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Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Nobody: 12:16pm On Nov 26, 2020

Someone recently recommend a book "no more Mr nice guy" to me.

The intro tells a story that's exactly you. I think it will be helpful, you can get it from pdfdrive .com

Seems like you want to please everyone and do the right thing so people will appreciate you, love you and see you as a good person and not like your dad.
Trust me it doesn't work that way.
Go to the root of the problem.
Your childhood

Anyway am not a professional, so go for counseling and seek professional advice. Very important

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Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Lorayne(m): 12:51pm On Nov 26, 2020

Why haven't you divorced her yet?

Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Nobody: 1:39pm On Nov 26, 2020

UjuJoan2:
Actually, I don't even belive his businesses are failing because he sleeps with her, but let's just leave him to keep believing that. Maybe it will prompt him to leave the toxic relationship.

exactly

Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by eze31362(m): 1:46pm On Nov 26, 2020

BiggyB242:
Like seriously, I would have left her the day I noticed she sneaks to the club.i don't know why some men are so weak when it comes to a woman.

How can you let a woman manipulate you like this?

imagine,

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Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Perfectsouth(op): 1:52pm On Nov 26, 2020

dayleke:
As per your dad and what you are doing for him now, that's not new. Many have done that for their dad's under the same circumstance as yours while others have abandoned theirs. Kudos to you and your siblings but nothing new.

As per your wife, bro, you will never learn or progress as you continue to sleep with her. I couldn't believe you said with your own mouth that " I'm married and body no be wood".
I just pray for you that that body no be wood no go make you be lying inside wood 6 feet below ground. Amen.
With all these revelations and things you know about her, ur deek still dey rise for her? Dem use vajina swear for you no fa? All d times you no sleep with her, se you die ni? If you go to her location, sleep in a hotel and don't even let her know which one it is.

As per the kids, you don't have to be with her or continue sleeping with her for them to turn out good or have a better life and turn out good in the future. Just try your best for them and make provisions to make sure they don't suffer.

The mistake you made was accepting her back. I don't think your destiny is tied to hers and even if it is your eyes don open.
I pray we don't read another topic from you saying
"Please help me!! My wife is after my life after everything I did for them".

The time to take a decision is now and move on with your life. Good luck and God bless.

As per you bro in law, what do you expect?
These people have been scruing you and will continue to do so until you man up.
Forget him and look for another avenue to make ur travel plans.

thanks for your words bro..
You see, some of us just want to live a life of one man one wife, no broken home, peace of mind and have a very happy home..
There is no way I explain it that people will understand the indept of it but I thank everyone for understanding..
Am even surprised no one is saying maybe am lying or trying to paint her bad, seems most people have witnessed this type of thing first hand

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Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Perfectsouth(op): 1:55pm On Nov 26, 2020

Karleb:
The problem isn't with the choosing.

Atimes, even perfect partners turn rogue.

If I were ever compelled to get married and the woman gives me one over one hundred of what was given to this bros, I'd just pack my things inside a big Ghana must go and disappear. I will literally disappear.

I can not come and go and die abeg!

Bro, it is easier said than done believe me.. I think the thing is, she took advantage of my gentle and introvert nature..
I once said this thing you said before getting married.

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Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Perfectsouth(op): 1:59pm On Nov 26, 2020

UjuJoan2:
Actually, I don't even belive his businesses are failing because he sleeps with her, but let's just leave him to keep believing that. Maybe it will prompt him to leave the toxic relationship.

you see, I too never believed it but it got to a time, I had to study it if truly it is what it is..
It happened like 3times then I have to access my life before I met her and since we've been together

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Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Perfectsouth(op): 2:15pm On Nov 26, 2020

Kaylet:
I understand you.

It's best you stay away from her now.

And when she's ready to change, take her to the same spiritualist to help her.

Your dad isn't the issue here again.

