OSUigboFlatHead:
Speak for people in your life alone. Maybe you're just very unlucky.

Riele:
Ofcourse , these is the kind of thread empty male barrels would love to read !


For all i know , Most men are trash !

Goddeywithme:
Good plan you have there. Thanks ma'am

One line in your comment caught my eye. You said he is a man who knows how to spoil his woman. And it seems you enjoy that. Which is excellent.

Just remember men like to be spoilt too (I know you have plans to do that).

You see, I am a man who loves and respects women as my equal. This has made me to enjoy the best of women. It has also meant I have no time for a woman who has entitlement mentality, who believes in equality of power but not equality of responsibilities. I believe women are equal to men, in power and in responsibilities.

From your past two comments, it seems to me you are a rare woman. You know what you want. You go for it. You treat men as your equal, in power and in responsibilities. THAT IS RARE. Kudos to you.

I hope young Nigerian ladies will learn from you. You are an inspiration.

Lightangel65:


Mum's from old times, the whores we have now can't turn moms

lavylilly:
So your man tells you he is not planning on having kids or getting married anytime soon as he is still sorting out his life... He tells you he wants to have his second degree, a proper house and a bigger car first. You sit there smiling with just a birth certificate thinking how 'lucky' a wife you'll be?
With the little he has, you ask for Brazilian hair and designer shoes. He goes to work and then straight to class after work. He leaves you in pyjamas in the morning and returns to find you in the same pyjamas in the evening. While he studies you watch 'African Magic' and 'Keeping Up with the Kardashians'. He comes back home to find pap and chicken in the microwave. The only serious conversation you ever have is about the type of groceries you guys need.

The only advice you give him is "Babe you need to buy a new pair of socks, the ones you bought last time are torn." Nothing intelligent comes out of your mouth. No plans of making your own life better. Yes you're are pretty but this days is all about what you are made off not beauty even pretty ladies don't marry handsome men if their pocket is empty, no doubt about that. But so is every second girl passing by.

Don't you realise that you're not doing anything a maid can't do? When he finishes studying, the first thing he will do is REPLACE HIS MAID. Because then he would be able to afford a maid and have a PROPER WIFE who has brains. That's when we are going hear your infamous last words, "I was with him through thick and thin when he had nothing, now that he is successful he thinks I am nothing."

Truth is, yes, you're right. You've always been NOTHING but a maid to him.

My dear, empower yourself to be the woman a successful man wants to be with... a woman who would be able to sustain her home if anything happens to his job or his health!

Good afternoon!

Iloveu2:


It's not too late to learn how to stop attracting these kind of men into your life. The First step is to stop portraying yourself as a TRASH. You really have to step up ur game.

lavylilly:
So your man tells you he is not planning on having kids or getting married anytime soon as he is still sorting out his life... He tells you he wants to have his second degree, a proper house and a bigger car first. You sit there smiling with just a birth certificate thinking how 'lucky' a wife you'll be?
With the little he has, you ask for Brazilian hair and designer shoes. He goes to work and then straight to class after work. He leaves you in pyjamas in the morning and returns to find you in the same pyjamas in the evening. While he studies you watch 'African Magic' and 'Keeping Up with the Kardashians'. He comes back home to find pap and chicken in the microwave. The only serious conversation you ever have is about the type of groceries you guys need.

The only advice you give him is "Babe you need to buy a new pair of socks, the ones you bought last time are torn." Nothing intelligent comes out of your mouth. No plans of making your own life better. Yes you're are pretty but this days is all about what you are made off not beauty even pretty ladies don't marry handsome men if their pocket is empty, no doubt about that. But so is every second girl passing by.

Don't you realise that you're not doing anything a maid can't do? When he finishes studying, the first thing he will do is REPLACE HIS MAID. Because then he would be able to afford a maid and have a PROPER WIFE who has brains. That's when we are going hear your infamous last words, "I was with him through thick and thin when he had nothing, now that he is successful he thinks I am nothing."

Truth is, yes, you're right. You've always been NOTHING but a maid to him.

My dear, empower yourself to be the woman a successful man wants to be with... a woman who would be able to sustain her home if anything happens to his job or his health!

Good afternoon!

lavylilly:
Provide link to the write up

luminouz:


Sorry ma'am, unless I'm getting paid to do that,I can't start searching over the million posts NL has.


Are you saying you sat down and drafted this article yourself?

Or11:


Lazy man . Found it in less than a minute. Oya let the breeze blow and open fowl yansh

https://www.nairaland.com/2794994/dear-girls

prekumohtim:




Why do ladies always feel that they are doing men a favour whenever they have sex ? Sex is enjoyed by both parties that's if there's anything like enjoyment in it. You don't do a man favour by having sex with him. Can you be more skilful than the prostitute in sex. Does it mean without sex you don't have anything to offer. There's no visionary man that can keep a woman who has no vision , if all she thinks about is just about marriage and shopping. Stop defending the wrong thing. The truth is painful, but it must be told.

