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MNDY:
I owe you one bottle of your favourite drink.

Lol, thanks man

Germi9:
Hahaha that was how i met this girl on Facebook and we started talking,the moment i told her i liked her the next thing that came out from her message was,"please dash me money" i was shocked!!! and irritated..since then i stopped talking to her often,i am based in Abuja she's in Lagos..very pretty but cheap,so i have decided to make her my hoe..anytime i visit lagos#she messed up

You did well
You don't wife such, you turn them to owe

Material girls are easy... Use material things to trap and bait them

KingSatan:
As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus".

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!

You nailed it absolutely man, but this your moniker get as e be o. I be wan follow you before but nah.

Back to the point, I am not married sha, but in as much as you said a 100% truth about the family life, there is something you did not add. In as much as we men expect our wife to support us financially by working, I think we should help them at home with shores - learning to cook when they are not around, assisting them in washing clothes ( i mean when they wash we can rinse with them in love), carrying baby sometimes ( not backing baby outside o, just helping her shaking baby to sleep while she works), fetching water for her e.t.c. We can do it with wisdom and love and increase in it when they are pregnant or not feeling too well. And the women should not taking it as a norm to "seeing the husband finish" and disrespect the man the day he did not do these shores. I mean, How can my wife be working and afer been stressed at work, i will allow only her to be working as a woman at home ? How una see am?

[quote author=KingSatan post=89841804][/quote]The world could do with more masculine, intelligent father figures like you, sir, but sadly your breed is sliding into extinction. I fear the breed of men coming in the next generation are gonna be way worse than what we have now.

luvmijeje:
The biggest mistake any person can make is to marry someone who finds it difficult to forgive. They won't forgive until they do back things that's far worse than what was done to them. Their type kills their wife or their wife kills them.

That is true ,very true .Another one is "I am sorry ".Many couples cannot say " I am sorry" .I know a lady then that cannot say I am sorry, no matter what you say to her .She cannot apologize and she doesn't want any apology from you

Nonsoboy4life:
Then you're summarily contracting your earlier stance that men should provide BC they ask women for sexx now you're confirming u also pester your boyfriend for sex, have u then be providing for him...

Usually when people have nothing to argue about they keep contradicting themselves

OH well, d bf is ever ready. And my comment up there is simply reality on ground. Nonso bye

SweetCunt97:
OH well, d bf is ever ready. And my comment up there is simply reality on ground. Nonso bye

Sweetcunt bye...but I will advice u to learn a skill and be useful to yourself..your destiny should be in your hand and not waiting for another man to who's as human as u to pay your bills..bye

KingSatan:
As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus".

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!

It's funny how you guys leave the point of the message and latch onto another to show your prowess in ridiculing women. All these your epistle about being a grandfather and all that hardly explains or verifies what the Op said. The topic is on an entitled man. Focus on that.

Kenstufez:
I can bet you're broke and under 22 probably at mom's house eating free food, an sure!!

Lol. Exactly

Mommy please more rice biko. This one nor reach me

Plead:
[s]Nigerian women act more entitled to shit than men tho...[/s]

The average Nigerian acts very entitled but it’s more strife among the female folks.

Could you be a dear and point out how to know an entitled man?

SweetCunt97:
Their fathers ain't banging them so y would they ask such from him? Besides the old man has done well to raise a lady that you see and willing to date so all these imput about "fathers" is really unnecessary and irrelevant. Quite childish if you ask me. There's always a limited, you give what you can give... Be in charge of your relationship and not a mumu

Their mothers ain't banging them so y would they ask such from her? Besides the old woman has done well to raise a gentleman that you see and willing to date so all these input about "mothers" is really unnecessary and irrelevant. Quite childish if you ask me. Theres always a limit, you give what you can give. Be in charge of your relationship and not a mumu.

pansophist:
Their mothers ain't banging them so y would they ask such from her? Besides the old woman has done well to raise a gentleman that you see and willing to date so all these input about "mothers" is really unnecessary and irrelevant. Quite childish if you ask me. Theres always a limit, you give what you can give. Be in charge of your relationship and not a mumu.

Touchè Mon cherie

kowalsky:
Actually the solution is that men should become more independent.

Stay clear of women (don't worry they'll still come either ways). But it's important that as a guy you don't prioritize women in your life. Instead work on being a better version of yourself.

