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Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by efeteb: 11:04am On Jul 23, 2020
If you can see this, you really missed the point of her altitude then. She really liked you but immaturity on your part made you to miss the pointers.

1. She expected you to be bold to tell her what you want in verbatim but you where busy jumping around her, her only response is frustration which is shown in different form, she choosed rudeness to you which is a normal.

2. She brought you to her group out of naivety, to sample their opinion. Bashing you was done to save her face, if you are not accepted by the group.

3. Bringing you to her group was also to let your sister know she is on your matter. Since a girl can be toasted by many boys, but she only discuss the one she is interested in extensively.

4. I can see genuine love from her. Since after the sex, she has been showing you so much love. This is because you finally behaved as a man by meeting her expectations.

5. Treating her with hatred still goes to show that immaturity is still in you that made her despise you earlier. When you fight for something, WINNING your WARS, should compensate for the battle you lost. Her former behavior were you battles on this war.

6. You can be older in age than her, but that is different from maturity. A smart 16yrs old girl, has the maturity of a 24yrs old boy. Women always respect maturity.

7. I can tell from your story so far that you still liked her. Marrying her is not a mistake since you are the problem here. Holistically look at my points and see. These are some of the story you will share in your marriage later. There are still more that can be deduce from your story but let me stop here.

8. Finally, judging people with their past when the present is better is wickedness. If your employer choose to pay you with your primary or secondary school certificate when you have a BSc is that not witchcraft. That is what you are doing.

Show Maturity before you go into marriage. In marriage there will always be conflict of interest but maturity is what makes your conclusions okay for everyone.

She didn't do anything to you. Be matured
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by ThePussiologist: 11:09am On Jul 23, 2020
baiaon:
When you first met her,she was in the age bracket of 22 to 23years old.She must have had alot of suitors and options.Hence her nasty attitude towards you because you weren't her spec.Fast forward 3 years and the suitors and options have dried up hence her desire to get married as soon as possible to any available option that's why you see her cooking,sweeping and other bullshit that easily impresses Nigerian men
If you eventually marry her,she will change back to her nasty attitude when you first met her.Classic bait and switch
Big ups to you, most of the post were stinking of emotions and sentiments. You hit the nail on the head the OP should better take your advice that girl has no manners and wasn't trained. she its trash and if its me (will never anyway) I will do the same to her. Trash her and leave a very bitter taste in her mouth but you have to be smart about it. You have to do it in a way she will blame herself and see herself and the cause and not you.
OP listen to this wise man's post\
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by Damdammy: 11:15am On Jul 23, 2020
proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.

3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.

We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.

My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).

We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad.
She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.

This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.

That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.

But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.

Since you start fucking her, it will definitely becloud your sense of reasoning that is how it works... Couple with the fact that she has been acting as a wife already. Just give your self break and reason well. But if you know and you know you can forgive her whole heartedly and she meet your criteria why not move on with her and settle down.#myopinion#.
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by daniwilson789: 11:15am On Jul 23, 2020
debbydams:
why na. undecided
check your email box
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by maximusprime2000: 11:20am On Jul 23, 2020
efeteb:
If you can see this, you really missed the point of her altitude then. She really liked you but immaturity on your part made you to miss the pointers.

1. She expected you to be bold to tell her what you want in verbatim but you where busy jumping around her, her only response is frustration which is shown in different form, she choosed rudeness to you which is a normal.

2. She brought you to her group out of naivety, to sample their opinion. Bashing you was done to save her face, if you are not accepted by the group.

3. Bringing you to her group was also to let your sister know she is on your matter. Since a girl can be toasted by many boys, but she only discuss the one she is interested in extensively.

4. I can see genuine love from her. Since after the sex, she has been showing you so much love. This is because you finally behaved as a man by meeting her expectations.

5. Treating her with hatred still goes to show that immaturity is still in you that made her despise you earlier. When you fight for something, WINNING your WARS, should compensate for the battle you lost. Her former behavior were you battles on this war.

6. You can be older in age than her, but that is different from maturity. A smart 16yrs old girl, has the maturity of a 24yrs old boy. Women always respect maturity.

