ufotty2001:

Keep on acting like a saint and be decieving people. No wonder you register a new moniker in nairaland here to clean up your past life... I have met people like you before...!!! I bet you! what you are saying is fake and misleading.. just to lieu the innocent guys in... If you are genuine, reply me with your old account.. nairaland.

This is my first time on nairaland.
Lol I'm not a saint. I'm just me. I'm loyal and why's that so hard to believe.
Not every person is the same.
I don't want to lure anybody in lol. I have someone already. Why would wat I said lure anybody in.
I don't know how your mind thinks.
Why U think I need to lie? But it doesn't matter U can believe wat U like cos I know the truth n that's what matters.
Maybe you've never met a girl who can control themselves before?
Maybe U can't control yourself? So U think everyone is the same.
I pity U there that U think the worst of ppl.

ednut1:
this is false. Women of these days give only pekus without feelings. A typical guy has 2 to 3 girlfriends while the ladies have maybe 3 plus one rich sugar daddy. No emotions

I agree

bukatyne:



Money is not everything

When one passes survival mode, that realization comes naturally.

You are so right

lefulefu:
na so

I dnt mean going without with Ur husband/wife lol. If Ur away from them then abstaining n being faithful.

Chino4NAUTH:

I won't mount her bro.. Let another man do... Seriously I wonder as well why men do such, living this fine young woman without any touch of a man for years.

WOW, if this is real...you have my respect brother. As for me, I always remind myself never to put a woman who loves me in this kind of situation. It is like ignorantly giving the devil chance.

As a married Muslim man traveling abroad to study or work without going with your family, the longest you can be away from your family without traveling back to visit them ( wife especially) is 4 months, after that, it is a sin, you can visit and travel back later on but you have to visit or take them to you at least every four months.

ednut1:
my uncle went to the uk in 1987. His wife joined him in 1999 after he divorced his arrangee wife. He came home every 3 years and hit the jackpot 3 times. Today all the kids are doing well abroad. He is enjoying his retirement there too. Money is very important in this life. No point staying in 9ja suffering with ur wife. She may still cheat on you.

Guy dey careful make sense no kill you.

Chino4NAUTH:
I have been hearing about women who married their husbands and the man happens to be staying in overseas or moves to overseas thereafter for economic reasons to Carter for the welfare of his family.. Why it is good and fine economically it has left a deficient emotional vacuum for the wife and children esp if it's a young family.

I have a woman in our building whose husband stays abroad but she's always looking forward to talking with me and even trying to make me her confidant but I know the risk associated and had to find my away not to get more closer to her.she has only 2 kids fresh and cute.. Mind you she's still very much pretty and young.. I never knew she was married till I saw her fine kids

Share your experience with us

one time like that I was trying to advice a young man going overseas and leaving his wife and daughter here in Nigeria on this forum that family first before any unpredictable hustle but everyone was not seeing things from mine own perspective...

Hokage123:
While everyone is talking about the disadvantage of long distance relationships.

My own is why are Nigerian men abroad still coming to Nigeria to marry.

Who still does this nonsense.

There are some certain things that need to be stopped.

Another one is men that pay for women school fees in the hope of marriage after she graduates.

It always backfires.

I will rather marry a white woman or even another African woman abroad than coming back home to marry all this hungry entitled girls we have in this country.

Goto Texas and other American states and see the way they are killing them because of how selfish and wicked they are once they come over.

Many of them do so because they feel the abroad women are too exposed, and fear that bringing home-based women abroad would give the women the exposure of the abroad-based women, which they feel is potentially calamitous. Because if there is gbege, they might lose everything they worked for to the abroad woman. In some cases, the women don't want to relocate because they have ulterior motives. When I was in the UK, someone I was seeing in Nigeria refused to relocate and had shady behaviour. She was extorting me and funding her relationship with my sweat. She was putting her head on a married man's chest while talking to me on the phone. For her, relationship was a game. I knew but played along but stopped sending her money. I returned home and broke up with her. She fought me for breaking up with her.

Some do it because they want to return home and settle and won't want to start a family late. The ones I have issues with are those who run parallel families at home and abroad. So listen to everyone's story before making a strong statement.