Truth however is very few men can manage to achieve this. Our hormones are crazy, just like a hegoat gets continually driven to the pheromones of the female - it's our natural instinct to chase things that walk in a skirt.

But as a guy if you've managed to control your urges for pursuing the other sex you've already fulfilled one requirement for a successful and happy life

I agree stay clear of women

wisdomiskey:
Sad thing is I actually thought Ybaby had sense but she's proved otherwise in her most recent posts.. I guess that what happens when one starts pandering for likes and approval from the resident crew of lazy NL misandrists

Infidels are fighting back.

Fight poverty!!!

emmaodet:
My brother, if you see the way they abused me ehnnn, hmmmmmm

Infidels connect.

Form a whatsapp group name it

Fathers who don't pay school fees

Or

The irresponsible fathers

Or

Lazy men meet

The perfect name is

Married men who mop

Just be creative dear

*narcissist

You can't even spell.

sisisioge:
Ohsey!


I would say never ever settle for an undiagnosed low esteemed unintelligent guy. It is much better to resolve low esteem issues when one is aware and willing to improve.

Also avoid narcist like a plague. These are way harder psychological issues to resolve compared to state of being broke.

Getsaved:
You nailed it absolutely man, but this your moniker get as e be o. I be wan follow you before but nah.

Back to the point, I am not married sha, but in as much as you said a 100% truth about the family life, there is something you did not add. In as much as we men expect our wife to support us financially by working, I think we should help them at home with shores - learning to cook when they are not around, assisting them in washing clothes ( i mean when they wash we can rinse with them in love), carrying baby sometimes ( not backing baby outside o, just helping her shaking baby to sleep while she works), fetching water for her e.t.c. We can do it with wisdom and love and increase in it when they are pregnant or not feeling too well. And the women should not taking it as a norm to "seeing the husband finish" and disrespect the man the day he did not do these shores. I mean, How can my wife be working and afer been stressed at work, i will allow only her to be working as a woman at home ? How una see am?

You will be surprised that women that parasitically live on men are the very lazy ones. They don't cook well that is if they cook at all, they don't wash well and relies on washing machines, dry cleaners or housemaids and are terrible at taking care of babies. They simply tie wrapper all day while watching African Magic or telemundo. They are even lazy in the other room, they just lie on the bed like dead wood and expect you to do all the movements. I had experience with one while I was still a play boy.

All these chores are no big deal in today's world. I have washing machines to wash basic cloths and children's uniforms. I have borehole and running water. I cook occasionally for the whole family. My children even prefer my cooking. All the while I provide 100% for my family.

It all depends on situations and circumstances. If today i am unable to provide and my wife is in a position to, I expect her to do so without flinching. If both of us are earning something substantial, I expect both of us to have a family account made up from contributions from both of us, from where family upkeep and expenses are made.

That's why it's called a family, both partners should discuss and plan for the general wellbeing of the family. Marriage should not be seen as a poverty escape mechanism.

This is not a gender war.

Men. Stop bankrolling women with nothing to offer. Stop toasting every woman and girl you see on the road. How won't a girl be entitled when grown men have been toasting her since she was 12? How won't she be entitled to pay men back when someone close to home had sex with her when she was 11??

Women. Date only who you live and respect. Don't bankroll a man you despise just because he makes you feel good. Follow your heart and not your checklist.

These gender wars are meaningless.

KingSatan:
As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus".

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!

I rarely read long post..But this one of the best post I have read in nairaland for a while.


Words of Wisdom.
Thanks for this Sir

Ybaby:
Infidels connect.

Form a whatsapp group name it

Fathers who don't pay school fees

Or

The irresponsible fathers

Or

Lazy men meet

The perfect name is

Married men who mop

Just be creative dear

And mothers are forbidden from paying their children's school fees? Many people on this forum had their school fees paid by women - mothers, aunties, grand mothers.

And you have not seen irresponsible mothers who leave their children to suffer and sleep around with different men.

So what's wrong with men who mop? I don't understand what you are always getting at. Are you saying that a man should no mop or wash plates if he is chanced and his wife is not able to.

I stopped taking you serious after you mentioned Regina Daniels as a role model. It betrays the values and morals you were brought up with.

