| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by marvin212: 3:14am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Okay dear! Here's my take! Just as righteousness89 has pointed out. You need Jesus. However, you also need to be proactive. There's no denial that you have made a mistake and from what I can sense from your story. Giving yourdaughter up for adoption is just another circle that's about to begin. There's something definitely wrong, and no offense. You can't see it because you're deluded with your sorrows. I know Jesus hasn't played his role well in your life and that is true. Nevertheless, the only way that could have happened is that you never gave him the opportunity to. This is Man's world and God doesn't intefer except by INVITATION. I urge you to invite and see how things play out going forward. Next. Don't sign any paper for adoption considerations. Rather. Go to human rights and tender your case. Alternatively, you can contact the inner-city department of Christ Embassy. They offer help to people like you. You can reach me to get their contact. Lastly, I know life has battered you and hence you are somewhat discouraged and feel like throwing in the towel. Hey! There's Hope for you! God Loves You! Approach life with gusto. What the enemy wants is for you to end your life out of depression. But Goddoesn't want that for you. I'd like you to stay strong for your baby girl. She needs you more now than ever before. Don't give up on her like your people did to you. Break that circle by staying with her! Like I said reach me to get the contact of inner-city missions. God bless you! Mizflo:
Please I need your advice. I had created this account because I am well known here with my main account because I am always active and I want to remain anonymously.
Am 21 a single mum with 1 girl age 5 , her dad rejected me when I was pregnant he left when I was 4 months pregnant with her .
I had a difficult time growing up , my mum died when I was 8 years and my dad denied me claiming my mum had cheated on him and there’s no way I could be his daughter.
My aunty who was supposed to care for me had never bothered about me , she was always out leaving me in the house all alone without food , whenever I complains she will beat me telling me to go to my mum graveyard to ask her for assistance.
I have suffered in the hand of my aunty she didn’t care about my education if I have managed to complete my primary school till jss2 was thanks to this aunty who was a teacher at my school and a good friend of my mum , she sponsored me , And when I was 14 my aunty landlord kicked her out of the house because of rent arrears she said I am the enemy of progress she cant take me to her boyfriend house because he won’t accept me to stay there that I should go and look for a place , I cried and pleaded with her to take me along with her but she refuse I beg her to show me where my dad is she said he will not accept me because he hated my mum but I beg her to take me to him .
She took me to him it was my first time seeing him I looked just like him with one eye big one small but he insulted the hell out of us saying he will never accept me because my mum was a cheater she had so many boyfriends that I should ask her who my real father is but my aunty insisted that my mum had told her before she passed on that he was my dad even taught I resembled him still he denied and kicked us out like we were dogs I cried and my aunty was angry because of the insult so she left me all alone in the street but later came to me .
Since that day my life situation has worsened because I was forced to stay with different people where I was being abused , my baby dad came as a guardian angel to my life he took care of everything i needed by promising me heaven on Earth I taught he will get me out of my hard situations but I was wrong i find out he was married with kids I was heartbroken because I didn’t want to live the same lifestyle as my mum had lived but history has repeated itself just like my mother had me with a married man but she knew he was married but me I didn’t know , but it was too late for me to moved on because I was already pregnant for him and I didn’t want to abort my baby I have decide to continue the relationship but when I was 4 months pregnant he left me and blocked me from all his contacts , this is the man that has never bothered to asked about his child for 5 years now..
My little girl dont even know her dad the same way I did not know mine until
I was 14 which break my heart anytime I think about it.
My daughter and I are staying with my madam the lady tat I serve her for now 3 years but things here hasn’t been easy for us because my madam children don’t like me they keep accusing of things I don’t do like I stole their money , clothes and many more before my madam was telling them to stop with their bad attitudes towards me but I have noticed that whenever they had accused me she start getting angry with me sometimes we can go days without her not talking to me which I think I have overstayed and I am not longer wanted here I want to leave this house and to go and hustle but I feared for my daughter because I don’t want her to end up like me.
If I leave this house we will be on the street for a long time till I will be able to get somewhere else to stay with her also I don’t think I can give her the best education because if she stay with me she will end up being a teen mother just like I did something I don’t want to happen to her and I came across someone who’s willing to help me by taking care of my daughter to give her the best life something that I have always wanted for her , she promised to take care of her till university and she will give me the money to rent a room and start up business she said she will take things to the right direction like adoption but I don’t know how she will do it because I have no idea that I will have to sign up papers for agreement i have agreed because I think is really a good opportunity for me even taught I have accepted but sometimes I am getting worried about giving her my daughter I am having sleepless nights and thinking all nights.
