HealthWealthy:
Hi guys,

I got in touch with one of my colleagues sometime during December, the next day I saw her, I told her I liked her (so she won't friend zone me like my other colleagues)

but I noticed that ever since I told her I liked she has been really playing hard to get.

For more than 8months she doesn't reply my chats or pick my calls...the reason I still stick around is because she gives me ds vibe that she likes me too but she's just pretending

Now she replies my chats once in a while.

my plan is to keep in touch with her during this lockdown (even tho she still ignores me)...but immediately school reopens, I'll rapport with everyone in the staff room except her.

I'm contemplating doing that tho cos I told I loved her and ignoring her in real life may make it seem like I was deceiving her all along.

I don't know what to do.

help me out guys

thanks

cc: Harddon and other gurus in the house.

Camelot65:


@1bold : You don't ask ladies out, you just flow with them, asking them out (telling her you love her) is a mistake you made , it pushes you to the friend zone

@2bold : bold 1 is the reason why she's playing hard to get

@3bold : Lol... you kept calling her for 8 months?? whatever happened to "sending her less" ? You're acting all needy and clingy joor, you should have sent her less

my advice : Send her less and meet other ladies....chaii but you sef, you allowed her to have an edge over you

Try your best to read the thread from the beginning, it'll help against future occurrences

My two cents though,

HealthWealthy:


Not that her I asked her out per se. I just wanted her to know that I wasn't up for her friend zoning.

calling her for 8 months didn't mean I did it every day, I call her like twice a month for the past 8 months...that's what I mean. I also send her less. I don't know whether to continue doing so.

Camelot65:
Lol.... if you've read from the beginning, Harddon made a statement about telling a lady "you like her", Stop telling ladies that, it'll only piss them off and push you to friend zone (like other guys)

Lol, I understood what you mean, OK, did she in any way reciprocate all the calls you made to her??

HealthWealthy:


Lol. nope! never did she. What do you suggest I do? give up? wouldn't it make her see me as one not worthy of her love?

Camelot65:
Lol...... Man, are you serious??

Advice yourself at this juncture Harddon would really be pissed Choi

HealthWealthy:


I also need your advice boss

Camelot65:


Send her less, stop calling or texting her, you're acting needy for a man

meet other ladies, interact, be free with them and be happy

Try not to get into any relationship talk with her when you eventually get to meet (not talking to her would show that you're really pissed .... )

And Don't let ladies use you to catch cruise next time

Emodeee:
Harddon dey use game on mod. Thought rocktation was married!.

lakesidepapa:


HARDDON Biko this one wann bang Milf

MickeyJB:
Yo Bosses

There's this girl I approached and we actually had rapport.... Buh she suddenly started forming.. Probably because I didn't give her enough attention and of course she had other guys at legs begging. . I ignored her for about 2 weeks.. Recently she has been trying to get closer buh I always dismiss her with a few straight answers..

Fast forward to a yesterday, I saw her and told her to call me which she did once buh I ignored it.. I then sent her a text in the morning saying some rubbish and asked her to call me by 8pm... She did... Buh something happened.. I actually went BLANK Everything I knew vanished from my medulla and I was just there saying words that didn't connect
I hung up... Only for me to call her again and tell her we should meet the next day.. And she was like all the timing and everything was just for me to tell her we should meet the next day...

Buh I realized that was a lame move So bosses my balls are at stake.. What should a brother do?

Priceless606:



hello harddon great job you've done, remodeling overly nice guys and helping them become ballful... please how do I join your VIP group on Whatsapp or the one on your blog...... I'm anticipating your reply,if anyone else knows I'd be grateful for the response.

Spikesman:
Hello Hardin.
I want to share my experience with this girl...we met in school started talking , vibed well and she was always around almost all the time cos we receive lectures together .

I like her and she said she likes me a lot too buh she isn't ready for a relationship yet ..another time she said she is confused about her feelings that falling for someone is always hard but if I don't talk to her and flirt with another girl she would be upset ..buh we were still cool talked a lot .
during the lockdown we kinda lost our vibe ..she does not reply as fast as she usually did doesn't reply my calls too..I got vexed and left her message on read for a month. later I tried texting
her but no reply only for me to call her and she's acting like nothing happened I tried settling the beef buh she said she was not angry with me and gave some lame excuses I ended the call ...called the next day ..we talked well.
I later found this thread, noted my earlier mistakes ..she called like a week later I didn't pick.. she called some days later I picked buh was sleepy so I just told her I would call t
he next day I didn't call until like a week after buh she did not pick. called some days ago..which is like a week from my last call she did not pick either ...please harddon tell me my wrongs I wanna learn from them...I think she likes me buh I haven't won her over to the extent that she would be head over heels for me..shey you get

