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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by emmaodet: 10:08am On May 23, 2020
KingSatan:


As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus"wink.

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!

Waooooo waooooooo waoooooooo
King satan - Oba Esu
Good write up bro, good write up.
Do you know a lot of ladies have abused me just because i do advise men not to marry a liability? Even up till yesterday, y'baby and generatorset abused and mocked me for looking for who to share bills with.
The entitlement mentality is very strong.
When they say they want a rich man and not a broke one, i don't talk of abuse them but when i say i need a woman to share bills with me, All hell was let loose, i was abused and dragged to the mud, i was called different derogatory names.
If not that have married, i would have gently and quietly avoid a nigerian lady.
Most are financial disasters and drainages.
I pity the average nigerian man about to marry.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Nobody: 10:08am On May 23, 2020
koyyes:
grin grin
African females are really doing African men a huge favour.

There is someone in this very thread that has been shouting like a mad man. He is(was) married years back and even has a daughter in the states where he ran to after poverty almost finished him.

His wife must have dealt with him. Now he is bitter and coming here to rant. I will expose him soon. I just pity the 1mbecile monkeys that liked his comment and want to follow his advice.

All of you should go and look for something to invent like your white mates. You all sound like she males nagging here and there.

The only thing females need from you are money and kids. Don't have it? Scram!!!
Please tell me, I want to know the person
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Prenonjebose: 10:09am On May 23, 2020
Esychem:
Not all ladies are like that. I started working during my third year, during NYSC I did two teaching jobs and private lessons. I know I have to assist my mum and siblings as well take care of myself without looking for a man to do so. With the little I earn I was able to complete my late father's house of which was deserted. I have been working, running MSc (almost rounding) without looking at any man for fund and God blessed me with a lecturing Job.

Do you know that most men feel so insecure most time with someone who earn more. One told me that I don't like asking him for money and he is not cool with it because he feels it is his responsibility.
My mum trained us to work out our money and be great wives. If some men still feel they need be entitled to you and when you don't ask they feel insecure. Why say bad stuffs about some women, when some men are scared a lady at 25-29 who is rich and drive car, the society consider high class.
You have done well for yourself as a result of good upbringing. You should be getting along with the guy who wants you to ask for little things from him. Nothing wrong there, it doesn't mean he's insecure. It's just a matter of him carrying out the default duty of providing. Where the problem is him depending on you solely, or not making any effort to provide.
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Ybaby: 10:11am On May 23, 2020
NoToPile:



You see ehn I am still waiting for the day a male will open a thread on nairaland and talk about the bolded how they too can take some nurturing responsibility.


Its just simple women are not wired to provide, its against the natural order,now that she's providing ( it makes sense for a woman to work nowadays) will you help out in the nurturing? No response from NL males, anyway reality is always different lots of guys in real life are beginning to shape up.


Thats why I laugh so hard when people people bash moniker Ybaby she's right on the point that men are to PROVIDE and PROTECT simple, dance around it, ignore it, call it another name but the fact doesn't change. I may not agree with all her points but hey she's right on this provider issue.

A small point

People love me on NL and I love them back

It is infidels that are bashing me grin grin grin grin and I bash them back tongue tongue
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Nobody: 10:13am On May 23, 2020
KingSatan:


As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus"wink.

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!
Lol, you are indeed the king of Satan, and you just spewed thrashes. I'm not vexed at your write up, but the number of low thinking people that liked the rubbish you typed
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by NoToPile: 10:15am On May 23, 2020
Ybaby:


A small point

People love me on NL and I love them back

It is infidels that are bashing me grin grin grin grin and I bash them back tongue tongue


Lool

Okay then ma'am

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Nobody: 10:17am On May 23, 2020
Acmepreneur:

Please tell me, I want to know the person
Check for the most active ranter in the first few pages. grin

He is 38 years old.

Most of all these negroes you see crying here are married and their wives are dealing with them mercilessly.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Ryan03(f): 10:19am On May 23, 2020
KingSatan:


As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus"wink.

