So I’m back for your entertainment �.

I met this guy on ig. He flew me out to Spain. This man was funny. He did a lot for me while I was there. Most times I would ask to help and he would refuse.( please before the silly comments start. I’m very independent and God has blessed me small. I want a man to be part of my life but I don’t need one. This was my attempt at dating again (first date since I posted my last sob story years ago) but every time I open my heart I get burnt. Why?

What is all this? I think I need night vigil �. This man was so consistent when I was there, he was kind, never wanted to leave me or get off the phone the entire time. Catered to my every need. He made several attempts to kiss although I declined at first I eventually gave in after some days. He made an attempt for sex and I turned him down the whole time I was there. We did nothing sexual, he slept on the couch my entire stay. He wasn’t so happy about this but still respected my decision. - I’m tired of doing things my way and now I decided to do things Gods way.

We laughed the entire time, it was a great time. I left on a good note. This man told me he loved me, made so many promises. I actually started liking him back.

Now I’m back in California and I feel like it was once chance. If I tell you this man has gone cold. I don’t know what I did wrong. Is it my ambition/independence that scared him away? Is it the fact I turned him down? How does a man who seemed so into me go so cold? Is it the case of Yoruba demon?

It’s mood swing after mood swing and it’s like I’m forcing him to engage in conversations. He is no longer as sweet as he was before. He barely communicates.

You guys I need prayer for real. I have toasters but none so far seem like the right man for me. I’m tired of attracting bad guys or good time men.

The worst I have encountered are Yoruba. I tire for una. I wash my hand�.

Those who are married. What am I doing wrong? Do I need to down play my education/achievements? Do men give up easy when they can’t have you? Why do you men give out what they can’t maintain?

I think u have to understand relationship is all about compromise and sacrifice

The guy bears ur burden, catered to ur every need and u no even allow the tip to enter, bress sef him no see to suck?
Madam u are Wicked.

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Forget ppl that will call him a fvckboy he is not.
If u ask financial help from ur boyfriend and he refused every time u ask but u cater for his sexual needs and do cook for him. If u leave that guy later, no one should call u a gold digger, its the same with guys.
If we cater for ur financial needs and u refused to satisfy our sexual and emotional needs, we have every right to leave u when we can no longer bear it. its a relationship not a prison after all.

make I hear wetin lalasticlala get to talk on this matter

Day never break for your side...continue sleeping. By the time it's morning, you will discover that all-over and over-all are not the same.

I'm too disgusted by this op.im just going to pass by

HeavenlyCherub:
So I’m back for your entertainment �.

I met this guy on ig. He flew me out to Spain. This man was funny. He did a lot for me while I was there. Most times I would ask to help and he would refuse.( please before the silly comments start. I’m very independent and God has blessed me small. I want a man to be part of my life but I don’t need one. This was my attempt at dating again (first date since I posted my last sob story years ago) but every time I open my heart I get burnt. Why?

What is all this? I think I need night vigil �. This man was so consistent when I was there, he was kind, never wanted to leave me or get off the phone the entire time. Catered to my every need. He made several attempts to kiss although I declined at first I eventually gave in after some days. He made an attempt for sex and I turned him down the whole time I was there. We did nothing sexual, he slept on the couch my entire stay. He wasn’t so happy about this but still respected my decision. - I’m tired of doing things my way and now I decided to do things Gods way.

We laughed the entire time, it was a great time. I left on a good note. This man told me he loved me, made so many promises. I actually started liking him back.

Now I’m back in California and I feel like it was once chance. If I tell you this man has gone cold. I don’t know what I did wrong. Is it my ambition/independence that scared him away? Is it the fact I turned him down? How does a man who seemed so into me go so cold? Is it the case of Yoruba demon?

It’s mood swing after mood swing and it’s like I’m forcing him to engage in conversations. He is no longer as sweet as he was before. He barely communicates.

You guys I need prayer for real. I have toasters but none so far seem like the right man for me. I’m tired of attracting bad guys or good time men.

The worst I have encountered are Yoruba. I tire for una. I wash my hand�.

Those who are married. What am I doing wrong? Do I need to down play my education/achievements? Do men give up easy when they can’t have you? Why do you men give out what they can’t maintain?

