lefulefu:
most times if u having ambition to migrate its better not to get married when u want to married.Marriage can be like a burden when u travelling out.No peace of mind and u will be worrying weda ur wife is cheating on u.If the main reason for travelling is to study u wont be able to concentrate when in class

As a foreign student in the Scandinavia(degree/masters),you can apply for residence permit with your family right from Naija.
In Uk ,Masters students can bring their spouse and children along. ťThe only requirement is more money ,marriage and birth certificates.

MrBrownJay1:


If you don't mount her, someone in the area eventually will. Body no be firewood. Only a foolish man would go at the other side of the world for years and expect his wife to patiently wait. What kind of evil man would even expect that of a wife?

What if you have a chance to make money and advance your career while abroad. It is not foolish. If you are a doctor and you get a job offer worth millions abroad. You can go because of the money. You can then make provisiob for your family to join you later

PUNAengineOIL:


It is very easy to judge other people's actions and come up with your own conclusions. Advising your fellow man to go and fcvk another man's wife is not good.

... have u watched animal fight over kpekus on natgeo...? It's very bloody. Don't be caught in the act. It is very sacred

MrBrownJay1:


That's because you failed to understand what I wrote... If wifey is already h0rny and willing to offer the toto, then we have to be honest about the situation, instead of pretending that she won't give up the toto to the 1st available Mandingo warrior.

If you believe that this is a bad advice, then so be it.



How can a man start a family then abandon the poor wife back home? I understand why many are losing their minds.

it's so obvious you sleep with people's wife.one day ur cup Will full and u will regret it

If that's your call in life, discuss about open marriage and safe sex before you leave the country. No need playing mind games. Then the women in such situation can decide what they want- vibrator, friend w/ benefit etc

As I dey hug my pillow for 8months now shey I don die ni

There is always a plan to join him or her But they always dont materialize so fast.

Notwithstanding, there are people that abandon their spouse for money and it shouldnt be encouraged. Both those that practice Bigamy should be castrated. Some ladies even know and still put head. They just want the money .

ednut1:
my uncle went to the uk in 1987. His wife joined him in 1999 after he divorced his arrangee wife. He came home every 3 years and hit the jackpot 3 times. Today all the kids are doing well abroad. He is enjoying his retirement there too. Money is very important in this life. No point staying in 9ja suffering with ur wife. She may still cheat on you.

He must be a very LUCKY man indeed. But I bet the man is not sharing his enormous PAINS with you! Nigerian wives are terror or slave masters in the UK.

ufotty2001:

When you see a woman talk like this you will be shocked to know that she has over thousands of vibrators of different kind in her room... This kind of people are d worst to go into relationship with... They come here to look like a saint but I bet you they are not...

Never once in my life have I used a vibrator. n I think I'm the best type to go into a relationship with atleast U know I'm faithful n loyal n that everyone ain't Ben up in me lol.
I'm no Saint at all. Am just loyal n dnt think it's good to just sleep around n treat Ur body like a camping ground where tons of ppl can pitch their tent n sleep on whener they like.
Besides I love with my mum n brothers n their families atm so where will I have privacy for using a vibrator or hiding one

stay there and be thinking low when the world has moved above you guys. only thinking of evil in your mind.

KIDfurniture:
Reply is for ARCBOX;

My brother you planted her around ur parents and do video calls with her everyday..lol..the day u find out na one of ur family members dey service her or driver or lesson teacher? What will u do sir?

You must be a learner ...lol ur type might even father a child for another man sef...

MrBrownJay1:


If you don't mount her, someone in the area eventually will. Body no be firewood. Only a foolish man would go at the other side of the world for years and expect his wife to patiently wait. What kind of evil man would even expect that of a wife?

The women in long distance marriages that know are regular postinor consumers, some of the men don't trust that the women would behave properly when they come abroad so they instead keep them in Nigeria.

GeneralPula:


Just say the Puna is getting wider... Hence the needed reason to abstain!

Lol quite the opposite. Why everyone gotta be so miserable just cos I know how to control myself n behave.

