Beckham14:
I noticed how she easily gets angry when we chat and how she'll throw some abusive words at me when she gained admission into the university... I saw where the relationship was heading to, but because of the "unconditional" love I once had for her, I kept on praying, hoping and pleading for us to make it work. (My mistake)

She was not having any of that as her mind was already made up to crush those beautiful memories we once shared together.

Wetin man go do? But the last straw that broke the camel's back was when she accused me of dating someone close to her. I hate false accusations leveled against me..Seeing how bittered she was with that wrong information, she wanted to continue with those abusive words, but I was ready to help her destroy everything completely.

I miss the good memories though, but I don't accept my ex back.

las las all of us will be alright, especially we the chief bachelor in the house.

I soon as I told her that I was not ready to settle down even if she is pregnant.

pythondance2020:


Yeah a lot of relationships end this way.
I once had a female friend who had just met a guy living abroad from her village during the Christmas period and spontaneously started the marriage process with him (introduction).
She was still a student in her final year at the time. She confided in me that she was going to go back to school and start an argument with her school boyfriend whom she had been dating for almost 4 years. The plan was to use that argument as an excuse to break up within a month. Needless to say, the plan worked and she is now married and living with the the new guy abroad whom she never really had a relationship with and barely knew.
That gave me an insight into how some people choose to bring a relationship to an end. I see it as cold but that is sometimes the world we live in.

Igbo girl spotted.
I just like how those folks operate.
No time ..

4 years relationship, most likely filled with knacks,no marriage..
She did the proper thing marrying a man who was ready to settle down.

Instead of clinging to school boyfriend who will likely dump her for a younger girl ,calling her evening newspaper after she has wasted all her youthfulness dating him.

pythondance2020:
Just before any relationship comes to an end, there are certain sure signs we begin to notice that the love is completely dead and there is nothing to hang on to anymore. This is a thread to help those in such relationships that are on the brink of collapse to have an idea so that they can brace themselves for life ahead.

Mine was within the first few months of my marriage, my wife suddenly became obstinate and started going to her parents house whenever we had an argument and would never call back till I called her to please come back and soon after she announced her plans to migrate to another country for good on one of those her return visits from her parents house.
At this point I realized I was alone and had to start planning my life ahead without her.

Please tell your experience, it may not necessarily be someone you were married to, any form of relationship would still fit in.
It could be an ex boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancee etc

Some women are not cut out for marriage just as it applies to some men, otherwise how do you explain a lady migrating to another country for good without any thought to her husband.


Find a homely and God fearing girl and avoid marital drama.

eazzzy1:


My brother the difference between dating hot girls and ‘casual’ girls is as clear as night and day. Some of these casual girls are even prettier. Their looks just isn’t their priority. So they pay less attention to it.

The hot girls are only hot before you nack, once you have sex 3 times they become regular. Only guys outside who only see them with clothes on think they are special.

You're so right.

Klass99:


What choice do any of us have in such a situation, except to move on? You wan kill the betrayers before?

Nengi is married now with kids of her own, but she told me years later that, that was her first and last heartbreak ever. She was the one breaking hearts afterwards.

As for Adams Oshiomole's lookalike and her cookies, I won't completely rule out jazz like others said. I wasn't exaggerating when I said she looks like Adams, she has his stature (short and masculine) with a slightly better looking face than Adams though.

What would make a man in his right thinking mind to give up a Nengi for Adams, if not jazz?

You don't know men

My first gf show me shege
Those days titanic romance still dy burst brain.
Just few weeks into the journey she felt I was too broke cus bobo no get lodge . It got to a time that whenever I called she would always ask 'Who is this?'.
Mumu me saw this signal and still didn't relent. I remember literally telling her not to worry that I will hotspot her if she has exausted her love for me.
Two months later I got tired and called it a quit.

bigdammyj:


She was

it's well,I pray God restores the love you both shared at first meeting, Amen.

pythondance2020:


Yeah a lot of relationships end this way.
I once had a female friend who had just met a guy living abroad from her village during the Christmas period and spontaneously started the marriage process with him (introduction).
She was still a student in her final year at the time. She confided in me that she was going to go back to school and start an argument with her school boyfriend whom she had been dating for almost 4 years. The plan was to use that argument as an excuse to break up within a month. Needless to say, the plan worked and she is now married and living with the the new guy abroad whom she never really had a relationship with and barely knew.
That gave me an insight into how some people choose to bring a relationship to an end. I see it as cold but that is sometimes the world we live in.

chia, guys don suffer o, i see! so those girl no like me again that's why they bahave this way.

eazzzy1:


Only the people in the relationship knows who has good character. Except maybe perhaps you happen to be Nengi.

