His and He’s are the same to you madam teacher. Is this what u teach your students?

This generation of women want to be mother instead of wife to their man.

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,

I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had, I served in a village. While we were serving he doesn’t give me much, I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place. He had a roommate and I didn’t. Before he gives me any money we always had issues, not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to. I don’t even ask for much.

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year, got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up, his just passed, I told him that I would be expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday, that if money comes he will send but right now he has no money, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me, he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away and he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us.

Am tired, he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on his friends and it's annoying. I think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it. I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him. He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

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BayMc:




a gift?
oh'kay, right.
buhh it goes both way.
It's not as if "gifting" is something mandatorily ultroneous for the boyfriend alone.
The girlfriend should have this inbuilt mindset of this "gifting" as well.

no one is blinded by any fiddle-de-dee, and there's no tangible need to fuss over a girl's sentence as if it's gonna add a billion dollars into my bank account pls!

Okay.... Gifting should be vice versa... I have taken note... Some guys are naturally stingy though... We should be careful not to mix it up....


Plus don't mind me I am an old soul in a young girl's body... I like all these sweet nothings.. Romantic stuff... I don't fancy feminism and I don't have an entitlement mentality...

predon004:
Hmm... This story is touching. But hear me out. Dating a woman does not mean I'm solely responsible for her welfare. To be honest, most times it's pressure like this that push guys into doing illegal and shallow deals. Not all u see on tvs and soap opras are real. U broke up with him. Tomorrow, the right lady that would brush him up would come.
In this Era I see no reason why this should be happening. It shows u didn't love him in the first place. Mind you before you criticize me... Love is all about decisions. So, from ur explanations, ur mindset of love is based on what he brings to the table.
Sister and sisters, love is all about imperfections and corrections. You left him at a very wrong time(I'm just saying)
How many of us Don listen ➕ watch Rude boy song reason with me.
Na so ee de be for so many ladies.

Meanwhile my girlfriend birthday is coming up next week and I don't have chi chi. Let me see if we will break up �

I dey feel u Bruh...

Stefenijoan002:
When I look at most comment here I know is not from the real men but all those boys thinking they've grown up ! Men will always be men n boys we always b boys !and worst is they're still eating their mother's food as such it has becloud their sense of reasoning !which any of you here would allow your sister to be in this kind of relationship where the guy practically does nothing but prefer to follow his friends around like is future depends on then !plz dearie don't listen to some of the noise most of them made all in the name of I must comment by displaying their stupidity n ignorance I must commend u you did the right thing by breaking up with him coz he's not serious about his life !i advice u settle down n look for one who has future ambition for himself n don't rush it trust me you'll be fine .

Nobody here will ever advise his sister to be a liability.


Get that to your fucking skull

You women need to change your mentality and sense of entitlement, the way women about a man not spending is hard earned money makes me wonder. Did you work with him?? Beside he didn't lose anything. So it's better that way.
Even if he spend N1m on top you, you still fit break up with am and he will regret spending on you but right now na stalement

StrongandMighty:

Since you're working take care of yourself, He's neither your father nor your husband.
It's better you change the notion that someone you're dating owes you a financial responsibility.
Sister he doesn't owe you a dime.

I agree with with sir.
let her move on,i pray she doesn't move from frying pan to fire..getting a dedicated guy is very difficult just as getting s good job...before you have one,100 guys don chop you clean mouth.
Good luck to you in your search girl.

bonnyhope:


It is this attitude that keeps most of you till 40 and still looking for partners

Prostitute mentality

Don't confuse stinginess with being smart.... Read the OP's story again then you can make your comment properly...


P.S, I aired out my opinion, you should too. You don't need to mention me....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Hd4woYWdKA

My story is very long to type with words so I made a simple video.
I started with just 10,000 NGN
This video would explain the strategies I used to turn 10,000 NGN into 20,000,000 NGN in just two months. Watch video till the end and I promise you would learn something very new.

ume1000:
and girls would always be liability

With all due respect there is a big difference between a man (independent in making decision ) and a boy ( dependent on women to make decisions )

I hate it when guys generalized things .have u search lately how boys not men have become lazy waiting for a woman to feed them !to them it's smartness but I tell u is foolishness n let me tell u if u say ur gf is a liability I'll believe you coz she's your babe .if you had said lady I would have answer u but since u said girls is OK coz there's a big difference there just the way there re men n boys.