Or11:


You are welcome, another one

https://www.nairaland.com/2801533/ladies-wise-up

https://www.nairaland.com/2784123/what-okada-men-lagos-look (third post on here)

And there's more, so I guess the real author is unknown.

livebyday:


Helping someone get a job? Next thing I should lecture and teach nuclear physics ?

Is this an academy ? Look I come to a relationship to rest not do more work

livebyday:

This is my issue with Nigerian women !

A partner is not your life coach or career mentor ! Find those on LinkedIn!
I need mentoring , I need career coaching too..
Small wonder Nigerian relationship and marriage are in crisis.
Imagine two people both in need of coaching and mentoring in a boat angry at each other because the other isnt coaching or mentoring the other ?

This is the case with alot of Nigerians marriages and relationships today. Listen ladies fix your own lives !
Take some time off following the Kardashians or make up Instagram videos and focus ..

Take two minutes to write out a life plan !

Geez

UyaiIncomparabl:

Riele:


The people i attract into my life especially men , are nothing close to TRASH

Have we met before ? ,If we had , you would agree that my games are high

meobizy:

...yes?

Ishilove:
Poignant. However, not all women sit idly by when their man is broke and hustling. Be that as it may, just as there are scumbag men, there are also scummy women. How some women can comfortably bill a man for their expenses when they aren't aren't crippled always amazes me. Get up and work, add value to your family, relationship and the society so that egomanic misogynists will not come online to say rubbish about the womenfolk. A scummy man will still find an excuse to leave even if you work your fingers to the bone, but at least you will be able to beat your chest that you are an independent woman who was taken advantage of by a no good, rat soup eating son of a bitch. (Thank you, Dolemite).

Someone up there also said "after hoeing they go to the Gram to sell wigs and bags". Going by this statement, all IG hustlers at retired prostitutes?

*sigh* I need a break from NL. I can feel the stench of ignorance and toxic stupidity trying hard to overwhelm me.


On a side note: Feminism must be the most abused word in gender relations in Nigeria.

SmartyPants:


Sir, you don't make such accusations without evidence. Many people have read your comment and believed you which is not fair if you're wrong. You don't have to spend hours tracing the original article, if it is copied as you claim, just copy a section of the text and paste it into Google. The original post will show.

Midas01:
There is nothing "pained" about what the person you quoted wrote. When y'all lack proper arguments, you resort to the "you sound pained" rhetoric.


Learn to condemn what is evil regardless of gender. How can a man use a lady for years who stuck by him through thick and thin only to dump her later claiming she has no vision? When he was fvcking her he didn't know?

Or11:


Lazy man . Found it in less than a minute. Oya let the breeze blow and open fowl yansh

https://www.nairaland.com/2794994/dear-girls

DMerciful:
He dint know his status will become big to CEO level. Abi you want him to take semi-illiterate wife to official functions?

Davash222:
When they’re done Hoeing, they turn to feminists and start to sell Bags, Wigs and Weavon on WhatsApp, Instagram and Facebook. That’s their meaning of empowerment and Independent.

charlsecy:
How about those who didn't "hoe?" Don't badmouth some people's legitimate hustle!

Lightangel65:

Ok, I went too far

Ginaz:
Please what I hate most is general misconceptions. It’s not every woman who did nothing while the man was hustling , some women literally did odd jobs , side hustles and other things to make their lives better .

Some went to school, really hustle as much as the man. I hate stupid talks like these , do you people think women are brainless and useless? Majority I see Omo, dem Dey hustle and their bfs broke like mad.

You guys should stop preaching what you don’t know . My mom’s friend is a hustler , singlehandedly paid for rent for those years the guy was broke and hustling , did one or two things for the ungrateful guy only for him to abscond with another girl . Wasted her youthful years for nothing.

As for now sef, I won’t advise any girl to put up with a guy for any reasons cos of statements like these.

Some mumu will just write up and come to say you only asked for Brazilian hairs and shoes like they knew you or stayed with you in the house to know that.

All the girls I Dey see for street dem Dey hustle . Dem be hustlers , they gat dreams. Stop the stereotype!!!!

Just as there are good for nothing men, there are good for nothing women too.

On a ratio of 80%, girls Dey hustle even in relationships.

itsyoms:

You are right and @lavilly the original writer to is right but you at some point was almost missed firing your point. However, as they are good hustling guys they are smart hustling girls too there is just no percentage to which is more or less, we all just have to learn from all that is said here. If any of the comments hurts so bad then better your self so it won't apply to you. The Change begins with you.

lavylilly:

Chuky7:


longest time lilly...