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!
wish I can like your post over and over again.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Ryan03(f): 10:22am On May 23, 2020
manontree:
Rubbish. Marriage is this, marriage is that yet week in week out thousands are getting married. Am I missing something here? If it's that bad why are thousands or even millions getting married. Social media has swamped the institution to the extent that the few bad cases are highlighted and scorned making people think marriage is hell

It is not. Simply marry with no intention to scam your spouse. It is a continuous work in progress for both and approach it with the spirit of give and take and NOT me me me

Also make sure you do not jump into marriage with anyone that catches your fancy. Avoid using looks, wealth and dress sense as a basis which a lot of ladies live and hang by. Character trumps all these. Marry someone with good character and every other would be added onto you

Finally what you expect from your spouse, be that character first
men have spoken cool
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Drigby2: 10:23am On May 23, 2020
Snaagg:
One particular guy starting with M ran like a boi boi to give my side 7 days grin

It said insulting a Nairalander. For that cvnt licking comment.

Nothing do sha grin
I still dey here.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by queengift(f): 10:25am On May 23, 2020
sweetkev:
Stupid lady. What are you bringing to the table except your p**sy

You sound pained, thank God am a professional that pay my bills and that of my family.

Maybe you should ask your sister that question.
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Drigby2: 10:27am On May 23, 2020
queengift:


You sound pained, thank God am a professional that pay my bills and that of my family.
Maybe you should ask your sister that question.
Don't blame him. Una brethren too plenty for Nigeria.
Your work and stand is good
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by IamHonourable1: 10:29am On May 23, 2020
Same goes to all men.Don't marry an entitled woman. A woman who can't go outside and bring money to the house.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Nobody: 10:30am On May 23, 2020
Kenstufez:
How old are you? And why do you think its by hustle? For sure we all have to hustle and do our part but no one is sure when the big mulla would come. Some make it at 50 while some at 25. Its Gods time.

We do what we can do and God does the rest. Don't let all these ladies make you believe its all about money, its not always about that.



You're a learner abeg. Go one side

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by emmaodet: 10:33am On May 23, 2020
pansophist:


Story for the gods grin

African women change ? Lol, it will only get worse bro. Though, I share your optimism in the infinite possibilities of change, but to be realistic, the times of our parent are long gone. This is the time of Jezebel unleashed, so just enjoy the benefits as we all go down together grin

I'm only sad for present men who still see women as the innocent creatures such as their grandma and mothers, who dont understand that your modern woman is radical and savage to the core, who see men as a vehicle to her vanity, and a disposable utility after he outlived his utilities. Women by nature are community oriented, they discuss within themselves and redpill each other, recruiting the younger ones that even if you have a good girl, with social media, you may be dating a python.

I must admit, all these modern day Jezebel women are typical in countries within the western sphere of influence that have turned every loving girl into feminist wanna be, and breed them to be an absolute narcissist in the name of freedom and equality. There are few countries that I've been to that still have good women, but it's also rapidly changing, especially if such countries are within the sphere of influence from the west (such as nigeria that can't protect its culture, but download every nonsense from the west).

So bros, as for me and my bros, we are enjoying the ride as it goes down, I wont tell you how to enjoy it, but if you meet a good woman (I did, I am with her for five years now), you will know, and only then, you should commit, but she must worth it. She must o.

Hmmmmmmm
Aye ooooooooo
How did we get to this level as a society
Wahala dey oooo
There is fire on the mountain......
Panso, which part of Accra did you go to last year for vacation? Teshi, Nungwa, circle, tudu, kasoa?
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Anonime1105(m): 10:35am On May 23, 2020
KingSatan:


As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus"wink.

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!


Wisdom Sir, Wisdom!

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by kenchop: 10:37am On May 23, 2020
*This one is suffering from excessive bitterness!*



Dyt:
I SAID WHAT I SAID AND Y'ALL SHOULD STAY OFF MY MENTION
IF YOU ARE SO DUMB TO UNDERSTAND, THAT'S Y'ALL PROBLEM AND NOT MINE

IF YOU DON'T AGREE, SAY/WRITE YOURS AND WAKA PASS

DON'T COMAN STRESS ME PLEASE




Hormones I guess
cheesy cheesy grin

How you been pretty woman?