I am just tired of living this life I didn’t ask to be born my parents created me and now I am suffering from their mistakes something I didn’t consented and I don’t want my daughter to suffer because of my mistake I think giving her up for adoption is a good thing , but I don’t know if I am doing the right things.
please no insult what is your advice for me.
Thanks |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by onoja12: 3:14am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Rubbish only a slave come up with such ideas,her problem is poverty end of story. Righteousness89:
I will be Very Frank with you!
Until the Root Cause of a Problem is Tackled, one might keep Going in Circles. And also using Basket to Fetch Water..
The Same Pattern of your Mum is Exactly what Happened to you.
Its time for you to treat that issue..
It does not look like what can be done by Power.
My Advice to you is to Seek For GENUIE Bible Believing Church. Go there, Surrender to JESUS Completely and Let HIM Work on you..
You need to be Soaked in God to Break Certain yokes and Patterns..
Once the Root Cause is Sorted, other things will Fall in Place..
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| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by crownwalex: 3:14am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Mizflo:
Please I need your advice. I had created this account because I am well known here with my main account because I am always active and I want to remain anonymously.
Am 21 a single mum with 1 girl age 5 , her dad rejected me when I was pregnant he left when I was 4 months pregnant with her .
I had a difficult time growing up , my mum died when I was 8 years and my dad denied me claiming my mum had cheated on him and there’s no way I could be his daughter.
My aunty who was supposed to care for me had never bothered about me , she was always out leaving me in the house all alone without food , whenever I complains she will beat me telling me to go to my mum graveyard to ask her for assistance.
I have suffered in the hand of my aunty she didn’t care about my education if I have managed to complete my primary school till jss2 was thanks to this aunty who was a teacher at my school and a good friend of my mum , she sponsored me , And when I was 14 my aunty landlord kicked her out of the house because of rent arrears she said I am the enemy of progress she cant take me to her boyfriend house because he won’t accept me to stay there that I should go and look for a place , I cried and pleaded with her to take me along with her but she refuse I beg her to show me where my dad is she said he will not accept me because he hated my mum but I beg her to take me to him .
She took me to him it was my first time seeing him I looked just like him with one eye big one small but he insulted the hell out of us saying he will never accept me because my mum was a cheater she had so many boyfriends that I should ask her who my real father is but my aunty insisted that my mum had told her before she passed on that he was my dad even taught I resembled him still he denied and kicked us out like we were dogs I cried and my aunty was angry because of the insult so she left me all alone in the street but later came to me .
Since that day my life situation has worsened because I was forced to stay with different people where I was being abused , my baby dad came as a guardian angel to my life he took care of everything i needed by promising me heaven on Earth I taught he will get me out of my hard situations but I was wrong i find out he was married with kids I was heartbroken because I didn’t want to live the same lifestyle as my mum had lived but history has repeated itself just like my mother had me with a married man but she knew he was married but me I didn’t know , but it was too late for me to moved on because I was already pregnant for him and I didn’t want to abort my baby I have decide to continue the relationship but when I was 4 months pregnant he left me and blocked me from all his contacts , this is the man that has never bothered to asked about his child for 5 years now..
My little girl dont even know her dad the same way I did not know mine until
I was 14 which break my heart anytime I think about it.
My daughter and I are staying with my madam the lady tat I serve her for now 3 years but things here hasn’t been easy for us because my madam children don’t like me they keep accusing of things I don’t do like I stole their money , clothes and many more before my madam was telling them to stop with their bad attitudes towards me but I have noticed that whenever they had accused me she start getting angry with me sometimes we can go days without her not talking to me which I think I have overstayed and I am not longer wanted here I want to leave this house and to go and hustle but I feared for my daughter because I don’t want her to end up like me.
If I leave this house we will be on the street for a long time till I will be able to get somewhere else to stay with her also I don’t think I can give her the best education because if she stay with me she will end up being a teen mother just like I did something I don’t want to happen to her and I came across someone who’s willing to help me by taking care of my daughter to give her the best life something that I have always wanted for her , she promised to take care of her till university and she will give me the money to rent a room and start up business she said she will take things to the right direction like adoption but I don’t know how she will do it because I have no idea that I will have to sign up papers for agreement i have agreed because I think is really a good opportunity for me even taught I have accepted but sometimes I am getting worried about giving her my daughter I am having sleepless nights and thinking all nights.