Epic!
(Except change “knows” to “know”. Learn correct grammar)

Wow, I really love her, everything was going on fine, I would have rounded up from uni but Corona kept me home, we visited each other, planned together, I was even raising money for a wedding in December before going back to school if school will eventually resume, I see don't know what happened, just started been cold towards me, picks her call anytime she wants, no more visits, I still don even go beg today, she nor even collect the gift wey I buy
I really love her

Ishilove:

This is cold...

Ice Cold sef.

the moment he graduated from whatsaping his ex to now calling her in my presence . im left alone with his little baby now 7 months. some say he was spiritually controlled by ex

all dis relationship stuffz na scam.me b4 u start misbehaving am already miles ahead.{na onli real nigar go undastand}

Beckham14:
I noticed how she easily gets angry when we chat and how she'll throw some abusive words at me when she gained admission into the university... I saw where the relationship was heading to, but because of the "unconditional" love I once had for her, I kept on praying, hoping and pleading for us to make it work. (My mistake)

She was not having any of that as her mind was already made up to crush those beautiful memories we once shared together.

Wetin man go do? But the last straw that broke the camel's back was when she accused me of dating someone close to her. I hate false accusations leveled against me..Seeing how bittered she was with that wrong information, she wanted to continue with those abusive words, but I was ready to help her destroy everything completely.

I miss the good memories though, but I don't accept my ex back.

So this your case. who is the Camel. And who is the straw

MISSCONGENIALITY:
After my first relationship ended, I tried another again after a long time and as soon as the lies were too much for me, I told him straight away that I'm not feeling the relationship anymore and it would be better we enjoy singlehood.
And since there, love sounds like wind in my hears. Don't expect anyone's love cos most people out there don't have love to give. All they look at is breasts and ass. They don't even care if you love them. They care more about what you give them.

I discovered that to truly love someone of the opposite sex, you must be good platonic (non sexual) friends for at least 1 year!

Dating is a SCAM! The sooner people know, the better for them.

Slimsly100:
Omo! Na shock I shock the guy Las Las. I had been heartbroken before and I almost died(my mum and friend were my godsent) so I didn't want to experience such again. Though I loved the new guy and we dated for almost four years. But in the third year he started to jonce, I approached him severally and he boldly told me he had 3women in his life and each had his purpose. When I ask what my purpose was, he gave me the silent treatment. After thinking about how he had been disrespectful to me and so many things, I pulled myself together and moved on without even telling him.
The next thing he heard was that I was getting married

My sister that's the best thing. No need asking someone if he still wants the relationship to work or if there's something nyou are not doing. Just move on and enjoy life till the person who values and respects you shows up. Any relationship where one has to beg for attention and love is not worth holding on to.

Klass99:


I am not Nengi and character never hides itself, it always shows. I've been described as difficult and hard to please. So, if I say someone has a good character from assessments made, based on continuous interaction with them, you best believe me.

What I liked about Nengi was that, with all her beauty she wasn't arrogant or self conceited. She was in her prime with loads of boys/men chasing her but she maintained a level head, pleasant and decent persona.

Guy las las just say, you no get anything to talk and don't try to spin this around as ''only the people in a relationship knows who has good character'' People outside of a relationship can tell good character too.

He’s actually right. U may consider someone who let people walk over her good character, while I consider a strong person good character

judedwriter:


I discovered that to truly love someone of the opposite sex, you must be good platonic (non sexual) friends for at least 1 year!

Dating is a SCAM! The sooner people know, the better for them.

They don't want platonic love. Not even for a minute. They all want to go wild with sex and do explore each other sexually so fast that the fire goes out faster that it started.
That's why you see two people claiming to be dating each other for 3yrs but yet are complete strangers.

Chiomatimo:
Wow, I really love her, everything was going on fine, I would have rounded up from uni but Corona kept me home, we visited each other, planned together, I was even raising money for a wedding in December before going back to school if school will eventually resume, I see don't know what happened, just started been cold towards me, picks her call anytime she wants, no more visits, I still don even go beg today, she nor even collect the gift wey I buy
I really love her

Happy Sunday bro

Think deeply not with your Heart but with your head
Ask yourself what exactly are you begging her for

Kindly send that gift to your Sis or Mum

Read this thread with an Open mind and learn your mistake
https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know


Thank me later

noriene:
the moment he graduated from whatsaping his ex to now calling her in my presence . im left alone with his little baby now 7 months. some say he was spiritually controlled by ex

You will be fine. Just know what you want in life.

judedwriter:


Yes, a man should love a woman more in courtship or marriage. The Bible even enjoins it.