Highbeepeeh:
My grtngz goez to all d boss in da game

i myt post my stry twice, cos am usin a java phne, datz Y am abbreviating it. Am stil an hustler.

dz gal jst aryv 2 my area last mnth. She haz seen me most on slipperz and tore cloth.
tho i do toast ladz bt am always scard and i wil end up spkin gibberish. Bt a story abt hw galz brok some SIMP guys heart made me sign my heart 2 bcom a player.

dz gal 4rm my findin wrks in a bank. As a player i already list d gals i want 2 enter their heart, and she's among tho she luks more older dan me(I NO CARE), wic means she already have experience and i hav never be in any rltnship b4.

i walked up 2 her 2day when she's coming bk 4rm wrk in my slipperz as usual, mind u av complimentd her 2wks bk dat she lukz bwtful.

tho she walks briskly(maybe shit want commot 4rm her yansh) then i also walks faster behind her

OUR CONVERSATION GOES LIKE THIS(SHE'S WALKING FAST WHILE AM TALKING 4RM BEHIND)

ME: SISTER GUD EVENING

HER:GUD EVENING (NOT LOUD ENOF, DEN I CAPITALISE ON IT)

Thazard:
Hi guys,

There's this girl I'm crushing on and I think she likes me.we stay in the same area,she lives close to friend's house but we have never talked to each other.She's one or two years older than I am or we are probably agemates.I used to crush on her sister until I found she has a boyfriend.She and her sister are the indoors type of girls (girls that are mostly indoors) and they live with their mum.

She has stared at me few times and immediately turned her face away.Anytime we walk opposite each other, she would face down and we would pass each other,then she would lift her face up.Most times,I choose to pass through my friend's house so I could see her and my wish usually come true.But we are always walking opposite each other.All the time we pass each other, I've never looked back at her.I tried doing it most times but my neck would never agree to turn back and stare.I don't know why this happens at all.


Today, I passed through my friend's house but didn't see her and when I was coming back she came out of their compound, looked at me and went to the store on my street to buy something (that's where she usually buy her stuffs).


There's no way I could met up with her.beside,if I walked close to her, what am I even going to say? I don't even know if she's crushing on me too.I wouldn't like to do something stupid because this would be my second time approaching a lady.

She got to the store, left there and went down the road (direction of my house) and she turned back when she had gotten to the compound before mine.She switched from the right side of the road to the left, walked past me.This evening, I was at a shop I and my friends usually relax.She and her sister were are going to throw dustbin and they passed me.I was staring at her, don't know if she's staring too because the road wasn't illuminated but I caught her sister looking at me when they were going and when they came back.

N.B: I'm a good guy, don't chase girls at all no matter how beautiful they are.

I know these details aren't enough but guys what can you access from the situation?


CC;Harddon


NevetsIbot

I don't know what to do.

HARDDON:


I do hope this is not the way you chat with anybody let alone gurls?

Now, I want you to write in normal English and spell out all your words.

You can't be wearing flip flops coupled with denim jeans and still garnish all that with bad abbreviations.

Mbanu

Spikesman:
Hello Hardin.
I want to share my experience with this girl...we met in school started talking , vibed well and she was always around almost all the time cos we receive lectures together .
I like her and she said she likes me a lot too buh she isn't ready for a relationship yet ..another time she said she is confused about her feelings that falling for someone is always hard but if I don't talk to her and flirt with another girl she would be upset ..buh we were still cool talked a lot .
during the lockdown we kinda lost our vibe ..she does not reply as fast as she usually did doesn't reply my calls too..I got vexed and left her message on read for a month. later I tried texting
her but no reply only for me to call her and she's acting like nothing happened I tried settling the beef buh she said she was not angry with me and gave some lame excuses I ended the call ...called the next day ..we talked well.
I later found this thread, noted my earlier mistakes ..she called like a week later I didn't pick.. she called some days later I picked buh was sleepy so I just told her I would call t
he next day I didn't call until like a week after buh she did not pick. called some days ago..which is like a week from my last call she did not pick either ...please harddon tell me my wrongs I wanna learn from them...I think she likes me buh I haven't won her over to the extent that she would be head over heels for me..shey you get

Highbeepeeh:
CONTINUATION

ME: 6TA AM GRTNG U NW

HER: AM ANSWRNG U NW

ME: SO IS THAT Y U ARE FROWNING UR FACE(NT WIT HARSH TONE)

HER: I ANSWERD U NW, Y WIL I BE FROWNG MA FACE

ME: DON'T WORRY I WUD CALL MY BRODA DAT WE AV SEEN A SOJA DAT WUD EPP SCARE BOKO HARAM OFF

HER: HE WILL BE WELCOMED

(SHE'S NOW GIVING ME MUCH GAP)

ME: CAN I KNW UR NAME

HER: WHAT DO U WANT 2 KNW MA NAME 4

ME: IS UR NAME GOLD OR IS IT WRITTEN IN #1000 (not wt harsh tone)

HER: MY NAME CAN BE GOLD OR SILVER NW

D GAP IS NW MUCH

ME: GOODNYT

HER: GOOD9T

MY OGAS OYA I NEED TO KNW WHAT TO DO WHEN NEXT WE MEET O
HARDDON

Thazard:

HealthWealthy:


Lol. nope! never did she. What do you suggest I do? give up? wouldn't it make her see me as one not worthy of her love?