I am just tired of living this life I didn’t ask to be born my parents created me and now I am suffering from their mistakes something I didn’t consented and I don’t want my daughter to suffer because of my mistake I think giving her up for adoption is a good thing , but I don’t know if I am doing the right things.
please no insult what is your advice for me.
Thanks Good morning madam May almighty God help you out |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by fattprince(m): 3:16am On Aug 17, 2020 |
greggng:
Who told you she was raped? Pls read again what the lady said about the man...she was enjoying sex with him untill pregnancy shows ..,..but let me ask simple question ..,if every nairalander with a kind heart contributes 1000naira each which must be sent through seun, this lady will be able to rent a decent house and start up some business with her life ...while pursuing the spiritual aspect ...I wish I can help her with everything ... True true, she was enjoying it. But have you heard of statutory rape. That's have sex with someone that is below the legal age which in Nigeria is 18. The law believes she is not old enough to give consent to sex. So it's still rape anyhow you want to see it. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by crownwalex: 3:25am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Mizflo:
Please I need your advice. I had created this account because I am well known here with my main account because I am always active and I want to remain anonymously.
Am 21 a single mum with 1 girl age 5 , her dad rejected me when I was pregnant he left when I was 4 months pregnant with her .
I had a difficult time growing up , my mum died when I was 8 years and my dad denied me claiming my mum had cheated on him and there’s no way I could be his daughter.
My aunty who was supposed to care for me had never bothered about me , she was always out leaving me in the house all alone without food , whenever I complains she will beat me telling me to go to my mum graveyard to ask her for assistance.
I have suffered in the hand of my aunty she didn’t care about my education if I have managed to complete my primary school till jss2 was thanks to this aunty who was a teacher at my school and a good friend of my mum , she sponsored me , And when I was 14 my aunty landlord kicked her out of the house because of rent arrears she said I am the enemy of progress she cant take me to her boyfriend house because he won’t accept me to stay there that I should go and look for a place , I cried and pleaded with her to take me along with her but she refuse I beg her to show me where my dad is she said he will not accept me because he hated my mum but I beg her to take me to him .
She took me to him it was my first time seeing him I looked just like him with one eye big one small but he insulted the hell out of us saying he will never accept me because my mum was a cheater she had so many boyfriends that I should ask her who my real father is but my aunty insisted that my mum had told her before she passed on that he was my dad even taught I resembled him still he denied and kicked us out like we were dogs I cried and my aunty was angry because of the insult so she left me all alone in the street but later came to me .
Since that day my life situation has worsened because I was forced to stay with different people where I was being abused , my baby dad came as a guardian angel to my life he took care of everything i needed by promising me heaven on Earth I taught he will get me out of my hard situations but I was wrong i find out he was married with kids I was heartbroken because I didn’t want to live the same lifestyle as my mum had lived but history has repeated itself just like my mother had me with a married man but she knew he was married but me I didn’t know , but it was too late for me to moved on because I was already pregnant for him and I didn’t want to abort my baby I have decide to continue the relationship but when I was 4 months pregnant he left me and blocked me from all his contacts , this is the man that has never bothered to asked about his child for 5 years now..
My little girl dont even know her dad the same way I did not know mine until
I was 14 which break my heart anytime I think about it.
My daughter and I are staying with my madam the lady tat I serve her for now 3 years but things here hasn’t been easy for us because my madam children don’t like me they keep accusing of things I don’t do like I stole their money , clothes and many more before my madam was telling them to stop with their bad attitudes towards me but I have noticed that whenever they had accused me she start getting angry with me sometimes we can go days without her not talking to me which I think I have overstayed and I am not longer wanted here I want to leave this house and to go and hustle but I feared for my daughter because I don’t want her to end up like me.
If I leave this house we will be on the street for a long time till I will be able to get somewhere else to stay with her also I don’t think I can give her the best education because if she stay with me she will end up being a teen mother just like I did something I don’t want to happen to her and I came across someone who’s willing to help me by taking care of my daughter to give her the best life something that I have always wanted for her , she promised to take care of her till university and she will give me the money to rent a room and start up business she said she will take things to the right direction like adoption but I don’t know how she will do it because I have no idea that I will have to sign up papers for agreement i have agreed because I think is really a good opportunity for me even taught I have accepted but sometimes I am getting worried about giving her my daughter I am having sleepless nights and thinking all nights.
I am just tired of living this life I didn’t ask to be born my parents created me and now I am suffering from their mistakes something I didn’t consented and I don’t want my daughter to suffer because of my mistake I think giving her up for adoption is a good thing , but I don’t know if I am doing the right things.
please no insult what is your advice for me.
