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Having gone through your statement, I can confidently tell u that I am also confused.




But, pay evil with good, a result of which would be that your worst enemy will become your best friend.

Some women are just too evil. God forbid bad thing

heendrix:
Ur wrong on this....infact all you wrote sef

You urself giving this advice can't bear up to quarterly of what he's faced so be realistic here madam

don't mind the girl jare, I wanted to reply her, but I saw she was not making any sense

If I where you I will park my things and leave. Mark today your brother will not settle you because of the evil wife he married. EARLIER IS THE BEST.

TheArchangel:
How old is your brother?
Oga, stand your ground in that house.
Force your brother to rent a house for you by raising serious hell and at the same time appearing meek. Sleep in that room when you come back and if the wife and her sisters talk trash, raise hell. Do not budge one beat. Keep your bags in the shop but sleep in that room to avoid them messing up your things. Take the food from that pot and raise hell while doing it. When your brother comes or is around, pretend like they are accusing you falsely.
Remember self defense, beat the sh!t out of any of the sisters that touch you first. You can plead self-defense later. Do not touch the wife but remember to use your mouth to finish her. .
Do not relent. If they can be there, you can be also. It's either your brother chase you all away or peace or resemblance of it will rain in that house.

These are the types that feel that peace has no cost. They cause trouble wherever they go because they believe they are entitled.

I just dey vex as I dey read your story. Sorry to say this, your brother is a mumu man. Nobody messes with my blood and goes Scot free....He is the man of the house so he should man up, his wife and stup!d sisters have no right to maltreat you.



I would advice you hustle for money and get your own apartment, even if na one room sef. But before you leave make sure you treat the fvck up of those stup!d girls so that you won't be tagged as a coward.

veave:
Errrrrr. You go need patience oooo.

One thing you should know is that your brother is now married and is firstly responsible to his wife and kids before any other person so him allowing three extended family to stay in this hard times is an act of kindness and bravery please don't add more stress to his life by bickering with your in-laws. We women are troublesome by nature then when we see someone who has our time we extend the trouble. The truth is
1. There is no way the room would have been left for you while there are women in the house (they need privacy).
2. Why will you say that you will go to the village? Don't you know you give your brother some kind of security in the midst of his wife and her obviously troublesome sisters by staying with him? Has he asked you to leave yet?
3. You where wrong to slap the young woman, no matter what the grieviance is you don't touch a woman.
4. They where wrong to throw your mattress out but please forgive them and move on. Thank God your brother made provisions for a replacement.
5. Take this place as a training ground for your future, if it's anything you should be bothered about now, is to be more determined about gaining independence and making it in life.
6. Leave rofo rofo fight for women, in fact ignore them totally for your national peace.
7. Hustle!!! Hustle!!! Hustle oooooo!!!!

Hugs.

Very mature advice.
Well done.

Ejenavi18:
Why are your sister in-laws living with you guys?
Don't they have parents?

Your brother is the cause of your problem....there is nothing wrong stay with your brother till he set to assist you to set your own business. Indirectly he's help. your parents to their responsibility but where the problem comes is the wife that brought two sisters for your brother to feed so as to continue with the irresponsibility of the wife's parents.
I sensed you are a Igbo boy.....from now on, start making things up for yourself to be on your own....most ladies and devil and coursemate...
In the garden of Eden, the serpent didn't come through Adam, it came through Eve. That's there something common between that evil serpent in the garden of Eden and ladies....they are both coursemates...
I.doubt if this.kind of marriage will last because it is full of manipulating spirit from the wife....


Tueh!

Stop eating the food cooked at home
Do you have a friend, squat with him for a while and come home on days you need to change clothes or shoes. Gradually you will move out of the house

You don't need to stay there, Your brother's wife and sisters will disrespect you further.
put a permanent stop to it by getting a place, or squatting with a friend till you can afford rent.
Very soon they will accuse you of something bigger so they will permanently separate you from your brother.

Sorry but your brother will never be of help to u

I'm a lady but I feel ur pain bro, just b patient and ignore those women. Thank God u can easily get food on ur own, that's how some women behaves, after a rough day some one can't rest his head comfortably. U leaving the room is d best cuz they are ladies and u ain't related to them, but ur brother's wife is kind of unfair to you, she should have cautioned d sisters. The problem is with ur brother's wife o not those girls, and your brother is a weakling too. Ordinary to talk to his wife he can't.