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by DAVE5(m): 10:38am On May 23, 2020
KingSatan:


As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus"wink.

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!


Hmmnn, hmmnn, hmmnn, that's all I would say


There's too much for me to say but I would sum it up with hmmnn, my heart is heavy

I made a big mistake in my life, I hope I can correct it, but my sons would not be allowed to make that same mistake while my daughter (s) would not be that kind of mistake

I would say I have a "money pit"

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by crackland: 10:38am On May 23, 2020
emmaodet:


Waooooo waooooooo waoooooooo
King satan - Oba Esu
Good write up bro, good write up.
Do you know a lot of ladies have abused me just because i do advise men not to marry a liability? Even up till yesterday, y'baby and generatorset abused and mocked me for looking for who to share bills with.
The entitlement mentality is very strong.
When they say they want a rich man and not a broke one, i don't talk of abuse them but when i say i need a woman to share bills with me, All hell was let loose, i was abused and dragged to the mud, i was called different derogatory names.
If not that have married, i would have gently and quietly avoid a nigerian lady.
Most are financial disasters and drainages.
I pity the average nigerian man about to marry.
Don't tell me it was Nairaland that made you realize this... grin

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by bluefilm: 10:42am On May 23, 2020
pDudd:
These days, women have nothing to offer. Facts.

They are lower wage earners, dependent on men, have biological clocks that stop working at early 40s, broke, have babies from other men, little to no skills, etc. The list goes on and on.

As a man, you have the world at your feet. Never settle for any woman. The only women you should settle for is the woman who has capital assets and can back you up financially and mentally in hard times. Besides that, my broda, stay on your own. If body scratch you, look for one smallie on social media and scratch your itch and dispose of her afterwards.

My brothers, your time is now. Up your hustle and make money. No time for these empty barrels with dirty weave, smelly leggings, and filthy push up bras.

My brother hustle o.

I just made it 111 likes for you!

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by STARGREEN(m): 10:48am On May 23, 2020
KingSatan:


As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

[/b]We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.[b]

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus"wink.

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!

May God keep you stronger. That's the beauty of having wise old men. They shall live long, yes longer with good health.
What an ELDER sees from far, even youths within cannot.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by DAVE5(m): 10:48am On May 23, 2020
emmaodet:


Waooooo waooooooo waoooooooo
King satan - Oba Esu
Good write up bro, good write up.
Do you know a lot of ladies have abused me just because i do advise men not to marry a liability? Even up till yesterday, y'baby and generatorset abused and mocked me for looking for who to share bills with.
The entitlement mentality is very strong.
When they say they want a rich man and not a broke one, i don't talk of abuse them but when i say i need a woman to share bills with me, All hell was let loose, i was abused and dragged to the mud, i was called different derogatory names.
If not that have married, i would have gently and quietly avoid a nigerian lady.
Most are financial disasters and drainages.
I pity the average nigerian man about to marry.

Hah, Nigerian girls are to be avoided ohh, they are very dangerous, hah, if to say I never marry sef, hah, Nigerian girls ehn, they can wreck a man that has not stood and planted his feet on the financial ground solidly ohh, they always need money for one thing or the other, give her today and challenge yourself that what you gave her is too much, that she would take a while before her heart can allow her ask for more, she would destroy ur challenge and ask you almost immediately for another money for another thing

Hah, Nigerian girls, hah, nah only God for save us from them

Nigerian girls, girls from hell, Nigerian girls, dangerously dangerous ohh

They always have use for your money but would never work for theirs

My father my father, Nigerian girls, run from them ohh, they would sink you and run away with the next maga

Financial disaster


I've not met girls from any other country but I hope they're nothing like our girls ohh, our girls are super champions in financial degradation ohh

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Nobody: 10:50am On May 23, 2020
pansophist:


Story for the gods grin

African women change ? Lol, it will only get worse bro. Though, I share your optimism in the infinite possibilities of change, but to be realistic, the times of our parent are long gone. This is the time of Jezebel unleashed, so just enjoy the benefits as we all go down together grin

I'm only sad for present men who still see women as the innocent creatures such as their grandma and mothers, who dont understand that your modern woman is radical and savage to the core, who see men as a vehicle to her vanity, and a disposable utility after he outlived his utilities. Women by nature are community oriented, they discuss within themselves and redpill each other, recruiting the younger ones that even if you have a good girl, with social media, you may be dating a python.