Holumhidey:
Pls there is this girl i like, i wanna go meet her and have a conversation with her but she's so pretty and looks like those girls that can fool or look down on a guy without much effort. We are going to see again on tuesday and i wanna talk to her; i dont know where to start from or what to say

liljboy:


Women would rather fight over or share a high value man than be saddled by a loser. You are proud to come and tell us you like walking around in slippers, Dude! Work on yourself. Dress better.

You want a working class lady to stop for someone who's dressing shabby.... Na wa o you sef.

Mandela27:
Special greetings to the bosses in the house.
There is this girl with a very heavy backside in the neighbourhood,I really want to go into her pants,I know she is damn into me but I am playing the bad boy game on her,good thing is she has already fallen,I can tell through her body languages,but this evening I fvcked up big time,I saw her coming and she was smilling at me,and I just told her hey you SHIRT is very long o,damn! I wanted to say SKIRT,meanwhile she was wearing short skirt..I didn't stop to talk to her and I never looked back..I knew those lines were poor and i'm still feeling fvcked.
Help me out bros,I really want to go down with this girl.thanks in anticipation.

HARDDON:


did you just refer to me as Hardin?

You liked her and ASKED her out. Yea? Ofcos you did.
And she used one of their default mode responses when they kinda like you but aint attracted to you yet or when they ain't sure if you are for real or just want to shun between meeting and getting down.


From her follow up response about getting upset when you flirt with others, it is obvious she just needed a lil assurance from you, guess you didn't make joke of such airs, ramp up your attractive revs and you just left her in a state of limbo. The lil light you sparked in her heart died the moment you were out of sight and she found someone more interesting during the lockdown.
Most gurls are bored now and spend alot of time with guys that brings fun. not hello ha guys. if she is ignoring you at this time in history, I must say you are really boring.

If I were you, immediately I ignored her for a month, I'm never going back there until she reaches out(which I would usually ignore at first) or until we meet again in school and she hellos.

Why would you tell her you would call and didn't till a week after? That is totally wrong. always be a man of your words. Or better still, you should have told her to call by 7am in the morning. Bliv u me, she would have.

Going forward, DONT call her again. Let her return your call.
Read up the thread to know how to spin an engaging convo but first, what do you really want with her? that would dictate your choice of words and how the convo wud flow.

NB: a guy who hasn't signed his signatures all over a gurl's heart nor replaced her red blood cells with his blue ones have no business ghosting her. it is to his disservice.

Rich Regards,
Don.

liljboy:

Bro, if you're going to be successful with women, you need to forget every limiting belief you were programmed to believe. Such limiting beliefs:

1. Get lucky
2. Win her heart
3. Deserving of her affection


1. Get lucky: it implies that a man isn't capable of seducing a woman, that it all depends on luck, which is wrong. Listen up, you don't need luck, you need masculinity to attract a feminine woman. Be direct & straight forward, don't be sneaky & passive

2. Win her heart: it implies that women are some prize that men must compete for. That as a man you must jump through hoops to get her heart, which is wrong. Desire must be given by her own volition, never negotiated, appealed for, forced or earned

3. Deserving of her affection: it implies that as a man you must 1st achieve a certain standard of success approved by the gynocentric society, before you get permission to attract & seduce women. Bro, you never have to "prove" yourself to a woman, that's beta behavior

These are but just some of the limiting abilities. They're wrong & limiting in nature. You don't need to COMPETE for a woman, LUCK to be with a woman & GIVE yourself permission to attract & seduce women.

stanliwise:
There is something that is called hot and cold. When a girl behave lackadaisical, give her a little space before you ping back. The more unreasonable she behave the more and more gap you give her before you relate with her later on.
As soon as a girl start to comply then the little and little energy you start to add energy too.
It must sync meaning you should over react or under react someone/any of you will start feeling a little low or akward

Like when she calls you, you don’t need to pick all the calls but do pick most times. What you do in the calls is what is most important. How relax you are and how soon you get out of the calls is important. Be in control of when to leave and when not to.

stanliwise:
ahahahhaa. Anyway to pull this effect you must appear casual and real. Don’t appear like a student on debate speech o.