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NerdyRudeGyal:
Just forgive her and go meet her parents. Good luck.

4give Kea.. Never.. Proxillin forgive her but dump her


After u av bleeped her to ur satisfaction. Dump her.....


U can even arrange ur frnd to fvck and dump her..


Imagine this one, which useless parents

Badluck

I love women, I will marry because God says so. But remember marriage favors the women than men. From their biological clock, to financial gains etc. Take your time, pray and specially to choose one. You pray and call forth a wife. Not every girl qualifies for marriage

proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.

3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.

We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.

My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).

We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad.
She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.

This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.

That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.

But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.

Don't judge her for what she did but judge her for who she is. You are still hurting from what she did, the best thing is tell her how hurt you are. Ask her why she turned around.

proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.

3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.

We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.

My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).

We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad.
She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.

This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.

That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.

But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.

Opolo e ti lo vacation...

Better dump that girl...

proxillin:
You are connected to my thinking. I think I have to be bold and cut it.

Good. Never forgive the idīot. She will repeat it.

MiamiePizza:
Had to pause the music I'm playing so I could give a better advice.
See ehn, this life nobody is 100%, that is no one is perfect. One of the holy books says 'To err is human but to forgive is divine'.
They say love is blind, you know what that means? it means when you in love with someone, you don't see no fault in whatever they do.

This your case, I'm not sure you really love her. If you do really love her you'll forgive whatever she's done in the past and forget also all the pains, disgrace she's caused. What you get for this lady isn't love(I'm sorry) its just emotions, and you know one thing about emotions, it comes and goes.

Marriage isn't what one rush into, you take your time when choosing a life partner. You don't want to marry her now and divorce her later (maybe 2, 3yrs time). Marry who you truly love so you enjoy and not endure your marriage.
If you can't forgive her and let go of the pains, please don't marry her.

You have said it all bro... If he knew what I went through with my wife when I was still dating her for 3 years and half but because of love, I still married her and forgive all ... Any time we are just talking and I mention any of the episodes...she do beg me for forgiveness because she knew she really suffered and cheated on me but love conquer all. To God be the glory, we are happily married going to 10 years with wonderful kids.

baiaon:
When you first met her,she was in the age bracket of 22 to 23years old.She must have had alot of suitors and options.Hence her nasty attitude towards you because you weren't her spec.Fast forward 3 years and the suitors and options have dried up hence her desire to get married as soon as possible to any available option that's why you see her cooking,sweeping and other bullshit that easily impresses Nigerian men
If you eventually marry her,she will change back to her nasty attitude when you first met her.Classic bait and switch

Op if u have ear listen, the original attitude is her true attitude. Women can pretend to get what they want, and when they get it, they then show their true colour especially when they have given u a child. She ve already shown you a red flag from day 1, look for a better option.

stanliwise:
Nice point made. But it is not wise to hold up the part she disgrace the OP for so long na, it was the past and people could be naive.

Guy man, that thing dey pain, na the proximity dey bring up the issue. Girls never disgrace you before? However, let him forgive but as for marriage, there's no relationship between the duo, just situationship and entanglement

proxillin:
Make i no lie you, I still habour hate for her. U got me there. I remember those disgrace everyday.
At times, I mistreat her, she will go and still come back..

she wont just go away.

I was in love with her until I got to know her personality. I still remember those moment I fantasize about her. Her physique, beauty and all The moment that made me approach her. I think thats what is keeping me with her.

What else do you want?

She knows she fvcked up big time... You called her bluff.. Blocked her. She knelt down to beg you.... Haba I can't do that for anyone I don do shakara for oh... No matter what

Please forgive her since your sister who exposed her has also forgiven and begged on her behalf... No try to do her strong thing oh... Take it easy and remember

To err is human but to forgive is divine... Cheers

Oga, this thing lengthy ooh! Who go help me?

proxillin:
You are connected to my thinking. I think I have to be bold and cut it.

Since you already have someone else you are dating now..... no need making your life more complicated .... Let her go...... and lastly she does not seem like a good person. No matter how it end, dont marrry her.

My little piece of advice.

proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.

3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.

We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.

My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).

We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad.
She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.

This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.

That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.

But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.