BKsoul:
abeg am a female ooooh. See ehn in this life, whatever you do not the story please dont conclude or generalize, if the man stays back here without any tangible thing to do while he has an opportunity of travelling to make the money, na human being go still insult am say because of yansh, he no wan make am..

Thank you my sister, you be better woman. I am in the predicament but as a person who grew up in poverty, I am taking my chance with money!
Time is money and money is life.
My wife fucking somebody else while I am away is a big problem but not a catastrophe!
I’d rather have financial security and good health than a partner (wife is old fashioned, nonexistent and unrealistic in today’s world).

MrBrownJay1:


Who cares what people will say if he stayed?! He can take his family along OR find a job in Nigeria.... But leaving family behind while disappearing for YEARS is wrong, IMHO!

Before I respond to this your thread, how old are you?

Chino4NAUTH:

I won't mount her bro.. Let another man do... Seriously I wonder as well why men do such, living this fine young woman without any touch of a man for years.

Give us address mehn

Ygrette:


Exactly. I've been without sex for 7 good years until I started dating again this year.

Yeah n guys just assume the worst bout it. If U sleep around Ur easy n if U don't your a liar or sum crap.
Not our fault some ppl dnt respect themselves n their bodies or that they don't learn control.
They act like it's so hard.
Not just guys but girls too.

virginprincess:
We are saying the samething, men like you are always avaliabe to do it.

You're talking like a virgin that you are, what @MrBrownjay1 is saying is that if a woman wants to cheat, if she like let her be 60yo and ugly, let her be married with kids the age of the person she wants to puck, she will find someone that will puck her, now imagine if she's fine, young and still in shape. there's no lie there, I even witnessed it in my NYSC camp, a married woman whose husband was abroad was busy pucking all the guys in my dorm.

eejo:
I left my Wife in Nigeria early this year for overseas after getting the job of my dream. My Organization is ready to move my family anytime am ready. People are leaving Nigeria because of the Economic situation and the way APC is managing the country. Don't blame the Men but the country.

Can I be part of your family sir?
I can do anything to migrate

Peacefullove:


Abstinence before Marriage and after marriage are not the same ... Dont compare , Before marriage, most who abstained havent tasted how if feels like, so it was easy. After Marriage , your body now craves for it.

I didn't mention marriage.
I'm not a virgin but I can still control myself. But after I marry I won't have reasons to abstain from sex n yes I will want it all the time cos he's my husband n I will enjoy being with him. Controlling yourself from having sex(unmarried) isn't hard if U want to do so n have reasons.
Marriage is different no doubt

Peacefullove:


Be realistic , Even the holy book says Husband and wife should not leave each other , they will be tempted. U think u are wiser than God ?

Being tempted n acting on temptation are two different things. Not everyone gives into temptation.

Chino4NAUTH:

I won't mount her bro.. Let another man do... Seriously I wonder as well why men do such, living this fine young woman without any touch of a man for years.

I am surprising ooo, because without sex, somebody will die. The sex you have been having all these years, what is your gain?

ednut1:
my uncle went to the uk in 1987. His wife joined him in 1999 after he divorced his arrangee wife. He came home every 3 years and hit the jackpot 3 times. Today all the kids are doing well abroad. He is enjoying his retirement there too. Money is very important in this life. No point staying in 9ja suffering with ur wife. She may still cheat on you.

The bolded, i owe you one bottle of Ogidiga bro.

A man living with his family in Nigeria, struggling to feed them, struggling to pay kids school fees and house rent.

Better opportunity will now show for me to move first to a very nice/beautiful country in Europe or Canada with a good paying job.

Also with a chance of bringing them into the country in maybe 2-3years later, i will now turn down the opportunity because men will be squeezing my wife or something.

Is her choice o, my kids future is more important than any other thing.

I don't blame men travelling to other countries for better opportunities, as long as they have it in plan to bring them over asap.

I can only blame men that are still not ready to bring their family over despite having everything and the chance to.

HIbreed:
you're wrong, every humans are different.

I'm talking bout myself.
Yes everyone's different but everyone's capable of it too.

MiddleDimension:


But Oyakhilome did it. He told his wife that one country is too small to for the both of them!

Hailey Quinn is that you??! Because this is clownish

HIbreed:
you're wrong, every humans are different.