Blame no one for your misfortune in other to get your blessings on time

thanks bro

Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Perfectsouth(op): 2:16pm On Nov 26, 2020

Nuyokoi:
exactly

it was due to serious observations.. I know what am saying, I don't just accuse people without getting a fact

Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Nobody: 2:42pm On Nov 26, 2020

coolsegun2002:
body count doesn't matter....body count doesn't matter...
still...make calculated risk....a sexually responsible lady is a calculated risk....dont mention me..I've used 2 valium table

valium7

Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by dayleke: 2:48pm On Nov 26, 2020

Perfectsouth:
thanks for your words bro..
You see, some of us just want to live a life of one man one wife, no broken home, peace of mind and have a very happy home..
There is no way I explain it that people will understand the indept of it but I thank everyone for understanding..
Am even surprised no one is saying maybe am lying or trying to paint her bad, seems most people have witnessed this type of thing first hand

I understand you so well bro.
We all made promises like that to ourselves.
But life n circumstances happen.
Once again, being separated doesn't make you half a man or that your kids will turn out badly.
This is for your peace of mind n health too.
If you kpeme today (God forbid), life goes on for your wife n d kids too.

A word is enough for the wise o.

Shalom.

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Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by dayleke: 2:51pm On Nov 26, 2020

Perfectsouth:
thanks for your words bro..
You see, some of us just want to live a life of one man one wife, no broken home, peace of mind and have a very happy home..
There is no way I explain it that people will understand the indept of it but I thank everyone for understanding..
Am even surprised no one is saying maybe am lying or trying to paint her bad, seems most people have witnessed this type of thing first hand

You are very much welcome

Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Rita5(f): 5:52pm On Nov 26, 2020

Perfectsouth:
for a fact, she didn't connive with her brother... I will release evidences soon.. I thought she will change, I don't want my kids to go through the trauma of separation like I did.. I was trying everything to avoid a reoccurrence of what happened to my parent and since same thing happened to her, I thought she will change

If you are smart you will drop this notion of not recreating what happened to your parents because it has brought you so much pain and its still doing it. You are a man, you decide what you want. You don't need to be with her to take care of your kids.

Let her go. Close that chapter of your life immediately if you are smart. End all communication with your inlaws. Send her money for up keep and keep records. Because I am sure she won't spend it all on your kids. So make so you keep tabs on them yourself. If she fails in taking care of them maybe fail to pay their school fees, take her to court and show proofs that you sent her that money and gain full custody of your kids.

And stop being trusting. I have learnt a long time not to completely trust anyone. Don't bank on we are friends or you have helped them in the past. Scrutinise everything especially when money is involve.

Stop blaming people for your troubles. And if you are smart, give your dad a taste of his medicine and close him off too. Let his favourites take care of him. We must all reap what we sow and he is no different.

Work on yourself and build your finance. Chin up, you still have alot more to live for and achieve. Years from now you will look back and be proud that you didn't let this break you. Don't send your ex (thats what she is now accept it and move!) more than what the kids needs always verify the amount for stuff like school fees and co. Don't take her word for it. If it means travelling down to verify do so. She doesn't deserves any penny from you. Ensure you see your kids often, always explain why things are the way they are. Don't let your wife control the narrative. Be more expansive with the truth as they grow up and let them know you will always be there. Make sure they come live with you once a while and in those moments spend as much time as you can with them. Talk to them, listen also very important and spend on them because they are yours.

As long as you make sure your kids feel loved and secured with you. Then you have done better than your parents. Good luck!

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Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by GboyegaD(m): 7:14pm On Nov 26, 2020

Perfectsouth:
not that, I could have said this with my main account, but it was banned..
You see in life, if your first step was a mistake, you will keep having problems....
The mistake I made early in life keeps bringing more problems..
The one his brother did recently was what brought about this thread..
I have been through alot in life, from one problem to another, I keep fighting, I keep praying but if your problem lives with you, you hardly get an escape route..
Those kids should never suffer for what they knew nothing about believe me... Every decision am still making revolves around my kids..
Till today, I blame my father for every thing that has happened to me cos he was nowhere to be found when we needed him most..
And let me shock you, we now give him monthly stipends to feed himself.. The wife he wanted to die for abandoned him.

If the brother's non-payment the reason for this thread, you don't need to talk drag your wife into it. The important thing is you can't force someone to change their old ways however,il since you are prayerful, trust the God you worship to touch her and change her heart for the sake of the children so that she doesn't influence them negatively.

For University of Manitoba, I will suggest you start the process afresh by yourself and you have til early January to apply for Fall for most programs.

I wish you the very best in whatever choice you make.

Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by xavuv: 9:37am On Nov 27, 2020

You should not have answered that stupid questions.

Wetin be gumgum guy?
Spouses are supppose to gumgum eachother now...abi!

Perfectsouth:
yeah he slept with her and she felt cheated according to her..

I was legally married to her, do you wish I become promiscuous?

1st born Sept 2
2nd Sept 28..
We are not living together, we stay in separate states and body no be firewood.

I am not a gum gum guy, from what I experienced in my family, I decided to stick to one woman to avoid my kids going through whatever I went through in life.

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Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Nobody: 11:34am On Nov 27, 2020*

Perfectsouth:
Cc royalroy

Well, I don't wNt my kids to go through what I went through so I forgave her.. God was answering my prayers and things started picking gradually.. I went to meet them, took them all out and did shopping for them..
I was planning on how to relocate them to where I was...
Now this is the revelation..
My wife has been used,thats the fact...
My photography business first collapsed.
I did about 5 businesses that just one of it can make me a millionaire, every business collapsed.. The more I sleep with her, the more things become worse for me...
All these revelation came after I was told to pray and fast..

When things started picking gradually for me this year, I payed for a shop 300k,it was almost my son's birthday. So I went to see them.. We slept together, I came back after the birthday.. Could you believe, I was chased away from that shop and till now, I was only able to recover just 50k from the money..
Before my mom's birthday again, I was doing some business and it started picking. Went for my mom's, she came for the birthday too, we slept together, and when I came back to my business, the war I fought was unfathomable.. It collapsed too..
I am a very prayerful person and believe me, in the 8yrs we've been together, I never slept with another woman. I sweared with everything they gave me cos they couldn't believe me..
Before my daughter's birthday, God was merciful to me and I started another business.. I was warned severely never to sleep with her again.. Till now, my business is gradually picking and am able to send them money for upkeep and my kids school fees....

Now this my wife have an immediate younger brother who is a travel agent, I remember last year I introduced a friend to him and even vouch and stood for him that nothing will go wrong.. Truly he did this guy's traveling to Dubai and the guy went.. But we didn't know what happened and this guy came back.. Maybe he was deported or not, nobody knows but this my friend came to arrest me and I was told to produce my Inlaw.. He came and we were both locked up for 3days..along the line, the matter got settled, I parted with some money after selling one of my equipment. And he too also raised some money.. So this year, when things were already picking up for me, he got into another problem and this time, they were gonna jail him, so I borrowed him 100k and he promised to pay them 50k monthly till he complete the payment.. It was a travel gone sour though I know some people he has done traveling for and they are doing fine in their respective country of choice.

So this year, someone decided to help me travel out, he gave me UNIVERSITY OF MANITOBA admission processing fees, it was 120cad, but I gave this my Inlaw 150$ believing that atleast, since I am his Inlaw and have done him alot of goods before nothing will go wrong..
That was in August..
Fast forward to 2days ago, I messaged University of Manitoba since I wasn't getting any update, and I was told my application was not submitted neither paid for, I almost collapsed... So what he did was doctored some documents and sent to me and I believed him..
Right now, I am in a fix..
About my wife's promiscuity, I have all evidence of their chat..
After forgiving her over that chat, when I went for my daughter's birthday, I wanted to go through her phone, she gave me a heavy fight that I can't go through her phone, the phone I bought for her with my money..
When she slept, I opened it with her Fingerprint.
The chats there are so damaging. Some have slept with her and still wanting to do more, some she is already negotiating with.
She works in a beer parlor now and she is already using waist beads, she knows I hate these things..

I can't tell it all but if you have a question to ask, or anything you think I missed, ask me and i will tell you the truth..
My Inlaw hasn't pick my call to tell me why that happened..

If you think this is a fabricated story,
I have all evidences.
If enough people ask for it, I will release it here..