7. I can tell from your story so far that you still liked her. Marrying her is not a mistake since you are the problem here. Holistically look at my points and see. These are some of the story you will share in your marriage later. There are still more that can be deduce from your story but let me stop here.

8. Finally, judging people with their past when the present is better is wickedness. If your employer choose to pay you with your primary or secondary school certificate when you have a BSc is that not witchcraft. That is what you are doing.

Show Maturity before you go into marriage. In marriage there will always be conflict of interest but maturity is what makes your conclusions okay for everyone.

She didn't do anything to you. Be matured
EPIC TRASH
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by Nobody: 11:24am On Jul 23, 2020
You are a big fool if you ever consider that lady.. someone that insulted you in public?...gosh ..why is it that some guys don't have sense� She is done wasting her time and maybe she saw you have financial buoyancy and she is claiming love
.. oga, that lady is too fake, a hypocrite and don't love you ....she is pretending because maybe the guy she had before dissappointed her... Abeg don't ever think of marriage with her at all!..she lacks respect and she would still do you worst in the future!
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by Nobody: 11:27am On Jul 23, 2020
efeteb:
If you can see this, you really missed the point of her altitude then. She really liked you but immaturity on your part made you to miss the pointers.

1. She expected you to be bold to tell her what you want in verbatim but you where busy jumping around her, her only response is frustration which is shown in different form, she choosed rudeness to you which is a normal.

2. She brought you to her group out of naivety, to sample their opinion. Bashing you was done to save her face, if you are not accepted by the group.

3. Bringing you to her group was also to let your sister know she is on your matter. Since a girl can be toasted by many boys, but she only discuss the one she is interested in extensively.

4. I can see genuine love from her. Since after the sex, she has been showing you so much love. This is because you finally behaved as a man by meeting her expectations.

5. Treating her with hatred still goes to show that immaturity is still in you that made her despise you earlier. When you fight for something, WINNING your WARS, should compensate for the battle you lost. Her former behavior were you battles on this war.

6. You can be older in age than her, but that is different from maturity. A smart 16yrs old girl, has the maturity of a 24yrs old boy. Women always respect maturity.

7. I can tell from your story so far that you still liked her. Marrying her is not a mistake since you are the problem here. Holistically look at my points and see. These are some of the story you will share in your marriage later. There are still more that can be deduce from your story but let me stop here.

8. Finally, judging people with their past when the present is better is wickedness. If your employer choose to pay you with your primary or secondary school certificate when you have a BSc is that not witchcraft. That is what you are doing.

Show Maturity before you go into marriage. In marriage there will always be conflict of interest but maturity is what makes your conclusions okay for everyone.

She didn't do anything to you. Be matured



You are a fool!
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by SeanBeezy(m): 11:27am On Jul 23, 2020
proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.

3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.

We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.

My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).

We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad.
She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.

This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.

That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.

But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.
Bro, if you don't feel anything enough to marry her, then don't!
And don't have any revenge on her, it's not worth it!

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Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by Nobody: 11:30am On Jul 23, 2020
chyket:
The relationship has moved forward positively and let it be indeed!!! It's unfair to go back to the previous negative issues you had, unless there is something new negatively she has done.
I am sure that if we are preview to what you also told your own friends at the challenging period of the relationship,we may not continue to see you the way we currently do.
Please move forward

You are a bad adviser!
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by jmichael259(m): 11:31am On Jul 23, 2020
efeteb:
If you can see this, you really missed the point of her altitude then. She really liked you but immaturity on your part made you to miss the pointers.

1. She expected you to be bold to tell her what you want in verbatim but you where busy jumping around her, her only response is frustration which is shown in different form, she choosed rudeness to you which is a normal.

2. She brought you to her group out of naivety, to sample their opinion. Bashing you was done to save her face, if you are not accepted by the group.

3. Bringing you to her group was also to let your sister know she is on your matter. Since a girl can be toasted by many boys, but she only discuss the one she is interested in extensively.

4. I can see genuine love from her. Since after the sex, she has been showing you so much love. This is because you finally behaved as a man by meeting her expectations.

5. Treating her with hatred still goes to show that immaturity is still in you that made her despise you earlier. When you fight for something, WINNING your WARS, should compensate for the battle you lost. Her former behavior were you battles on this war.

