internationalman:
All I have to say is quit masturbation...

did he masturbate?

You are not a failure that is why I am scared of raising my Kids in Nigeria

Karlifate:
YoungandDepress, I'm not a motivational speaker but I'll try to encourage you with these few words of mine.
Firstly, life ain't fair, so don't expect it to be. Accept that you've made mistakes in the past & turn them to life-long lessons. Stop beating yourself up over what you cannot change. The past is the past, you have the present, use it to change the future.
Secondly, have you ever thought that you're still alive for a reason? Discover that reason. It will you give you more insight about who you are. Confidence is not accidental, it is a resultant of something. That "something" may mean an achieved purpose.
Lastly, everyone needs a 'hope' to hold on to, that's why some people choose God cos it gives that hope they crave for. Don't give up cos you'll look back to laugh at this day.
Take care!

Thanks man, I appreciate.

I’d say you should focus on what you want choose to be, not what society wants you to be. The problem we have nowadays is that everybody wants to “belong” and live “that” life.

Life isn’t fair. The “happy” (more like fake) life you see on social media isn’t the full story. You’re you. You should be in charge of your fate and not “moving with the wind”

Stop comparing yourself to others.
Stop pressuring yourself to live up to the standards people set for you.
Stop pushing for only materialistic stuffs.
Stop caring about people’s opinion of you.
Stop living in the past.
Stop being hard on yourself.
Stop with the pessimistic thoughts

Life is too short for that. It only leads to depression and a miserable life (even with a fat account) and the sooner you lift your head and see beyond the facade of the world around you, the sooner you’d realize the limitless opportunities around you that can make you happier and make life a blessing.

All’s in the past so stop thinking, shut out all the “noise” no matter how distracting, set a goal and take a step. Even the tiniest can be very fulfilling if you set your sights right.

I hope things work out well for you ��

ZINIBANKS:
We are born into depression, poverty, pain,agony&plight
Just don't make the attempt of committing suicide cause all am seeing here is depression which may later lead to anything
Please bro don't try anything stupid or funny
All this you wrote are just new born baby problem near mine if I tell you mine you'll think otherwise
Bro just keep praying hopefully God will answer you one day

Thanks bro. I just keep pushing regardless.

I pray heaven smile on you too.

op u de make me laff .....make i tell u my own story??

busky101:
Please send me a pm asap

I just sent you a mail sir

Op, wait for it .... the sun rises every morning, the light always comes after dark so wait for it. Be patient ... be positive .... don't rush Practice deep breathing.

Try to focus on what's going well in your life. This is Naija, you're not one of the oldest broke undergraduates still living with his parents. Life is not a race ... stop measuring your level of success with others. Get busy, find opportunities to develop yourself. If you have access to internet, check out free online courses to up skill and become more marketable.

And very importantly, don't give up. Don't give in. Don't lose your faith in God. His ways are mysterious but He still is the best comforter in times of distress. Give it time and God will come through for you. This is a phase, however long, it won't last a lifetime. One day, you will struggle hard to recall how difficult your life once was. Be strong. Hey, chin up.

Not too late to turn your life around,try and conquer your bad vices and nuture the good ideals you have in you, remember fortune favours the bold,I remembered when I was your age I have postive and proactive friends ,it was on such trip with a friend to ibadan that I discovered a business niche that made me #1.5 million in 6 months and I am 23 yrs then but i have a Honda accord car with AC,look deep in your soul and discover what you can be good at and turn that into providing services,I was watching a clip on YouTube and saw how old dead truck/car batteries are revamped in Pakistan, imagine if you could learn such and apply it as your part-time hustle,a truck battery is roughly #50k now xx imagine if you can wake up a dead one with half that cost, customers will rush you,try and find how to provide services that people need but if you choose the easy lazy man's way of gambling you are only enriching the punters

This One never experience suffer firsthand..... U dy come speak English here !!!! Pm. Me lemme talk to you

Same age. Different level. Same thought. Home with p/mama. Gat nothing doing.
But my hope is in God, my case is worst you've got brothers but I got none.
May God perfect me/i bleed tears/

Also the same age with you, same level in university. Though mine is university of technology, Which means I still have 3years ahead before I could graduate.

Should I start my story from financially, socially, academics point of view?
Let's Just thank God and move on with life. There are some whose conditions are worst than we can imagine.

OP you think your condition is so bad? Wait till you hear little from my experiences about life.
I can't even type without shedding tears. Story for another day.

YoungandDepress:
My story is quite a sad and long one.
I wish I could write it all out. My life has been a terrible mess.
Where did it go wrong for me, I have no idea.

