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OP.. I really want to know because I keep hearing that majority of successful Nigerian Americans are the 5% or 10% of the Elite? How true is this please.

BornRicch:
OP.. I really want to know because I keep hearing that majority of successful Nigerian Americans are the 5% or 10% of the Elite? How true is this please.

It is a lie, watch American news, watch american business news, watch american military news, watch american religious news. Watch american education news.

Now, tell me, how many Nigerian sounding surnames do you hear, basically none.

American elites are made up of mostly black americans and white americans but I am seeing a new elites in tech that are mostly indians and chinese

flyingpig:
Abegg give us real situation on ground as with those Nigerian-American girls.

This guy dey talk paper talk

We want reality talk

No sexual innuendo

Lol. I have a thread about it na.

Samiah33:
Is cooking for a man control? Jeez na wa for us oo forming woke. The Latinos and Indians still cook for their families even the Americans cook for their families so why the F would it be a bad thing for a Naija gal to cook for your family. If my wife works longer hours than me then when I come back I can cook for her( to make time for family discussion and night play)and the children( because I can’t allow my children to starve)but insisting that I should do the cooking no way for me.

Why are y’all so angry over that cooking aspect
Are you marrying your wife because of cooking? If you didn’t get married in the first place won’t you make your own meals?

I now understand why op added slave to that number 6...

pDudd:
Lol. I have a thread about it na.

Those ones na akata african-american girls

We want nigerian-american girls stories

We want to see their pant finish

BornRicch:
OP.. I really want to know because I keep hearing that majority of successful Nigerian Americans are the 5% or 10% of the Elite? How true is this please.

The average Nigerian-American is relatively successful. Has college degrees, a good-paying job, and cool kids. Statistically, Nigerian-Americans are the most educated in the US. Most black doctors in the US are also of Nigerian descent. The statistics go on and on!

Although, there are probably those who are struggling but I have never come across any Nigerian American who does not have at least a college degree or who is unable to meet his or her basic needs.

Tobsam237:
Cons: * Most have manners issues * Most prefer a white guy over you and will gladly drop their standards * Most see marrying a 9ja immigrant has helping him and expect you to be a simp * Most will gladly send you to jail if you dare them in marraige * Most take advantage of the system
But some are wonderful creatures

introduce your friends to nairaland. they can have a feeling of real naija here.

Crispels:
No. That's Fehinti. She's Nigerian-American and she just graduated from GSU in Atlanta.

introduce your friends to this forum, pls.

sexylassie2:
It is a lie, watch American news, watch american business news, watch american military news, watch american religious news. Watch american education news.

Now, tell me, how many Nigerian sounding surnames do you hear, basically none.

American elites are made up of mostly black americans and white americans but I am seeing a new elites in tech that are mostly indians and chinese

actually, whites, American Jews and Asians dominate the top rank in all American industries, even black Americans are at the bottom rung in american society

OLDESTWARRIBOY:
OP, what should we do with this Information?
Abi you no say dat Ewu Trump dn ban Nigerians

BTW after all the suffer from Nigeria gals for Naija you cor manage escape go Jan, you no see any other country girl follow na cor Naija girls hiding under the name 'Nigeria-American'? That's your village people follow you come be that

mad o

sexylassie2:
It is a lie, watch American news, watch american business news, watch american military news, watch american religious news. Watch american education news.

Now, tell me, how many Nigerian sounding surnames do you hear, basically none.

American elites are made up of mostly black americans and white americans but I am seeing a new elites in tech that are mostly indians and chinese

Oh well, I thought about it myself. I keep hearing it from some of the African American podcasts and a few Nigerians saying most or the majoring of the successful Nigerians are the super rich. Thank you.

Crispels:
The average Nigerian-American is relatively successful. Has college degrees, a good-paying job, and cool kids. Statistically, Nigerian-Americans are the most educated in the US. Most black doctors in the US are also of Nigerian descent. The statistics go on and on!

Although, there are probably those who are struggling but I have never come across any Nigerian American who does not have at least a college degree or who is unable to meet his or her basic needs.

Thank you.

Crispels:
No one should bash Naija-based girls or guys. Life is a process.
But the reality is: within the larger American fabric, most of these Nigerian-Americans identify as NIGERIANS within America because people know there is no way their roots are in America - not when your names give you away as someone of Nigerian descent.

