manontree:
I dont even understand why a man would want to live under the same roof as his mum, and in the mum's house. Abeg who does that. At 18 most people abroad are encouraged to get their own lifes. I know a man that started charging his son rent when he turned 18 and refused to leave his house

This one sef is worse. You want to bring a wife into your parent's home to live, even when you are able to get your own house. What kind of discomfort do you plan for the wife

How on earth would she feel at home and build her own home

It is just plain disrespectful. I don't even know why this is a discussion when it is clearly an aberration. Just so unnatural and unusual. Like a priest admiring mini skirt

MaziIgwe007:



OP will pretend a she didn't see this your comment. At least I'm sure she read it

merieam16:
So she should go and rent d house without her husband constent abi or u didnt read d part dat he said he cant live without his mum. All dez small kids using phones u ll just b thinking with ur fingers rather dan ur head

oshaosha2014:
Words are different from life experiences.

Starhearts:
Ur sisters is a fool
Wetin concern me with wetin wey no concern me self

mrksquare:
Even me that have a two bedroom flat ensuite my girlfriend isn't okay with the idea of staying in it. Her reason is that she can't stay in the same compound as that of my parents. Really do not know what women want?

REDBUNNY:
i speak for myself.
If you want to, you can remain in your father's house until you're 70.

zed7:
The question should be is the husband going to take the right decision? Your sister has made her choice. Is the man going to be smart enough to let her go without begging her?

You can't love me and not love my family, there's no point. It's not like they are going to stay there forever, probably to save up some money first. No man who doesn't like his independence, it circumstances that makes people take some decisions.

I'm not saying your sister doesn't have a right to her decisions, the man just has to be wise enough to let her go to avoid future problems.

Coolgent:
I must congratulate the Man!
My Wife advised my to convince my Mum so that she can leave with us but your Sister just cancelled her wedding for a mere reason.

deathmen12:
why are you insulting her? as if you have personal issue with her, stop acting like irresponsible adult.

sexy74:
Your sister never ready marry.
She should try and know the reason why the guy wants it that way and try to reach a compromise.
The guy has known his mother all his life and there might be a strong bond between both of them., she cannot just come and destroy it because he wants to marry her.
That your sister will chase the guys family from him.

Your sister has pride let her keep it to herself .

Truvel:
Do U Know D Financial State Of D Man? Do U Think Getting Money Is Easy As U Think? She Should Bear With Him, Pending When Raise Up Money 4 Dia House. It's Becus Of Dis Many Men Had Decide 2 Av Baby Mamas Rada Dan Getting Married Cuz Of D Financial Stress Or Burden. If D Lady Wants It Dat Way Let Her Assist D Man Financially, Rada Dan Folding Her Alms & Expect Manna 2 Fall 4rm Heaven.

OluwaLina1:
Real mummy's boy....He said he can't do without his mum

Edusouls:
Women are cursed with stupidity and foolishness combined, she is doing the right thing by cancelling her wedding no problem in few years time she would be running around different churches blaming the devil for her decision..

PapaNnamdi:


is there a guarantee that the girls mother won't come and stay in their apartment,

women are too manipulative,

PapaNnamdi:


It doesn't matter,
a woman is a woman,
the richer she is the worse ( not all though but majority)

Ferrous:
Is it the mother that built the house? Before I would know what to say

OluwaLina1:

He said he don't want his mum to feel lonely and his mum won't be free if she comes to stay in his appartment

okine4real:
This is my personal experience, when I wanted to get married, I told my wife to be, that we would be staying in my family house, for two reasons, 1st my family house was very cheap, I was the person paying the rent ohh, but I told her, let's stay here and manage, may be from here we can build our own house and plan very well for ourselves.
2nd was, its cheaper for me to take care of my nuclear family and extended family. Meaning if my wife cooks, my mum and siblings can also eat from the same pot.

