saajus:
Sometimes you have to if you want peace to reign. It's just for a while, he will leave them soon when his life gets better. At most 4 more years.
He will understand why his brother had to stand by his wife when he get married too. Trust me, op cannot win if he wants to thread gra gra path.

No be gra gra Mata. Make him jst dey him dey. If him de keep 1k everyday in de next 3yrs him go settle himself. People lyk me I go jst de my thing

veave:
Errrrrr. You go need patience oooo.

One thing you should know is that your brother is now married and is firstly responsible to his wife and kids before any other person so him allowing three extended family to stay in this hard times is an act of kindness and bravery please don't add more stress to his life by bickering with your in-laws. We women are troublesome by nature then when we see someone who has our time we extend the trouble. The truth is
1. There is no way the room would have been left for you while there are women in the house (they need privacy).
2. Why will you say that you will go to the village? Don't you know you give your brother some kind of security in the midst of his wife and her obviously troublesome sisters by staying with him? Has he asked you to leave yet?
3. You where wrong to slap the young woman, no matter what the grieviance is you don't touch a woman.
4. They where wrong to throw your mattress out but please forgive them and move on. Thank God your brother made provisions for a replacement.
5. Take this place as a training ground for your future, if it's anything you should be bothered about now, is to be more determined about gaining independence and making it in life.
6. Leave rofo rofo fight for women, in fact ignore them totally for your national peace.
7. Hustle!!! Hustle!!! Hustle oooooo!!!!

Hugs.

You are really special

First of all insist that your brother must rent an accommodation for you till such a time when you can stand on your own and fend for yourself. Make him realize it is in his own best interest, at least for there to be less friction between you and the wife and her sisters. When you must have gotten accommodation elsewhere, invite the troublesome one between the two sisters over to your house and be nice to her. Win her confidence and then bleep the hell out of her. That's the best punishment you can give to her for troubling you.

This is so unfair.
OP I feel for you and this doesn't sound like its ending anytime soon.

Just look for a way that ur brother's wife will like you and for the sisters so far u just tell us that one is on ur side let d side one be with time she will b d one looking for u

Georgekyrian:


OP this is a good points, show that wife love with gifts as small as anything with time her mindset go change towards you, she is a woman and they are easily manipulated with gift, remember Eve and Lucifer with the apple

Nice joke

Championxxx:
I am 23 years old guy I ave been staying with my brother in Abuja for the past 8 years , I help him with his shop and his house , everything was fine till he got married his wife carry his two sisters to the house 24 and 19 years old , he said I should leave my room for them I didn’t argue I let them have the room while I am sleeping in the parlour , during lockdown this girl will wake and come to the parlour to watch tv to disturb my sleep , I complained to my brother he said I should keep calm he will speak to his wife which he never does and these girls kept disturbing me meanwhile the older girl stopped but the younger one carry on and I told her to stop disturbing me she has a phone she can press her phone in their room , she insulted me and told me to go and marry I got angry and ask her to leave she said I should do my worst and I landed a thunder slap in her face she held me by my neck screaming when my bro and wife came his wife started hitting me on my back I had to leave the house and went outside to cool down , my brother followed me and said I didn’t do well by hitting his wife sister he said I should go and apologise to his wife and sister , I refuse and asked him why he didn’t stop them when I was complaining bitterly about them but he waited for me to take matter to my own hand now he blamed me he said I should apologise which I did to his wife but not to the girl but that small girl was expecting me to knelt down and beg her , I told her she will wait for eternity.