Thanks @ Op Which state are you presently and how can one locate you ? |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Nobody: 3:29am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Mizflow so sorry to hear about your troubles,I know it must have been a tough decision..I see you have already received a tons of advice but still I will like to talk to you.Email me 22523AC@gmail.com or text 07064359026 -I may be able to help you |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by baby124: 3:35am On Aug 17, 2020 |
You need to let us know who this married man is and how we can get human rights commission to make sure you and your daughter are very comfortable. Don’t worry, just let us know and what you think was trouble yesterday will be a thing of the past. You will be able to get somewhere to live and, you will be able to hustle to find a job. Hopefully find a neighbor to take care of your daughter. Just make sure you speak out. There is no shame in suffering. That man cannot just escape like that. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by baby124: 3:45am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Mizflo:
Thanks everyone for your advice and words of encouragement I live in asaba I love my daughter so much more than anything in this world but I think she deserve better than me the reason I want to give her up for adoption is because she will be better off without me over there she will have both parents that will train and guide her to the right path something I never had the change to have so I want her to be greater than me because I don’t have anything good to offer her , I trust this aunty that will adopt her because she has helped me a lot in the past I know my daughter will be in a good place but I just don’t understand why am I having sleepless nights about giving her away I guess is normal for any mother that love her daughter to feel the same way I am feeling because it’s not easy for me to give her away but she had to go because I want her to be happy and I hope one day she will thanked me for making the right decisions for her. Thanks
Baby factory loading... ask the aunty that wants to adopt her if she’s willing to ensure she raises the child by herself and sign legal documents as proof, then watch her disappear. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Nobody: 3:48am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Mizflo:
Thanks for the advice. I have lost faith in Jesus because if he was there I wouldn’t have been suffering like this . I don’t want to look for him because he has never care about me and I don’t want to know him I can adopt u and your daughter send me a PM 08067212263 |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Yankee101: 3:49am On Aug 17, 2020 |
if you need help you have to come out as yourself and ask. Not an anonymous account. And I can't verify how true this is |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Nobody: 3:50am On Aug 17, 2020 |
coldFLARES1:
I feel the need to comment on your contribution before making my input.
For me, dragging a baby daddy to the police or Child Welfare Dept should be dependent on whether or not the guy gave the nod for her to see the pregnancy to its full course and not just because she got pregnant and wanted to leverage on that as a leeway out of hard situations. After all, she said she was having it rough and possibly needed respite and may have been led/misled into thinking that stubbornly keeping the pregnancy would alleviate her burdens even after finding out the baby daddy was married.
To the Op, I don't see how giving your daughter up for adoption, in a bid to help her access better life (as promised), is a problem especially if the couple involved are yet to have kids of their own.
It affords you the chance to a fresh start devoid of the huge strains of taking care of a child you are ill-equipped to cater to. Forget the part about paying attention to the details of such exchange. It is worth the try, at least at 22 you would be free to avail yourself to someone new for love and a whole new set of opportunities once assured that your daughter is in a better place.
Good luck as you make the decision It is wrong to assert that she might have gotten pregnant out of the need to rescue herself from poverty, just because the man who impregnated her was a married man. You excluded 2 vital factors in your reasoning: 1. That this girl was only a minor (21 yrs with a 5yr old means she was only 16!) when she was impregnated by the so called helper and 2. The man abused her under the guise of helping her, even if he fed and sheltered her, she was still abused because it was statutory rape (any form of sex with a minor under 18). +3. Even if she deliberately got pregnant as a "wise and experienced 16 year old ADULT" just to escape poverty, does that negate the fact that someone was responsible for the pregnancy and should live up to his responsibility if the girl decides to keep the baby? What kind of man takes a 16yr old girl for abortion anyway?  Pregnancy is not something a man can simply opt out of just because he told her he didn't want it. If you have raw sex with a girl, you are asking for it, it's a simple natural process. If she wants to keep her child, she should be given the opportunity to give her child motherly care instead of giving her up for adoption. With support, the girl will go places and very soon have good stories to tell. Conclusion: Your comment portrays you as a very heartless human being. I am a man like you and I can't imagine what that poor girl must be going through. Grow some conscience in the way you think and judge. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Blendy77(f): 3:51am On Aug 17, 2020 |
You can put her in an orphanage temporarily while u find your feet. Most orphanages Foster children so far you visit the child from time to time and have an agreement with them that you dont want the child adopted. They will take care of her, put her in school till u are ready to take her. What state are u? If you are in Lagos, look for orphanages in lekki/VI axis and your child will be well catered for |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Nobody: 4:20am On Aug 17, 2020 |
OutsideTheBox:
Idk why people are mentioning rape when OP didn't. In her post it sounded like they were in a relationship, the sex was consensual but according to her he left her when she was pregnant. Teenagers do have consensual sex and teenage pregnancy is nothing new. Lil' Wayne's ex (now re-married) was pregnant with her first child at 15. I had to use this example since she's a popular figure but it shouldn't be a surprise to anyone that teenagers have sex. What OP needs to do is track down her child's father, take him to court and collect child support from him, not make a rape accusation. If she had mentioned rape, that would be a different story.
