Anyone who is focused on their life goal

It depends on emotional attachment one has over another. It has nothing to do with female or male.

Op's story is similar to mine, while waiting for service I had this girl, beautiful and everything a guy needs in a woman, I felt she was so undeserving of me, I let her go out of pity and fear she needed more than I could offer.

We cried, I remember that day I played Bruno Mar's "when I was your man" we cried, she told me things will be better, that I am so ambitious and she would finish from school, we will conquer the world, alas my mind was made to allow her better things, rich guys were coming etc.

Fast ward today, we are married but still keep in touch, she's doing well, I am too...

Asked her one day if she would date me in next world, she said yes! I knew I had to let her be. I still love her.

Check my cover on REMA MY HEART

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vRhnZ8eDvk4

Dunno abt guys, but stubborn girls like us don't move on easily o

SmartPolician:
Guys of course

Guys always leave the ladies

And the ladies will be devastated afterward, especially if sex was involved

You are still naive.

Psychology claims that if two past lovers can remain just friends, it's either they are still in love,or never were.

ZINIBANKS:
See stupid Nigerians they didn't go to church
Well if you didn't go church shout hallelujah

ZINIBANKS:
See stupid Nigerians they didn't go to church
Well if you didn't go church shout hallelujah

church never open 4 lagos o!

Zoie:
Guy you're suffering from a plethora of issues.
Low self esteem as one of them.

I noticed a lot of guys get easily intimidated.
So they tuck tail and run, right after making one very comfortable with and in love with them.
She loved you but you were too weak.
Please don't go after her. You clearly DO NOT deserve her heart.
Go, heal your esteem.

don't you think he did the right thing since he was very broke as at then? Just being inquisitive

Preshieben:
Girls sha

@profile picture. where is this river located? is this ikot abasi, Oron, Eket or ibeno. I'd like to visit there for tourism

ZINIBANKS:
See stupid Nigerians they didn't go to church
Well if you didn't go church shout hallelujah

is like you don't have respect abi ?

flyingpig:

Same position I am in with my current gf. Exactly how your ex is, no difference in anyway. Extremely beautiful, loves me billion times than I love her. Do all those things your did. But very expectant of marriage whereas I'm not even close to financially stable and I'm thinking of moving her on. So i can settle my little brothers, establish myself before getting a wife.

Don't know if I'll regret moving her on for someone more ready for marriage.

talk it out with her first. If she wanna help u build, she can stay.

Ariza:
Not only are you selfish, you are so disrespectful too. Just imagine the way you describe your woman and your worries. Please stay your lane ,she deserves better.

Tbh, I decided the lady probably got saved from him after I saw that part of his statement.

Leave all these issues of who moves on first .



The way you are talking, if u had d chance to get her back you would. So y not at least put a call across to her ?
Just to check whether she still dey ...Just to check oh .

Cheers

tayooluwole:
The biggest mistakes any guy can make is to ever think any lady can not do without them... You see ladies ehn, once they move on,,,they dust their past behind them and never looked back in most cases. Lady is only attached to a guy for just the moment it last and not beyond,,,all other things being equal

Na lie!

It depends on who was in love more.

Hmm, I'm selling dispenser. Check my signature

Babanlagenius:
She was more emotionally attached to me. As in she used to call me more than I did. She didn't sleep without talking to me and more often than not she would ask me to send her voice notes on WhatsApp even after our convno before going to bed. I felt the love within and without. She showed me so much love and made me to have extra focus in live because she was in full support of everything I was doing.

She saved money from work to buy me gifts. She was down to earth. She always give guys my number when they asked for hers. I was only bothered that she was 26years and just maybe the pressure of getting married was there. I sensed her mood swings expecially on Saturdays. I left her way back in 2019 because I couldn't secure a job for myself and needed to give her a better life by giving some other guy a chance to get married to her quickly.

Speaking of beauty, she is the most beautiful lady I have ever dated. As a matter of fact the first thing I asked her on our first date was

DON'T YOU THINK YOU ARE TOO MUCH FOR ME?

Now that I am stable to an extent all I could think of is this lady. I just don't know how she managed to forget about me. I'm even afraid of contacting her cause I don't want to hear that someone else is presently digging that hole and probably about to get married as well.

So she was all this and u had the guts to walk her out of ur life jes like day...even after she pleased with you that she can wait and all...