But this was one of the worst decisions I have ever made in my life. My Mum and wife go start wahala, my mum onces called my wife, Ashawo in the bible become saint. My Younger sister once called my wife Ashawo. Sometimes I would meet my wife outside the house, mostly about 2 street away from our street waiting for me to come back from work, she would be crying. I would have to beg her and we would go home together. From what I understand, my mum and siblings see the house has there house and sees my wife as an outsider. Know matter how I try to please my extended family, they are never satisfied. Not that my wife don't have her own side, but am of the believe that, if I do 90 percent good and I erroneously commit 10 percent wrong, people should try and forgive because, the wrong was not done on purpose.

To God be the glory, all that myself and my wife wanted to accomplish because we wanted to stay in a family house, we have accomplished it even more than we could imagined, but the relationship between my wife and my mum and sisters got damaged through this process. Even till today, even after like 10 years my mum doesn't collect food from my wife. My mum has relocated to the village and I now have full possion of the house, but mama and my wife know they gree.

IF I COME TO THIS LIFE AGAIN, EVEN IF MY MAMA GO DIE, MAKE SHE DIE, I WOULD NOT LEAVE IN A FAMILY HOUSE AGAIN. EVEN IF THEY CANT EAT, ITS THERE BUSINESS, I WILL TAKE MY WIFE GO RENT ANY KIND OF HOUSE, THE REASON IS, MY FAMILY I WAS TRYING TO HELP DIDNOT EVEN SEE IT THAT I WAS COVERING THERE SHAME, THEY JUST WANT TO BOUNCE ON MY WIFE ON ANY SMALL ISSUE.

YOUR SISTER DID THE RIGHT THING. STAYING IN FAMILY HOUSE WOULD ONLY CAUSE ISSUES.

Ferrous:
Is it the mother that built the house? Before I would know what to say

Zzor:
if it's going to be for a while no problems,but the husband has to be in charge and look out for the women involved(both mom and wife) should the need arise.

ogbuefi677:

Nothing right in it and for someone like me,its a red flag,and I won't marry som1 like that.
The intended bride already has a mindset of trouble even when there's none.The living together is going to be for a while not forever.
People like you will display your worst bitchy behaviour if brother's wife displays similar rejection attitude to your mother.

sexy74:


I think marriage shud be free from all form of interference,at an early age,couples shud be allowed to be alone irrespective of whatever the mother has done for him,he can still take care of her and she can always visit him anytime.when a third party is involved in marriage,there is bound to be clashes.like the wife not doing things to mother's standard.so it's better to avoid such,if the woman is not comfortable with the mother staying with them,she can even end the relationship and look for another person ,am a guy and won't support my inlaw coming to stay for long when marriage just start.asuming the woman self come say make her own mum come and stay ,is it not confusion,in-laws can come and visit, but to sit down permanent,no way lol

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When it comes to age am older than you are,
I am talking based on wisdom and experience am not a social media bully, troll or warrior.
Am married and if you are, am older than you in marriage.
He staying with the mother or the mother staying with him is not an issue.
If you had said he does not have a trade or does not earn an income that would have been different but staying with the mum not an issue at all.
You don’t know what they might have gone through together .
I rest my case.

Aimerosa25:
it's annoying,I've seen someone like that,he has an issue,he tells mum,if mummy says do he does ,if she says no he doesn't, he even wanted marrying a lady , because the mum didn't like her tribe ,she said no.

MaziIgwe007:


And also give orders.
They don't joke with it.
They love giving orders.

They should be ready to give it not in the house I'm paying the rent for

vickydevoka:

U are right though, buh u see in dis lyf u can have Everything de way u want it. If I were de lady n I really lyk de guy I will go in with him in his fathers house provided de gy has a good job

Chii59:

So? What difference does it make?

ogbuefi677:

Just check most families,the wife's family members can come to live with the family,there will be no problem but if the husband's family members come,the wife will complain forever.

Chii59:

Were you blind that you didn't read where the lady offered for her husband's mom to come visit when they get their own place? Were you?