, 2020
grin grin
Snaagg:
Nobody's is forcing you into marriage in the first place.

Afterall it's your gender that cry yourselves to sleep every night, embarking on intense fasting and prayer for husbands + joining Facebook groups to encourage each other in your singleness/loneliness grin

Then you start giving boyfriends ultimatum on when they must propose to you. Hahahhaha!

Na only for Nairaland una get liver. Desperados.
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by BluntTheApostle(m): 9:10am On May 23, 2020
Dyt:
Never ever
I mean never settle for an entitled man

angry angry angry

You are telling women to have conditions in a world where the time of a woman passes quickly cheesy

Many of those who would read this post would have reached that stage where anything goes. That stage (late 20s upwards) where they will jump at the offer of any man.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by luckgood(m): 9:12am On May 23, 2020
KingSatan:


As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus"wink.

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!




I just copy and send to a friend on WhatsApp. Thank you sir!

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Samfloxin(m): 9:12am On May 23, 2020
post=89858595:

Nairaland : A house of comedy and surprises.
Person wey call himself King Satan (out of all the usenames/moniker in the world!) copy and paste so tey, Satan even copy and quote Pastor Sam Adeyemi! grin cheesy wink
Person wey dey abuse God his creator 24/7 shocked
Nairaland : Never a dull moment! cheesy



We concur!
One of us @[/b] (Sisi Yewande) absolutely concur with this.
Just look at her shaking her head in agreement at the moment! wink


[b]Anyone Wanna know the characteristics of an entitled man that Dyt is talking about?!




Hehehehe cheesy grin, igbowoman has spoken, she just break d table patapata.
And she is so apt!
But a quick question please, what about if he is short and ugly but come get money like Dangote?!

Igbo kwenu! grin wink wink


Chai!
Ewoooo shocked
Madam kuku destroy the table finish! cheesy

Nwanne, ego di nma
......but 95% of ladies will disagree with you sha.
Na dat apparatus gangan dem want lipsrsealed
Apparatus of life!
Nothing fit replace am! tongue


End of Discussion.
What a poor excuse for a comment

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Remaboy(m): 9:14am On May 23, 2020
Dyt:

You sound so pained that I didn't reply mentions of your likes on the issue

Na una get una problem
I said what I said

Add yours or just look and pass
That guy was clearly civil.

Why did you reply him that way if pains wasn't attached ma'am?

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by juniorstar(m): 9:14am On May 23, 2020
KingSatan:


As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus"wink.

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!
Absolutely!!!

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Ybaby: 9:14am On May 23, 2020
NoToPile:



You see ehn I am still waiting for the day a male will open a thread on nairaland and talk about the bolded how they too can take some nurturing responsibility.


Its just simple women are not wired to provide, its against the natural order,now that she's providing ( it makes sense for a woman to work nowadays) will you help out in the nurturing? No response from NL males, anyway reality is always different lots of guys in real life are beginning to shape up.


Thats why I laugh so hard when people people bash moniker Ybaby she's right on the point that men are to PROVIDE and PROTECT simple, dance around it, ignore it, call it another name but the fact doesn't change. I may not agree with all her points but hey she's right on this provider issue.

kiss
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Liposure: 9:16am On May 23, 2020
BluntTheApostle:


You are telling women to have conditions in a world where the time of a woman passes quickly cheesy

Many of those who would read this post would have reached that stage where anything goes. That stage (late 20s upwards) where they will jump at the offer of any man.

no mind dem, slayqueen at 20 prayer warrior at 30

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Snaagg(m): 9:16am On May 23, 2020
Dyt:


That's cos life isn't what you take it

Easy
Chill
Relax
Drink enough water

Of course you'd say this, being that your "counter-thread' failed woefully! kiss

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Snaagg(m): 9:18am On May 23, 2020
Dande55:

E pain am. Filthy rat.

But no one cares tho grin

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Remaboy(m): 9:18am On May 23, 2020
Dande55:

E pain am. Filthy rat.
For you to attack, speaks a lotta hurt.

But no one actually cares na grin
Should we?

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Snaagg(m): 9:19am On May 23, 2020
Remaboy:
For you to attack, speaks a lotta hurt.

But no one actually cares na grin
Should we?


Leave am. Lol.

Dande55 na by force?

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Remaboy(m): 9:20am On May 23, 2020
Snaagg:


But no one cares tho grin
Help me ask am. Dande55 is pained by that comment. That's why grin

She just showed that she has no basis, hence the quick switch to name calling.

Women enh.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Dande55: 9:20am On May 23, 2020
Snaagg:


But no one cares tho grin
I don't know why useless men that I didn't seek for their worthless care are quoting me.
Stay on your lane dude
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Dande55: 9:21am On May 23, 2020
Remaboy:
For you to attack, speaks a lotta hurt.

