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Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by erico2k2(m): 11:42pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
lefulefu:That narrative is more true with marriages of couples based in Nigeria rather than them ones who's partner are abroad! |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by bolousadex: 11:42pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
It's eazy for you guys to blame the man because you are not in his shoes. You'll understand when there's no other alternative but to move abroad illegally just to provide for your family. The man cannot come home because he's undocumented thus he won't be able to go back. it's easy to talk here, in reality, things aren't that straightforward. The man does not think about the possibility of his wife cheating, he just wants to provide for his family. give him a good job and he'll be back in naija the next day 2 Likes |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Nobody: 11:43pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
erico2k2:what works best for them |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Omega30(m): 11:43pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1:the privilege is because the man does everything, from wooing you, taking care of you and your family, marrying you which he paid singlehandedly without your Kobo, paying your dowry and still take care of you and the family. If he does all these and you can't respect him by honoring him with your body then switch roles then 4 Likes |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by christopher123(m): 11:45pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: are you a Yoruba man ? |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Liposure: 11:45pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
Konji na bastard |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by franchasng: 11:45pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
lefulefu:complete hogwash!! 99.99% of Nigerian men who left Nigeria left out of no other choice to make it like they wished in Nigeria, some left out of failure to even earn a living in Nigeria. Most left in tears and with their last savings or borrowed money. Most left without any other choice. Majority left Nigeria with temporary visa and a plan to overstay their visa..and many don't get lucky converting their temporary stay to PR or green card so they resign to fate, hoping to make money and send back home to their wife and kids to ensure family is well catered for, and even though they wish to bring their wife and kids over, the odds are against them paper wise. You are assuming too much even though you seem to know about all these, is it a deliberate act to entertain the audience or what Aside children of politicians and the few privileged rich kids and those from financially stable family in igeria who travel out of Nigeria to study, and few to work legally as medics, nurses, etc, tell me how many Nigerians who left the country happily Most it's because of financial difficulties in Nigeria that made them to travel abroad for greener pasture, even on visitors visa, how do you expect them to bring their wife over 8 Likes |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by erico2k2(m): 11:45pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
lefulefu:Exactly hence we must not judge cos we aint in their shoe and more importantly one should not paint everybody with same paintbrush . Individuals and cases and circumstances differ |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by franchasng: 11:46pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
solasoulmusic:sometimes meals are sweeter when served hot hot like tsushi |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by christopher123(m): 11:46pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
Samakus: are you an igbo or Urhobo man |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by erico2k2(m): 11:47pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
franchasng:Well said, like I have been trying to tell him, he has no clue, 1 Like |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by elsse(m): 11:51pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
[quote author=Chino4NAUTH post=94237946]I have been hearing about women who married their husbands and the man happens to be staying in overseas or moves to overseas thereafter for economic reasons to Carter for the welfare of his family.. Why it is good and fine economically it has left a deficient emotional vacuum for the wife and children esp if it's a young family. I have a woman in our building whose husband stays abroad but she's always looking forward to talking with me and even trying to make me her confidant but I know the risk associated and had to find my away not to get more closer to her.she has only 2 kids fresh and cute.. Mind you she's still very much pretty and young.. I never knew she was married till I saw her fine kids Similar situation both kids are girls |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by mukhcech(m): 11:51pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
Me wey be man self can survive without a woman in my room 247. |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by ariklawani(f): 11:52pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
God bless you, for no reason shld you leave your wife for one year... |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Nobody: 11:53pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
bolousadex:thats why most times if u want to do such parole its easier doing it as a single man |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by franchasng: 11:54pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
erico2k2:he knows all that, he's trying to entertain his audience. I have met Nigerian men in some countries stuck with no way to even go back to Nigeria. For instance in South Korea, if you overstay, whenever you want to leave SK, you must pay a fine for overstaying your visa...which may run into millions depending on how long you overstayed and most Nigerians in SK cannot bring their wife or kids cos no matter who you be, they consider you as alien. Go to Europe, we have so many Nigerians stuck there..no legal paper to even get a decent job talk more of filing for a wife to join you. Same thing is applicable to US. Many Nigerian men that abandoned their wife in Nigeria are helpless, they wish to bring their wife and kids over where they are, but due to paper issue they cannot. But with what they are posting here, wives of such men working extremely hard abroad to ensure their wife and kids in Nigeria are well taken care of could pick offense and believe their husband is married over there and intentionally don't wanna bring them over, it's not a cool thing to generalise such sensitive topic 6 Likes |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by franchasng: 11:55pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
ariklawani:pray make owu (financial lack) no catch you and your husband or future husband, you will even encourage him to forget you for life if that would end the sufferings you guys are passing through |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Nobody: 11:55pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
franchasng:it’s a cold meal the last time I checked besides not every woman wants to rush the moment some of you we know watch porn and that’s all you guys do sometimes not every woman should be bleeped like a hoe |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by erico2k2(m): 11:57pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
franchasng:True but i do believe wives know the worth of thier husbands and that he is doing a good job looking after them,Cos 9ja noer easy most of thos talking trassshhhhh here still live with Mum Dad.Dem no know how far |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by EgunMogaji2: 11:57pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
I have several examples whereby the wife couldn’t qualify for a visa. Stop painting with a wide brush. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Nobody: 11:58pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
I see it as nothing but punishment, why leave your wife in Nigeria, if a man that wants to marry me won't do my visa for us to leave together, then no marriage will take place. |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by erico2k2(m): 11:58pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
franchasng:Hunger nah Sickness! |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Numerouno94(m): 11:59pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1:chai..
