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@op, just calm down. Thank God you still have parents dah supports you. At 23, and you in 200 level, thank God for your life. For the brokenness, it's temporary, you will soon overcome it. Still thank God you not firstborn and your parents did not depend on you to feed. Everybody have story to tell. You just have to focus and promise yourself dah you will get over dis. You still young broda. Go back to God. Talk to Him. He will listen.. forget about "my mates" focus on yourself.

@YoungandDepress,
At first, you're suffering from analysis paralysis and it's wrecking you. A chronic symptom of over thinking and depression. Forgive yourself and move on.

Thank God you realise before it's too late, your awareness will initiate your transformation. I know what it means to be a brilliant folk, always aiming higher more than where you currently are.

However, you need to pull yourself up. It's all in your hands to do the needful or rather gets stucked in your head analysing the past that doesn't exist.
Do a google search about those aged below 23 who have died, you will be surprised. Think of genuine reason to be grateful.

If you never fell a victim of addiction, you would still be broke at one point in time... everyone faces challenges at one point in time.....an average person you meet on the road has a story.

What you need now is brand new life loaded with soothing energy to guide your ways. That's where peace of mind comes from.

The worst thing that could ever happen to a man is wallowing in a state of confusion . Many become drug addicts and drunkards owing to this.

You really need to retain God in your knowledge, don't mind those naysayers. You're not doing God any favour, as you will enjoy 100% of the benefits morally, emotionally, psychologically, productively e.t.c google audio messages of renowned men of God, listen to them, you will be refreshed with new energy to start afresh with great focus.

Lastly, the best revenge to yourself and those you've failed is massive success. Do away with what you can't control.

After forgiving yourself, think of what you love most. Is it music, tech, skill, studying e.t.c just pick it up and focus all your energy on it like your whole life depended on it. It's your story.... you have to be successful to make your story interesting and inspiring to doubters. Else, the world doesn't care of it and you will hate Yourself even more.

Self reflection and personal meditation are forms of gift, use them well. Wrong friends can send you back to square one.

Never compare!!! Focus on your life and be appreciative.

It's in your hand, the world doesn't care.

Walix:
Bro,
I am 47 Years and think I am in a position to advise you. One thing I realized after all these years is that finishing school early does not give any long term advantage in life. Most of us who could have gone to do our masters and even doctorate degrees thought we needed to make money like everyone else and jumped out of school.

You need to actually pray more and get closer to God not farther away. Ask the holy spirit to help you turn things around and stop thinking time has passed you by because that is not true at all. At 23, you have your whole life ahead of you. I just got my doctorate degree a month ago showing you that it is never too late to achieve something. Would have been nice if I got it at 28 or 30 but life goes on.

By the way, I can replace your lost #1000 if you drop your account number.

I have been trying to be a better person, I'm not lazy, I have worked.
Each time I try to be positive, something happens and I lose track of myself again. I'm trying to understand a lot at the moment.


Thanks sir for reaching out. I appreciate very much.

Do I send you a mail?

YoungandDepress:
My story is quite a sad and long one.
I wish I could write it all out. My life has been a terrible mess.
Where did it go wrong for me, I have no idea.

I am writing with so much emotion, my heart is full and heavy.
Life is bitter.

I am a 23 years old guy.
My life all started to go in the negative direction when I gained admission at age 16.
A 16 years old boy in the university, so much freedom and exposure.
I messed up my life, I became addicted to bet9ja virtual gambling I lost focus, Gambling killed me, I started failing exams, at the end I dropped out without my parents Knowing, but the truth came out when I was supposed to graduate, I could not hide it anymore. I told them the truth, my parents forgave me like the prodigal son.

They still believed in me especially my mom, she keeps reminding me of how intelligent I used to be.

Well I'm not here to talk about my past life but here to talk about how it is still affecting me today.

Ever since I started university all over again, I have been miserable and frustrated. Nothing has been working in my favour. I'm currently now in 200level hoping to graduate before 25.
All my mates I started with have done their NYSC.

I'm still stuck in the same stage.
I have no idea what I am doing with my life. I'm young, broke and depressed. I get irritated over little things. I feel disgust at how I uselessed my youthful life. How gambling destroyed me.

By the grace of whichever god exists, I am no longer addicted to gambling. I have quit the addiction for almost a year now but nothing changed, I still feel miserable. I hate having people around me even my family members including my mom.

I have no true friends. Nobody checks on me, nobody calls me.