I just feel sorry for the man you cunningly trapped with fake love, when all you are after is an escape from poverty.

Mypeople2:
That is true ,very true .Another one is "I am sorry ".Many couples cannot say " I am sorry" .I know a lady then that cannot say I am sorry, no matter what you say to her .She cannot apologize and she doesn't want any apology from you

So true.

wirinet:
And mothers are forbidden from paying their children's school fees? Many people on this forum had their school fees paid by women - mothers, aunties, grand mothers.

And you have not seen irresponsible mothers who leave their children to suffer and sleep around with different men.

So what's wrong with men who mop? I don't understand what you are always getting at. Are you saying that a man should no mop or wash plates if he is chanced and his wife is not able to.

I stopped taking you serious after you mentioned Regina Daniels as a role model. It betrays the values and morals you were brought up with.

I just feel sorry for the man you cunningly trapped with fake love, when all you are after is an escape from poverty.

Join the whatsapp group

Grab the mop

cooooooks:
This is not a gender war.

Men. Stop bankrolling women with nothing to offer. Stop toasting every woman and girl you see on the road. How won't a girl be entitled when grown men have been toasting her since she was 12? How won't she be entitled to pay men back when someone close to home had sex with her when she was 11??

Women. Date only who you live and respect. Don't bankroll a man you despise just because he makes you feel good. Follow your heart and not your checklist.

These gender wars are meaningless.

The women don't realize that they cannot win an gender war. They fail to realize that they bloom only for a relatively shot period and they become withered. After the flowering age of between 16 to about 30, the only other value they possess is their intelligence, skills and education. A man can start his life at 50. So many abandon previous families and start a new one, ie Ojukwu, FFK, Danjuma and lots more. It's the women that eventually loses.

cooooooks:
*narcissist

You can't even spell.

I know right, spelling words correctly isn't one of my strong points

But you agree that women should run from them, right?

wirinet:
And mothers are forbidden from paying their children's school fees? Many people on this forum had their school fees paid by women - mothers, aunties, grand mothers.

And you have not seen irresponsible mothers who leave their children to suffer and sleep around with different men.

So what's wrong with men who mop? I don't understand what you are always getting at. Are you saying that a man should no mop or wash plates if he is chanced and his wife is not able to.

I stopped taking you serious after you mentioned Regina Daniels as a role model. It betrays the values and morals you were brought up with.

I just feel sorry for the man you cunningly trapped with fake love, when all you are after is an escape from poverty.

Where did I say Regina Daniel's is a role model?

She has a choice. What problem do you have with her choice. Imagine her marrying you and making the same mistake her mother made marrying her dad.

2 generations as a man's ladder?

Donot take me seriously I donot need your validation, i only need you to pay your kids school fees

That's all

Ybaby:
Join the whatsapp group

Grab the mop

Believe me, I would not mind. If fact I am in the office I am doing for my wife right now and people are mopping the floor, I would not mind joining them.

wirinet:
Believe me, I would not mind. If fact I am in the office I am doing for my wife right now and people are mopping the floor, I would not mind joining them.

I know.

Ybaby:
Where did I say Regina Daniel's is a role model?

She has a choice. What problem do you have with her choice. Imagine her marrying you and making the same mistake her mother made marrying her dad.

2 generations as a man's ladder?

Donot take me seriously I donot need your validation, i only need you to pay your kids school fees

That's all

You obviously did not follow the Reginald Daniels story. The reason given by Reginald Daniels father for the break up of the marriage was definitely not lack of provision from the father. He accused the mother of infidelity. I am sure the man realized that Rita Daniels was only after gold and had no iota of love for him. The father is a Lagos based lawyer and he has raised another family.

KingSatan:
Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus".

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!

Best summary of an entitled woman

Sixfeetbelle:
It's funny how you guys leave the point of the message and latch onto another to show your prowess in ridiculing women. All these your epistle about being a grandfather and all that hardly explains or verifies what the Op said. The topic is on an entitled man. Focus on that.

The OP said nothing in particular

Sixfeetbelle:
Could you be a dear and point out how to know an entitled man?

Call the OP to do so

[s]

xendra:
Nobody is as entitled as a Nigerian man, yet they'd be the first to scream "entitled" towards a lady for asking anything in return.

plus their level of insecurity and low self esteem is out of this world.

[/s]