Championxxx:
I am 23 years old guy I ave been staying with my brother in Abuja for the past 8 years , I help him with his shop and his house , everything was fine till he got married his wife carry his two sisters to the house 24 and 19 years old , he said I should leave my room for them I didn’t argue I let them have the room while I am sleeping in the parlour , during lockdown this girl will wake and come to the parlour to watch tv to disturb my sleep , I complained to my brother he said I should keep calm he will speak to his wife which he never does and these girls kept disturbing me meanwhile the older girl stopped but the younger one carry on and I told her to stop disturbing me she has a phone she can press her phone in their room , she insulted me and told me to go and marry I got angry and ask her to leave she said I should do my worst and I landed a thunder slap in her face she held me by my neck screaming when my bro and wife came his wife started hitting me on my back I had to leave the house and went outside to cool down , my brother followed me and said I didn’t do well by hitting his wife sister he said I should go and apologise to his wife and sister , I refuse and asked him why he didn’t stop them when I was complaining bitterly about them but he waited for me to take matter to my own hand now he blamed me he said I should apologise which I did to his wife but not to the girl but that small girl was expecting me to knelt down and beg her , I told her she will wait for eternity.

Since the incidence his wife stopped talking to me , she ordered her sister’s to stop giving me food , the older girl used to dish food for me sometimes when she is not around but I told her to stop because I don’t want her to be in trouble with her sister and I didn’t report to my brother, it’s not a big deal for me I buy foods and eat at work and I only go home to sleep , 2 weeks ago I came home to see my mattress outside in the rain soaking wet , I was confused because it was supposed to be inside the girl room that’s where I keep it and they always bring it for me when is time for me to sleep so how come it was outside in the rain , I asked them they both denied they didn’t take it out and I suspected my brother wife or her youngest sister were the one who did it because they didn’t want me in the house anymore , I told my brother he said I should sleep on the sofa and in the morning I will get a new mattress in his shop but the wife get angry that I will damaged her sofa she wanted me to sleep on the floor with a wrapper but my brother refuse and I slept on the sofa , the next day I spoke with my brother I told him because I am not wanted in his house I don’t have peace of mind there , I want him to rent a self cont for me closer to the shop so It will be easier for me to get to work he refuse saying when he has a bigger house why would I go and leave alone , he said he provide all my needs and the rest the way his wife and sisters are treating me it doesn’t matter that he will never allow me and I told him I want to go back to the village , he said if I leave his house he will disown me and I will not longer be his brother , for 3 days now he stopped talking to me even if I greet him he won’t reply I feel hurt. I love my brother I want to serve him but I don’t want to stay in his house . I don’t know if I did something wrong by asking him to rent a room for me to be living alone? Am confuse please advice me

Women are the troubles of this life, they are the reason men die, your brother is given them the hand to maltreat you but had it been you can get another work apart from selling for your brother you can live on your own, so far you are in your brother's house those two girls and his wife will continue Making life unbearable for you, but I wonder how your brothers wife sisters will be living comfortably in your brothers house why you that is his own blood brother is been treated badly this is a complete weakness on the part of your brother who knows the wife controls him, such brothers is evil

TheArchangel:
How old is your brother?
Oga, stand your ground in that house.
Force your brother to rent a house for you by raising serious hell and at the same time appearing meek. Sleep in that room when you come back and if the wife and her sisters talk trash, raise hell. Do not budge one beat. Keep your bags in the shop but sleep in that room to avoid them messing up your things. Take the food from that pot and raise hell while doing it. When your brother comes or is around, pretend like they are accusing you falsely.
Remember self defense, beat the sh!t out of any of the sisters that touch you first. You can plead self-defense later. Do not touch the wife but remember to use your mouth to finish her. .
Do not relent. If they can be there, you can be also. It's either your brother chase you all away or peace or resemblance of it will rain in that house.

This your advice strong oh

Ejenavi18:
Why are your sister in-laws living with you guys?
Don't they have parents?