Since the incidence his wife stopped talking to me , she ordered her sister’s to stop giving me food , the older girl used to dish food for me sometimes when she is not around but I told her to stop because I don’t want her to be in trouble with her sister and I didn’t report to my brother, it’s not a big deal for me I buy foods and eat at work and I only go home to sleep , 2 weeks ago I came home to see my mattress outside in the rain soaking wet , I was confused because it was supposed to be inside the girl room that’s where I keep it and they always bring it for me when is time for me to sleep so how come it was outside in the rain , I asked them they both denied they didn’t take it out and I suspected my brother wife or her youngest sister were the one who did it because they didn’t want me in the house anymore , I told my brother he said I should sleep on the sofa and in the morning I will get a new mattress in his shop but the wife get angry that I will damaged her sofa she wanted me to sleep on the floor with a wrapper but my brother refuse and I slept on the sofa , the next day I spoke with my brother I told him because I am not wanted in his house I don’t have peace of mind there , I want him to rent a self cont for me closer to the shop so It will be easier for me to get to work he refuse saying when he has a bigger house why would I go and leave alone , he said he provide all my needs and the rest the way his wife and sisters are treating me it doesn’t matter that he will never allow me and I told him I want to go back to the village , he said if I leave his house he will disown me and I will not longer be his brother , for 3 days now he stopped talking to me even if I greet him he won’t reply I feel hurt. I love my brother I want to serve him but I don’t want to stay in his house . I don’t know if I did something wrong by asking him to rent a room for me to be living alone? Am confuse please advice me

Y didnt u tell ur brother that his wife has stopped giving u food?u sef no serious..and as of ur brother,he is a FOOL..Im sure he is a simp and an illitrate too who probably feels he got lucky to marry that girl he calls wife thats why he has now become a woman wrapper in his own house..u better find a way to make money guy and take care of ur own bills..imagine one useless girl waiting for u to kneel and appologise..smh if u had money will that dare happen? Dm for ways to make money online,i hate nonsense #youngrichandhandsome

The best thing is to ignore them totally but that doesn't mean you shouldn't respect you elder brother's wife. Since she married you elder brother she automatically becomes your elder whether you senior her or not. Respect her give her chance.

Regarding the two musketeers they are only craving attention and becomes you readily give them for any little thing they do, they will continue to taunt and trouble you. Act like they are no longer in the house speak to them only when spoken to you are a man and shouldn't reply to everything a woman does. If you follow dem you fit kill them.

Concerning you brothers wife, don't report any little thing she does to you to your brother you don't want to be the cause of their separation or misunderstanding. Once you give her the respect she wants and speak to her only when spoken to she would be off your back in no time.

My brother don't even think of going back to the village what will go and do there ? Endure the problem for now tough times never last but tough people do. Don't let your anger overide your sense of reasoning.

Go and beg your brother he is your only ally for now in that house you don't want to be on everyone's bad side. If you know any of his close friends go talk to them to help you beg him. Tell him you said all said in the heat of the moment and out of anger.

Warm regards,

None of my brothers wife fit try such shit with me..NEVER.I go show them wahala.if a brothers wife try such with me, as she suddenly appear for him life na so she go suddenly vanish from him life

My advise to u. Since u head d business. Start saving money on a kum. Cause u wont last long in dat house

Not sounding sectional or sentimental, but here is the case of another Ibo woman. May GOD help all these bad women from all tribes.

Ejenavi18:
Why are your sister in-laws living with you guys?
Don't they have parents?

Parasitic people. One sister should have been enough. Perhaps she's the type that hates seeing her in-laws in her home and only her blood relations and friends are good enough.

BarrElChapo:
You are wise. I doff my hat Madame

She is only selfish and siding the girls!!

Calling a 19 year old immature girl, a woman just to further her agenda!!

That girl should not for any reason Insult OP. No matter what!!

The elder brother is a Dunce tho!! He lacks Authority!!

veave:
Errrrrr. You go need patience oooo.