6. You can be older in age than her, but that is different from maturity. A smart 16yrs old girl, has the maturity of a 24yrs old boy. Women always respect maturity.

7. I can tell from your story so far that you still liked her. Marrying her is not a mistake since you are the problem here. Holistically look at my points and see. These are some of the story you will share in your marriage later. There are still more that can be deduce from your story but let me stop here.

8. Finally, judging people with their past when the present is better is wickedness. If your employer choose to pay you with your primary or secondary school certificate when you have a BSc is that not witchcraft. That is what you are doing.

Show Maturity before you go into marriage. In marriage there will always be conflict of interest but maturity is what makes your conclusions okay for everyone.

She didn't do anything to you. Be matured


Are you sister Shiloh?

If it were the guy that behaved like that is it this same thing you would be saying?
Winning wars and immaturity kill you there.
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by Exodora: 11:31am On Jul 23, 2020
AustineAlex:


You’re mad!!
I don't even mind that you have always been a FA*GOT to me and an enormous douchebag.
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by Twelfthman: 11:36am On Jul 23, 2020
ekaF:


Don't even make excuses for her at all. At 23 she is no longer a child.


But I beg you. I'm on my knees ,DO NOT MARRY HER EVER

@ proxillin

Take this man advice. Its for your good man...
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by xest(m): 12:10pm On Jul 23, 2020
proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.

3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.

We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.

My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).

We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad.
She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.

This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.

That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.

But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.
Marriage and Dating are two different things. If your love and feelings are in doubt, please let her go. Don't marry
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by DivineTurnAroun(f): 12:16pm On Jul 23, 2020
[quote author=proxillin post=91987252]

Make i no lie you, I still habour hate for her. U got me there. I remember those disgrace everyday.
At times, I mistreat her, she will go and still come back..

she wont just go away.

I was in love with her until I got to know her personality. I still remember those moment I fantasize about her. Her physique, beauty and all The moment that made me approach her. I think thats what is keeping me with her.[that's the problem]
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by Hdanny(m): 12:41pm On Jul 23, 2020
I LOVE VIRGINS
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bro stop overrating pussy the way you are seeing it, there's nothing there. Truth be told what you have for this girl is lust not love, coming from a girl that belittle you infront of every body including your sister.

Bro wake up, forgive that beech, lash her as long as you want but don't take that bold step of marriage with her.

Remember anything that's built on begging will be maintained by begging. So if you marry her because of her pecky boobs and her over used pussy, then you know what will happen. Think about it
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by InfernoNig: 1:14pm On Jul 23, 2020
warmachine:
. Op if you take this advice eh! I pity you....Leave that girl she never liked you! She just ran out of options and decided to cling to you

Did you see anywhere I told him to continue dating her. Olodo. Read and understand.
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by latla: 1:16pm On Jul 23, 2020
Guy if you really and genuinely love her go and meet her parent, if you don't love her, quit the relationship. Everything is fair in love and war.
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by shilz(f): 1:56pm On Jul 23, 2020
baiaon:
When you first met her,she was in the age bracket of 22 to 23years old.She must have had alot of suitors and options.Hence her nasty attitude towards you because you weren't her spec.Fast forward 3 years and the suitors and options have dried up hence her desire to get married as soon as possible to any available option that's why you see her cooking,sweeping and other bullshit that easily impresses Nigerian men
If you eventually marry her,she will change back to her nasty attitude when you first met her.Classic bait and switch
sad truth.
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by 2kurupt(m): 2:05pm On Jul 23, 2020
"this one is ready to marry me"

The question should be are YOU ready to marry her? Don't start what you can't finish o
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by Nobody: 2:09pm On Jul 23, 2020
[quote author=dinodesmond post=92003403]

How the hell did you come about this advice, this story is not even true and you are bringing this kind of toxic advice?

Be kind.![/qu




I don't regret what I said Mr. Man! I'm not taking back the words cos that's wat she does, she knows how to shoot somebody in d head but doesn't want t be shot! & is weakness and trying t be nice to this chameleon is wat would get u killed one day Mr. Man, u underestimate women and think they are so innocent and pure they can't do no harm!
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by Lovenaija4real: 2:26pm On Jul 23, 2020
My brother just ask God to open your eyes and see beyond what you are seeing in the Lady now. And see what God will reveal to you.
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by millionboi2: 2:34pm On Jul 23, 2020
justscorchone:
She suck your preek abi na why you don dey craze atink?
u are right
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by obstead200(m): 2:42pm On Jul 23, 2020
proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.