At this age, I can't boast of having 500 naira in my account.
I'm broke and miserable.

I have started hating God and question my belief in God. I hate Sunday's. I hate hearing about God, I don't blame God for my troubles but I'm angry at the fact that despite my parents being dedicated Christians, things are not working well in my family.
My elder ones are graduates, but no solid job yet.

Only my eldest brother who is doing quite well now and I thank God for his life but we don't talk. I can't remember the last time I called him on phone. They don't hate me, I hate myself.
I have disappointed them a lot.


I just lost the last #1000 I had in my life today and I cried. The money fell out my pocket when I went to get something.

At 23 years, I have no idea what I will do with my future.
I still live with my parents and I have never rented an apartment of my own even in school.

What is wrong with me, why am I miserable?

I have no good clothes. My clothes are all worn out.
I have nothing doing, i live off my parents.

Since schools were shut down, I have been at home doing nothing.
Completely broke, damaged and miserable.

Can my life be any better. What do I do. I am depressed.
I keep asking myself these questions but there
Seem to be no answer.

message me 08133527003

My brother you need to calm down.
To imagine that without anyone advicing you or putting you through therapy, you have come to the realization of the what is wrong in your life.
Definitely God has a plan for your life, all you need do is be willing and obedient.
Find your way back to God and he'll guide and leas you all the days of your life

Jesus is the prince of peace
Paul said in Philippians 4:7 (KJV), “And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
Give your life to Christ cos he still loves you


Peace be with you brother.

Three things can make your life miserable for a young guy.

1) Gambling
2) Pornography & Masturbation
3) Drug abuse like weed and alcohol.

Of all of these,. If you talk into the trap ad addiction of any you'll be miserable for the rest of your life.

Gambling ,it's not just about the money you'll loose,but you'll waste valuable time analyzing nonsense and checking score, you'll be frustrated and struggle to recover your lost money , you'll borrow to gamble and feel miserable you'll end up in debt and waste your life of nothing. Tell me one rich man you know that made it through gambling. Inorder to stop this habit, you must dissociate yourself from any triggers, friends that gamble, gambling groups, everything, find a place to keep your money far from your reach until you need it.

Pls and pls, guys avoid this three vices at all cost.

23 is still a young age
In this internet age, only a fool can complain of being idle.
Get some subscription fund from your parents and learn programming, digital marketing etc.
You are at the best age for learning anything. You will thank your star 15 years later if you do now. But will regret if you don't

Twenty8:
You sound 90% like me, but I am starting to get it. I think I know what our types need to do to get a sense of purpose.

Please whats that?

Op, you are enjoying. Honestly speaking. You don't even have to bother about your clothing, feeding and shelter. You just need to organize your life. If you take a sneak peak into my own life ehh, you'll thank your stars.

Just take a deep breath, my friend was rusticated in his final year, he dropped out without telling his parents and he was 24 then, he started doing odd jobs just to survive. At 29 he gained admission to study law and currently he is 32. All you need is to work hard and trust God, everything will be fine.

gigante:
Brother please calm down, like you I'm a law undergraduate in 300 level at the same age with you. Yes admission frustrated me, i sat for jamb 4/5 times. Please calm down.

As for broke, aren't we undergraduates all broke? I know you feel like a failure but please calm down. Are you on WhatsApp? Can we talk privately?

Which uni, my learning colleague?

You are 23 in 200l and you are unhappy. You better thank God for life.. Trust the process
There is time for everything. Forget about your friends o.. You can't use them to measure how successful you will be in the future.. There is time for everything under heaven..

randomShek:
I’d say you should focus on what you want choose to be, not what society wants you to be. The problem we have nowadays is that everybody wants to “belong” and live “that” life.

Life isn’t fair. The “happy” (more like fake) life you see on social media isn’t the full story. You’re you. You should be in charge of your fate and not “moving with the wind”

Stop comparing yourself to others.
Stop pressuring yourself to live up to the standards people set for you.
Stop pushing for only materialistic stuffs.
Stop caring about people’s opinion of you.
Stop living in the past.
Stop being hard on yourself.
Stop with the pessimistic thoughts

Life is too short for that. It only leads to depression and a miserable life (even with a fat account) and the sooner you lift your head and see beyond the facade of the world around you, the sooner you’d realize the limitless opportunities around you that can make you happier and make life a blessing.

All’s in the past so stop thinking, shut out all the “noise” no matter how distracting, set a goal and take a step. Even the tiniest can be very fulfilling if you set your sights right.