One thing you should know is that your brother is now married and is firstly responsible to his wife and kids before any other person so him allowing three extended family to stay in this hard times is an act of kindness and bravery please don't add more stress to his life by bickering with your in-laws. We women are troublesome by nature then when we see someone who has our time we extend the trouble. The truth is
1. There is no way the room would have been left for you while there are women in the house (they need privacy).
2. Why will you say that you will go to the village? Don't you know you give your brother some kind of security in the midst of his wife and her obviously troublesome sisters by staying with him? Has he asked you to leave yet?
3. You where wrong to slap the young woman, no matter what the grieviance is you don't touch a woman.
4. They where wrong to throw your mattress out but please forgive them and move on. Thank God your brother made provisions for a replacement.
5. Take this place as a training ground for your future, if it's anything you should be bothered about now, is to be more determined about gaining independence and making it in life.
6. Leave rofo rofo fight for women, in fact ignore them totally for your national peace.
7. Hustle!!! Hustle!!! Hustle oooooo!!!!

Hugs.

I beg to disagree with some of your submissions.

Rather blame the brother, no sister in law should have any right in tour house. It is wrong totally wrong. They have the same right as your brother and your wife should not think of maltreating your brother .

If the poor boy is not secure , he should go back tot the village before they murder him in cold blood. Cos it is obvious that wife is not matured ,she I just after the man's money.

They were wrong to throw his stuffs out and ad such they ala need to apologize to him and stop treating him like an animal.

I wonder why we encourage all manners of in hu ma treatments to men but if it is women now we start shouting maltreatment up and down.

If the brother doesn't want him dead one morning he should just recent him a place and settle him fast.

vingeophysicist:

And the idiot woman married my late uncle from being a sales girl oo. She is kogi oo. She stopped my uncle from paying my school fees .My late dad was the one that settled my late uncle that was why he was doing everything he did for us .
My only concern now is my uncles children . But the wife thought I have time for drama now . I don't look at her twice self nah wetin dey pain her now .

U de give me joy. No forget Women de loyal for Money die. She wouldn't mind calling u all de tym.
My guy babe leave am bcus him no get money, as my guy go Malaysia come back with plenty money de gal come de beg my guy say na her friends deceive her. Na him my guy accept her come marry her , na dat tym guy begin show her fire. My guy no even send her infact him one divorce her go marry person way him wan marry.
Dat guy no gree give her belle self him intentionally wan wicked de babe.

Sometimes it's good we make people dat tormented our lives to pass through wat we went through, dat will make Dem to repent completely

My brother, permit me to tell you the truth.
Your brother's hands are tied.He is between the sea and the wall.

He doesn't want to upset his wife.I get that.
But as a man he should know that most wives cannot handle their husbands relative staying with them.There is bound to be friction especially when that relative is financially dependent on their husbands.

He should have gotten you a place outside to keep the peace.

Since he has refused and has stopped talking to you. Its time you seize your destiny by the balls. You have to leave that house. Find a job elsewhere and start training yourself in school.Education is empowering. Don't be scared.If you are a man of faith,with prayers and focus you will make it.
Just take a leap of faith and go out to fend for yourself. It is well with you

Your brother is damn a confused entity. He's not man enough. Allow him until when his eyes will clear but as for ur inlaws, make peace with d youngest, pet her and even kneel down for her then, look for a way to impregnate her. Her shakara go end and her eye go clear.

veave:
Errrrrr. You go need patience oooo.

One thing you should know is that your brother is now married and is firstly responsible to his wife and kids before any other person so him allowing three extended family to stay in this hard times is an act of kindness and bravery please don't add more stress to his life by bickering with your in-laws. We women are troublesome by nature then when we see someone who has our time we extend the trouble. The truth is
1. There is no way the room would have been left for you while there are women in the house (they need privacy).
2. Why will you say that you will go to the village? Don't you know you give your brother some kind of security in the midst of his wife and her obviously troublesome sisters by staying with him? Has he asked you to leave yet?
3. You where wrong to slap the young woman, no matter what the grieviance is you don't touch a woman.
4. They where wrong to throw your mattress out but please forgive them and move on. Thank God your brother made provisions for a replacement.
5. Take this place as a training ground for your future, if it's anything you should be bothered about now, is to be more determined about gaining independence and making it in life.
6. Leave rofo rofo fight for women, in fact ignore them totally for your national peace.
7. Hustle!!! Hustle!!! Hustle oooooo!!!!

Hugs.