OP, I'm sorry things haven't been easy. You can still take control of your life. Pls track down your child's father and have him contribute to his child's wellbeing. It's wicked of him to leave you while you were pregnant and not bother reaching you since. Thereafter, maybe find a single parent like yourself to marry? I wouldn't advice giving your daughter up for adoption but you do whatever is best for you. I wish you nothing but the best.
Which track down? Which court? Nigerians are funny. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by ekerintee: 4:24am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Not everybody can get a degree ,going to the university is not a solution to all problem,how does she sponsor her self there .it's not bad going to the uni but it has to do with if that is the direction she wants to go in life ,some succeed in business ,if she is intelligent and have the zeal,she can go to the university or do a part time degree.polytechnics also have part time options ,the option of open university is there .but I think survival comes first  chinchum:
If this is true, because i have doubt that a J.s.s 2 drop out can write this okay. This appears scripted IMO.
Giving this writeup a benefit of doubt, You must be clear about the complete implication of giving your daughter up for adoption. To the religious hypocrites who are all just coming up with the one way religious solution, get down from the high horse, prayer without works is dead. A vicious cycle is a natural phenomenon until something practical is done to stem the tide. My practical advise is to save to sit and pass the Senior School certificate exams, give up your daughter for adoption legally to a home that can take good care of her. Channel your anger in to a deep thirst to succeed and break the vicious cycle. With at least a School certificate in the next 2 years, give yourself a goal of getting a degree before you clock 30 years. When yokes get broken, forces align you to succeed. Pray without ceasing. A vicious cycle does not get broken without a strong will to get it broken even if you pray 23hours a day. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by teemswest(m): 4:24am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Fiction |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Nobody: 4:30am On Aug 17, 2020 |
abdullahi45:
I am glad people are really willing to help.
I really hope someone/people can help her without asking her to give up her child. A business and shelter would be enough to sustain her and her daughter. Where are all indefatigable people of goodwill on nairaland?
Please someone should put her distress on twitter after her consent, for people who can help. I really don't know how to push tweets to a wider coverage, she really needs help and we as humanity must not betray her.
If we can all agree, I am personally willing to help, she must not be made to lose her child because of financial mess, that will not only leave a hole in her heart but will be a permanent source of emotional and psychological trauma.
Let's us please!!! Adoption is the best now... |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by shagalinku4life: 4:30am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Please, don't even think of giving out your angel for adoption. The problem your family has is poverty.It was the poverty that affected your mother to take wrong decision.It is affecting your aunt and you at present.You have taken a bad decision already by getting present but the same poverty is pushing you to take a worse decision by giving up your angel for adoption.
You can see that a lot of people are after your angel (baby). Someone on this forum instead of finding a way to emancipate you from poverty is requesting you to give your baby to him so that his daughter can have a playmate.Everyone is after your baby but not you.
I will advise you post your location and bank account details so that others can join you fight your enemy (poverty). Take to what others have suggested.Approach NGOs and religious houses for financial. Involve the law enforcement agents to force the father of your daughter to take responsibility.