Me sef tire a whole two sisters.. some men too weak

Championxxx:
I am 23 years old guy I ave been staying with my brother in Abuja for the past 8 years , I help him with his shop and his house , everything was fine till he got married his wife carry his two sisters to the house 24 and 19 years old , he said I should leave my room for them I didn’t argue I let them have the room while I am sleeping in the parlour , during lockdown this girl will wake and come to the parlour to watch tv to disturb my sleep , I complained to my brother he said I should keep calm he will speak to his wife which he never does and these girls kept disturbing me meanwhile the older girl stopped but the younger one carry on and I told her to stop disturbing me she has a phone she can press her phone in their room , she insulted me and told me to go and marry I got angry and ask her to leave she said I should do my worst and I landed a thunder slap in her face she held me by my neck screaming when my bro and wife came his wife started hitting me on my back I had to leave the house and went outside to cool down , my brother followed me and said I didn’t do well by hitting his wife sister he said I should go and apologise to his wife and sister , I refuse and asked him why he didn’t stop them when I was complaining bitterly about them but he waited for me to take matter to my own hand now he blamed me he said I should apologise which I did to his wife but not to the girl but that small girl was expecting me to knelt down and beg her , I told her she will wait for eternity.

Since the incidence his wife stopped talking to me , she ordered her sister’s to stop giving me food , the older girl used to dish food for me sometimes when she is not around but I told her to stop because I don’t want her to be in trouble with her sister and I didn’t report to my brother, it’s not a big deal for me I buy foods and eat at work and I only go home to sleep , 2 weeks ago I came home to see my mattress outside in the rain soaking wet , I was confused because it was supposed to be inside the girl room that’s where I keep it and they always bring it for me when is time for me to sleep so how come it was outside in the rain , I asked them they both denied they didn’t take it out and I suspected my brother wife or her youngest sister were the one who did it because they didn’t want me in the house anymore , I told my brother he said I should sleep on the sofa and in the morning I will get a new mattress in his shop but the wife get angry that I will damaged her sofa she wanted me to sleep on the floor with a wrapper but my brother refuse and I slept on the sofa , the next day I spoke with my brother I told him because I am not wanted in his house I don’t have peace of mind there , I want him to rent a self cont for me closer to the shop so It will be easier for me to get to work he refuse saying when he has a bigger house why would I go and leave alone , he said he provide all my needs and the rest the way his wife and sisters are treating me it doesn’t matter that he will never allow me and I told him I want to go back to the village , he said if I leave his house he will disown me and I will not longer be his brother , for 3 days now he stopped talking to me even if I greet him he won’t reply I feel hurt. I love my brother I want to serve him but I don’t want to stay in his house . I don’t know if I did something wrong by asking him to rent a room for me to be living alone? Am confuse please advice me

The only thing I can say, is for God to bless you and give you wisdom to move forward with your life, have had such experienced, but here I'm today in my own house with comfort and peace of mind, God will give you yours , don't stop praying, be positive and commit all to God.

Shut up.. Everybody has issues

Omo. Which kind brother be dis? Na d same mama and papa born una?

I would have said you should rent your own apartment but I noticed you are still “serving” your brother. So, you probably don’t have bulk money. It’s better to endure till he settles you. If you go back to the village, you don’t know if you’d be able to build a business without capital. If you are fairly confident that you can start something that will earn you a living, leave that house and return to the village.

Living under such circumstances is detrimental to your mental health.


It is a terrible thing for a wife to come and destroy the friendship and love between brothers. It is really terrible.

Squillaci:
Does your bro not pay you for managing his shop.

Pay wetin...

bjprodint:
from my small pikin brain i think your brother is to be blamed.he should have never allowed his wife move in with his sisters.he should have lived only with you and his wife,then rent you an apartment when you finish serving him.

You talk as if you don't know how you women would easily term such as prioritizing his own family over hers. Some of you guys can be super illogical.

LadySarah:
Women!We come into a peaceful abode and create issues. What's in allowing a young man sleep peacefully before going out for his hustle. A woman so foolish as to take someone's mattress out in the rain to spite him.
Your brother should man up in his home. Such women maltreat househelps alot.

Why her 2 sisters are there is beyond me. Even the stupid 19 yr old doesn't know her mates are graduates and married too.

If you must remain to be settled, you have to overlook and avoid alot of things. Face what you came for, get it and move out.

how many of Una remain for this world? E be like say Na only you remain

Bros your body too dey hot.

Calm down and face what brought you there in the first place.

If I were you, I'll gladly sleep on the floor with my wrapper and once it's daybreak life continues.

Do long as you aren't gonna be there forever then you've got an edge.
See this as one of those life stories you'll inspire the younger generation with tomorrow after you done finally make am.

And no matter the level of provocation, never ever raise your hand to hit a woman, old, mate or young.

You're one day gonna get married.
Your brother acts like a simp but there are still some cool things to learn from him if you'll calm down enough.