I have seen a case where a woman started a relationship and had to go to the US for her graduate studies. Her then fiance paid part of her fees. They are married today and are counting 16 years. I also knew a woman from the Haiti who took a break from a relationship with her husband who had cheated and was abroad for two years. She didn't cheat but the husband cheated away. She returned to him and tried to work things out until the woman her husband was sleeping with disrespected her again. She left the marriage and left Haiti. She is in Canada now and married someone sensible. So I advise caution when dishing advise, especially in things you have no experience. It works for others and fails for others. Do what works for you. Life does not have the same manual for everyone, you shall reap everything you sow. That is my own manual.

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ednut1:
my uncle went to the uk in 1987. His wife joined him in 1999 after he divorced his arrangee wife. He came home every 3 years and hit the jackpot 3 times. Today all the kids are doing well abroad. He is enjoying his retirement there too. Money is very important in this life. No point staying in 9ja suffering with ur wife. She may still cheat on you.

"she will still cheat on you"...bliv me

lefulefu:
And many to overcome these odds get married to their host country's women.A number of nigerian men who are married in naija and are now living in the UK,US,Germany etc get married to their women dere..haba we all know this nau ..is it something new again.when they get married to these women and have kids they are now caught between the devil and the deep blue sea on how they would resolve their situation.Sometimes if their wife back in naija is understanding they might convive with their naija wife to pose as their younger sister while they dupe the white woman..in some cases they would prefer dumping their naija wives and kids back home and remain with the oyibo woman and start a new life with her.this always happen again and again.This is why most times if u have made ur decision to migrate its easier doing it as a single man than a married man.Most times wen we talk say na d wife dey mostly suffer am when the man travel we tend to forget about the kids.the kids wont be seeing their daddy as they used to..they will be lonely and any man wey get sinster intention can use that to get into the woman"s heart.When u are a single man u can easily do ur migration cos u dont have anybody attached to u.

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The best thing now is baby mama's

Arcbox:

Some of you are damed fucking shit with evil mind and that’s how you can never make progress in life.
I am gonna give you an insight into different scenarios you know nothing about.
My family is in Nigeria and I am outside presently. I came for a PhD program on scholarship and just spend one year here. You are allowed to come over with your family. More over, you need to go and see how things look like. My intention was that my family will join me in six month later which is around faburary/March this year. Event turn out that coronavirus strike and every air space is shutdown. My intention was to come and see my family in July as summer break start but Nigeria air space is shut. Now that’s a different ground. Do you know that my little daughter who just turn 3 years and was schooling in Nigeria, her school fees here is over 10million naira per annum?. My wife is living close with the mother and father. I know she miss me but she can never be close to anyone. I trust her and we are on video call every day. Any woman that believe you and your dreams will support you not all about sex. In the western world here, people huzzle and not thinking of romance and sex as you in Nigeria is always engrossed with. I will see my family in November. When you are coming to social media and talking trash because you manage to buy mtn data, you watch what you say because everybody are different.

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Samakus:
I have one that is my neighbour currently. Moved into my apartment in January this year and my next flat neighbour is a pretty young woman with very young female twins. They were about 9 months old when I moved in. God knows I love pretty children. These kids have not seen their father before.

There's no amount of temptation I have not faced from this woman. But i have always had a principle of not touching another man's wife. Her twin kids thinks I'm their father cos I buy them things almost on a daily basis while returning from work. Sometimes I pity the young pretty woman. It's not easy for her but I can't help.

Anytime she sees a lady visit me, if you see her face eh lolz. But, it is what it is

try contactin the man and tell him his wife needs attention. if he doesnt respond then bang the woman so you can show the man that he is stupid and save her the trouble of sexual torment

emkz:


Many of them do so because they feel the abroad women are too exposed, and fear that bringing home-based women abroad would give them the exposure of the abroad-based women, which they feel is potentially calamitous. Because if there is gbege, they might lose everything they worked for to the abroad woman. In some cases, the women don't want to relocate because they have ulterior motives. When I was in the UK, someone I was seeibg in Nigeria refused to relocate and had shady behaviour. She was putting her head on a married man's chest while talking to me on the phone. For her, relationship was a game. I broke up with her.

Some do it because they want to return home and settle and won't want to start a family late. The ones I have issues with are those who run parallel families at home and abroad. So listen to everyone's story.