3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.

We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.

My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).

We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad.
She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.

This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.

That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.

But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.
oga, she was being childish and was probably under peer pressure to date only guys of a certain class. Now she is older and wiser.
If u love her, forgive her. Na u still win. She went back to eat her vomit after boasting to her friends that she can't date u
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by obstead200(m): 2:43pm On Jul 23, 2020
baiaon:
When you first met her,she was in the age bracket of 22 to 23years old.She must have had alot of suitors and options.Hence her nasty attitude towards you because you weren't her spec.Fast forward 3 years and the suitors and options have dried up hence her desire to get married as soon as possible to any available option that's why you see her cooking,sweeping and other bullshit that easily impresses Nigerian men
If you eventually marry her,she will change back to her nasty attitude when you first met her.Classic bait and switch
true sha.

Any girl who once felt u are not her class, will definitely feel so again in future. Except u upgrade and become beyond her class
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by Nobody: 2:59pm On Jul 23, 2020
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Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by Joshforeal: 3:13pm On Jul 23, 2020
Angelinastto:
Only you can take this decision. All the group chat issh is normal stuff among ladies, your sister is also guilty. She was just doing shakara and at a point it got to her head. It's took her awhile to know what she wanted.
Come to think of it, the shame is not only yours. It's a shame she's ending up with a guy she has made fun of and embarrassed in public. Meaning, you're the best available guy after all.
It's a win win situation dear, in between, do not marry for anything but love.
All the best!
Abeg let us start our own. But who will disgrace who first?
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by Streetdreamx(m): 3:15pm On Jul 23, 2020
baiaon:
When you first met her,she was in the age bracket of 22 to 23years old.She must have had alot of suitors and options.Hence her nasty attitude towards you because you weren't her spec.Fast forward 3 years and the suitors and options have dried up hence her desire to get married as soon as possible to any available option that's why you see her cooking,sweeping and other bullshit that easily impresses Nigerian men
If you eventually marry her,she will change back to her nasty attitude when you first met her.Classic bait and switch
your comment tells me you're a real niggarrr.
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by millionboi2: 3:28pm On Jul 23, 2020
proxillin:
Thanks for your inputs. Thanks to those who got something sensible to say and to blank heads. Una thank you.

I dont think the relationship is healthy.something is not right.

I still think people dont just repent overnight except their is a secret reason.
nonsenses
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by Wellsvile(m): 3:56pm On Jul 23, 2020
Slimzjoe:
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It's been 2 years already. If she wasn't being honest, she'll have cracked by now.

It's impossible to totally kill bad memories of a person but you can try to ignore. As long as she makes you happy, stick with her

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are you sure you don't have feelings for her because you got intimate with her?

Lust or love?? I leave you to the answer
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by whirlwind7(m): 4:59pm On Jul 23, 2020
proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.

3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.

We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.

My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).

We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad.
She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.

This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.

That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.

But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.

You don't want to receive sense?
Ok, then.

My wish for you is to end up marrying such shallow and senseless woman. Her type is the reward for weak, indecisive men such as you.
Then, you'd get to find out what it means to be frustrated through the rest of your life.

Marriage is tough even with decent spouses nowadays, yet you want to to tango with someone whose attitude has raised very big red flags.
Sorry
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by OtobongAkpabio: 5:03pm On Jul 23, 2020
Bros, na sweet kitten Dem wan use tie you down. Run for your life my Gee
Re: My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now by Poseidon000: 5:32pm On Jul 23, 2020
baiaon:
When you first met her,she was in the age bracket of 22 to 23years old.She must have had alot of suitors and options.Hence her nasty attitude towards you because you weren't her spec.Fast forward 3 years and the suitors and options have dried up hence her desire to get married as soon as possible to any available option that's why you see her cooking,sweeping and other bullshit that easily impresses Nigerian men
If you eventually marry her,she will change back to her nasty attitude when you first met her.Classic bait and switch
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