You nailed it.God bless you. Op please this is the advice.

Softhands:
Don't touch a woman...but she's free to cuss your father and mother abi? Make Una dey deceive Una self

That 19 year old immature girl is a woman too, that 'veave' is just deceiving herself. Too much sexist remarks in a comment!!

I blame the OP's Elder Brother tho

vonchulxy:
I hate weak men (husbands).

The worst that will happen is that at the end, your brother will foolishly ask you to leave his house wether you stay and avoid the girls or you stamp your legs and load those girls with better slaps , you days in that in that house are numbered because it seems your brother cum husband is the weak men that falls to the antics of some women/wives.

I will advise you to be very Rude to your brother's wife any time she talk or behave stupid to you, no apologies. But for the sisters, do not hesitate to beat them very well and give them hot slap when they talk to you any how.

The woman is an evil woman and don't have respect ppl. Is she can talk to you and even insult you in the present of your brother, it shows she don't have regard for the so called husband.

The next thing they will cause you of is that you tried to Rape the girls, so I will advice you not to move to the room or drag the room with them, also always give wide distance to those girls.


To be a man in this life, you don't even need any person , so if you brother ever tell you that you will leave his house, look directly into his eyes and tell him fine and leave.
Many people feel the food the feed you is why will make you in life and if they stop it you will die, the answer is LIE.

The hardest that can happen to you is that you may fine it hard for maybe 1 or 2 years and you will find your bearing again and even be the one to help the stupid brother ...I call him stupid brother because he is not wise and allow a woman to dictate to him why happens .

You must not let the wife or the useless sisters make you less a man. Just make up your mind that you days in tht house is numbered. If the reason for you to beat somebody come up, beat the girls, beat the nonses wife and if you have the strength to fight your brother...fight him and make sure you give him life mark...I did not say kill any person, but make sure you give tht brother of your mark for life.

Always have it in mind and believe it that you will make it and achieve success in life with out help from those you expect it or even servent and respect.


I know exactly how you feel, 1991-2010-- I felt this rubbish and saw it.. but when I told my self this will stop, I made sure I fought all the useless aunties and some stupid uncle's. Today I walked out empty and I am proud to tell you in life.. success is not from any brother/uncle/sister/aunty and not to talk of some useless wife or in-laws....stand your ground and beat the hell out of those girls.



Don't waste your respect to that stupid wife

Fear Igbo women

Retrography:


I for one will not support beating any lady or woman. But please it's high time women are educated that not all men can endure the awkward behavior they put up once in a while no matter how patient that man is, because one day, he will snap.
A man should be a robot because of gender equality. Hence the high rate of suicide by men.

The same rights they have is the same rights that he has, or even more.

You are too apologetic sef

My brother my advise is for you to turn to God in prayers,only prayer will save u in that hostile environment and release peace into that home.Look when the wife and sisters discover that you pray always especially mid night prayer they will be calm. Try this and see God's miracle at work..mind u with those hungry lioness you Brother don't stand a chance of survival, please try to help him in prayers as u pray for urself too!!

merahki:



Lol.
Cross my heart, the poster is not idle or lazy or loafing. He is actually hustling his head off. He is serving his oga for settlement (apprenticeship).
Our cultures are really different. It’s hard for you to understand but we got what the poster was saying first hand.
That’s why advising him to move out and hustle won’t work here. He is hustling and his dear brother knows too.
It is only his brother who can rent him another place if he chooses. But in this case, the brother wants him to persevere and he must have to. Even though his female in-laws are not it for me.
He has to learn to manage the situation. It will help him become a successful business man and husband in future.

Thanks for clarifying

veave:
Errrrrr. You go need patience oooo.