I have seen a case where a woman started a relationship and had to go to the US for her graduate studies. Her then fiance paid part of her fees. They are married today and are counting 16 years. So I advise caution when dishing advise, especially for thongs you have no experience. It works for others and fails for others. Do what works for you. Life does not have the same manual for everyone, you shall reap everything you sow. That is my own manual.

Nna eh, your wisdom will never go down...I know a woman right now , whose husband cheats ti the extent of renting an apartment for a sidechick in the same street they live, when she got to find out, she forgave, she works in a good company, all the properties this woman has, are all in her husband's name. as in, me sef i weak, but one thing i have come to find out is that our level of loyalty varies. LOVE IS LIKE BUILDING A FOUNDATION, so many things are attached with loyalty and trust, endurance and patience being some of the major factors, when you build your love foundation well, at a stage, there are things you will no longer be scared of... and if the foundation is faulty, sooner than later the marriage will collapse, then the partners start living a lie.

BKsoul:
Nna eh, your wisdom will never go down...I know a woman right now , whose husband cheats ti the extent of renting an apartment for a sidechick in the same street they live, when she got to find out, she forgave, she works in a good company, all the properties this woman has, are all in her husband's name. as in, me sef i weak, but one thing i have come to find out is that our level of loyalty varies. LOVE IS LIKE BUILDING A FOUNDATION, so many things are attached with loyalty and trust, endurance and patience being some of the major factors, when you build your love foundation well, at a stage, there are things you will no longer be scared of... and if the foundation is faulty, sooner than later the marriage will collapse, then the partners start living a lie.

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Truth

Rabiu4190:


Guy, this your statement no good oh!

Thanks

Apologies

Parisian:
Nigerian men want to place their wives last bit expect their wives to remain a slave for them and take care of them even in old age. Thank God are wisening up.

How will a wife be a slave to a husband who's not around for a long time
But


Thank God you have wise up

zexy2030:


Anyways u may be right, na weytin eyez dey find na em e dey see. But there is a rule, you can't cheat nature.

No matter how disciplined you r, after 100 days without night sleep, you will break down, if u don't sleep.

No matter how long you fasted, you will still need food to break or else you die.

No matter how sex starved a female maybe, she gets Hot fortnightly, if after 6months without sex(which she has experienced before), she gets depressed, touchy and easily angered, feel lonely and unloved, unkempt sometimes, they swim in low self esteem and self pity as they cry every night, thinking they are spiritual but actually they are just missing a good feeling of being physically touched by someone they truly care about.

Nonsensical. You seem so sure of your facts. Maybe you were a female in your past life.
Joker

Chino4NAUTH:

I won't mount her bro.. Let another man do... Seriously I wonder as well why men do such, living this fine young woman without any touch of a man for years.

Stand on your ground bro. it's not good. I have them here. In fact, they run after young guys. To me I can't leave my family. They are my first and immediate community. That ideation is futuristically risky.

There is nothing wrong here, the facts that the woman has two kids even if the husband is far away so the children will be her companion.

Samakus:
I have one that is my neighbour currently. Moved into my apartment in January this year and my next flat neighbour is a pretty young woman with very young female twins. They were about 9 months old when I moved in. God knows I love pretty children. These kids have not seen their father before.

There's no amount of temptation I have not faced from this woman. But i have always had a principle of not touching another man's wife. Her twin kids thinks I'm their father cos I buy them things almost on a daily basis while returning from work. Sometimes I pity the young pretty woman. It's not easy for her but I can't help.

Anytime she sees a lady visit me, if you see her face eh lolz. But, it is what it is

Na Love Machine sure pass

Na your sister Bleep her joor Pls take just be helping her service her engine oil.

Samakus:


Nice to see a lady with this mindset. A lot of people, gender notwithstanding, believe that one can't do without sex. That's a notion I find very untrue, maybe because I fit hold body small.

Truth is, if people learn to control their sexual urges, we have successfully solved 80% of world's problems. Sadly, quite a very high percentage of human population just can't

If the world is about sex, it could have been a better place than having violence. (Berlin and Amsterdam come to mind)

The only discouragement is the increased immorality and the low spirituality that will prevail due to sex abuse.