Biko leave the geh alone o, don't contact her and strt awakening past feelings.
Leave the geh alone! I pray she has found someone who knows love tru thick and thin. Amen

Sweettea9:
Hard to believe
But girls do I have many reasons to back up my claim!
People assume men cheat more often.. which sometimes is true, especially if the couple already has children, the mother usually has to look after the kids while the man can have a secret mistress or affair. But women also cheat, and one of the reasons why is probably because it's easier for a woman to find any man to have an affair with but for a man, it takes a bit more work depending on several factors (if you don't beleive me, log into a dating app as a woman, you will get bombarded with messages from men).

zimdante:
Guys move on easily with the speed of light, what are you telling me

We're telling you that it's not always the case. No be all the guys dey move on faster

You must be a narcissist. She gave you all, thinking that she secured a life partner in you, but you just toyed with her emotion and. We called this a discard and silent treatment followed up. Later when you thought that she will come and start begging you to come back again as usual, the girl gave-up on you because she has had enough of your stupidity. The issue now is that the girl see you in 3D. She will not give you any emotional support now until you make a reasonable sacrifice into the relationship just like the way she did unto you. And there will be too much temptation and trust issue even if she agree to continue. You already thaught her a lesson in the hard way. Better if you just leave her, she is not in love now but in deep pain for all the sacrifices she made into the relationship which finally goes in vain.

Babanlagenius:
But here is what I want to know. Who else feels this way after breakup?

Broke up with my babe last November coz of our religious differences
Every blessed day, I think of how to reconnect with her but bros, the deed has been done already and in all honesty, I'm finding it difficult to move on.
I'll take up any chance to get her bank.

I don't know if she feels the same way

For ladies, the more you are out of sight..... the more you are out of their mind.

That's why the first thing a lady do after break up is to avoid you and perhaps those linked to you,
delete your pics, contact even throw away your gifts to fasten the recovery process

dulux07:
It depends on how emotionally attached one is to the other and also personality

You must be a Carpenter cos you nailed it.

It depend on several factors .

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright
The thing is women are emotionally traumatized at the beginning of every break up but after some time na we real niggarrrs dey suffer am

At first we real niggarrrs go dey feel like a boss

And the woman go dey cry

But in a couple of months ehnnnnn..... those ladies will be emotionally strong

No to your comment, take for example tonto dikeh. The one that love less move on quickly.

Stupid question... Personalty isnt gender determined..

ClassicMan202:
It depends on who invested more in the relationship

I sight you.. The investor hardly forgets ,male or female.. Respect man..You agbaski

Like seriously, all this excuses is not making sense to me.

If shes comfortable with you for many months or years of dating and never complained about your standard of livelihood why then would you look down on your self.

No condition is permanent as long as you are not relaxing waiting for miracle.

Guys, pls always beleive in yourself and stop breaking our ladies heart because of your high low self esteem.

Babanlagenius:
She was more emotionally attached to me. As in she used to call me more than I did. She didn't sleep without talking to me and more often than not she would ask me to send her voice notes on WhatsApp even after our convno before going to bed. I felt the love within and without. She showed me so much love and made me to have extra focus in live because she was in full support of everything I was doing.

She saved money from work to buy me gifts. She was down to earth. She always give guys my number when they asked for hers. I was only bothered that she was 26years and just maybe the pressure of getting married was there. I sensed her mood swings expecially on Saturdays. I left her way back in 2019 because I couldn't secure a job for myself and needed to give her a better life by giving some other guy a chance to get married to her quickly.

Speaking of beauty, she is the most beautiful lady I have ever dated. As a matter of fact the first thing I asked her on our first date was

DON'T YOU THINK YOU ARE TOO MUCH FOR ME?

Now that I am stable to an extent all I could think of is this lady. I just don't know how she managed to forget about me. I'm even afraid of contacting her cause I don't want to hear that someone else is presently digging that hole and probably about to get married as well.

You spoke from the point of genuiness, not selfishness and I respect you for that. Do not conclude yet. Call her and ask for meeting. It does not matter if someone is digging her, what matter is she really loved you.

But if after communicating and you find out that she is soon getting married, as in a serious relationship, then let her go. Do this ONLY if you are sure that you will marry her as soon as she let you that she is free.

Sixfeetbelle:


Tbh, I decided the lady probably got saved from him after I saw that part of his statement.

My thoughts too after reading that nonsense.