I hope things work out well for you ��

God continue to.bless you bro for this advice. I really needed to see this

[quote author=YoungandDepress post=92495202][/quote]You were very young when you got hooked on gambling. Addicts are sick and some of them never recover. So instead of whining and comparing yourself to others and where you could be right now, be very grateful, like extremely grateful, that you have recovered. How old young are you again? 23? Don't make me slap you. You have your entire life ahead of you and you have many possibilities to turn it around. Not everybody has a supportive mother who believes in them even after they have messed up. Another reason to count your lucky stars.

YOU ARE VERY YOUNG!

Don't look back. Look forward. And make the best of it.

In some years you will look back and smile.

YoungandDepress:
My story is quite a sad and long one.
I wish I could write it all out. My life has been a terrible mess.
Where did it go wrong for me, I have no idea.

I am writing with so much emotion, my heart is full and heavy.
Life is bitter.

I am a 23 years old guy.
My life all started to go in the negative direction when I gained admission at age 16.
A 16 years old boy in the university, so much freedom and exposure.
I messed up my life, I became addicted to bet9ja virtual gambling I lost focus, Gambling killed me, I started failing exams, at the end I dropped out without my parents Knowing, but the truth came out when I was supposed to graduate, I could not hide it anymore. I told them the truth, my parents forgave me like the prodigal son.

They still believed in me especially my mom, she keeps reminding me of how intelligent I used to be.

Well I'm not here to talk about my past life but here to talk about how it is still affecting me today.

Ever since I started university all over again, I have been miserable and frustrated. Nothing has been working in my favour. I'm currently now in 200level hoping to graduate before 25.
All my mates I started with have done their NYSC.

I'm still stuck in the same stage.
I have no idea what I am doing with my life. I'm young, broke and depressed. I get irritated over little things. I feel disgust at how I uselessed my youthful life. How gambling destroyed me.

By the grace of whichever god exists, I am no longer addicted to gambling. I have quit the addiction for almost a year now but nothing changed, I still feel miserable. I hate having people around me even my family members including my mom.

I have no true friends. Nobody checks on me, nobody calls me.

At this age, I can't boast of having 500 naira in my account.
I'm broke and miserable.

I have started hating God and question my belief in God. I hate Sunday's. I hate hearing about God, I don't blame God for my troubles but I'm angry at the fact that despite my parents being dedicated Christians, things are not working well in my family.
My elder ones are graduates, but no solid job yet.

Only my eldest brother who is doing quite well now and I thank God for his life but we don't talk. I can't remember the last time I called him on phone. They don't hate me, I hate myself.
I have disappointed them a lot.


I just lost the last #1000 I had in my life today and I cried. The money fell out my pocket when I went to get something.

At 23 years, I have no idea what I will do with my future.
I still live with my parents and I have never rented an apartment of my own even in school.

What is wrong with me, why am I miserable?

I have no good clothes. My clothes are all worn out.
I have nothing doing, i live off my parents.

Since schools were shut down, I have been at home doing nothing.
Completely broke, damaged and miserable.

Can my life be any better. What do I do. I am depressed.
I keep asking myself these questions but there
Seem to be no answer.

Bros, calm down. You're just 23, and you have a whole great life ahead of you.

Let me summarize my story, maybe it will encourage you: I wasted my youthful days pursuing a football career and at the end of the day it went south, but I braced myself at 26, wrote jamb, passed very well and got admission in a very good university. I graduated at 30+ plus, and with a 2.1. At this time all my mates were already getting married, buying cars and doing good, but I didn't let it weigh me down; at least I went back to school and did good.

5 solid years after graduation, I'm yet to get a job; you can imagine how old I am now, but I still believe, I still keep hope and faith alive, and I still keep my hands clean and believe that one day my story will change.


So, brace up, bro! At 23, you still have your life all in front of you. Just quit comparing, regretting and living in the past. You can't change the past, but you can make the future whatever you want it to be, so focus your energies on what you can change not what you can't.

Never stop believing!

I've been in Nairaland for quite a while now and today is the only day i've seen real people here

kiddkash:
I know real depression.
I know how I came out of it, without family, friends and away in a far away country

Glad you survived

God has better plan for you.Many youthful years are still ahead of you to adjust for a better future.Never repeat the error of the past.Stop comparing yourself with anyone and start working to secure your tomorrow.

