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Nairalanders!!! I Need Your Advice Please

Good day, my fellow nairalanders. permit me for the blunders, this is just the way I can put it.

I have this pretty and honest girl am currently dating, she is 18 while am 21. We have been dating for 8 months now. My parents knows her and her family knows me as well except her dad. She is really into me and I love her dearly too. I have been in relationships but this current relationship seem to be different because I have never been in love to this extent. Despite the richer and well to do guys disturbing her for relationships she still stick to me.

Although I never make her lack anything even when she never requested for it. she loves me so much that she can’t do without texting and calling me daily, sometimes she even tells me to send a selfie of my self so that she can see my face. This girl is just one of a kind and God knows I truly love her and I will love to marry her if things continue this way. She runs a small business online and am even planing to surprise her with some cash next year to make the business grow. I love it when a lady is hustling.

The problem am having right now is that she is a Virgin, We normally engage in pre-intimacy, although am not satisfied with that, but since I truly love her I just have to wait till she is ready. So recently she finally told me that she is ready to get disvirgined. We have already make a date for that and I have already make plans on booking a 5 star hotel room to make it special and memorable.

I started having second taught this morning that I should not disvirgin her yet because I will be leaving for school next year to further my education while she will start processing admission to gain entry into tertiary institution of her choice, with this reason I felt if I got her disvirgined she might meet some bad peers that will make her engage in some sort of negativity and definitely she might become a hoe or she might be craving for sex while am not with her, but i felt if she is still is still a Virgin she will have my fear in her heart and be for me only.

Should I disvirgin her? or still let her be a Virgin. Am confused, I just don’t want to loose everything. I don’t want to later end up a looser in the relationship. Please nairalanders I really need your advice!! Bashing is welcome as well.

Don’t worry...
sharper guys go help you do the deed.
Advice fire.

Focus on your future first.

Don't disvirgin her

am getting tired of seeing stuff like this on nairaland


Modified: this story self....18 years and 21 years old and you plan to surprise her with cash?? bros odika iche anyi bu umuaka

Donmoscojaja:
am getting tired of seeing stuff like this on nairaland

Swrs.

D tin sef tire me

Luckyheart:
Focus on your future first.

Op pls take this advice.

ttoto & pricck mata again

I will advice you to leave her if you really want to marry her....
What is yours is yours...
Who can't stay doesn't worth staying...

If you open the gate then comot, everybody go wan enter when u no dey...

Op, I Want To Advise U As A Good Bad Guy Now. If U Take My Advice D Better 4 U. Do U Really Love Her & Want To Marry Her. Disvirgin Her B4 Going To School, If U Don't, Anoda Guy Dat Doesn't Love Her Or Dat May Not Love Her Will Disvirgin Her B4 U Return 4rm Sch & It Will Hurt U Very Bad. After Disvirgining Her, Get Her Pregnant & Do D Little U Can Do 4 Her B4 Going To Sch. After Ur Sch, U Can Do D Remaining Things. Note: I'm Advising D Way I Would Advise My Own Blood Brother. Getting A Virgin As A Wife Is Hard. Don't Misuse Dis Opportunity U Av. U Can Thank Me Later.

Truvel:
Op, I Want To Advise U As A Good Bad Guy Now. If U Take My Advice D Better 4 U. Do U Really Love Her & Want To Marry Her. Disvirgin Her B4 Going To School, If U Don't, Anoda Guy Dat Doesn't Love Her Or Dat May Not Love Her Will Disvirgin Her B4 U Return 4rm Sch & It Will Hurt U Very Bad. After Disvirgining Her, Get Her Pregnant & Do D Little U Can Do 4 Her B4 Going To Sch. After Ur Sch, U Can Do D Remaining Things. Note: I'm Advising D Way I Would Advise My Own Blood Brother. Getting A Virgin As A Wife Is Hare. Don't Misuse Dis Opportunity U Av. U Can Thank Me Later.

SAID BY SOMEONE WHO CLAIMED GIRLS ARE EXPOSED TO EARLY SEX ...

Change is Constant

hot premium tears loading...better focus on ur studies

fati2001:
SAID BY SOMEONE WHO CLAIMED GIRLS ARE EXPOSED TO EARLY SEX ...

Fati2001, Dis One Is Different. Dis Is Someone He Wants To Get Marry To.

Weda u disvirgin her or not you will stil be at the losing end.......