I am writing with so much emotion, my heart is full and heavy.
Life is bitter.

I am a 23 years old guy.
My life all started to go in the negative direction when I gained admission at age 16.
A 16 years old boy in the university, so much freedom and exposure.
I messed up my life, I became addicted to bet9ja virtual gambling I lost focus, Gambling killed me, I started failing exams, at the end I dropped out without my parents Knowing, but the truth came out when I was supposed to graduate, I could not hide it anymore. I told them the truth, my parents forgave me like the prodigal son.

They still believed in me especially my mom, she keeps reminding me of how intelligent I used to be.

Well I'm not here to talk about my past life but here to talk about how it is still affecting me today.

Ever since I started university all over again, I have been miserable and frustrated. Nothing has been working in my favour. I'm currently now in 200level hoping to graduate before 25.
All my mates I started with have done their NYSC.

I'm still stuck in the same stage.
I have no idea what I am doing with my life. I'm young, broke and depressed. I get irritated over little things. I feel disgust at how I uselessed my youthful life. How gambling destroyed me.

By the grace of whichever god exists, I am no longer addicted to gambling. I have quit the addiction for almost a year now but nothing changed, I still feel miserable. I hate having people around me even my family members including my mom.

I have no true friends. Nobody checks on me, nobody calls me.

At this age, I can't boast of having 500 naira in my account.
I'm broke and miserable.

I have started hating God and question my belief in God. I hate Sunday's. I hate hearing about God, I don't blame God for my troubles but I'm angry at the fact that despite my parents being dedicated Christians, things are not working well in my family.
My elder ones are graduates, but no solid job yet.

Only my eldest brother who is doing quite well now and I thank God for his life but we don't talk. I can't remember the last time I called him on phone. They don't hate me, I hate myself.
I have disappointed them a lot.


I just lost the last #1000 I had in my life today and I cried. The money fell out my pocket when I went to get something.

At 23 years, I have no idea what I will do with my future.
I still live with my parents and I have never rented an apartment of my own even in school.

What is wrong with me, why am I miserable?

I have no good clothes. My clothes are all worn out.
I have nothing doing, i live off my parents.

Since schools were shut down, I have been at home doing nothing.
Completely broke, damaged and miserable.

Can my life be any better. What do I do. I am depressed.
I keep asking myself these questions but there
Seem to be no answer.

I understand how you feel because I have been through such thoughts before. We age mates.

At 19, I lost my mom, few months later I lost my friend. At 22 I got withdrawn from pharmacy school in the university.

I hated myself and didn't like the way things were going. I stopped believing in God and many things. I accepted my fate.

Here are the things I did that got me on a journey to achieving my goals.

1) I asked myself, what is my purpose ( I don't have the answer yet)
2) I found a hobby that got me engaged and active( forex trading). Learn a high income skill, you can get free courses on udemy.com
3) I started early morning workouts. 6am-6:30am( health is wealth)
4) I set goals( gave me a sense of something to aim for each month)
5) I cut away my friends, family and stopped watching TV( only your parents care about you)
6) I started reading ( after my withdrawal from. Pharmacy school, I had all the time in the world and I read somewhere that readers are leaders. I don't know if that is true)

Also you are 23 for Christ sake...no one expects you to have a car or a millionaire naira in your name. The time is on your side, you have 30, 40, 50 and many more years to celebrate on earth.

My step mom gave me this advice: " The foundation of a sky scraper goes deep into the ground, you don't know what plans God has for your life"

Face your challenges SQUARELY. Stop visiting nairaland, visit Quora.com instead.

I hope this helps

KingPipmarshall:



I understand how you feel because I have been through such thoughts before. We age mates.

At 19, I lost my mom, few months later I lost my friend. At 22 I got withdrawn from pharmacy school in the university.

I hated myself and didn't like the way things were going. I stopped believing in God and many things. I accepted my fate.

Here are the things I did that got me on a journey to achieving my goals.

1) I asked myself, what is my purpose ( I don't have the answer yet)
2) I found a hobby that got me engaged and active( forex trading). Learn a high income skill, you can get free courses on udemy.com
3) I started early morning workouts. 6am-6:30am( health is wealth)
4) I set goals( gave me a sense of something to aim for each month)
5) I cut away my friends, family and stopped watching TV( only your parents care about you)
6) I started reading ( after my withdrawal from. Pharmacy school, I had all the time in the world and I read somewhere that readers are leaders. I don't know if that is true)



Also you are 23 for Christ sake...no one expects you to have a car or a millionaire naira in your name. The time is on your side, you have 30, 40, 50 and many more years to celebrate on earth.