If you watch video interviews of famous Nigerian-Americans like Tomi Adeyemi or Nneka Ogwumike, they usually introduce themselves as Nigerians even though they are Americans by birth and upbringing. Some of my cousins were born in North America and they’ve lived here for over 25years now and some days ago: I saw how one of my cousins introduced herself to a Zoom meeting as ”a Nigerian who grew up in the US”. Being Nigerian or African is not as simple as most people think. Our ancestral roots are really strong.

In essence, when we use terms like ”Nigerian girls or Nigerian guys”, we cannot limit it to only Nigerians who live in Nigeria - to a very large extent - from the prism of the global community: such terms describe Nigerians in the diaspora as well.

WOw. You Real SmARt. KudOs!

Crispels:
That’s not gonna be easy. These are not Oyinbo or Black American girls who don't really understand Naija. Nigerian-American girls usually have families like cousins, grandparents, aunties and uncles back home. So, if you are dating one of them and you decide to play her - you may play into the hands of her relatives back home.

And then, this is 2020. We men need to leave behind all these naughty tricks and start doing better. Faithfulness is cute and romantic.



Cc farano, Rocktation

Lalasticlala Seun


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why can't we all just get along? Wife in Nigeria or no, I'm a Nigerian American in JeRSey. Won't get mad if my man has one. It's not that I don't tRUly love him, but that happens, life goes on. People getting above these conceRns each day

bro if obly naija was devlop loads of africans men will claim being nigerians

olisaEze:
Nice write up Op, news about Naija shouldn’t be all about scammers and the likes.

But for me, I’m not going to date any Naija gal that just moved to the states neither am I going to bring any gal over as wife! Those ones have been so totally Nigerianized that they’re worse than the real Akata! Even buhari will be shocked at what those ones are capable of subjecting an honest Naija broda to. But for d Naija guys in yankee, we dey try sha . I’ve seen some other African dudes claiming Naija when dey think dey can get away with it. Funny how their folks back in their countries keep hating on us.

Dora Akunyili (May her soul continue to RIP) said it all; Naija Good People, Great Nation!!

Do you notice most nigerian females all want to be nurses

InvertedHammer:
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The toxic ones are the American wannabes who migrated from Nigeria. Like a kid in a candy store, she still fails to separate reality from fantasy. The ones that once they get their first paycheck will start claiming "miss Independence" without fully understanding what it entails. 6 months in US, she will draw tattoos and get weird piercings in weird places. They take solace in knowing that when everything else fails, nursing is there for all comers.

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Heavensent01:
we are in 21century bro but unfortunately you're just crawling out of 13th centuries. I have a lot of friends who travelled abroad, met their wives and happily married till date and same as my uncle who met his Nigeria america friend and till date they're together


it's unfortunate you are using stereotype in a naive manner but calling your attention to that abnormality, you're adamant in disgracing your self publicly



there are bad eggs everywhere, goto magistrate court across the country today and see a lot of divorce cases waiting for hearing yet you're exonerating Nigeria ladies from lady's unavoidable attitude.


you're just so naive, your woman might be fúcking one dick outside yet you're forming what's not

Lolss. Believe me, I no read wetin you write. I no sabi grammer. I don tell u my own

Crispels:
Nigerian-Americans to a very large extent, are Nigerians who were born and/or raised by Nigerian parents in the United States. Most of them were born to Nigerian immigrant families - many of whom migrated to Yankee during the ”visa lottery and green card regime”. Some prominent Nigerian American girls are Tomi Adeyemi, Chineye Ogwumike, Nneka Ogwumike, Arike Ogunbowale, Oyinye Iweala and many more.

In the course of my experience studying and living in America, I’ve interacted with so many Nigerian-Americans and these are some of my observations.

This thread is a response to previous threads on dating African Americans and immigrant Nigerian women(those who migrated to the US from Naija as adults - some in their late 20s and some in their early 30s, 40s etc) in the USA. This particular thread could help guide prospective Nigerian foreign students or immigrants in America - who hope to end up with one of their sisters or brothers that were born and raised in the diaspora.

(1). Most of them(Nigerian-Americans) are more Nigerian than you think.

There is an erroneous belief among many Nigerians back home who feel once people leave Nigeria - they stop being a Nigerian. To be honest, I'm more Nigerian right now than I was while growing up in Naija. For many Nigerian-Americans, the story is the same. Most(not all) of the Nigerian-Americans I’ve met here are so deeply rooted in the Nigerian culture that I'm sometimes left in awe. Many of them have Nigerian flags in their apartments and if you check their Instagram profiles - you are very likely to see the smiley of a Nigerian flag there. And please: don't think ”patriotism is sweet from the abroad”.