Positivechick:
I don’t even demand and he knows it . Financially I am okay, I work and I still got family by my side . So I lack nothing and demand nothing . I really want him to actually save , if he didn’t spend so much on he’s birthday, and told me hes saving for something. Trust me I won’t be bothered

sister, if he had given you money for your birthday, he won't have been stingy and there will be no need for this. And you say you don't demanding.

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Sorry to say but this is rubbish. Quote the girl well:it means she mostly talk about the future and the guy isn't concerned. I must say any1 that neglects the 'future' isn't on the right track, I was did but that is a mistake I can't repeat. Comparing this situation to 'ACRIMONY ' is absurd because there Robert brought the idea while Melinda used mom's inheritance to back Roberts idea while in this one the girl is bringing idea of which the guy doesn't care. Bro if you're in her shoes will you still be in the relationship?? I bet she ending it isn't mostly because the guy not spending on her day but he's lack of planning in general

OP you took the right decision, I just hope you find som1 good.

Ladylite:

Wow, you have really suffered.
But are you sure you don't have low self esteem?

For you to cope and continue with a burden of a man, with a man who is proud enough not to hustle.

Babe, you should really study more books on relationship so you know that you are not in one, you are in a disaster waiting to happen.

Don't waste your time. Walk away, he may blow later or become rich... It does not matter. Go and watch the movie ACRIMONY... Then you will receive sense.

You are in a relationship with Covid19 in human form. Pls have self respect enough to leave and stay single till you meet a man that complements you.

Lamanii22:



It should be reciprocated too....

Going by what what she wrote...


Did she get him anything for his birthday?

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,

I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had, I served in a village. While we were serving he doesn’t give me much, I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place. He had a roommate and I didn’t. Before he gives me any money we always had issues, not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to. I don’t even ask for much.

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year, got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up, his just passed, I told him that I would be expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday, that if money comes he will send but right now he has no money, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me, he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away and he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us.

Am tired, he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on his friends and it's annoying. I think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it. I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him. He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

Na woman like you be Linda Ikeji....think outside the box and help yourself and stop depending on man for stipends.

Lamanii22:



A girl would reciprocate.... I feel like every Nigerian guy is at war with all the Nigerian women lol.... Cause y'all cannot air your opinion without hurling some demeaning words towards the female gender... I think it is rather childish....


The pussy is not just a thing... She's putting herself at risks too... Infections, STDs even her spiritual life....

"The pussy is not just a thing... She's putting herself at risks too... Infections, STDs even her spiritual life"

and a dick is just a thing?!

so the boyfriend isn't at risk of the infections, STDs, and spiritual life?!


you sound as if the girlfriend is doing the boyfriend a favour by opting to have sex with him!
oh'kay, so the girlfriend won't enjoy the sex too?
on sex matters, both party enjoys!

and the way virtually all nigeria girls reciprocates is mainly by "sex" and most nigeria guys don't see this as a big deal buhh would rather accept it like that!

there's nothing reciprocating about "sex".
It's enjoyed by both party, and the girlfriend should erase the "reciprocating by sex" mentality cos there's nothing reciprocating about it!

Lamanii22:



The OP is doing well for herself so you're the fool here.... Oponu!

She is doing well for herself and she can't spend her own money

Still want to take from the poor boy who is not even working

Most girls are selfish

Positivechick:
nope , he does not do jack for me , not a single thing . This is the first time since almost a year I am asking him for money. He has chosen not to give , n I hv chosen to break up and focus on myself continue paying my bills without him .