My step mom gave me this advice: " The foundation of a sky scraper goes deep into the ground, you don't know what plans God has for your life"

Face your challenges SQUARELY. Stop visiting nairaland, visit Quora.com instead.

I hope this helps

Well said bro

Regex:


Hey buddy.. We are in the same boat. Funny right? Nope. Shall we talk? Zero Eight 0 Seven Five Seven Six 4 One Five Eight.

similar story to mine, yours.

internationalman:
All I have to say is quit masturbation...

if you do this, stop it too.... Small truth dey there.

My guy this life no balance oo

Yet as far as you still breathing make it worth while, you're not in competition with anyone ooo Abeg, this life is d only race way dem no dey give award for one first reach finish line but for everyone to get there, so get there man.

As Naija pple aren't we all depressed by default , my guy find the little things that gives u hope, makes u laugh makes you look forward to better days, Aswear we all need true friends in the lives Sha, at least guys we can pour out our fears without judgment, see ehnn Las Las we go all dey aiit, as for me na God I dey look up too, Baba got my back 24/7, make em Sha just bless d labors of my hand make everywhere soft, my folks dey for me to take care of.

I dey listen to J Cole - love yourz, dey type you

First ask yourself what do you wish become, you still have enough time to achieve it. if the course you are doing in school is not what you really desire go after that which you desire, it is never too late.
Set goals for yourself it will keep you going.
Don't look for work to earn money but rather learn a skill.
You are greedy, you feel intimidated and pressure because you feel your mate are living better than you so you became desperate that is why ventured into gambling but what you don't understand is that everything takes process and time, thank God you've learned your lesson and you've quit gambling but try also to drop your greed and desperation it will only push you into another mistake....
love yourself, build yourself and trust the process

@op

There's nothing to live for in your past, it is your past...

What you can do is start afresh, start somewhere. There are plenty things you can do to be financially independent, that are not toxic like gambling.

Don't give up. Any point you are now can be your starting point on your journey towards a better life.


If graduating with a third class after 7years+ in school couldn't stop me, nothing should be strong enough to stop you...

ZINIBANKS:

Tell me how this correlate with what the op his saying

Funny enough that is the best reply i saw.

Israelsaidu:
similar story to mine, yours.

Yeah..

YoungandDepress:


I regret my past daily. I think about it all the time but it does me no good. I have accepted my fate and moved on but like they say the evil that men do surely lives with tgem
I'm suffering from the consequences of what I brought upon myself and pray life gets better for me.

Thank you for your advice.

what is your zodiac Horoscope sign

YoungandDepress:

I know the sins of my past are catching up with me. Karma is hitting me from all directions.
I see my mates riding nice cars, living in their rented apartment, I cry.

Most of my classmates I finished secondary school with are now responsible graduates and here I am, stuck in 200level.

I see them in the street and I hide myself in shame and disgrace because I can't answer the catching up questions.

I still ask 500 naira from my parents just to go out.

I stayed through out the month of June without earning even one thousand naira by myself.

Sometimes I curse the day I was born and why I came through a mid level family and not a rich family.

God has abandoned me. I can't remember the last time I prayed. Not that I even care now.
I am turning into an atheist because of my frustrations.

Sometimes I think why not just die and end it all, I mean we are all going to die one day so what is the point, but then I think of my family and the shame it will bring upon them and at the same time I think what if I die and heaven and hell is real. It's funny how the thought of hell keeps me going and trying to do good with my life when I don't really believe in God anymore.


Safe to say, my suicidal tendencies are very low to non existent but I hope I have the courage to keep pushing. I hope one day, I just don't loose it completely.

Even my phone I am using to type this has a damaged screen which I'm half managing but it is what it is, I have no funds to fix it and no relative to help.

I mean I'm just here watching the days go by, taking evening walks around the neighborhood and thinking how my life would have been if I didn't mess it up or did all these happen to me so I can be a testimony to others if life decides to smile on me?
I have no idea.

I'M JUST A YOUNG, BROKE, MISERABLE AND DEPRESSED MAN.

I PRAY MY SOUL FINDS THE PEACE THAT IT DESPERATELY SEEKS.


I just wanted to table my emotions here and vent out all the frustrations in my head because I have no one to talk deep with me. I hope to find little relief and seek solace in the peace of others.


CC... Lalasticlala, Seun, Mynd44.

life can be funny bro.. I had friends who had admission late, some graduated @30, while some @25.... At 23, u still have hope of doing something for yourself... Urwriteup showed how brilliant u we're, and how intelligent u should be. There is nothing bad in living off ur parents as a student.