YoungandDepress:
My story is quite a sad and long one.
I wish I could write it all out. My life has been a terrible mess.
Where did it go wrong for me, I have no idea.

I am writing with so much emotion, my heart is full and heavy.
Life is bitter.

I am a 23 years old guy.
My life all started to go in the negative direction when I gained admission at age 16.
A 16 years old boy in the university, so much freedom and exposure.
I messed up my life, I became addicted to bet9ja virtual gambling I lost focus, Gambling killed me, I started failing exams, at the end I dropped out without my parents Knowing, but the truth came out when I was supposed to graduate, I could not hide it anymore. I told them the truth, my parents forgave me like the prodigal son.

They still believed in me especially my mom, she keeps reminding me of how intelligent I used to be.

Well I'm not here to talk about my past life but here to talk about how it is still affecting me today.

Ever since I started university all over again, I have been miserable and frustrated. Nothing has been working in my favour. I'm currently now in 200level hoping to graduate before 25.
All my mates I started with have done their NYSC.

I'm still stuck in the same stage.
I have no idea what I am doing with my life. I'm young, broke and depressed. I get irritated over little things. I feel disgust at how I uselessed my youthful life. How gambling destroyed me.

By the grace of whichever god exists, I am no longer addicted to gambling. I have quit the addiction for almost a year now but nothing changed, I still feel miserable. I hate having people around me even my family members including my mom.

I have no true friends. Nobody checks on me, nobody calls me.

At this age, I can't boast of having 500 naira in my account.
I'm broke and miserable.

I have started hating God and question my belief in God. I hate Sunday's. I hate hearing about God, I don't blame God for my troubles but I'm angry at the fact that despite my parents being dedicated Christians, things are not working well in my family.
My elder ones are graduates, but no solid job yet.

Only my eldest brother who is doing quite well now and I thank God for his life but we don't talk. I can't remember the last time I called him on phone. They don't hate me, I hate myself.
I have disappointed them a lot.


I just lost the last #1000 I had in my life today and I cried. The money fell out my pocket when I went to get something.

At 23 years, I have no idea what I will do with my future.
I still live with my parents and I have never rented an apartment of my own even in school.

What is wrong with me, why am I miserable?

I have no good clothes. My clothes are all worn out.
I have nothing doing, i live off my parents.

Since schools were shut down, I have been at home doing nothing.
Completely broke, damaged and miserable.

Can my life be any better. What do I do. I am depressed.
I keep asking myself these questions but there
Seem to be no answer.

u hate God, u hate everyone, because u messed up ur own life

Are u Ok at all?
is it God that made u mess up ur life?

I understand u av regrets, but u av to accept the fact that, ur mess was ur fault, and not anyone else

Be responsible, come to terms with the fact that there are consequences for actions

Forget the past, and focus on ur future. Make up ur mind to be happy, get a job, legit hustle, anything legit u can do to earn money, and stop transferring ur anger on others

Reference:
There are lots of angles to this and lots of approaches, but before dismantling your life with a view to servicing the parts and rebuilding it properly it is best to unplug it from the mains to keep everyone safe.

You have a serious problem of/with materialism. I gather that much from your presentation. It reeks all over with it....and you have turn those impulses off. You have to deal with that before attempting to dismantle your life or you will never be able to do it.

The good news is that you are still flying straight and level in life.... but for how long before gravity takes hold and ypu go out there to do something really stupid that will change the course and be impossible to come back from.

Deal with your challenge of materialism first. You must begin to be a person of VALUES, VALUES, VALUES. That is what gives the ordinary human being the direction and impetus (impulse) to move forward in life...in any meaningful way.

please bro,how can I uncover my personal values?

AfroKnight:
23 is still very very young. Some people didn’t even get admission to study medicine before 23 and now they are doctors chopping money in the UK and US.

There’s hope o.


Don’t give up. You have a whole life ahead of you to enjoy.

Cc: YoungandDepress

but bro,what's the main reason why Nigerians think if you don't enter university at age 16,17,18 or 19;they think you are late or won't succeed?

YoungandDepress:
My story is quite a sad and long one.
I wish I could write it all out. My life has been a terrible mess.
Where did it go wrong for me, I have no idea.

I am writing with so much emotion, my heart is full and heavy.
Life is bitter.

I am a 23 years old guy.
My life all started to go in the negative direction when I gained admission at age 16.
A 16 years old boy in the university, so much freedom and exposure.
I messed up my life, I became addicted to bet9ja virtual gambling I lost focus, Gambling killed me, I started failing exams, at the end I dropped out without my parents Knowing, but the truth came out when I was supposed to graduate, I could not hide it anymore. I told them the truth, my parents forgave me like the prodigal son.

