If you say it's that simple you never see anything..

Beckham14:
I see it as stupidity...No need for the attitude or pretence. Just say you don't want anymore, it's really that simple.

pythondance2020:
Just before any relationship comes to an end, there are certain sure signs we begin to notice that the love is completely dead and there is nothing to hang on to anymore. This is a thread to help those in such relationships that are on the brink of collapse to have an idea so that they can brace themselves for life ahead.

Mine was within the first few months of my marriage, my wife suddenly became obstinate and started going to her parents house whenever we had an argument and would never call back till I called her to please come back and soon after she announced her plans to migrate to another country for good on one of those her return visits from her parents house.
At this point I realized I was alone and had to start planning my life ahead without her.

Please tell your experience, it may not necessarily be someone you were married to, any form of relationship would still fit in.
It could be an ex boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancee etc

So the both of you never had the talk of traveling out together?
Sorry for the question but I'm not understanding ni o.
She told you "she" was traveling out and you were not in the " SHE "?

When she start missing my calls without trying to flash nor call me back..
Last one as i notice i just stopped communicating too na so e end...
Dx days she still say Hi sha ....

Klass99:
My classmate's story when we were @ University. I'll call her Nengi because she was just as hot as the BBN housemate (if not hotter sef)

Nengi was dating a working class guy off campus and would often visit him at his crib, she had some of her stuff at his place as well. She visited one weekend and all her stuff were gone (clothing, toiletries, etc) When she asked where her things were, dude said his crib had been broken into and the thieves made away with her things.

Thieves broke in but somehow only her things were missing! This was the first sign that things weren't right but none of us saw, what was to come. Mike (not his real name) did a 360 degree turn afterwards and started dating one of Nengi's close friends and eventually married her. I don't think they did proper marriage rites cos Nengi's friend got pregnant and moved in with Mike (not his real name) I hear they are still living as man and wife, several years later.

Nengi was devastated because she truly loved Mike and wasn't playing games on him, she also had a good character as far as, I could tell. So, I didn't understand the switch he made either. The shocker for me was the friend he went for. Adams Oshiomole will best describe the girl he ended up with.

Mike had proposed to Nengi prior to all this drama and if I remember correctly, he had gone to see her parents about his intentions. Some people say jazz was involved. I didn't know what to think back then or even now, except, fear men

Her friend got pregnant for him. Most guys at this point, there is no going back. Nengis friend moved in immediately in order to secure her grip without proper marriage.

These Oshiomole type, their womb na magnet wallahi...part of the test of most men...between honour and your true emotions.

Klass99:
My classmate's story when we were @ University. I'll call her Nengi because she was just as hot as the BBN housemate (if not hotter sef)

Nengi was dating a working class guy off campus and would often visit him at his crib, she had some of her stuff at his place as well. She visited one weekend and all her stuff were gone (clothing, toiletries, etc) When she asked where her things were, dude said his crib had been broken into and the thieves made away with her things.

Thieves broke in but somehow only her things were missing! This was the first sign that things weren't right but none of us saw, what was to come. Mike (not his real name) did a 360 degree turn afterwards and started dating one of Nengi's close friends and eventually married her. I don't think they did proper marriage rites cos Nengi's friend got pregnant and moved in with Mike (not his real name) I hear they are still living as man and wife, several years later.

Nengi was devastated because she truly loved Mike and wasn't playing games on him, she also had a good character as far as, I could tell. So, I didn't understand the switch he made either. The shocker for me was the friend he went for. Adams Oshiomole will best describe the girl he ended up with.

Mike had proposed to Nengi prior to all this drama and if I remember correctly, he had gone to see her parents about his intentions. Some people say jazz was involved. I didn't know what to think back then or even now, except, fear men

How about fear women.....who could do anything to rock the boat?

bigdammyj:
8 months into our marriage and we're six years now still living together though, but no love

Am interested what happened and how do you guys relate ?

pythondance2020:


Yeah a lot of relationships end this way.
I once had a female friend who had just met a guy living abroad from her village during the Christmas period and spontaneously started the marriage process with him (introduction).
She was still a student in her final year at the time. She confided in me that she was going to go back to school and start an argument with her school boyfriend whom she had been dating for almost 4 years. The plan was to use that argument as an excuse to break up within a month. Needless to say, the plan worked and she is now married and living with the the new guy abroad whom she never really had a relationship with and barely knew.
That gave me an insight into how some people choose to bring a relationship to an end. I see it as cold but that is sometimes the world we live in.

Is she "happily married" tho?
Or na just ticket to #50(better life)?

pythondance2020:
Just before any relationship comes to an end, there are certain sure signs we begin to notice that the love is completely dead and there is nothing to hang on to anymore. This is a thread to help those in such relationships that are on the brink of collapse to have an idea so that they can brace themselves for life ahead.