Imagine if married couples of the world will always indulge in mutual sex (not rape)
don't you think the world will be better off without violence.

Unfortunately, all things can never be equal.
Because once there is a sexual abuse, miscreants will be born and they will turn to terrorists/violence.

But imagine a world of clean romance, there would be more peace in the world.

The question is, can we ever have a clean and approved romance??

cooooooks:
While body no be firewood, some couples find ways of going through such a predicament.

Omo video call gang.

Some even allow themselves 'freebies'.

I have also heard of people appropriating friends for their spouses

Wtf!!! Friends to munch and chew on my wife? No. Never ever

Mrscarter:


Ikr. U can control any desire weather it be sex or any other thing.
It takes willpower and really I dnt even need that. It's been easy for me.
I started off because I was tired of unmeaningful sex/relationships n wanted to wait until I found the right person n not just any person who I thought was right.
Eventually I met someone far away n feel he's worth waiting for.
Besides no one else has interested me in a long time.
I get lonely sure n I get urges sometimes but isn't like I must run out n just screw somebody. I wanted to be a better person than before n make my body worth more than just sex if U know wat I mean.
N it will be all the more sweeter for myself and the guy when the time finally comes for us to have sex.
Yeah as much as I like sex it's not something I can't do without for as long as it takes.
More women and men should respect their bodies more n not just share it with anyone or with all different ppl all the time.
Some ppl dnt care bout their reputation or sexual health. Ten/thirty mins of pleasure just to go bk home or whatever n know you've just cheated on the one U love or that you've just screwed Ur boss/neighbour or a random person n like someone who's cheap n easy. Isn't worth it.
I've had one night stands years ago just to screw n I'm not proud of it. Wat did achieve me? But being proud of Ur body not being used by ppl who only wanna screw U n use U or knowing U have the strongest loyalty to Ur absent partner and knowing Ur not easy. Or that Ur sexual health is perfect or that U have no reputation as easy or high body count that's all worth much more than a random screw just cos U had urges

Let's just say you are doing it for yourself and your belief.

But simply know that your partner might have his own belief and coded actions too. Simple truth.

bukatyne:



Are you serious?

https://www.pastoranita.org/blog/108-happy-anniversary-to-the-best-couple-in-the-world

You can read it here.
She was 'submissive' and listened to her 'head' for over 17 years that one country is too small for them both. The result, she became sad to the point she lost all self esteem.

This is the danger daddy freeze saw in oyedepo's teaching. He pointed and ibiyeomieand enenche came for him.

Mrscarter:


This is my first time on nairaland.
Lol I'm not a saint. I'm just me. I'm loyal and why's that so hard to believe.
Not every person is the same.
I don't want to lure anybody in lol. I have someone already. Why would wat I said lure anybody in.
I don't know how your mind thinks.
Why U think I need to lie? But it doesn't matter U can believe wat U like cos I know the truth n that's what matters.
Maybe you've never met a girl who can control themselves before?
Maybe U can't control yourself? So U think everyone is the same.
I pity U there that U think the worst of ppl.

I don't blame people like you.. I blame guys that make people like you look valuable.. running your mouth like a bug of pig that was thrown inside the ocean..

MrBrownJay1:


Because they value MONEY above everything... So they have no problem abandoning their family to go chase some whatever, far away from their family. I fully understand why such desperate woman fall prey to men.

Ode, dont follow your dream because of toto. Man dey Naija, dem dey poke him wife...woman wey go look outside go look...

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Samakus:
I have one that is my neighbour currently. Moved into my apartment in January this year and my next flat neighbour is a pretty young woman with very young female twins. They were about 9 months old when I moved in. God knows I love pretty children. These kids have not seen their father before.

There's no amount of temptation I have not faced from this woman. But i have always had a principle of not touching another man's wife. Her twin kids thinks I'm their father cos I buy them things almost on a daily basis while returning from work. Sometimes I pity the young pretty woman. It's not easy for her but I can't help.

Anytime she sees a lady visit me, if you see her face eh lolz. But, it is what it is

Trouble version 2.0 loading bro! Be careful with your attention on her and the children. Èṣù ò nílé (Devil no get house). Na anywhere wey them allow am e dey stay. I rise!