Pray about it , i have nothing to say again, you already had Sex with her

emillysmigael:
If you have forgiven her... let go of the past. If you have not truly forgiven her; kindly let her go in peace and not in pieces. Thanks

You've said it all just forget the past and move on with her present life

U Sha got her as a girlfriend. And now both of u want marriage but u can't forgive.

Ask urself these questions:

Do I love this girl?
Do I want to spend the rest of my life with her?
Can she be a better mother toy children?
What have I taught her as my values and was she able to learn them?
What are her financial management skills?
etc.

And as for u and ur past, u are just killing urself. What have u said about other Ladies? If u were to marry any now and they learn of what u have said, do u think they won't forgive u and move on?

If u truly can manage ur home with her then what is that manipulation called the PAST?

U are acting as if she was ur girlfriend then when she was insulting u.

Women always insult their men before saying yes...

So let ur past go guy

EmzyT:
Why would you have an advice to give him? If it was the other way round now, you and your group of feminists would've grazed this thread to say "Men are Scum/Thrash"

Are you certain this is a female? Not every F means the person behind the account is a female ooh

Pass her to me biko.
Since part of you hate her
Part of me go love her.

Na you bae
If you miss her
O ti enter one chance

guy man marry that gurl..no woman is �% that lady what I see she's 65..and 65 is manageable...she learned her lesson the hard way..pls learn to love her ,,,after 5 to 6 yrs you will thank me..when she deliver kids that looks like you ,,you will love her more. ...I insist you put ring on her finger...well wishes bro!

I don't see any thing much there just that she has came to realize her mistakes just see it as a past and see the good in her.

Bro it would be difficult for you but don't get committed to her that way someone that treated you that way then can do it again forget age she's not a child, as humans we always see red flags but ignore them.

Mehnnn, dis level of OP vindictiveness nawa oh. Anything you like do, but juz remember dat karma has your number on speed dial

Oga, sey na today woman dey form levels for man before finally say yes i do ni. Everything she has done is a normal thing in the course of toasting or asking a girl out. Lady's will like you and pretend as if you are the person she hates most. Common go ahead with meeting her parents and fix date for your marriage and start fucking her deeply deeper deep.

Proxillin, if you love your life, dump her and ban her from your home and your family. You shouldn't have let her come close to you at all. What the hell were you thinking?

She will soon do the part 2 for you and I guarantee you, the first one will look like comedy compared to the wicked tragedy she has in store. Some babes are not worth it. Don't let sex decide for you. Open your eyes man. You shouldn't have let such a snake get close to you again.

Okay, so maybe you think I'm taking it too far. Be honest with yourself. What do you think she is capable of if you decided tomorrow, to break up with her? Do you think she could go crazy and find a way to defame or embarass you? You know what the likely answer is. Better now than later.

Nobody suddenly becomes empathetic as adults. People rarely change and in this case, she is settling for you because her previous option didn't work out. Marry her and see American wonder.


OPEN YOUR DAMN EYES!

Begging good but has she changed from her old habit now that she is desperate to get marry she saw you as the last bustop ,your sister know her inside out, stay away from her ,you can forgive her but the wound in your heartl never heal.

Bizibi:
When i got to one thing lead to another,I told myself e don happen.

Motor don jam am

proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.

3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.

We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.

My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).

We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad.
She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.

This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.

That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.

But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.

Na to cry for you not advice you.

First of your sister encouraged you initially and later wanted to slap you?.. The part that hit me she wanted to ap you? Are you a man?

She came back because her option A wasn't available.. Your probably option C.. She's getting old and wants to settle down.

A girl wo can disrespect you in front of your sister.. Who your sister warned that your spoileing her relationship with her friend hmmm. Girls grow faster than boys and sort of stop growing mentally.. 24 that has no sense, your looking for trouble..

Sex has hooked you? Hmm are you sure she hasn't used Jaruma jazz on you?

How old are you? You think marriage is about sex?

Leave that girl she's doesn't love you,.. You will only manage each other when you marry.. No love.. Your lust...

She's even the one proposing marriage? My guy get closer to God make God fit help you.. Your in an entanglement with Satan

Truth be told, she doesn't love you. If she does, she wouldn't disgrace you in public like u narrated. If I were you, I'll just Bleep her the more and let go in two months.

stanliwise:
she is 26, which also means she has 3 yrs of playing around (based on societal standards this modern days). So she is still at her prime.

Research on female sexual market value says she's in her decline