stanliwise:

You have to deal with the insecurities and don’t mistake roll to asking a girl out.
If you meet a girl and you didn’t tip romantic interest at any point, forget about asking them out. Making friends with girl is as easy as friends with a boy. Don’t get it twisted bro.
The longer you form friends you like the without showing your interest the harder it becomes for you to do so.
For female friends you feel you wanna date then start acting like a boyfriend material and not friends. Boyfriends create a romantic tension, don’t hide your intentions from a girl and don’t confess it either. Think you are confused That is the way it sounds.

sonyc00:
Bros help me out. There is a girl i usually see around my street, and i normally just look at her then go my way. Our eyes jam most of the time, but we dont talk. So i took the initiative to approach her early this week. But when i was talking to her she was giving me monosyllabic answers, and acting like she had some where to be. So i just told her that its like you are busy, and she said yes. So i just told her to go, and have a nice day. But the next day, when she saw me, she took the initiative to wave. When i told her to wait, it was like she was in a hurry, so she was just laughing as she left. But the day after that, she was walking along with her kid brother, and just acted like she didn't know me. Please am i reading too much into this, or am i being taken for a ride here.

Uzomacharles:



You have to play hard to get cos she thinks you need her by all means and looks like you told her "she's beautiful?

HARDDON:
to get fame, u must know that SENDING less is actually more attractive than been all over her and needy like a peacock on heat.

learn to relax, 3 steps forward, two steps back.........


lets say two guys really fancy a gurl and wud luv to take her out on a date:

Guy1 calls her up and says i'd really appreciate it if you can find time for me this friday, i want to take you out.


Guy2 calls her up and says; i have this usual ritual on fridays after work i just go to this very kul spot and chill, alota options on the menu, kuls sounds filtering at the background, as i sip my wine and watch them stars above, u cud come along this friday....

Which of the guys do u think she wud gladly go out with?

sonyc00:
Bros help me out. There is a girl i usually see around my street, and i normally just look at her then go my way. Our eyes jam most of the time, but we dont talk. So i took the initiative to approach her early this week. But when i was talking to her she was giving me monosyllabic answers, and acting like she had some where to be. So i just told her that its like you are busy, and she said yes. So i just told her to go, and have a nice day. But the next day, when she saw me, she took the initiative to wave. When i told her to wait, it was like she was in a hurry, so she was just laughing as she left. But the day after that, she was walking along with her kid brother, and just acted like she didn't know me. Please am i reading too much into this, or am i being taken for a ride here.

Uzomacharles:



You have to play hard to get cos she thinks you need her by all means and looks like you told her "she's beautiful?

sonyc00:
Bros help me out. There is a girl i usually see around my street, and i normally just look at her then go my way. Our eyes jam most of the time, but we dont talk. So i took the initiative to approach her early this week. But when i was talking to her she was giving me monosyllabic answers, and acting like she had some where to be. So i just told her that its like you are busy, and she said yes. So i just told her to go, and have a nice day. But the next day, when she saw me, she took the initiative to wave. When i told her to wait, it was like she was in a hurry, so she was just laughing as she left. But the day after that, she was walking along with her kid brother, and just acted like she didn't know me. Please am i reading too much into this, or am i being taken for a ride here.

stanliwise:
Play hard to get when you are the one chasing??
He need to stop giving the wrong impression that’s all. From “I need you in my life” to “I think you’re cool”

stanliwise:

Next time if a girl reply you such be the first to take a graceful leave and don’t ask the naughty question “Seem you are busy”
Only God knows the questions you were asking her. Please next time don’t go asking questions?
Are you a professor. When next you wanna speak with the a girl, you discuss.
If you have nothing to say just greet and let her go, if you notice something you want to comment about then do.
You can whine a girl to start a conversation e.g “I saw you the other day and you pretend like you didn’t see me”?.
”It seem like you travelled I haven’t seen you for sometime”(this should be true tho)

Speak and do narration of event and observation/happening that she and you can relate to. It is difficult for people to response to event/observation based conversation with one line and flow with the conversation. Reverse psychology and guessing is part of the game.

Disclaimer: Some people hate discussion

Macsjebs:

Don't show eagerness and desperation, she may prey on that, just be patient and act normal

Uzomacharles:


Check your email bro

Uzomacharles:


Check your email bro

LeiderJa:


Married at JSS3? Damn that's crazy. Has it been long?

Chats like that will raise up her defense mechanism fast. Already she feels all men are bad and you're already buying into that narrative by doing things that regular guys do.

Tease her and make it as if she wants you. Example: Instead of telling her that her dress and makeup look very good, you can say "all this dress and makeup just to impress me? Whoa. Unfortunately you gotta try harder". Anything she says, you can cap it off with "Anyone that sees you will think you're dressed up to pay my dowry. I hope you know I'm expensive? Do you have money?"

Don't rush sex chat. Instead rush the teasing till she opens up.

Here's one of my absolutely favourite masterpieces:

"You're like all those girls who everyone thinks they're snubs or stuck up but in reality, that persona is actually like a wall to keep people out.

Anyone that looks beyond the wall will see you for what you are. Quirky, fun, a little annoying and definitely crazy.

All it takes is something to look inwards."

Mrmayy:

stanliwise:

To start with, how did you know she is crazy over you??

[/b] I thought she was crazy cos of how she behaved..okay let me share this, I have a female friend that she knows us together, and anytime she sees us together she always change her mood and reaction and anytime I find time for her by visiting or staying with her she is always unstable, happy that am around her.. I thought I was on her mind




Meanwhile from the way you sound it seem like you are giving her a lot of your time and I like to know exactly why?

[b] I won't lie, I like her and I thought giving my time to her could help change her mind

As a friend or so that you can win her heart??