But no one actually cares na grin
Should we?
Attack you say? I can see the joy hovering all around you cos I gave you a mention. I understand, you are free to bask on that euphoria.
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Snaagg(m): 9:22am On May 23, 2020
Dande55:

I don't know why useless men that I didn't seek for their worthless care are quoting me.
Stay on your lane dude

Stay in yours madam. With your gutter mouth!

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Dande55: 9:23am On May 23, 2020
Snaagg:


Stay in yours madam. With your gutter mouth!
You are a pained troll.
tongue
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Remaboy(m): 9:23am On May 23, 2020
Snaagg:


Leave am. Lol.
Dande55 na by force?
All na female pains on display. She could have acted like the OP, Dyt.

At least Dyt's pain is still questionable grin

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Snaagg(m): 9:24am On May 23, 2020
Dande55:

I am a pained troll.
tongue

You sure are! wink

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by kowalsky: 9:26am On May 23, 2020
Ybaby:
To choose a man who is less ambitious than you are.

If you want to born the USA can he make it happen?

You want private university for your kids but he thinks they teach same curriculum as Ire poly

Do not choose a man you donot look up to because of his work ethics


Choose a financial sound man who understands investing and leaving inheritance for his children' s children.

The bible says a good father leaves inheritance for his children.

Finally as a woman you are the fluid one, you are the deep one, you are the dark and cunning one, you made him eat the apple - you will get all things done if you stroke his ego right not by nagging but though sex and femininity


This is the post that should have headlined the thread.

For me, in today's world, women are more powerful than men. This fact is already subliminally apparent - the now incessant bickering/attacks against women online and everywhere else goes a long way to show that men are challenged by this new uprising.

Very soon it'll become an accepted fact no one can repress.

As a woman all it takes for you to flourish is to master your feminine aura. Do it well enough and men and the world under them will grovel at your feet.

Now, imagine that you master this naturally given perk and then muster up enough conviction to be ambitious, just like men are.

This is what is happening right now. Women are challenging men on the front of being ambitious, all the while still retaining their God given arsenal of feminine charm.
The result is they are now domineering over their male counterparts. Virtually every girl today 'cannot marry a man in their class ' they gun for better men.
They have a plethora of options. They fvck whoever they want (within their scope). Men foot their bills. And many other men are doormats...

Men (for the most part) don't have these luxuries. many eventually marry down.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Dande55: 9:27am On May 23, 2020
Snaagg:


You sure are! wink
Mumu grin. Your moniker seh you too deh nag.
I don't entertain bad energy.
Byeee!!
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Snaagg(m): 9:28am On May 23, 2020
Remaboy:
All na female pains on display. She could have acted like the OP, Dyt.

At least Dyt's pain is still questionable grin


Dande55 feels the need to brag about a non-existent man .. in a desperate bid to hide the truth about her miserly existence.

No happily-coupled woman talks with so much bitterness and venom. Trust me. grin

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Snaagg(m): 9:29am On May 23, 2020
Dande55:

[s]Mumu grin. Your moniker seh you too deh nag.
I don't entertain bad energy.
Byeee[/s]!!

Goodbye Dande-55-year-old hag!

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Prodigee: 9:30am On May 23, 2020
Naija women wey don cast. They only care about your wealth. No be this stupid OP wey wan use style chyke a man who recently left his devilish wife. Just cos she hear say the guy dey earn big and get apartment for lekki. She com dey form 'I'm not single. I'm taken.' olosho oshi

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Remaboy(m): 9:31am On May 23, 2020
Dande55:

You little rats always feel that vainglorious when you think a woman has been subdue or over powered or cowered to your satisfaction, cos according to You, the op was not able to challenge you cos she has been subdued. This is the utmost priority of an average nigga, always competing with women. Lool
Wow. Epistle ontop my head.

Sifia pains 101 grin

Nobody dey fight you for here.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Ideasroole: 9:31am On May 23, 2020
KingSatan:


As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus"wink.

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!
Spot on!

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Dyt(f): 9:31am On May 23, 2020
Dande55:

You little rats always feel that vainglorious when you think a woman has been subdue or over powered or cowered to your satisfaction, cos according to You, the op was not able to challenge you cos she has been subdued. This is the utmost priority of an average nigga, always competing with women. Lool

Why wouldn't I kiss you?
Just tell me why

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by SweetCunt97(f): 9:33am On May 23, 2020
Nonsoboy4life:

But the banging goes both wells...they enjoy it even better..I mean the females
Well, men are always the initiators. Na dem carry am for head.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Nonsoboy4life(m): 9:34am On May 23, 2020
SweetCunt97:
Well, men are always the initiators. Na dem carry am for head.
Doesn't mean much who initiated it
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Snaagg(m): 9:34am On May 23, 2020
Dande55:

You little rats always feel that vainglorious when you think a woman has been subdue or over powered or cowered to your satisfaction, cos according to You, the op was not able to challenge you cos she has been subdued. This is the utmost priority of an average nigga, always competing with women. Lool


This post indirectly admits how much inferior you believe women are to men. But of course you're too daft to realise it.

Well done! cheesy

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