A man flew you out,catered to your needs and you did not allow him to touch And you are asking why he went cold? na wa for you oh

Just as your TRIBE!

He "burnt" you because you didn't give in to sex.

Its normal among guys who just wanna play around. It shows where their hearts lie. So be happy.

Very few good men who fear God out there. Some people who fear God like me have been taken tho . I will soon marry my chosen Daffodil.

P.S, I ain't Yoruba.

Make i first yawn.... My advice to u madam na say u need to stop to dey place too much high expectation to any man wey come woo u, bcuz 85% of these men na fucckboyz.

E fit be say na karma dey worry u now, cuz u fit don reject the right man wey truly need u long before now due to one yeye reason or the other. E dey funny me when ladies way no sabi woo men of their choice go dey too finicky.

hmmm, there is heartless people in all tribe, no tribe has saints

Hmmmmn

Broken relationship is better than broken marriage. The fact that the man went cold doesnt mean u shud stereotyped a particular tribe. If you are gud yourself why didnt u marry the other tribes u dated befr meeting this particular yoruba man. He might av seen some traits or attributes in you he can't go ahead with in term of ego, manner of talking, or even not been appreciative by simply saying thanks after he might as spent on you; being appreciative goes a long way than u may think. Sex is nt paramount in relationships, but u felt cos u didnt allow him to av anything wit u made him back out. You may be wrong in that aspect. There are ladies that will even be emphasising on sex while men may be turning them down. Don't see urself as being justified. Search for why u are still single within or to ur village people stop causing tribal war around. An adage in Yoruba u are trying to taint says "Obínrin so ìwà nù, óní óun lórí oko" meaning A woman lacks character and she's saying she doesn't av luck for husband.

[quote author=lindareep post=96019559]Hmmmmn[/quote shoooooooooooots

Issokay

The guy above me join me later in kubwa abuja, for chilled origin.

You can imagine oo oh u met him on Instagram and boom!!!! He flew u to spain, spent million bucks on your a$$ and you're forming holy holy to make the matter worse u denied him of sharing the same bed with you....u chase him to the couch (awon eyan erica) and maybe laslas u are not that appreciative.. Lemme ask u one thing if reverse were to be the case what would u do....and don't come and be painting the innocent man bad here that he wants you for sex only. As e dey unah brain say money dey important for relationship naso we men too dey reason am say sex dey us important for relationship and Abeg quit saying Yoruba men are this or that. Every tribes has their own bad colors.

Madam, yes, its a common thing within the Yoruba enclave not to be attached to any particular woman because they are mainly traditionalists and Muslims and you'll agree with me that such backgrounds approves having many wives; I.e polygamous in nature.

Secondly, you should also be hardworking because Yoruba men likes woman who takes care of them. . . most of their men are not hardworking so you must take note of that....


However, there is no tribe be it Yoruba, Hausa , Igbo or others where you won't see men like that..


Finally also work on yourself to be accommodating and tolerant.

Only go for what you can tolerate!!!!

In all, I wish you the best.

Good luck.

He catered for your needs and you couldn't cater for his

DUNKA:
A man flew you out,catered to your needs and you did not allow him to touch And you are asking why he went cold? na wa for you oh

No mind that girl.

@op, even God would have abandoned you if he gave you something and you failed to show appreciation.

Ode

I don't even bother to read all the werey post wey you wrote there,



I don't waste time on senseless thing,



Yoruba peaple heartless, as if nah all yoruba she don flow with


Eleribuu


Her mouth like fowl anus

SILENTandSMART2:
Ode

I don't even bother to read all the werey post wey you wrote there,



I don't waste time on senseless thing,



Yoruba peaple heartless, as if nah all yoruba she don flow with


Eleribuu


Her mouth like fowl anus

aaaahhh opor

Ike gwuru.

Oya see aunty.. aunty wey no wise. Mehn that guy committed himself so much.. I feel for him
I really don't think you have found someone u like stop playing urself

Temmylee02:
aaaahhh opor

If you ready for relationships pm, or you come house

OP, You don't have to attribute his cold attitudes to the Yoruba men.....It's a general thing....

As a woman, you don't accept to visit a man if you know that you won't get down with him if need be.....


You joblessly left your abode for spain and got well treated and you couldn't make it memorable....You now want him to keep showing you the love you don't deserve...