Please, do not give up your angel (daughter) for adoption.Do that and it will hurt you for the rest of your life and probably kill you.Your enemy is not your daughter but poverty.Let the woman if she truly wants to help give you money to get an accommodation and start up a business.Give out poverty and not your daughter |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by dannywest: 4:52am On Aug 17, 2020 |
A lot of times children get mistreated by those who adopt them. What do you do? What can you do to be able to take better care of your daughter? You've made a selfless and not bad decision to give to to someone who you feel can take better care of her but I believe you'd be able to do it too if you get yourself out of your mind. What can you buy and sell? What can you make and sell? Do you enjoy reading can you complete your education? What are you good at that you can improve on? Even if you give your daughter away you should work on yourself so in a few years you can be that person who'd be able to give her all she wants. Mizflo:
Thanks everyone for your advice and words of encouragement I live in asaba I love my daughter so much more than anything in this world but I think she deserve better than me the reason I want to give her up for adoption is because she will be better off without me over there she will have both parents that will train and guide her to the right path something I never had the change to have so I want her to be greater than me because I don’t have anything good to offer her , I trust this aunty that will adopt her because she has helped me a lot in the past I know my daughter will be in a good place but I just don’t understand why am I having sleepless nights about giving her away I guess is normal for any mother that love her daughter to feel the same way I am feeling because it’s not easy for me to give her away but she had to go because I want her to be happy and I hope one day she will thanked me for making the right decisions for her. Thanks
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| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by colonytech: 4:56am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Your command of English is very good or someone with a very ow formal education, all the same if your girl child stays with you she will not be
safe and you cannot give her the best she deserve given her up to a good family i think is the best option for you.
The Choice is yours to make. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by tammie24: 4:59am On Aug 17, 2020 |
unclemaths:
You are an embittered soul in serious need of help.
Whao, you needed help and you actually said the quoted?!
Maybe all those talks about you were true by the way.
Haven't you read about Biblical Job? Joseph? Hanna? Sarah?
Please, don't add blasphemy to your issues.
Nothing do your daughter..
You are the one in serious need of help. Don't judge her I believe you have never walked in her shoes |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by lordlugards: 5:04am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Mizflo:
Please I need your advice. I had created this account because I am well known here with my main account because I am always active and I want to remain anonymously.
Am 21 a single mum with 1 girl age 5 , her dad rejected me when I was pregnant he left when I was 4 months pregnant with her .
I had a difficult time growing up , my mum died when I was 8 years and my dad denied me claiming my mum had cheated on him and there’s no way I could be his daughter.
My aunty who was supposed to care for me had never bothered about me , she was always out leaving me in the house all alone without food , whenever I complains she will beat me telling me to go to my mum graveyard to ask her for assistance.
I have suffered in the hand of my aunty she didn’t care about my education if I have managed to complete my primary school till jss2 was thanks to this aunty who was a teacher at my school and a good friend of my mum , she sponsored me , And when I was 14 my aunty landlord kicked her out of the house because of rent arrears she said I am the enemy of progress she cant take me to her boyfriend house because he won’t accept me to stay there that I should go and look for a place , I cried and pleaded with her to take me along with her but she refuse I beg her to show me where my dad is she said he will not accept me because he hated my mum but I beg her to take me to him .
She took me to him it was my first time seeing him I looked just like him with one eye big one small but he insulted the hell out of us saying he will never accept me because my mum was a cheater she had so many boyfriends that I should ask her who my real father is but my aunty insisted that my mum had told her before she passed on that he was my dad even taught I resembled him still he denied and kicked us out like we were dogs I cried and my aunty was angry because of the insult so she left me all alone in the street but later came to me .
Since that day my life situation has worsened because I was forced to stay with different people where I was being abused , my baby dad came as a guardian angel to my life he took care of everything i needed by promising me heaven on Earth I taught he will get me out of my hard situations but I was wrong i find out he was married with kids I was heartbroken because I didn’t want to live the same lifestyle as my mum had lived but history has repeated itself just like my mother had me with a married man but she knew he was married but me I didn’t know , but it was too late for me to moved on because I was already pregnant for him and I didn’t want to abort my baby I have decide to continue the relationship but when I was 4 months pregnant he left me and blocked me from all his contacts , this is the man that has never bothered to asked about his child for 5 years now..
My little girl dont even know her dad the same way I did not know mine until
I was 14 which break my heart anytime I think about it.
My daughter and I are staying with my madam the lady tat I serve her for now 3 years but things here hasn’t been easy for us because my madam children don’t like me they keep accusing of things I don’t do like I stole their money , clothes and many more before my madam was telling them to stop with their bad attitudes towards me but I have noticed that whenever they had accused me she start getting angry with me sometimes we can go days without her not talking to me which I think I have overstayed and I am not longer wanted here I want to leave this house and to go and hustle but I feared for my daughter because I don’t want her to end up like me.