N I'm not wrong. It's not hard.
U just gotta change Ur mindset n have good reasons n have willpower.
For sum it's hard for sum it's easy.
It's easy for me. I'm not the same person I was ten years ago n I see things differently n make wiser choices

virginprincess:
I have been noticing how you give bad advice on this forum,why you advice him to sleep with someone else wife, very bad.

Isn't it obvious that the person you quoted is not mentally balanced?

Chino4NAUTH:
I have been hearing about women who married their husbands and the man happens to be staying in overseas or moves to overseas thereafter for economic reasons to Carter for the welfare of his family.. Why it is good and fine economically it has left a deficient emotional vacuum for the wife and children esp if it's a young family.

I have a woman in our building whose husband stays abroad but she's always looking forward to talking with me and even trying to make me her confidant but I know the risk associated and had to find my away not to get more closer to her.she has only 2 kids fresh and cute.. Mind you she's still very much pretty and young.. I never knew she was married till I saw her fine kids

Share your experience with us

Hmmmmm my Oga you sure say you never chop that forbidden fruit? This one wey your mind dey judge you like this, I no trust you oooo

Naijaaaaa:


Please which country?

If you're in Canada legally for instance, it wouldn't be much difficult to bring your spouse

MrBrownJay1:


Lol, if I meet the babe for road and she invites me for some "fun time", would it be written on her forehead that she is married? Or better yet, as the dude is about to mount her, do you think he will ask:" are you married, because if you are I no wan do again?!"



That's the African men misplaced ego's double standard hypocrisy... A man can fukc around all he wants (even while living with wifey) but if wifey dares to look at another man (let alone fukc him), that's an abomination. Lol!

You are far from understanding Africa, very far.

[quote author=Asquare84 post=94247633]If the woman is an idoma woman, she dear not cheat on her spouse. If she tried it the god (alekwu) will catch up with her[/mumu story.the juju is for the poor women. Wake up

lefulefu:
hmm long distance marriage no be marriage oo..except u doing it for a temporary phase of time due to some unpreventable issues but if na for permanent basis that is not marriage.I sometimes wonder how wives whose husbands are overseas and whose husbands come once in a blue moon are able to cope.Many of these men who are not that reluctant to bring their wives over to join them where they reside are mostly married where they reside or have girlfriends.You know many of these whites dont like comptetion.They are not like nigerian women who can tolerate a second wife or a side chic..their society no be like that..men who cheat in their society hide to do it.not like us who flaunt our own.If the man is not married over there and is single there he would be more than willing than willing to bring his wife over.There some nigerian men living in germany and france who enroll their wives in naija into language schools so as to have the certificate of language studies which is one of the requirements to have if u travelling to some non english speaking european countries.thats to tell u how serious they are.When a naija guy is giving excuses why he doesnt want to bring his wife over then my brother he is married or engaged to some lady over there ..we all know this nau .The other guy u were saying he is refusing to bring his wife cos she is troublesome did he not see the troublesome nature of hers when he married her? i am sure dat one na just his excuse.Anyway most long distance marriage the help of God e dey survive oo.There some men they will just abandon their wives and kids and cut off all communication and begin a new life.Thats why u see many of their wives in naija sometimes having numerous lovers.

You have never lived abroad obviously. Better stay away from matters you don’t understand. You think marriage abroad is the same as marriage in Nigeria? Abeg.....
In abroad currently legal marriage is unbalanced and puts a man into slavery. You owe your wife everything but she owes you nothing!

Well, I think if the couple had a very good relationship before either of the party travelled and continued to work at it while away from each other, they won't be need to cheat. Thanks to video calls, orisirisi can happen in a family. They can have video conferencing or some crazy sheet sexx privately. Again, this depends on their relationship. In all, I vote staying together!

oyatz:



You are NOT wiser than God.

You are NOT more disciplined than God.

You are NOT more faithful than God.


When God created Adam and Eve, he put them in the same location- this is the order of nature.

However when humans try to be smarter than nature by doing the opposite, it often leads to problems.

This is akin to telling a Fish that it can survive for long and even thrive by living on the burning desert sand through more 'disciplined'

Words of wisdom