He's no simp and you don't deserve such a gentle man.....

NATIONALPASTOR:
Madam, yes, its a common thing within the Yoruba enclave not to be attached to any particular woman because they are mainly traditionalists and Muslims and you'll agree with me that such backgrounds approves having many wives; I.e polygamous in nature.

Secondly, you should also be hardworking because Yoruba men likes woman who takes care of them. . . most of their men are not hardworking so you must take note of that....


However, there is no tribe be it Yoruba, Hausa , Igbo or others where you won't see men like that..


Finally also work on yourself to be accommodating and tolerant.

Only go for what you can tolerate!!!!

In all, I wish you the best.

Good luck.

'Secondly, you should also be hardworking because Yoruba men likes woman who takes care of them. . . most of their men are not hardworking so you must take note of that'

How did you know they are not hardworking,have they come bowl in hand to beg you?
Been a pastor is a 'laborious' work,maybe if they join you in pastoral work you will recognise them as hardworkers.

I love it when they cry too. Lol

OP, I don't think you are ok at all, maybe your sense has fried or bomb dey ur head. How was the guy heartless? Flew you to Spain from America and back at his own expense, thousands of dollars, catered for all your needs and wants, you chop life on top him head, he wanted sex, but you declined and didn't allow yet he respected your decision. A man slept on a couch inside his own house throughout your stay just to maintain decency and respect sexual privacy, he never forced himself on you, nor did he try to rape you, yet you say he is heartless. Did he physically abuse you? No! Did he force himself on you? No! Did he violate you? No! He let you be and still didn't stop being a good host while you were there, he still gave you everything and you enjoyed your stay with him. Did he leave you or kick you out of his place and leave you stranded in Spain that you had to source for your own accomodation and buy the return ticket by yourself? No!

Now the man has realized that you're just a selfish leech, all you want is a man that you can form big girl international tourist and living La Vida Loca on his neck and pocket. He has realized you are a bad market and a waste of his time, emotions and money. He is not interested again, hence cutting his losses and moving on. Now you are calling him a heartless demon, is it by force for him to date you or marry you? Find boyfriend elsewhere na. Thunder fire you OP for falsely accusing such a gentleman that treated you well. Thank God you know you need prayers for real because something is definitely wrong with you. The fortunate guy dodged a bullet. You are just pained because you can no longer eat his money. Typical hoelosho behavior. Once they can no longer exploit a man, the next move is to publicly demonize him. Mtchwwwww.

What kind of man do you want?a man that has no sexual needs. I don't understand the concept of fvckboy again,a man flew you in to another country,catered for all your needs, you got there and start seeing kiss as biggie,op if the man was your brother, what would be your sincere advice for him at this stage,but make una no forget, na we be the best plug for everything sexual enhancement ooo

Spoilt food atract flies

it's high time we define what we want in any relationship.
you might have given him some tips before leaving for Spain, while I think sex is overrated you probably didn't tell him you won't have sex if you arrive Spain.
honest conversation is the bedrock for a long lasting relationship

emperorAY:
it's high time we define what we want in any relationship.
you might have given him some tips before leaving for Spain, while I think sex is overrated you probably didn't tell him you won't have sex if you arrive Spain.
honest conversation is the bedrock for a long lasting relationship

It's not about SEX, to make it about sex is simply cheap blackmail. This story you heard is one-sided but even as one-sided as it is, you can pick up the other side of the story if you pay attention well. Yes maybe the guy wanted sex, but it wasn't just about sex, he was obviously into her, or do you want to tell me that as big as Spain is the guy can't find a finer more exotic woman than OP to shower money on to eat the cookie jar?

Her attitude was disgusting and selfish. Even if you don't want to have sex, there are other ways to carry him along romantically to show him you have interest in him, or you feeling him like he's feeling you. Girls like her we know their type. When they see fuckboys, they will spread their legs like antenna and turn to zombie, then after those ones mess her up, she will be forming Stone Cold Steve Austin when she meets a responsible guy, the guy has to suffer the consequences of her previous emotional trauma.