I like the fact that you broke up with him because he has no vision. Mehn u can't even begin to imagine the trauma you would go through in marriage with a lazy ,arrogant and vision less man. The other reason is a totally different ball game. Girl you need to reset your brain, you being in a relationship doesn't mean u must earn money from your partner. Entitlement mentality is something we Nigerian girls should get rid of. You are not his responsibility.
If he wants to give you money on your birthday,its totally fine, but it has to be his decision and not a demand from you. Did you buy anything for him on his birthday? When did love turn to meal ticket and poverty alleviation program? Please change your mindset and be an independent lady.

Positivechick:
u are not dating him , I am. u speak base on ur own relationship and life in general , But I bet u can’t deal with my boyfriend for even 6months . But yes o find faults . I shouldn’t tell my boyfriend what I want for my birthday! Someone who hasn't given be nothing for a year, and still didn’t use his mind ?? SeeNah I don’t agree with ur perspective.

Y are u running away from all this questions?


What did you get him on his birthday?!!!!!!

Humanoid01:

What exactly is the problem? Is it that he doesn't take care of you or that he's not serious about getting a job?

how would he takes care of her when he's jobless and proud? Whose money would he uses to care of her?

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Humanoid01:

What exactly is the problem? Is it that he doesn't take care of you or that he's not serious about getting a job?

Positivechick:
I should help him grow while he doesn’t take care of me , no matter how little. Am sorry I can’t do that .

U be Baby? Girl, take responsibility of your life. Simple!

SweetCunt97:
I doubt she'd get even an sms from such guy on her birthday hence d reminder. We saw how you got mouth watering cakes and chocolates on your birthday o... I'm sure it felt good atleast so abeg free d Op.

Lmao, but I didn’t remind him na. I have a problem with her telling him what she expects. If a man ain’t doing this, it is either he doesn’t rate a sister or he doesn’t have the resources to. If it is the latter, mehn...she should understand. I don’t know how to understand, that is why I like men with money.

Lamanii22:




Don't confuse stinginess with being smart.... Read the OP's story again then you can make your comment properly...


P.S, I aired out my opinion, you should too. You don't need to mention me....

Hi Lamani! I've seen many of your comments on NL and I must say that you seem to be a really nice and sensible lady [seem to be, because I haven't met you in person]. If this is who you really are, then I think that's a gem-like feature you got there. I just felt I needed to compliment you. Take care.

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"The pussy is not just a thing... She's putting herself at risks too... Infections, STDs even her spiritual life"

and a dick is just a thing?!

so the boyfriend isn't at risk of the infections, STDs, and spiritual life?!


you sound as if the girlfriend is doing the boyfriend a favour by opting to have sex with him!
oh'kay, so the girlfriend won't enjoy the sex too?
on sex matters, both party enjoys!

and the way virtually all nigeria girls reciprocates is mainly by "sex" and most nigeria guys don't see this as a big deal buhh would rather accept it like that!

there's nothing reciprocating about "sex".
It's enjoyed by both party, and the girlfriend should erase the "reciprocating by sex" mentality cos there's nothing reciprocating about it![/quot
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I didn't say she should reciprocate the sex... Sex should be consensual.... Reciprocate gestures is what I mean....

Lamanii22:



Okay.... Gifting should be vice versa... I have taken note... Some guys are naturally stingy though... We should be careful not to mix it up....


Plus don't mind me I am an old soul in a young girl's body... I like all these sweet nothings.. Romantic stuff... I don't fancy feminism and I don't have an entitlement mentality...

yeah, right.
some guys are naturally stingy.

"sweet nothings, romantic stuffs"
they're great!
they're spicy!!

"feminism, entitlement mentality"?!
good to know you're not a fan of those.

See how guys full this thread and be yabbing this girl ooooo

SweetCunt97:
Just shut it! When he was eating her food without contributing money he didn't know it was shameless? Such insensitive men need to choke on that free food to gain sense.

Abeg shut ya mouth. He sure me sey she chop the guy pass. She just no talk am for hia.

makydebbie:
I'm only worried about her grammar for a teacher sha.
Who gives a fvck about her entitlement mentality for buyday gift.

E taya person

Dump his ass already!

steveekeoma:
how would he takes care of her when he's jobless and proud? Whose money would he uses to care of her?

Lol I believe that's a question for her.