There are many Nigerian-Americans who go home every 6months - they know how difficult things could be in Naija but the reality is: once you have a Nigerian ancestry - you and your descendants are forever Nigerians. Thus, you can never disassociate yourself from your roots. Unless you just want to foo.l yourself. I know of Nigerian immigrants (with a US green card) who left the US(sold their properties) and returned to Naija to hustle because living abroad does not feel like home to many Nigerians.

In states like Texas, Maryland, New York, Georgia, California, Illinois, and others with tens of thousands of Nigerians, it is common to meet Nigerian-American girls who eat only Nigerian food(they don't like American food despite being born and raised there). They also know the songs of Davido, Wiz Kid, Burna Boy, Tiwa, Falz, Zlatan, Naira Marley and the likes in manners typical of a Lagos babe. That explains why whenever these Naija artistes come to the US - their concerts are usually sold out. Nigerian -Americans no dey joke with Afrobeat music oo.

(2). Nigerian -American girls are super ambitious and successful

Wait! If you are a Naija guy hoping to date a Naija-Americana, you better up your game now! These girls are not joking mehn. 99% of the Nigerian-American girls around me are all pursuing careers that pay at least 6-figures annually. There was a Nigerian-American girl I met in New York. She had her first degree from Harvard. An MPH(Master of Public Health) from Yale and she's about resuming medical school at another ivy league school. In a system like America, with the field she plans to work in, such a fellow is likely to end up earning at least $500,000 pay in a few years. Her story is similar to that of most Nigerian-American girls here. I have never met a Naija-Americana who is not interested in higher degrees or high paying careers in America like medicine, nursing, tech, finance, pharmacy, sports, business/investment/investment banking, trade, engineering, consulting, etc.

So, if you plan to date/marry a Naija-Americana, you must be ambitious, honest, and hardworking. Otherwise, you go play second fiddle tire.

(3). Their parents and family are heavily involved in their lives.

One of the major reasons why they are super successful is because of their parents. Most Nigerian-Americans live in America but they were raised in Nigerian homes. Thus, many of their parents raised them like Naija kids - read your books. Work hard. Be excellent and always aim for the top. Pursue high-paying careers. All of these coupled with the enabling environment and opportunities that America provides make them who they are. Many of their parents give them the specs of the husbands/wives they want them to have. I’ve seen cases where Nigerian-American girls refused to date guys because they were not ambitious and successful enough. In fact, within the Nigerian community here, there is ”elitism”(if you are a young Nigerian chap and you are not well educated or you don't have a good-paying career job, many Nigerian-Americans won't even roll with you. This is a story for another day).

(4). They don't really need your money.

They want you to be successful. Be well educated and have a great career but they don't plan to leech off you. To the basics. Whenever I go out with Nigerian-American girls here, they always want to pay for their own food and drinks. In fact, some of them have offered to pay for mine - even though I invited them for lunch/dinner. I’ve had arguments with a few of them for always wanting to split bills when I was the one who planned the treat. Hence, don't expect them to disturb you for money related to makeup, hair, accessories, and the likes. Although, it is always good to surprise them with gifts and flowers - if you plan to date or marry any of them.

(5).Many of them place a premium on physical features(being tall is a big deal to them)

Especially when they are young(let's say below the age of 25), many Nigerian-American girls love guys with certain physical features like height(6’7 tall), muscles, beards and the likes. They love guys that are athletic and super clean. So, apart from being career-driven, be prepared to hit the gym to grow some mass if you wan see them date.
Although, as they grow older, they tend to care less about these physical features. Regardless, they always love and prefer tall and clean guys who have great careers. Their ideal man is a guy who is physically appealing, clean, intelligent, career-driven and has a great taste of fashion.

(6). They are not your cooks or slaves

This is the American part of them. If you know you want a wife that will constantly cook for you, clean the house and do other numerous chores. Sorry. Most Nigerian-American girls are not for you. You, as a man must learn how to cook as well. Clean the bathroom. Wash dishes and other ways you could be of assistance to her. They are not your typical ”villa girls”. If you plan to date/marry a Nigerian-American babe, be prepared to split the cookings/chores - the same way you will always split many of your bills.