The man is head and should shoulder more responsibility in handling a relationship.

Many marriages fail when the woman takes the man's role.

Only if I was in a relationship with a foreign. Not these heartless wicked dubious Nigerian women. Best thing to happen to any guy is to get a girl who really loves you oooo may God bless us with that special girl.

pythondance2020:


Yeah a lot of relationships end this way.
I once had a female friend who had just met a guy living abroad from her village during the Christmas period and spontaneously started the marriage process with him (introduction).
She was still a student in her final year at the time. She confided in me that she was going to go back to school and start an argument with her school boyfriend whom she had been dating for almost 4 years. The plan was to use that argument as an excuse to break up within a month. Needless to say, the plan worked and she is now married and living with the the new guy abroad whom she never really had a relationship with and barely knew.
That gave me an insight into how some people choose to bring a relationship to an end. I see it as cold but that is sometimes the world we live in.

That is how Nigerian women end relationships oooo... they forment trouble, give attitudes and all that.

Deborah98:
it's well,I pray God restores the love you both shared at first meeting, Amen.

I really don't like disturbing God for issues that I know man can handle if not for greed & self centeredness.
She wasn't really interested from the start, I didn't even know till she said it

eazzzy1:


A whole lot. I dated a girl like Nengi when I was in school, every other African guy wanted to be with her, she was pretty but was also high maintenance. Lots of guys bought her gifts for no reason, I then started cheating just to show I could get attention too. We argued all the time, she didn’t even know it was wrong to receive gifts from admirers, till I started giving admirers gifts too.

When we broke up I dated someone less flashy, less make up, no short gown, bum short etc. This one had her own money and she was very reserved. We dated two years never argued for once.

Girls are always looking for ways to call their replacements ugly, some will say why are you dating your mothers mate, your own na Oshiomole. Na only man know wetin he Dey find o, if oshiomole doesn’t give me wahala I will date her. Nengi can kiss my Ahole.

I have also made the observation that women often get it twisted as to what guys want and focus too much on meeting some beauty standards propagated by the media. I also believe that there are so many beautiful women out there that beauty is something easily available and it therefore becomes less impressive because everything that is easily available tends to lose its value.

But then, I also see how flashy girls receive more attention and compliments and how natural girls are insulted and sometimes even made a mockery of on social media, often for the way God created them, which I think is devastating and sad.

I am glad you have come to value inner qualities but what if you could find a beauty queen with a good character? Would you remain loyal?

eazzzy1:


My brother the difference between dating hot girls and ‘casual’ girls is as clear as night and day. Some of these casual girls are even prettier. Their looks just isn’t their priority. So they pay less attention to it.

The hot girls are only hot before you nack, once you have sex 3 times they become regular. Only guys outside who only see them with clothes on think they are special.

Real mattaz in a nut shell, the difference between a hot girl and regular girl is the former pay much attention on their looks is not like they are prettier.

spiceadole:


Igbo girl spotted.
I just like how those folks operate.
No time ..

4 years relationship, most likely filled with knacks,no marriage..
She did the proper thing marrying a man who was ready to settle down.

Instead of clinging to school boyfriend who will likely dump her for a younger girl ,calling her evening newspaper after she has wasted all her youthfulness dating him.

The babe this what many girls get carried away by love and time spent then end up missing the perfect men for them while wasting their youthful hue on a school boyfriend who know deep down within that he will never marry her

bigdammyj:
8 months into our marriage and we're six years now still living together though, but no love

pls I need to ask you a question... 1, do you still have sex in the marriage? 2, What happened that love left the marriage.. please I will like to know

bigdammyj:


Had only 1 child who is 5 now. So, after much pleading & persuasion because I really want my daughter to have a sister or brother from same parent.
She's pregnant now. It's been hell loving & living with someone who doesn't have feelings for you.

Why bring more kids into a loveless marriage?

As soon as i told her that Iyabo doesn't look like me nor her.


She said i was accusing her of infidelity even though she had cheated on me in the past.

Please was i wrong to state my observation?