If I leave this house we will be on the street for a long time till I will be able to get somewhere else to stay with her also I don’t think I can give her the best education because if she stay with me she will end up being a teen mother just like I did something I don’t want to happen to her and I came across someone who’s willing to help me by taking care of my daughter to give her the best life something that I have always wanted for her , she promised to take care of her till university and she will give me the money to rent a room and start up business she said she will take things to the right direction like adoption but I don’t know how she will do it because I have no idea that I will have to sign up papers for agreement i have agreed because I think is really a good opportunity for me even taught I have accepted but sometimes I am getting worried about giving her my daughter I am having sleepless nights and thinking all nights.
I am just tired of living this life I didn’t ask to be born my parents created me and now I am suffering from their mistakes something I didn’t consented and I don’t want my daughter to suffer because of my mistake I think giving her up for adoption is a good thing , but I don’t know if I am doing the right things.
please no insult what is your advice for me.
Thanks The fact that you started like your mum does not mean you will end like her, I feel your pain when you said Jesus abandoned you. Sweetie God will never abandon his Own, he still care, just stick to the first comment advice he (God) will see you through. My prayers are with you and I believe, as a strong woman you are, you will come out victorious. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by lanocfoods: 5:10am On Aug 17, 2020 |
loneprof:
Since this your baby daddy denied the child, have you reported to the police? You can also contact human rights/welfare agency With what money, you talk like you don't know Nigeria police or legal system. I think you should give her up for adoption, that will give her a chance at having a better life so you can focus on redefining yourself. Good luck! |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by tammie24: 5:14am On Aug 17, 2020 |
We Nairalanders can extend a helping hand to this woman by contributing whatever we can to her and her daughter
Also like some people suggested already
Report the rapist of a man to the authorities and make him pay and take care of his daughter till she's 18 at least
He should never be allowed to get away with it
I just have a bad feeling about you giving aup your daughter for adoption
Even though you have her best interest at heart
You as her mother is the best person to take care of her
Plus
She will never forgive you |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by ABOVEDELAW: 5:18am On Aug 17, 2020 |
YOU SOUNDED RIGHT BUT SHE HAS TO TELL HERSELF THE TRUTH, IS THAT GUY REALLY HER BABY DADDY. THIS IS TO AVOID EMBARRASSMENT IF THE GUY INSISTS ON A DNA TEST. loneprof:
My dear, I hope all you wrote is true and I genuinely feel bad for you. What the guy wrote about seeking God is true and I also understand that due to your situation, you feel abandoned and alone, but it doesn't negate the fact that what he said is true.
Since this your baby daddy denied the child, have you reported to the police? You can also contact human rights/welfare agency to take up the case with him cos he doesn't have a right to deny his child's paternity. Don't sit down and be looking, contact the nearest police station and explain your situation, they will drag the guy to welfare and force him to pay for the child's upkeep, after all, you didn't impregnate yourself.  |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by lanocfoods: 5:22am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Before anyone starts parting with their hard earned money is sourcing for the poster in any form the authenticity of the story should be verified on. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by abdullahi45: 5:30am On Aug 17, 2020 |
listowell:
Adoption is the best now... Convince us chief |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Mystic1(m): 5:30am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Mizflo:
Thanks everyone for your advice and words of encouragement I live in asaba I love my daughter so much more than anything in this world but I think she deserve better than me the reason I want to give her up for adoption is because she will be better off without me over there she will have both parents that will train and guide her to the right path something I never had the change to have so I want her to be greater than me because I don’t have anything good to offer her , I trust this aunty that will adopt her because she has helped me a lot in the past I know my daughter will be in a good place but I just don’t understand why am I having sleepless nights about giving her away I guess is normal for any mother that love her daughter to feel the same way I am feeling because it’s not easy for me to give her away but she had to go because I want her to be happy and I hope one day she will thanked me for making the right decisions for her. Thanks
OP I have few questions to ask. 1. What have this madam promised to give you in return you give her your daughter while signing some papers. 2. Asides giving out your daughter, how else would you want to be helped? The only problem affecting you and your family is poverty, there’s no curse anywhere, don’t believe all what the religious minds have said here. You need an objective plan to escape poverty fast. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by abdullahi45: 5:31am On Aug 17, 2020 |
lanocfoods:
Before anyone starts parting with their hard earned money is sourcing for the poster in any form the authenticity of the story should be verified on. Sure. The credence of her situation must be validated.. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Mimimma: 5:31am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Where do you stay? I really want to help you |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Mailthaddeus(m): 5:40am On Aug 17, 2020 |
PAGAN9JA:
My Gods can help you achieve more success. I now expect you to humbly ask me how to approach the Gods of your ancestors. If u worship the God of ur ancestors, that's totally ur wahala. As for me, I worship the Almighty God and I am not ashamed to announce that He has been my helper and the source of everything I have. My this hatred for things concerning God? And it's not just a Nigerian thing, it's actually everywhere, people just wanna take out God from their existence, and I can't but help but cry for u guys. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by raymondFirstborn(m): 5:41am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Mizflo:
Please I need your advice. I had created this account because I am well known here with my main account because I am always active and I want to remain anonymously.