I must admit, all these modern day Jezebel women are typical in countries within the western sphere of influence that have turned every loving girl into feminist wanna be, and breed them to be an absolute narcissist in the name of freedom and equality. There are few countries that I've been to that still have good women, but it's also rapidly changing, especially if such countries are within the sphere of influence from the west (such as nigeria that can't protect its culture, but download every nonsense from the west).

So bros, as for me and my bros, we are enjoying the ride as it goes down, I wont tell you how to enjoy it, but if you meet a good woman (I did, I am with her for five years now), you will know, and only then, you should commit, but she must worth it. She must o.
So you prefer the African women slavery to continue? I pity the woman that married you
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by wisdomiskey(m): 10:51am On May 23, 2020
emmaodet:


Waooooo waooooooo waoooooooo
King satan - Oba Esu
Good write up bro, good write up.
Do you know a lot of ladies have abused me just because i do advise men not to marry a liability? Even up till yesterday, y'baby and generatorset abused and mocked me for looking for who to share bills with.
The entitlement mentality is very strong.
When they say they want a rich man and not a broke one, i don't talk of abuse them but when i say i need a woman to share bills with me, All hell was let loose, i was abused and dragged to the mud, i was called different derogatory names.
If not that have married, i would have gently and quietly avoid a nigerian lady.
Most are financial disasters and drainages.
I pity the average nigerian man about to marry.

Sad thing is I actually thought Ybaby had sense but she's proved otherwise in her most recent posts.. I guess that what happens when one starts pandering for likes and approval from the resident crew of lazy NL misandrists undecided

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Nobody: 10:51am On May 23, 2020
koyyes:

Check for the most active ranter in the first few pages. grin

He is 38 years old.

Most of all these negroes you see crying here are married and their wives are dealing with them mercilessly.
They are many that spew thrashes o. Would love to know the king of thrashes
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by kowalsky: 10:53am On May 23, 2020
Ybaby:


So the solutions, Fathers teach your son how to be financially savvy.

Today's girls have no qualms in letting the world know they wear the pants.

Teach your son that in the home - his value is provision and protection.

(so he will not be maltreated)

Actually the solution is that men should become more independent.

Stay clear of women (don't worry they'll still come either ways). But it's important that as a guy you don't prioritize women in your life. Instead work on being a better version of yourself.

Truth however is very few men can manage to achieve this. Our hormones are crazy, just like a hegoat gets continually driven to the pheromones of the female - it's our natural instinct to chase things that walk in a skirt.

But as a guy if you've managed to control your urges for pursuing the other sex you've already fulfilled one requirement for a successful and happy life

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by wisdomiskey(m): 10:54am On May 23, 2020
queengift:


You sound pained, thank God am a professional that pay my bills and that of my family.

Maybe you should ask your sister that question.

So, are we supposed to give you a round of applause for paying your own bills? undecided

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by wisdomiskey(m): 10:55am On May 23, 2020
koyyes:

Check for the most active ranter in the first few pages. grin

He is 38 years old.

Most of all these negroes you see crying here are married and their wives are dealing with them mercilessly.

Sure, because you have CCTV in all their homes to know this grin

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by tiswell(m): 10:55am On May 23, 2020
Alero3Arubi:
The biggest mistake would be to marry at all.
The biggest mistake would be to not marry at all.
The biggest mistake would bw to do as others are doing.
Just do what works for you.
But lucky is the one who was never born.
Is it my thoughts or this is coming from a wounded soul.
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by pedrilo: 10:55am On May 23, 2020
if anyone comes to u feeling entitled, kick them out of ur life.
life na per head

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