They still believed in me especially my mom, she keeps reminding me of how intelligent I used to be.

Well I'm not here to talk about my past life but here to talk about how it is still affecting me today.

Ever since I started university all over again, I have been miserable and frustrated. Nothing has been working in my favour. I'm currently now in 200level hoping to graduate before 25.
All my mates I started with have done their NYSC.

I'm still stuck in the same stage.
I have no idea what I am doing with my life. I'm young, broke and depressed. I get irritated over little things. I feel disgust at how I uselessed my youthful life. How gambling destroyed me.

By the grace of whichever god exists, I am no longer addicted to gambling. I have quit the addiction for almost a year now but nothing changed, I still feel miserable. I hate having people around me even my family members including my mom.

I have no true friends. Nobody checks on me, nobody calls me.

At this age, I can't boast of having 500 naira in my account.
I'm broke and miserable.

I have started hating God and question my belief in God. I hate Sunday's. I hate hearing about God, I don't blame God for my troubles but I'm angry at the fact that despite my parents being dedicated Christians, things are not working well in my family.
My elder ones are graduates, but no solid job yet.

Only my eldest brother who is doing quite well now and I thank God for his life but we don't talk. I can't remember the last time I called him on phone. They don't hate me, I hate myself.
I have disappointed them a lot.


I just lost the last #1000 I had in my life today and I cried. The money fell out my pocket when I went to get something.

At 23 years, I have no idea what I will do with my future.
I still live with my parents and I have never rented an apartment of my own even in school.

What is wrong with me, why am I miserable?

I have no good clothes. My clothes are all worn out.
I have nothing doing, i live off my parents.

Since schools were shut down, I have been at home doing nothing.
Completely broke, damaged and miserable.

Can my life be any better. What do I do. I am depressed.
I keep asking myself these questions but there
Seem to be no answer.

Send me a dm

Amuluonyenaego:
OP PLS SEND ME YOUR NUMBER

07019234567 Thanks for reaching out Sir

I don't gamble, I don't smoke, barely drink alcohol, I don't make friends, But right about now at my age, I can't categorically say that I have an acquired skill. The only thing am sure of, is that I love writing, but the muse isn't there. I know I can teach too, even if I find a teaching job, how will I transport myself, 'to and fro'.?

But neighbor, if I tell you my age, my ordeal, what I've been through, where I am, my sadness, where my mates are...

You'd pat me on the back and hand me a glass of water.

I don't know how I manage to hold onto hope all these while, but I know I will succeed. And you will too. Even as I read your story, I try not to wander off into memory lane, as I force myself to smile.

It is well.

Bro, please calm down with life never think you are not doing well @23 you are still at a very good advantage though u have make mistake in past and you have realize it, it is a time to move on and never be a slave of your past. You can be much relevant above your mate that graduate ahead of you, everyone has a story to tell, I graduate this year, while as some of my mates have graduated back 2014, one of my mate now doing PhD I jus finish HND@ 25 but I never for a day thought I have not achieved, seeing other of you,don't connote you will be behind, it is jus a matter of time if you don't give up on your dream. We all have our own individual time and season looking at others to run is dangerous , please free your mind and live simple. remove worry from your lifestyle Mat 6 vs 25-34 & be more close to God. Bro you don't have problem at all and don't create one, time has not leave you behind, pls don't allow devil feed your mind with evil thought. You can reach me @ 08143535085 for counseling

The first meaning I read in the story is money. Which is a normal thing. Psychologically, ask you this question
If I have money will I be feeling the way I am feeling..

Lawsaite:
Which uni, my learning colleague?

Esut

Shugavee:
I felt this deep in my heart , i almost cried, beg ur parents so u can learn graphic drawing and computer , and keep urself busy. I wish i could give u a big hug, u are not too old to be in 200l , all fingers are not equal ,, what has happened has happened, the past is the past ,, look towards the future with HOPE that things will get better. Just hv that thought that it would surely be better it would only take little time .. drop ur number, let me send you card

07019234567 thanks ma
I appreciate very much

reiddecuti:
How can I contact U? Will like to chat.

I sent you a mail sir

Na you sabi

hy baby I love you. can you meet me on Facebook @iniobong Emmanuel, a computer engineering student of Uniuyo. 08138223438