Am 21 a single mum with 1 girl age 5 , her dad rejected me when I was pregnant he left when I was 4 months pregnant with her .
I had a difficult time growing up , my mum died when I was 8 years and my dad denied me claiming my mum had cheated on him and there’s no way I could be his daughter.
My aunty who was supposed to care for me had never bothered about me , she was always out leaving me in the house all alone without food , whenever I complains she will beat me telling me to go to my mum graveyard to ask her for assistance.
I have suffered in the hand of my aunty she didn’t care about my education if I have managed to complete my primary school till jss2 was thanks to this aunty who was a teacher at my school and a good friend of my mum , she sponsored me , And when I was 14 my aunty landlord kicked her out of the house because of rent arrears she said I am the enemy of progress she cant take me to her boyfriend house because he won’t accept me to stay there that I should go and look for a place , I cried and pleaded with her to take me along with her but she refuse I beg her to show me where my dad is she said he will not accept me because he hated my mum but I beg her to take me to him .
She took me to him it was my first time seeing him I looked just like him with one eye big one small but he insulted the hell out of us saying he will never accept me because my mum was a cheater she had so many boyfriends that I should ask her who my real father is but my aunty insisted that my mum had told her before she passed on that he was my dad even taught I resembled him still he denied and kicked us out like we were dogs I cried and my aunty was angry because of the insult so she left me all alone in the street but later came to me .
Since that day my life situation has worsened because I was forced to stay with different people where I was being abused , my baby dad came as a guardian angel to my life he took care of everything i needed by promising me heaven on Earth I taught he will get me out of my hard situations but I was wrong i find out he was married with kids I was heartbroken because I didn’t want to live the same lifestyle as my mum had lived but history has repeated itself just like my mother had me with a married man but she knew he was married but me I didn’t know , but it was too late for me to moved on because I was already pregnant for him and I didn’t want to abort my baby I have decide to continue the relationship but when I was 4 months pregnant he left me and blocked me from all his contacts , this is the man that has never bothered to asked about his child for 5 years now..
My little girl dont even know her dad the same way I did not know mine until
I was 14 which break my heart anytime I think about it.
My daughter and I are staying with my madam the lady tat I serve her for now 3 years but things here hasn’t been easy for us because my madam children don’t like me they keep accusing of things I don’t do like I stole their money , clothes and many more before my madam was telling them to stop with their bad attitudes towards me but I have noticed that whenever they had accused me she start getting angry with me sometimes we can go days without her not talking to me which I think I have overstayed and I am not longer wanted here I want to leave this house and to go and hustle but I feared for my daughter because I don’t want her to end up like me.
If I leave this house we will be on the street for a long time till I will be able to get somewhere else to stay with her also I don’t think I can give her the best education because if she stay with me she will end up being a teen mother just like I did something I don’t want to happen to her and I came across someone who’s willing to help me by taking care of my daughter to give her the best life something that I have always wanted for her , she promised to take care of her till university and she will give me the money to rent a room and start up business she said she will take things to the right direction like adoption but I don’t know how she will do it because I have no idea that I will have to sign up papers for agreement i have agreed because I think is really a good opportunity for me even taught I have accepted but sometimes I am getting worried about giving her my daughter I am having sleepless nights and thinking all nights.
I am just tired of living this life I didn’t ask to be born my parents created me and now I am suffering from their mistakes something I didn’t consented and I don’t want my daughter to suffer because of my mistake I think giving her up for adoption is a good thing , but I don’t know if I am doing the right things.
please no insult what is your advice for me.
Thanks Don't put your daughter up for adoption. You need to do whatever you can ,to take care of your family. I have sent you a PM. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Viking007(m): 5:51am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Righteousness89:
Thus Says the Lord,
You will Seek me and Find me when you Search for me with all your Heart..
JESUS is Waiting for you with open Arms..
When you are Ready to Meet Him, you will get Solution This is the problem I have with Nigerian Christians. She's looking for HELP!!! You're busy preaching some BS! If you can't offer her genuine help PLEASE FOR GOD SAKE SHUT UP! 2 Likes |