Mugun "Male Adult Babies" no go ever finish. The funny thing Is I didn't even went through 5% of what all these Mugun Adult Babies went through before I wisen up about the female gender character. I stopped believing In anything about the female gender at the age of 21years, I experienced my first ever and evergreen heartbreak at that age lol. The female gender are naturally born with Redpill, The male gender will have to learn It from them. What most people wish Is to have learnt the Redpill early, because If you don't learn It early, Na die you dey for their hand...... grin

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Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Arsenate(m): 1:19pm On Nov 27, 2020*

Evolutionlove:
The female gender are naturally born with Redpill

Yes they are and they understand the advantage it gives them in the dating world, in life in general. That's why they try so hard to discourage men from being red pilled through shaming, because they do not want the playing field levelled.
As it is, for most men, dealing with women is like a boxer going into a boxing match with both hands and legs tied while his opponent has his free. just fccking look how hopeless the op sounds.

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Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Twenty8: 1:32pm On Nov 27, 2020

Perfectsouth:
Cc royalroy

Well, I don't wNt my kids to go through what I went through so I forgave her.. God was answering my prayers and things started picking gradually.. I went to meet them, took them all out and did shopping for them..
I was planning on how to relocate them to where I was...
Now this is the revelation..
My wife has been used,thats the fact...
My photography business first collapsed.
I did about 5 businesses that just one of it can make me a millionaire, every business collapsed.. The more I sleep with her, the more things become worse for me...
All these revelation came after I was told to pray and fast..

When things started picking gradually for me this year, I payed for a shop 300k,it was almost my son's birthday. So I went to see them.. We slept together, I came back after the birthday.. Could you believe, I was chased away from that shop and till now, I was only able to recover just 50k from the money..
Before my mom's birthday again, I was doing some business and it started picking. Went for my mom's, she came for the birthday too, we slept together, and when I came back to my business, the war I fought was unfathomable.. It collapsed too..
I am a very prayerful person and believe me, in the 8yrs we've been together, I never slept with another woman. I sweared with everything they gave me cos they couldn't believe me..
Before my daughter's birthday, God was merciful to me and I started another business.. I was warned severely never to sleep with her again.. Till now, my business is gradually picking and am able to send them money for upkeep and my kids school fees....

Now this my wife have an immediate younger brother who is a travel agent, I remember last year I introduced a friend to him and even vouch and stood for him that nothing will go wrong.. Truly he did this guy's traveling to Dubai and the guy went.. But we didn't know what happened and this guy came back.. Maybe he was deported or not, nobody knows but this my friend came to arrest me and I was told to produce my Inlaw.. He came and we were both locked up for 3days..along the line, the matter got settled, I parted with some money after selling one of my equipment. And he too also raised some money.. So this year, when things were already picking up for me, he got into another problem and this time, they were gonna jail him, so I borrowed him 100k and he promised to pay them 50k monthly till he complete the payment.. It was a travel gone sour though I know some people he has done traveling for and they are doing fine in their respective country of choice.

So this year, someone decided to help me travel out, he gave me UNIVERSITY OF MANITOBA admission processing fees, it was 120cad, but I gave this my Inlaw 150$ believing that atleast, since I am his Inlaw and have done him alot of goods before nothing will go wrong..
That was in August..
Fast forward to 2days ago, I messaged University of Manitoba since I wasn't getting any update, and I was told my application was not submitted neither paid for, I almost collapsed... So what he did was doctored some documents and sent to me and I believed him..
Right now, I am in a fix..
About my wife's promiscuity, I have all evidence of their chat..
After forgiving her over that chat, when I went for my daughter's birthday, I wanted to go through her phone, she gave me a heavy fight that I can't go through her phone, the phone I bought for her with my money..
When she slept, I opened it with her Fingerprint.
The chats there are so damaging. Some have slept with her and still wanting to do more, some she is already negotiating with.
She works in a beer parlor now and she is already using waist beads, she knows I hate these things..

I can't tell it all but if you have a question to ask, or anything you think I missed, ask me and i will tell you the truth..
My Inlaw hasn't pick my call to tell me why that happened..

If you think this is a fabricated story,
I have all evidences.
If enough people ask for it, I will release it here..

It was all your fault.

Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Nobody: 2:26pm On Nov 27, 2020

Homeboiy:
Those advising you are wasting their times cos definitely you will still go back to her. You have done it before and the odd that you will do it again is high.

To end your problem

Eliminate her and her brother out of your way.