Not every man has the patience of all those kinda bs. Since she was locking up, she's not showing romantic interest, she was behaving like she didn't like the guy, she was just in Spain to catch fun by herself without him being part of it, then why should he waste his emotions on that kind of an opportunistic self-centered girl? The guy did nothing wrong. He just realized she's not worth his time and that she doesn't deserve that high pedestal he placed her before. It's not a sex matter. Decades ago, I have been in a situation where a relationship interest will come visiting from another State, will stay for a week and no sex, no sexual involvement like kissing, smooching etc but she would still do things romantically with you, she will still carry you along like yes, she has her emotions invested in it, not just you alone and you guys still flow, las las, na she go still make the move for sex sef.

But the point is sex or no sex, the girl is still making moves and behaving like she likes you and she wants a relationship with you. Not the type that wants to hang blame on your neck for her past relationships misfortunes and will be giving you gap like you have Ebola, then you now expect the guy to waste his time licking your shoes trying to convince you he's not like those agberos that have been licking your lollipop with reckless abandon that you gladly allowed. Some of us guys don't have time for all those kind of manipulative games.

Openbusiness:
It's not about SEX, to make it about sex is simply cheap blackmail. This story you heard is one-sided but even as one-sided as it is, you can pick up the other side of the story if you pay attention well. Yes maybe the guy wanted sex, but it wasn't just about sex, he was obviously into her, or do you want to tell me that as big as Spain is the guy can't find a finer more exotic woman than OP to shower money on to eat the cookie jar?

Her attitude was disgusting and selfish. Even if you don't want to have sex, there are other ways to carry him along romantically to show him you have interest in him, or you feeling him like he's feeling you. Girls like her we know their type. When the see fuckboys, they will spread their legs like antenna and turn to zombie, then after those ones mess her up, she will be forming Stone Cold Steve Austin when she meets a responsible guy, the guy has to suffer the consequences if her previous emotional trauma.

Not every man has the patience of all those kinda bs. Since she was locking up, she's not showing romantic interest, she was behaving like she didn't like the guy, she was just in Spain to catch fun by herself without him being part of it, then why should he waste his emotions on that kind of an opportunistic self-centered girl? The guy did nothing. He just realized she's not worth his time and that she doesn't deserve that high pedestal he placed her before. It's not a sex matter. Decades ago, I have been in a situation where a relationship will come visiting from another State, will stay for a week and no sex, no sexual involvement like kissing, smooching etc but she would still do things romantically with you, she will still carry you along like yes, shebhas her emotions invested in it, not just you alone and you guys still flow, las las, na she go still make tbe move for sex sef.

But the point is sex or no sex, the girl is still making moves and behaving like she likes you and she wants a relationship with you. Not the type that wants to hang blame on your neck for her past relationships misfortunes and will be giving you gap like you have Ebola, then you now expect the guy to waste his time licking your shoes trying to convince you he's not like those agberos that have been licking your lollipop with reckless abandon that you gladly allowed. Some of us guys don't have time for all those kind of manipulative games.

I totally agree, she might have exhibited emotional selfishness and I don't any guy will be up for it .
she made it all about sex in her post, but who goes visiting a guy in another country and not expect sex?

Hey you guys shouldn't blame the girl.
She only responded to the guys game.
The guy was a simp and girls dont sleep with simps.
The guy was too good to her too attentive and too accommodating. " He catered to her every need" and when he got nothing except small kisses in return, he still continued to be accommodating reinforcing the fact that he is a simp.
Girls dont sleep with you out of pity they sleep with you because you move them either physically,emotionally or financially. You must move them because a girl left to her own will always want to take and take and give nothing in return except you move her.
He left the bed and slept on the couch the whole time she was there. I can understand the first night but after then you still didnt make her know that sleeping on the couch was not going to happen.
Women love men who take charge. Men who know what they want and go after it. Not a man they would say shuuuu once snd the man will slither away and not insist.

I can imagine the dynamics of the relationship and I dont blame the girl one bit. He is the kind of man that will fly a girl out to Spain without knowing where he stands. They have had no prior sexual communication or connection yet he flew her out. SIMP.
Its just funny that she is confused that the guy ghosted her after she came back. She was still expecting him to be her personal ATM even after the visit and continue to receive hia attention when she gives nothing in return except to "like" him.
The guy must be ugly or retarded or doesn't think much of himself,but I think he was truly hurt. Lets hope he doesn't allow himself to fall back into the babes allure.