Try ur possible best to learn a skill, even if u hav to involve ur eldest brother, maybe he can be of help, they can only forgive a sin of such magnitude if dey realize u ar doing somtin for urslf!

I won't advice u work for small business DAT pays a merger salary, better u sacrifice dis time for the future, either online or offline, there are alot of skills u can learn!!

I'm a realistic pencil artist, and I do various forms of graphics designs too, picture frames, 3d canvas, wall panels etc... I can help with the latter skills if u have a laptop, and I can teach u arts (FREE) if u have the passion and the talent inert My link is there on my signature!

@23 yrs your complaining

If u know what most of us in our 30s are seeing.
you will just be praising God.

Can u stay 24hrs without food. whereas u have house rent, light bill to pay

Who doesn’t live off parents at 23? You are putting too much pressure on yourself. Please calm down.

gigante:
Brother please calm down, like you I'm a law undergraduate in 300 level at the same age with you. Yes admission frustrated me, i sat for jamb 4/5 times. Please calm down.

As for broke, aren't we undergraduates all broke? I know you feel like a failure but please calm down. Are you on WhatsApp? Can we talk privately?

Pls talk to him, you are of the same age. You all relate better with him

YoungandDepress:

I know the sins of my past are catching up with me. Karma is hitting me from all directions.
I see my mates riding nice cars, living in their rented apartment, I cry.

Most of my classmates I finished secondary school with are now responsible graduates and here I am, stuck in 200level.

I see them in the street and I hide myself in shame and disgrace because I can't answer the catching up questions.

I still ask 500 naira from my parents just to go out.

I stayed through out the month of June without earning even one thousand naira by myself.

Sometimes I curse the day I was born and why I came through a mid level family and not a rich family.

God has abandoned me. I can't remember the last time I prayed. Not that I even care now.
I am turning into an atheist because of my frustrations.

Sometimes I think why not just die and end it all, I mean we are all going to die one day so what is the point, but then I think of my family and the shame it will bring upon them and at the same time I think what if I die and heaven and hell is real. It's funny how the thought of hell keeps me going and trying to do good with my life when I don't really believe in God anymore.


Safe to say, my suicidal tendencies are very low to non existent but I hope I have the courage to keep pushing. I hope one day, I just don't loose it completely.

Even my phone I am using to type this has a damaged screen which I'm half managing but it is what it is, I have no funds to fix it and no relative to help.

I mean I'm just here watching the days go by, taking evening walks around the neighborhood and thinking how my life would have been if I didn't mess it up or did all these happen to me so I can be a testimony to others if life decides to smile on me?
I have no idea.

I'M JUST A YOUNG, BROKE, MISERABLE AND DEPRESSED MAN.

I PRAY MY SOUL FINDS THE PEACE THAT IT DESPERATELY SEEKS.


I just wanted to table my emotions here and vent out all the frustrations in my head because I have no one to talk deep with me. I hope to find little relief and seek solace in the peace of others.


CC... Lalasticlala, Seun, Mynd44.

Calm yourself my brother....you are still young and its never too late for things to take shape.It's a good thing u are no longer a slave to gambling and going back to school is the best thing you've done for now. But then,now is the time to focus on ur education and forge your future.like u said , ur parents still believe in you please do not let them down..I would suggest you take up a part-time job so as to help u through school and you ll stop being broke. Make friends, watch movies/football, attend church services on Sunday's, listen to music and u ll see life should'nt be as hard as u take it. Wish you well my brother.

You think you're suffering? You're a thousand times better than a million others. At least your parents are still catering for your well-being and here you are, unappreciative! Ungrateful!!
Yeah, we all think we deserve better but we cannot change our present circumstances. We can decide our future to some extent.
If you hear my story eh
Your own na testimony

YoungandDepress:

I know the sins of my past are catching up with me. Karma is hitting me from all directions.
I see my mates riding nice cars, living in their rented apartment, I cry.

Most of my classmates I finished secondary school with are now responsible graduates and here I am, stuck in 200level.

I see them in the street and I hide myself in shame and disgrace because I can't answer the catching up questions.

I still ask 500 naira from my parents just to go out.

I stayed through out the month of June without earning even one thousand naira by myself.

Sometimes I curse the day I was born and why I came through a mid level family and not a rich family.

God has abandoned me. I can't remember the last time I prayed. Not that I even care now.
I am turning into an atheist because of my frustrations.