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Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by erico2k2(m): 11:59pm On Sep 24, 2020 |
Nuttella:And wen u are married for 10 years with two kids and he lost his Job and he gets the option to go hustle in London where you can at least get feeding money of 200K per month what would you say?? 1 Like |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by franchasng: 12:00am On Sep 25, 2020 |
erico2k2:yeah but women are easily convinced and even deceived, their false generalisation can convince many ladies in such position honestly. It's all good |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Princessbettyj(f): 12:01am On Sep 25, 2020 |
virginprincess: Don't mind the goat,nah so person go sleep with hin own wife too |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by erico2k2(m): 12:01am On Sep 25, 2020 |
franchasng:Its all good bro hence the best way is to Engage the woman and show commitment on one's part.and Idle mind is a devils workshop! |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by erico2k2(m): 12:02am On Sep 25, 2020 |
Princessbettyj:Sister u harsh ohhhh |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by franchasng: 12:02am On Sep 25, 2020 |
Nuttella:easier said than done, just pray to your God for mercy and grace, stop talking with girlie emotion...life is deeper than our wishes and if wishes were horses, OBJ and Buhari for turn to 20yr old Military Generals 2 Likes |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Happyguy201: 12:04am On Sep 25, 2020 |
i had a one time thing with a married woman . we met an eatery it all started after i helped her to change her flat fire she asked for my number we met the next day some nice location . all the while i never knew she was married so one thing lead to another we kissed in her car . she opened up and told me she was married but her husband has been away for 3 years now . to cut the long story short i ended up giving her the best BJ she has ever had . straight 30 mins and when she nutted her cream pie all over my mouth i had to kiss the puna it was so clean as the heavens gate but unfurtenately i never penerated her . i felt bad afterwards because she started calling and texting to see me she missed me and will do anything for me .this happenned just last week . i dont want lead her on rollercoaster being that shes married God will never forgive me . |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by bigseank(m): 12:04am On Sep 25, 2020 |
These things are really happening, many of these women are struggling. Real life experience, a few years back a neighbor husband left her and the kid to spain. this lady was tall and beautiful, she just turned 30. Guys actually used to eye her and approach, but she never gave them a listening ear. The man comes in onces in 2yrs. From hi's, to small talks, to how was your day, to small small you are so funny body touch, to bringing over dinner, to gifts the husby sent, naso e start o. she hated anytime i had female company, changing her demeanor. she even told her sister who came to spend one of their ASUU strike, straight to keep off or she would send her away. She gave me signals though, but i always acted blind. The day i knew water pass garri was when she came knocking at 1AM, as i opened, she ducked under me straight to the room. met her on my bed, but i kept to myself and rejected her advances that night. oh lord did she try. She hated me for a while, but later came around sha but this time she voiced out. One day while watching a movie she started getting all touchy as usual and voiced out she needed the D. said if it was pregnancy i was scared of she's a big girl, and she was sure her husband was with someone there. That was when we really now talked and i told her she is another mans property, i cant do it no matter how tempted i am, and yes man was real tempted. But its all about the mindset and who you are. Put yourself in the man shoes, if you traveled out to hustle and another man was servicing one of the reasons you are hustling. I have always lived by the golden rule 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by KingAzari: 12:05am On Sep 25, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: Marriage is more than amu na toto. |
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