For peace to reign in a circle, someone must allow themselves to be cheated, to be the underdog.

You're getting free food and accommodation there, save your cash and stop eating rashly outside.

If apologising will restore peace and some privileges to you in the house, for God's sake apologise like a real man and get why you want.

You can't be asking your brother to rent you an apartment somewhere else and also be indirectly supplying you with meals and other things.

He has his own family and other responsibilities.

The house belongs to your husband and his wife, you're just a visitor.
Bitter truth, but appreciate it rather than living in Grand delusion.

For eight good years, are you serving your brother till eternity?

Championxxx:
I am 23 years old guy I ave been staying with my brother in Abuja for the past 8 years , I help him with his shop and his house , everything was fine till he got married his wife carry his two sisters to the house 24 and 19 years old , he said I should leave my room for them I didn’t argue I let them have the room while I am sleeping in the parlour , during lockdown this girl will wake and come to the parlour to watch tv to disturb my sleep , I complained to my brother he said I should keep calm he will speak to his wife which he never does and these girls kept disturbing me meanwhile the older girl stopped but the younger one carry on and I told her to stop disturbing me she has a phone she can press her phone in their room , she insulted me and told me to go and marry I got angry and ask her to leave she said I should do my worst and I landed a thunder slap in her face she held me by my neck screaming when my bro and wife came his wife started hitting me on my back I had to leave the house and went outside to cool down , my brother followed me and said I didn’t do well by hitting his wife sister he said I should go and apologise to his wife and sister , I refuse and asked him why he didn’t stop them when I was complaining bitterly about them but he waited for me to take matter to my own hand now he blamed me he said I should apologise which I did to his wife but not to the girl but that small girl was expecting me to knelt down and beg her , I told her she will wait for eternity.

Since the incidence his wife stopped talking to me , she ordered her sister’s to stop giving me food , the older girl used to dish food for me sometimes when she is not around but I told her to stop because I don’t want her to be in trouble with her sister and I didn’t report to my brother, it’s not a big deal for me I buy foods and eat at work and I only go home to sleep , 2 weeks ago I came home to see my mattress outside in the rain soaking wet , I was confused because it was supposed to be inside the girl room that’s where I keep it and they always bring it for me when is time for me to sleep so how come it was outside in the rain , I asked them they both denied they didn’t take it out and I suspected my brother wife or her youngest sister were the one who did it because they didn’t want me in the house anymore , I told my brother he said I should sleep on the sofa and in the morning I will get a new mattress in his shop but the wife get angry that I will damaged her sofa she wanted me to sleep on the floor with a wrapper but my brother refuse and I slept on the sofa , the next day I spoke with my brother I told him because I am not wanted in his house I don’t have peace of mind there , I want him to rent a self cont for me closer to the shop so It will be easier for me to get to work he refuse saying when he has a bigger house why would I go and leave alone , he said he provide all my needs and the rest the way his wife and sisters are treating me it doesn’t matter that he will never allow me and I told him I want to go back to the village , he said if I leave his house he will disown me and I will not longer be his brother , for 3 days now he stopped talking to me even if I greet him he won’t reply I feel hurt. I love my brother I want to serve him but I don’t want to stay in his house . I don’t know if I did something wrong by asking him to rent a room for me to be living alone? Am confuse please advice me

Just shut up village boy. Small small girls wey be say you suppose dey play your games well and them go dey trip for you dey beg you to tidy them in the oza room, na them you leave make them dey treat you like house boy.

Even your brother don notice say you be village boy, that is why him no send if you pack go village....

By threatening to pack go back village show say you be village boy.

Treat those girls well, act like a real guy, dress well, talk sense, try make them friends, try make them your gist mates, get them stuffs sometimes eh3n you dey return from shop, stop acting like a village mumu, and see them be your friends. and the whole problems solved.

Championxxx:
I am 23 years old guy I ave been staying with my brother in Abuja for the past 8 years , I help him with his shop and his house , everything was fine till he got married his wife carry his two sisters to the house 24 and 19 years old , he said I should leave my room for them I didn’t argue I let them have the room while I am sleeping in the parlour , during lockdown this girl will wake and come to the parlour to watch tv to disturb my sleep , I complained to my brother he said I should keep calm he will speak to his wife which he never does and these girls kept disturbing me meanwhile the older girl stopped but the younger one carry on and I told her to stop disturbing me she has a phone she can press her phone in their room , she insulted me and told me to go and marry I got angry and ask her to leave she said I should do my worst and I landed a thunder slap in her face she held me by my neck screaming when my bro and wife came his wife started hitting me on my back I had to leave the house and went outside to cool down , my brother followed me and said I didn’t do well by hitting his wife sister he said I should go and apologise to his wife and sister , I refuse and asked him why he didn’t stop them when I was complaining bitterly about them but he waited for me to take matter to my own hand now he blamed me he said I should apologise which I did to his wife but not to the girl but that small girl was expecting me to knelt down and beg her , I told her she will wait for eternity.