Na you know how you wan take do am

Succinctly put

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Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Nobody: 3:01pm On Nov 27, 2020*

Arsenate:
Yes they are and they understand the advantage it gives them in the dating world, in life in general. That's why they try so hard to discourage men from being red pilled through shaming, because they do not want the playing field levelled.
As it is, for most men, dealing with women is like a boxer going into a boxing match with both hands and legs tight while his opponent has his free. just fccking look how hopeless the op sounds.

Lol at the bolded, exactly you got It "Op's life was extremely Panel Beated by those people. Unfortunately this type of situation will continue to happen to most Male Gender because a lot of them are unwilling to learn about the female gender "Real Nature" and use It to counter them.......

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Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Alennsar(f): 5:17pm On Nov 27, 2020

Perfectsouth:
not that, I could have said this with my main account, but it was banned..
You see in life, if your first step was a mistake, you will keep having problems....
The mistake I made early in life keeps bringing more problems..
The one his brother did recently was what brought about this thread..
I have been through alot in life, from one problem to another, I keep fighting, I keep praying but if your problem lives with you, you hardly get an escape route..
Those kids should never suffer for what they knew nothing about believe me... Every decision am still making revolves around my kids..
Till today, I blame my father for every thing that has happened to me cos he was nowhere to be found when we needed him most..
And let me shock you, we now give him monthly stipends to feed himself.. The wife he wanted to die for abandoned him.

You have only one problem and that is your wife. Your problems will be solved when you learn to live without her because you can still be very responsible for your children even when you are not together.

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Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Alennsar(f): 5:22pm On Nov 27, 2020

Perfectsouth:
yeah he slept with her and she felt cheated according to her..

I was legally married to her, do you wish I become promiscuous?

1st born Sept 2
2nd Sept 28..
We are not living together, we stay in separate states and body no be firewood.

I am not a gum gum guy, from what I experienced in my family, I decided to stick to one woman to avoid my kids going through whatever I went through in life.

perhaps you don't know that a dead man cannot take care of his children, if all what you said about your wife is true then you should know that staying with her is your worst choice. A promiscuous woman will either kill herself or her husband but in most cases like yours it is always the husband. Be wise

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Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by KnightsTemplar(m): 8:49pm On Nov 27, 2020

Perfectsouth:
When things started picking gradually for me this year, I payed for a shop 300k,it was almost my son's birthday. So I went to see them.. We slept together, I came back after the birthday.. Could you believe, I was chased away from that shop and till now, I was only able to recover just 50k from the money..

If you think this is a fabricated story,
I have all evidences.
If enough people ask for it, I will release it here..

Hmmm..OP

This is even your wife. A lot of destinies has been changed due to sleeping around.

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Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Les: 10:40am On Nov 28, 2020

Perfectsouth:
my kids will never suffer the consequences of faulty foundation.. Here on out, I just want a way forward.. I want to cut all ties with this family but how do I go about it with my kids with them?

gather enough evidence against her to increase your chances of having custody of ur children after divorce because that seems to be the only way to move on from that family..

Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Nobody: 12:28pm On Nov 28, 2020

Perfectsouth:
for a fact, she didn't connive with her brother... I will release evidences soon.. I thought she will change, I don't want my kids to go through the trauma of separation like I did.. I was trying everything to avoid a reoccurrence of what happened to my parent and since same thing happened to her, I thought she will change

The way she took your children without informing you, go and take them back. Stop being a simp!

Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by bouncin04(m): 9:03pm On Nov 28, 2020

Baba .. What got you attracted to her at first ?

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Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by supercase1(m): 10:14pm On Nov 28, 2020

Oga my advice for you now is to just find a strong rope and hang urself in the bush that's the only solution to this your problem

just do that and come back to thank me later

I am still sitting on the fence

Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by orgylover: 10:15pm On Nov 28, 2020

dont u guys break these hoe legs?

Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by Womanizer(m): 10:15pm On Nov 28, 2020

BLUELemon:
valium7

I have heard of Valium 5. Which one is Valium 7?

Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by SweetCunt97(f): 10:16pm On Nov 28, 2020

Another one.

Re: I Married Into The Wrong Family.. (true Story) by SweetCunt97(f): 10:17pm On Nov 28, 2020

orgylover:
dont u guys break these hoe legs?

Because they brought the person into this world? If it ain't working, if they got no loyalty, simply walk out d door.

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