One thing you should know is that your brother is now married and is firstly responsible to his wife and kids before any other person so him allowing three extended family to stay in this hard times is an act of kindness and bravery please don't add more stress to his life by bickering with your in-laws. We women are troublesome by nature then when we see someone who has our time we extend the trouble. The truth is
1. There is no way the room would have been left for you while there are women in the house (they need privacy).
2. Why will you say that you will go to the village? Don't you know you give your brother some kind of security in the midst of his wife and her obviously troublesome sisters by staying with him? Has he asked you to leave yet?
3. You where wrong to slap the young woman, no matter what the grieviance is you don't touch a woman.
4. They where wrong to throw your mattress out but please forgive them and move on. Thank God your brother made provisions for a replacement.
5. Take this place as a training ground for your future, if it's anything you should be bothered about now, is to be more determined about gaining independence and making it in life.
6. Leave rofo rofo fight for women, in fact ignore them totally for your national peace.
7. Hustle!!! Hustle!!! Hustle oooooo!!!!

Hugs.

This is absolute clowning. You were making sense until this. So even when you're being attacked or molested or you are even hit. Yuck!!!, this is shit. You slap me I respond with the same energy.

I could have been in your shoes

it is well
manage small and

just leave the house for them
don't do it angrily o

do it happily with an good excuse

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Greensquard:


Y didnt u tell ur brother that his wife has stopped giving u food?u sef no serious..and as of ur brother,he is a FOOL..Im sure he is a simp and an illitrate too who probably feels he got lucky to marry that girl he calls wife thats why he has now become a woman wrapper in his own house..u better find a way to make money guy and take care of ur own bills..imagine one useless girl waiting for u to kneel and appologise..smh if u had money will that dare happen? Dm for ways to make money online,i hate nonsense #youngrichandhandsome

Bros good evening,pls dnt be angry you said you would get back to me before weekend but I have not heard from you sir.

Please sir I have not made money for one week now,I need to continue working sir pls consider me no vex egbon say I de disturb you sir but you hardly reply my emails.

Some family sef! You marry finish, pack all your family members come the guy house and you can't accommodate yoir husband's brother. Some women matter tire me abeg!!I'm sure she's a jobless wife too! Masculine women everywhere!

if u are 23,pack ur things to your village and if you aree that useful to your brother,he will see reason with u and get u a house .if he doesnt move on with your life,find another master and tell him what u want so u can serve him.u have suffered enought

My brother BE patient
I was Once in ur shoes
But look at me today
I served my own brother for complete 11 years but 8th out of d 11th years was hell cos he got married
I used wisdom and patience to follow them. U are lucky u still sleeps alone in d parlor, i was sleeping in d same room with other boys, we were 8 in number oo. There is an extra room madam calls visitors room only her relatives sleeps there wen they came visiting while oga brother was sleeping in a room with boys
Today the story changed, i am now important cos levels hav changed. Ignore and be strong. E no go last jus BE focused

Greensquard:


Y didnt u tell ur brother that his wife has stopped giving u food?u sef no serious..and as of ur brother,he is a FOOL..Im sure he is a simp and an illitrate too who probably feels he got lucky to marry that girl he calls wife thats why he has now become a woman wrapper in his own house..u better find a way to make money guy and take care of ur own bills..imagine one useless girl waiting for u to kneel and appologise..smh if u had money will that dare happen? Dm for ways to make money online,i hate nonsense #youngrichandhandsome

The brother knows all that is going on.....he planned it together with the wife to frustrate the guy .....he doesn’t want to settle the guy again... we’ve seen worse...
....he just pretending to be neutral....how can they throw ur brother’s mattress in the rain and u won’t say anything.......
If U check well, they might not be siblings.... igbos like to call people from same village or compound their brother.....
No sane guy should disown his brother that’s been living with him since he was 15years old becos he wants a small apartment...is that not what will eventually happen...

Marrying a girl from a poor background is always problematic. Your brother owes you nothing besides.
You gat to do what you gat to do......moving forward.
Your bro is in a big mess already.

yettymuse:
Some family sef! You marry finish, pack all your family members come the guy house and you can't accommodate yoir husband's brother. Some women matter tire me abeg!!I'm sure she's a jobless wife too! Masculine women everywhere!

it is never the wife's fault