Sometimes I think why not just die and end it all, I mean we are all going to die one day so what is the point, but then I think of my family and the shame it will bring upon them and at the same time I think what if I die and heaven and hell is real. It's funny how the thought of hell keeps me going and trying to do good with my life when I don't really believe in God anymore.


Safe to say, my suicidal tendencies are very low to non existent but I hope I have the courage to keep pushing. I hope one day, I just don't loose it completely.

Even my phone I am using to type this has a damaged screen which I'm half managing but it is what it is, I have no funds to fix it and no relative to help.

I mean I'm just here watching the days go by, taking evening walks around the neighborhood and thinking how my life would have been if I didn't mess it up or did all these happen to me so I can be a testimony to others if life decides to smile on me?
I have no idea.

I'M JUST A YOUNG, BROKE, MISERABLE AND DEPRESSED MAN.

I PRAY MY SOUL FINDS THE PEACE THAT IT DESPERATELY SEEKS.


I just wanted to table my emotions here and vent out all the frustrations in my head because I have no one to talk deep with me. I hope to find little relief and seek solace in the peace of others.


CC... Lalasticlala, Seun, Mynd44.

Firstly you are blaming God for what you did to yourself.

Questioning God why your life is like this after you admitted to have wasted a golden opportunity of getting admission into the University at a very tender age of 16.
Let me tell you God shouldn't be blamed for ur failure, blame urself and retrace ur steps.

It is normal to feel depressed but don't allow depression overwhelm u.
Get a handwork that you can learn within six months, you are always depressed because you are alone and doing nothing.

There is always a second chance, some people even get up to Fifth chances.
The second chance you have now is ur mum who still believe in you and still finance ur education even after messing up at first she wants you to be great.
I remember when I had extra year because of my project supervisor who hated me so much it was only my mum who believed in me, even some of my siblings believed the issue I had was more than project they believed I have been expelled or perhaps I had many carry overs which I was hiding from them but only my mum believed me like ur mum is doing now (Mothers are worth more than gold).

So my friend take the advice I have giving you and let me also remind you that don't let any girl distract you, that was one of the mistakes I made then.

The fact is if you are able to graduate from Nigeria University without bowing to peer pressure of smoking, partying, gambling, womanizing, and joining any fraternity then nothing can change you again.

My guy we all make mistakes but don't let ur past weigh u down.
The future is bright, make Mama proud.

With love from the side

blazingblender:
op u de make me laff .....make i tell u my own story??

Everybody get story
If I should tell him mine he go know say him own small, just that I wasn't expelled from d Uni, my mates graduated in 2015 and served in 2016 but here I am just finished my NYSC this year.

Anyways glory be to God because even as a corper I was doing fine than my mates who served 3 years before me, I was a "big boy kopa" that's wat they called me.

Done with service and God is been faithful everything is falling in place.

This life no be by who first get na who get pass

Gambling is fairly easy to stop. Just go to the bet shop one day without cash and start to predict games. Calculate the losses you would have incurred if you had gone with money. Do this multiple times and that should be enough to open your eyes. Do you really think you can get rich playing virtual games? Money flows in the direction of value that you provide. What value do you provide by playing virtual games? You are merely placing your happiness, your hopes in the hands of some 2D characters moving around on the screen. Characters that have been programmed to make the company gain more and to make the bettors lose their money.
God is not your problem, bro. You are your own problem. Learn to take responsibility for your actions. It is true that you can't change the past, so you must not let it weigh you down. Reminisce on your past solely for the lessons you have to learn, not to regret. At 23, you are still in the morning stage of your life.
As for being an undergraduate at your age, I don't see anything wrong in it. Are you the oldest in your department? I'm sure you are not. Even if you are, what does it matter? What if you see your age as an advantage? Unlike most of your teenage colleagues, you have experienced more in life. It would be easy for you to understand that school life is beyond academics. Getting a side hustle, cultivating valuable relationships and networks, discovering your talents and using them appropriately, learning in demand skills, all these things are just as important as studying your courses while you are in school.
Your mates that you are comparing yourself to are completely different people with different life journeys. Live your life, bro. It's not by who left school first or who served first or who started living large first. The future is pregnant, you don't know where God or life is taking you.
If you have a flair for writing articles or stories, I can connect you to people who will give you writing jobs steadily. If you are dedicated, you will make enough to get little things for yourself. If you could this post with your phone, then you can do writing jobs on your phone. Send me a DM if you are interested.

I could remember when we were born then in the early 60s, at 23 you're still comfortably sucking your mother's breast.

Children of nowadays just want everything fast fast.