Since the incidence his wife stopped talking to me , she ordered her sister’s to stop giving me food , the older girl used to dish food for me sometimes when she is not around but I told her to stop because I don’t want her to be in trouble with her sister and I didn’t report to my brother, it’s not a big deal for me I buy foods and eat at work and I only go home to sleep , 2 weeks ago I came home to see my mattress outside in the rain soaking wet , I was confused because it was supposed to be inside the girl room that’s where I keep it and they always bring it for me when is time for me to sleep so how come it was outside in the rain , I asked them they both denied they didn’t take it out and I suspected my brother wife or her youngest sister were the one who did it because they didn’t want me in the house anymore , I told my brother he said I should sleep on the sofa and in the morning I will get a new mattress in his shop but the wife get angry that I will damaged her sofa she wanted me to sleep on the floor with a wrapper but my brother refuse and I slept on the sofa , the next day I spoke with my brother I told him because I am not wanted in his house I don’t have peace of mind there , I want him to rent a self cont for me closer to the shop so It will be easier for me to get to work he refuse saying when he has a bigger house why would I go and leave alone , he said he provide all my needs and the rest the way his wife and sisters are treating me it doesn’t matter that he will never allow me and I told him I want to go back to the village , he said if I leave his house he will disown me and I will not longer be his brother , for 3 days now he stopped talking to me even if I greet him he won’t reply I feel hurt. I love my brother I want to serve him but I don’t want to stay in his house . I don’t know if I did something wrong by asking him to rent a room for me to be living alone? Am confuse please advice me

Is this the same way you would slap your wife, if you have a dispute?..........


Who cares about been disowned?....


It's apparent your presence is no longer required and your brother don chop beta vegetables.......


Go back to the village and have your PEACE ... Or stay with your brother, and have PISS poured all over you.......

Your call.......

ziddy:
Make friends with the older one that gives you food and start banging her...no be man you be?

That is the only way you can have peace oooo

Nairalandmonika:
Fûck the younger sister, give her from front back left n right. She go respect you.

E go be.

bigbananai:
Bleep her and case will be solve. argue with ya keyboard

OP don’t listen to these people.

You are not at fault. Your brother is a pussy and he married the wrong woman.

Don't you have savings? Go back to the village and start something small, even if it's a barbing salon.

Even if you leave the house and rent a new place, your brother's wife will definitely drive a wedge between you and your brother. Before you leave, pack your bags to a friend's house, wait until everyone leaves the house, then give your 19-year old sister-in-law a thorough beating.

When you are done, go to your friend's house and pass the night, then travel to the village the next day.

Auladimeji:
Honestly, very useless simp.Honestly, simp don't deserve to live

which one be simp

Well your case is common. Once a man gets married, the woman would bring her own people to the house and the man people have to go for peace to reign.

Don't start fighting your brother wife sisters no need. Find a way to walk around your issue

The guy's an idiott, talking as if op is a stranger to the op..idiotss like him will fight his own blood becàuse of his wife sweet words . I don't even want to quote him..honestly..the op should always be quick to call his brothers attention when those dirty bittches are at it.i don't take shit,I can't be with my own blood and still be bugged..the op should lay his wants and donts to his brother and wait for results,if it doesn't come forward,then he should pack out..as far as sense and reality is concerned,even the wife is a stranger talkless of her sisters,the op brother has simpp genes

Acidosis:
Obviously? Because all men are leafy vegetables?

Op it's your fault....instead of you to be helping yourself out with her 24 year old sister you were busying fumbling around atleast that would have ensured you have one of them on your side...now you've almost lost everything...

You see your life now..

Your brother should act like a man and do the right thing. He should call his wife to order. When a woman gets married, she is married into the man's family and not the other way round. In as much as u respect ur brother and his wife, she should show you some respect too. Be patient and talk to your brother again. If he still insist on not talking to you, brother leave him alone in his ignorance and move on with ur life. God will surely curve a path for you.