Mine was within the first few months of my marriage, my wife suddenly became obstinate and started going to her parents house whenever we had an argument and would never call back till I called her to please come back and soon after she announced her plans to migrate to another country for good on one of those her return visits from her parents house.
At this point I realized I was alone and had to start planning my life ahead without her.

Please tell your experience, it may not necessarily be someone you were married to, any form of relationship would still fit in.
It could be an ex boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancee etc

After getting what he wanted his attitude changed.

tchidi066:
Well i don't expect much in relationships, If it goes on well, fine, if not, i move on, time no dey

This means you do not also invest much in a relationship either...

UyaiIncomparabl:


Nope. Should be the other way round. Stop churning BS advice to suit your gender.

Yes, a man should love a woman more in courtship or marriage. The Bible even enjoins it.

The man is head and should shoulder more responsibility in handling a relationship.

Many marriages fail when the woman takes the man's role.

pythondance2020:


Yeah a lot of relationships end this way.
I once had a female friend who had just met a guy living abroad from her village during the Christmas period and spontaneously started the marriage process with him (introduction).
She was still a student in her final year at the time. She confided in me that she was going to go back to school and start an argument with her school boyfriend whom she had been dating for almost 4 years. The plan was to use that argument as an excuse to break up within a month. Needless to say, the plan worked and she is now married and living with the the new guy abroad whom she never really had a relationship with and barely knew.
That gave me an insight into how some people choose to bring a relationship to an end. I see it as cold but that is sometimes the world we live in.

She is toxic, i pity dis new guy unless he is her karma.

Ikillbrokehoes:
Why are you getting old every day

Beckham14:
I see it as stupidity...No need for the attitude or pretence. Just say you don't want anymore, it's really that simple.

It's reverse psychology. They do not want to be blamed for ending the relationship...

Wen I noticed that she stopped reaching out to me
Pesin wy b sy she no fit go one day Mk she call,e come turn to after 3 or 4 days b4 I sabi Wetin dy happen e turn 1 week,na onli me come dy do d callin
So I call am one day nd she gv excuse sy she gt mood swing so she no feel like to talk to pple,na dat day I grap wetin dy shele me sf no kuku call am again and Naso we part ways

pythondance2020:
Just before any relationship comes to an end, there are certain sure signs we begin to notice that the love is completely dead and there is nothing to hang on to anymore. This is a thread to help those in such relationships that are on the brink of collapse to have an idea so that they can brace themselves for life ahead.

Mine was within the first few months of my marriage, my wife suddenly became obstinate and started going to her parents house whenever we had an argument and would never call back till I called her to please come back and soon after she announced her plans to migrate to another country for good on one of those her return visits from her parents house.
At this point I realized I was alone and had to start planning my life ahead without her.

Please tell your experience, it may not necessarily be someone you were married to, any form of relationship would still fit in.
It could be an ex boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancee etc

If your relationship is based on faulty foundation, don't expect others to experience what you are experiencing now

One night stand, baby.�

Fvck love
Fvck Relationships
Fvck you reading this
And if you support APC, fvck you too
If Buhari is your president, fvck you too.




Queenoffucks

Eghavribiee:
When she stopped giving me sex

Please we are trying to hold this table with chain.... Kindly resist the urge to shake it

Klass99:


I am not Nengi and character never hides itself, it always shows. I've been described as difficult and hard to please. So, if I say someone has a good character from assessments made, based on continuous interaction with them, you best believe me.

What I liked about Nengi was that, with all her beauty she wasn't arrogant or self conceited. She was in her prime with loads of boys/men chasing her but she maintained a level head, pleasant and decent persona.

Guy las las just say, you no get anything to talk and don't try to spin this around as ''only the people in a relationship knows who has good character'' People outside of a relationship can tell good character too.

I believe what he meant was compatibility. There's one thing to have good character and another to have a good persona. If the nengi had a good persona, maybe she wouldn't be let go of.

Experience.. people won't read and learn o.. experience 2oukd teach them Sha

eazzzy1:


A whole lot. I dated a girl like Nengi when I was in school, every other African guy wanted to be with her, she was pretty but was also high maintenance. Lots of guys bought her gifts for no reason, I then started cheating just to show I could get attention too. We argued all the time, she didn’t even know it was wrong to receive gifts from admirers, till I started giving admirers gifts too.

When we broke up I dated someone less flashy, less make up, no short gown, bum short etc. This one had her own money and she was very reserved. We dated two years never argued for once.

Girls are always looking for ways to call their replacements ugly, some will say why are you dating your mothers mate, your own na Oshiomole. Na only man know wetin he Dey find o, if oshiomole doesn’t give me wahala I will date her. Nengi can kiss my Ahole.

Everyone just dey shout Nengi up and down

Nawa o



Wakanda forever

PoliticallyInco:
One I know recently got introduced to a guy overseas.

She has had a boyfriend who is a computer Science graduate from University of Benin. The guy is hustling, trying to set himself up as a young graduate.