[/b] yea, to win her heart. I wasn't much available with her when I thought she was drooling over me. I considered her purely as friend then, but I thought she liked me..




Now you confessed your feelings, answer this?
- Did she give you an interest of being a girlfriend?

[b][/b]Yes, I think so. There was a particular day we were together the whole day, taking one class to another in different lecture theatres and during the evening we were about to part, she told me, waving 'okay, good bye I love you'.. I was surprised that day but I didn't want to take any moves thinking it is all these girls plays.. But the next time we saw, she was touching me, telling me she likes my hairstyle..



From now on you have to punish her behavior, for the next one month focus on yourself and if she greet you then respond objectively to her response(Be careful don’t show anger or frustration), reply cool calm and collected and make every discussion brief.

[b] We haven't seen or been together since March. I saw her in sch but she was rushing for a practical class, and she said we would see later( well, she is no more in my department, she changed her course. She told me about it few days before I asked her out in January), so I usually call her or chat with her on WhatsApp.. But even with that I haven't chat with her since 25th of July or call her and she still login to WhatsApp, though not stable online



On your part, have an open mind and if you’re chanced to date other girls, please do, don’t ever place your heart in the hand of any girl. And lastly don’t be her friend. YOU CAN EITHER BE HER LOVER FIRST AND THEN A FRIEND. IT BARELY EVER WORKS THE OTHER WAY ROUND.

Mrmayy:


[b][/b] Thanks bro, I wasn't expecting a quick response.. pls guide me through with the answers I provided up there

louisobire7:
[color=#006600][/color]Good morning house.. please there's this issue that has been on my mind for some days now.. my ex girlfriend (of over a year now) just texted me on WhatsApp with a new number. Saying her name was faith, clearly it was not.. so I just chatted with the person ( I never knew it was her) for about a day.. she requested for a video call the next day, that was when I saw her.. but I turned off my camera, so she was unable to see me ( I haven't seen or talked to her for over 8 months because I was really heartbroken lol! But at some point she would text me on WhatsApp or give me a beep on my phone, but I never replied any of her number or tried to contact her in anyway for that period) until last week. And that day I was high(On weed). When I saw her on the video call, she then sent a voice note if I was scared to see her, and why is my voice like someone who has smoked, What is wrong with me, she basically wanted to start a conversation with me like old times. I got angry sent a voice that she can not just start texting me and saying rubbish. That if she wants to have a conversation that's not the way to start talking to someone and also told her if she can actually know someone who has smoked through voice note. I even asked why she messaged me. She did not even apologize, she just asked me if it's a bad thing to message me.

I just told her basically that She does not know how to apologize when she's wrong and that's her problem and i don't have anything against her o. That I don't think she is someone I want to have a conversation with at all.

So I am really confused. I don't think I did the right thing. please I need advice..

Mrmayy:

Thanks bro, I wasn't expecting a quick response.. pls guide me through with the answers I provided up there

stanliwise:

From what you said I don’t know if she likes you romantically or maybe she she does but she is afraid of being committed.
If she is afraid of commitment then all you need to do is to sweet talk her into everything, although I hate when people make promises, but you can sweet talk the future and customize the reality of you both if she agrees to make commitment.
On the other hand I think you shouldn’t let your emotion over the place for this kind of girls. Like always have at the back of your mind that this kind of girls act naively based on peer advise and many things. They are unreliable.
She could either be the materialistic type of girl or the decent type. Those two kind of girls are afraid of commitment. One needs the material/rich boyfriends, the other needs a responsible partner. I don’t know who she is.
But one way to know if a girl likes you is how much of attention and time she dedicates when you are around her, forget the comment and silly “I like you“ joke, does she concentrate and invest time when it comes to you?

stanliwise:

From what you said I don’t know if she likes you romantically or maybe she she does but she is afraid of being committed.
If she is afraid of commitment then all you need to do is to sweet talk her into everything, although I hate when people make promises, but you can sweet talk the future and customize the reality of you both if she agrees to make commitment.
On the other hand I think you shouldn’t let your emotion over the place for this kind of girls. Like always have at the back of your mind that this kind of girls act naively based on peer advise and many things. They are unreliable.
She could either be the materialistic type of girl or the decent type. Those two kind of girls are afraid of commitment. One needs the material/rich boyfriends, the other needs a responsible partner. I don’t know who she is.
But one way to know if a girl likes you is how much of attention and time she dedicates when you are around her, forget the comment and silly “I like you“ joke, does she concentrate and invest time when it comes to you?

luckyisrael:
Hello @ harddon
I'm in a relationship or I'd rather call it a situationship .
Earlier this year a girl tried to woo me into a relationship which I finally fell for because I eventually liked her and the vibe she brings to the table, we had our moments and things where going pretty smoothly. Then all of a sudden I noticed 2 months ago she stopped calling, stopped replying my text, even whatsapp messages she doesn't send,she only calls back when she sees my miss call and we talk pretty well. I've tried to talk to her about the whole thing about she acting up, if she doesn't want me anymore she should state it and I'll walk away, but she keeps this positive attitude that we are cool and the same time we haven't seen each other for a while now, and I've been trying to hook us up, but she seems not interested in meeting me @ the moment and keeps telling me we'll meet soon blah blah....what should I do, cus I really like her,.. I think we've lost our mojo�

Otisker:
I met this girl in school. She is this type of girl with sort of arrogant behavior. I began to like her so I got close to her. Just when I thought everything was flowing well, she responds well to our discussion, She can actually be nice, I told her that I like her.
This girl began to whine me she pretend not to know what am talking about always replying thank u when ever I say I like her. This has continued for days and am now frustrated. Advice please