annford:





It was wrong for you to have gone through her chat because you'd have frowned at it if reverse were the case. Personally, I don't think it is in your place to judge her or treat her any different just because you dug up some stuffs about her. If you must let her go, you might as well sit her down, tell her your findings, get her to see her wrong and just hope she changes. I had a similar experience. My Wife and I had met a girl who was an unapologetic lesbian. We did all we could to change her but she just didn't want to change. We tried all we could but she remained adamant. She even got pregnant and didn't know who's baby it was. She later started sleeping with everything male in our neighbourhood. Well, she presently has two children by two different men that she doesn't even know their whereabouts. After trying for months to change her, we had to let her go because at some point, she started falling in love with me and I will never cheat on my wife. My wife and I always gave her goof money, clothing's and foodstuffs but she was neck-deep into sex ( casual sex). I'd advise you try rehabilitating her but if it doesn't work, cut her loose.

kalmebad:


I didn't read all d comments, I ran through page 1 and this last page.. and when I see good responsible remarks I know.

Op. .let a family member of hers bn on d known or better still keep d evidence while ur wife advice her of d consequences of her escaped which seems fun to her.. should she dies in our house in bid of her abortion. Naija police will turn u first suspect

And let me tell people.. nothing takes God by surprise...when HE wants to expose u..it's a little mistake..and may b that's why d girls phone spoilt at first...think on this reason

U all shouting privacy will b d first to abuse someone..go and marry, or ur mates don give birth finish..what r u waiting for? U forgot it's someone privacy life....you all sychophants

Grandmeister:

You guys just don't get it! What if she does during an abortion and her family gets to know? Their first accusation will be on the Op! And from then on he will be on the defensive...his story will come to nairaland and most including you will judge him guilty before any evidence or his side of the story..even with his own story most will not believe him! Infact they will accuse him of raping her and giving her money for abortion! It's so easy for his life to be ruined in this manner...so fvcking easy!

Nezzjnr:
You guys are saying OP should mind his business... For what exactly??
Didn't you see where OP stated that he's like a Fatherly figure to her and she's different from the others

This girl is still a minor working as a sales rep... If something bad happens to her... All fingers will be pointing towards OP.

litaninja:
Another reason why nigeria will continue is this manner.
How does her Facebook account relate to your business?

OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

Dobson43:
Quick points here:

You were supposed to mind your business.

You crossed a line poking your nose in her personal affairs.

Being her Boss doesn't give you the right to judge her. She is under contract to serve you in a certain capacity. Stick to that capacity.

If her atitude to work affects your business in anyway, then you can let her off.

Why should you be bothered as a father? What's the point of drinking paracetamol on another man's headache?

If you had used this amount of time in snooping around in pushing your business forward, you would actually enjoy better patronage.


You should draw a line as regards your relationship between yourself and your workers.


It appears you have feelings for this lady thus your uneasiness that she has underperformed in your own estimation. Kill that feeling. It's her life, let her define it how it suits her

This time actually do mind your business.

makydebbie:
The way Nigerians don't know how to mind their business amazes me. I was thinking you'll say she doesn't work well at her job. You're just sad she played you, it's your ego. You'll tell me how her business relates with her private life.

makydebbie:
The way Nigerians don't know how to mind their business amazes me. I was thinking you'll say she doesn't work well at her job. You're just sad she played you, it's your ego. You'll tell me how her business relates with her private life.

OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

Amotolongbo:
We should learn how to separate business from personal life.

She is your sales girl, relate with her strictly on business and show less concern on her personal life.

The way I’m reading your message, there is already a growing emotion in you already towards the girl, the reason you felt so highly disappointed and wanna lay her off, not because she is underperforming but the way she chose to live her life, which should be less of your concern.

In as much she is performing her responsibilities to your satisfaction and not using her “wayward” life to affect your business like she did the first time she went for abortion, leave her alone.

The only reason why you can lay her off is if she goes on abortion again and that makes her to take a time out of work and underperforming.

OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

Biodun1929:


You're the dumb one if you don't understand what I wrote.

ehinmowo:


Oga make una keep quiet. Forming holier than thou. Father figure ko mother figure ni. Biko how is 21 years a minor? because country bad and she working as a sales rep bah? What in the world even made the idiot oga to go and check her INBOX. It's not as if inbox is the home page you would first see when you open a webpage.

What was he snooping around for? He wants to bang the poor girl. I can bet my balls that that nigga has sent obscene messages to several girls on fb. Imagine someone displaying your private life in the open because he pays you some useless money that is not even enough to eat food in fast food? Even God does not display people's privacy in the open.

Why is it so difficult for people to keep business strictly business? because he pays her one useless 10 or 20k per month which is not up to 20 Naira per hour gives him right to pry into her private life. In a sane country that guy could go to jail for this nonsense.

Note this is not to support her way of life. But first a 21-year old is an adult. And the boss is not in the position to do anything about it.

CAPSLOCKED:


VERY OLODO MAN. I HARDLY BLAME HIM ANYWAY IT'S ALREADY PART OF US TO ALWAYS WANT TO DICTATE FOR PEOPLE HOW TO HANDLE THEIR PERSONAL LIVES.

eni4real:
Fake irresponsible, chameleon Adult

SpecialAgent:


Actually getting involved is what will complicate things, Her friends and people around KNOW EXACTLY WHAT SHE DOES. In a Nigerian community you can't hide being a sl#t especially one who has aborted before. Infact getting himself into this will make people see him as one of her fuvkboys.

FYI, even his wife knows the girl is wayward, na only the op didn't notice. Am sure his other workers know too.

Some people here have no experience in dealing with this kind of thing, I know som1 who meddle in one of his employees private life in d name of correcting her. When shyt get bad, she said he was the one who impregnated her. Na us & some community people save that elder by proving her wayward life.

eduwizard:
Don't call me demented but I truly suspect that this man has been sleeping with the sales girl and is only shocked to have discovered her sexual waywardness. He's jealous and needs us to provide him options to deal with the girl.

OritaIbadan:

I have discussed that already with my wife, she said she would talk with her provided she cooperate

makydebbie:
The way Nigerians don't know how to mind their business amazes me. I was thinking you'll say she doesn't work well at her job. You're just sad she played you, it's your ego. You'll tell me how her business relates with her private life.

karnap:
how does that affect her doing your job,this is the reasons your wife change topic, you seems to like this girl, since you believed she is faithful, what make you.to check her box? and you feels sad, you love this girl,but that is not your problems, allow the girl to do her job.

Grandmeister:

Common sense is really not common..your case exemplifies this.

Liliantalks:
evidence asin ? Better craze Dey worry Una .

Biodun1929:


Ode! Stop using emotions to think, and think logically.