Now the girl gets introduced to a guy overseas by an older in-law/relative who is in the USA. She hadn't even got to know this guy well and what his intentions are. She had barely talked to this guy for one week.Suddenly she rushes to break up with the Uniben /Nigerian guy. This guy called and begged and even cried. It got so bad she will give the phone to her young relative (a little girl) to tell the guy that she is no longer interested in him but in the most insulting and derogatory tone. This young gun kept calling. I wondered at how simpish he was. What he doesn't know is that God has just allowed him dodge a bullet. Because she would have abandoned him in future if she met someone better.

Finally, the overseas guy tells her that he doesn't think their religious differences will be nice in a relationship such as marriage. Then she starts begging the overseas guy. Trying to convince him that it can work out fine. She was left devasted for days. Nigerian guy, lost. American guy, also lost.

Who knows maybe the Nigerian guy will be stupid enough to have her back. But the overseas guy should also count himself lucky. He also dodged a bullet. Because if she can abandon a guy she has been dating for almost a year for a guy in the US she barely met within 2 weeks, then she is a really horrible person and a gold digger. She is living on primal/animal instinct and is very unreasonable.


What I want people to know is that the withdrawal of affection or love can either be sudden or happen over a long time. It can be acute or chronic. In anyway it can either be mainly your fault or the person's. But do we ever tell ourselves the truth?

Also, because we feel we have invested a lot into these relationships, we feel we are in too deep to go back. We have sacrificed a lot, so we keep staying in loveless relationships. If a lady says she doesn't want, leave her alone. Don't go begging to be loved. Don't go grovelling.

The American guy was in control and true to himself. He actually lost nothing...

If your partner stop loving you, he or she never really loved you. Love don't die.

After my first relationship ended, I tried another again after a long time and as soon as the lies were too much for me, I told him straight away that I'm not feeling the relationship anymore and it would be better we enjoy singlehood.
And since there, love sounds like wind in my hears. Don't expect anyone's love cos most people out there don't have love to give. All they look at is breasts and ass. They don't even care if you love them. They care more about what you give them.

Omo! Na shock I shock the guy Las Las. I had been heartbroken before and I almost died(my mum and friend were my godsent) so I didn't want to experience such again. Though I loved the new guy and we dated for almost four years. But in the third year he started to jonce, I approached him severally and he boldly told me he had 3women in his life and each had his purpose. When I ask what my purpose was, he gave me the silent treatment. After thinking about how he had been disrespectful to me and so many things, I pulled myself together and moved on without even telling him.
The next thing he heard was that I was getting married

judedwriter:


Yes, a man should love a woman more in courtship or marriage. The Bible even enjoins it.

The man is head and should shoulder more responsibility in handling a relationship.

Many marriages fail when the woman takes the man's role.

Thanks for at least seeing beyond taking sides. I can never for the life of me understand how a woman should love a man more. Even the Bible commanded men to love their wives, it said "keep loving" and wives, respect and, submit to your husbands. Not like love is even quantifiable though, but many women suffer from assuming that position when taken.

post=93140681:
Experience.. people won't read and learn o.. experience 2oukd teach them Sha

My brother the difference between dating hot girls and ‘casual’ girls is as clear as night and day. Some of these casual girls are even prettier. Their looks just isn’t their priority. So they pay less attention to it.

The hot girls are only hot before you nack, once you have sex 3 times they become regular. Only guys outside who only see them with clothes on think they are special.

Word.. bros I suspect you are one major play boy.. or should I say play man

eazzzy1:


My brother the difference between dating hot girls and ‘casual’ girls is as clear as night and day. Some of these casual girls are even prettier. Their looks just isn’t their priority. So they pay less attention to it.

The hot girls are only hot before you nack, once you have sex 3 times they become regular. Only guys outside who only see them with clothes on think they are special.

Deborah98:
are you serious , how are you coping,they kids nko?

Had only 1 child who is 5 now. So, after much pleading & persuasion because I really want my daughter to have a sister or brother from same parent.
She's pregnant now. It's been hell loving & living with someone who doesn't have feelings for you.

Ikillbrokehoes:
Why are you getting old every day

You are aging too, the people around you are probably too polite to tell you.
Old age is our collective destiny.

Klass99:


What choice do any of us have in such a situation, except to move on? You wan kill the betrayers before?

Nengi is married now with kids of her own, but she told me years later that, that was her first and last heartbreak ever. She was the one breaking hearts afterwards.

As for Adams Oshiomole's lookalike and her cookies, I won't completely rule out jazz like others said. I wasn't exaggerating when I said she looks like Adams, she has his stature (short and masculine) with a slightly better looking face than Adams though.

What would make a man in his right thinking mind to give up a Nengi for Adams, if not jazz?

Jazz. U people are so naive. Why not use the jazz and grab all these young billionaires

Presently in one that is about to hit rock anytime soon... she want to end it but dont know how to end it cos she felt she will hurt me ... but any way the signal has been sent ... presently on may day! May day!! May day!!!