(7). They can be sometimes arrogant and snobby

Many of them can ghost guys for Africa sha especially when they find you socially awkward or not possessing the physical features they desire in their man or you don't look like what they prefer. I find this to be somewhat childish tho. It's part of the unnecessary ”growing class division” within the Nigerian community here.

(. Treat them right. Take good care of them and support them. They are our sisters and brothers!

CAVEAT: These points were made based on my own personal experience. Another person may have a slightly different experience. ONE LOVE NAIJA ❤️.

Well said. But do you know that it is because of this mentality that hundreds of thousands of them are still searching. By the time they are over 35 going to 40, they would have become so desperate and willing to settle for any guy. Na so e be.

All these stories for ordinary kpekus? They can do this, they can do that, can they turn water onto wine? Can they turn Buhari into an intelligent, untribalistic human being? Mtchew

EmekaBlue:
Those spoilt children with their sharp american accent mouth...especially d yoruba descendants

they r mostly ugly sef

NEXT

no

lamentor78:
They should date themselves, I prefer my local babe here, ....oh their parents they look for husband for their daughters back home it can't work.....make dem carry their bad manner marry trump

we sorry now love you

Samiah33:
Call it whatever you like, but if cooking is your idea control then I pity your generations coming. I wash my clothes( cuz I feel no one can wash it better) I cook cuz I love it and can do it very well, I do the dishes cuz it’s fun and can clean the house cuz cleanliness is next to godliness. But insisting I do it or sharing the job for me is a no no, I don’t care if you are Naomi Campbell or whatever as long as you are married to me then Madam it’s your JOB, if e pain you hug transformer. Simps them

Marry someone in 9ja then because your mentality won’t work in the first world

Elder0001:
Why are y’all so angry over that cooking aspect
Are you marrying your wife because of cooking? If you didn’t get married in the first place won’t you make your own meals?

I now understand why op added slave to that number 6...

Then you know not what slavery is more so I was never angry about cooking just confused as to hove cooking is related to slavery. You think money is everything? Well this is matter of choice

HeavenlyCherub:
Marry someone in 9ja then because your mentality won’t work in the first world

You think the British or Europeans or the Latinos or Indians don’t cook for their husbands? A minor thing like cooking na wa oo. Na pride dey kill everybody here oo

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Sparro:
Lolss. Believe me, I no read wetin you write. I no sabi grammer. I don tell u my own

ok

osazuwa23:
Do you notice most nigerian females all want to be nurses

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Nursing is very lucrative in US. Most importantly it doesn't discriminate. It is the path of least resistance and guarantees daily bread. It will get one to the level of Nigerian definition of rich.

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it does discriminate certain patients dont wnt to be treated by people tha dont look them. Also racial disparities in the health care system where certain racial groups get better treatment then others . Also alll sorts of diseases are there it a no thanks for me.

InvertedHammer:
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Nursing is very lucrative in US. Most importantly it doesn't discriminate. It is the path of least resistance and guarantees daily bread. It will get one to the level of Nigerian definition of rich.

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ernieboy:
actually, whites, American Jews and Asians dominate the top rank in all American industries, even black Americans are at the bottom rung in american society

Black american aren't bottom rung in american society.

About 3% of African Americans are in the upper 1% class, 12% were upper middle class, 40% were middle class,25% were working class and 21% were living in poverty.

To be realistic, African Americans are doing great. When you break down the numbers about 11 million bafrican americans are in poverty compared with 17 million whites

osazuwa23:
it does discriminate certain patients dont wnt to be treated by people tha dont look them. Also racial disparities in the health care system where certain racial groups get better treatment then others . Also alll sorts of diseases are there it a no thanks for me.

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By discrimination I mean the profession doesn't care if you are tall or short, fat or skinny, ugly or beautiful, black/white or brown. If you are human, breathe and able to pass the tests (irrespective of your accent), you will be taken. The door is open to all. What you see in the field after graduation is up to you (each job has its highs and lows). And they are properly remunerated which makes it attractive to immigrants.
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sexylassie2:
Black american aren't bottom rung in american society.

About 3% of African Americans are in the upper 1% class, 12% were upper middle class, 40% were middle class,25% were working class and 21% were living in poverty.

To be realistic, African Americans are doing great. When you break down the numbers about 11 million bafrican americans are in poverty compared with 17 million whites

11 million for a minority group in terms of population is huge, what percentage of the black population is that viz a viz the percentage of 14 million whites to the entire white population. besides I was referring to the captains of the various biz sectors, they are mostly whites, Asians and american jews