Why??



because you both are about to go into the main world of immorality(Higher Institution)


Most girls don't settle down with who disvirgined dem......


No worry if u reach a certain stage all dis love wey dey shark u go drop....dat time u go begin reason how to be a MAN..

Donspicey:
Weda u disvirgin her or not you will stil be at the losing end.......

Why??



because you both are about to go into the main world of immorality(Higher Institution)


Most girls don't settle down with who disvirgined dem......


No worry if u reach a certain stage all dis love wey dey shark u go drop....dat time u go begin reason how to be a MAN..

Am in sch already

Auladimeji:
Bro,the only way you can seal your memory in her is by disflowering her,if another dude do it,as wear to God,she'll forget you.... But wait ooo, you dey this nairanland and you no dey read Ubunja right write,he talked about stuff like this naw

Ok thanks for your advice

Uzomacharles:
I will advice you to leave her if you really want to marry her....

What is yours is yours...

Who can't stay doesn't worth staying...


If you open the gate then comot, everybody go wan enter when u no dey...

Thanx for your advice I think this is useful

Truvel:
Op, I Want To Advise U As A Good Bad Guy Now. If U Take My Advice D Better 4 U. Do U Really Love Her & Want To Marry Her. Disvirgin Her B4 Going To School, If U Don't, Anoda Guy Dat Doesn't Love Her Or Dat May Not Love Her Will Disvirgin Her B4 U Return 4rm Sch & It Will Hurt U Very Bad. After Disvirgining Her, Get Her Pregnant & Do D Little U Can Do 4 Her B4 Going To Sch. After Ur Sch, U Can Do D Remaining Things. Note: I'm Advising D Way I Would Advise My Own Blood Brother. Getting A Virgin As A Wife Is Hard. Don't Misuse Dis Opportunity U Av. U Can Thank Me Later.

We are too young for that. Tanx for your advice anyway

Adebami895:
Am in sch already

You are losing her already.......

Do wat ur mind permits u to do and move on...

You still have a long way to go in life coupled with so many opposite sex distractions.....

The ball is in ur court.....

Women matter dey complicated bro.......

Focus on ur future first.....

Adebami895:
We are too young for that. Tanx for your advice anyway

We Are Too Young 4 Dat. Lol. I See... It Seems Like U Are Scared. Don't See Urself As Too Young. D Wife Of Kanu Nwakwo Was 18yrs Old When He Got Married To Her. Do U Know What? I Don't Want Sound As If I'm Forcing U, Or I'm Trying To Make U Do Something Dat Is Against Ur Own Will. D Choice Is Urs. If U Want To Marry Her, Dat's D Best Advice I Can Give U.

Truvel:
Op, I Want To Advise U As A Good Bad Guy Now. If U Take My Advice D Better 4 U. Do U Really Love Her & Want To Marry Her. Disvirgin Her B4 Going To School, If U Don't, Anoda Guy Dat Doesn't Love Her Or Dat May Not Love Her Will Disvirgin Her B4 U Return 4rm Sch & It Will Hurt U Very Bad. After Disvirgining Her, Get Her Pregnant & Do D Little U Can Do 4 Her B4 Going To Sch. After Ur Sch , U Can Do D Remaining Things. Note: I'm Advising D Way I Would Advise My Own Blood Brother. Getting A Virgin As A Wife Is Hard. Don't Misuse Dis Opportunity U Av. U Can Thank Me Later.

Person wey just wan start him life

Is you normal sir
Do you know his total networth?

Una go just dey update poverty for the country like iPhone

...


This dude is funny. You wanna wait till she graduates? Well, just know this, once she enters school lasan, she ain't yours anymore,whether virgin or not.

Make ya peace with it.

2dice01:
Person wey just wan start him life

Is you normal sir

U Wey Normal, How U Take Know Say Him Won Just Start Him Life? I Don't See Him As A Kid As U See Him.

Truvel:
U Wey Normal, Are U Take Know Say Him Won Just Start Him Life? I Don't See Him As A Kid As U See Him.

Your advise is Bullshít

So you think marrying her while you are in school
Will automatically cure any Konji she feel when you are not around

Op, I'm Not Trying To Push U To Do Things U Don't Want To Do. If U Want To Wait 4 Her Or U Want Her To Wait 4 U B4 U Graduate 4rm Sch. 1. She Would Be Deflowered By Anoda Guy 2. She Might Get Pregnant 4 Anoda Guy B4 Ur Return 4rm Sch. 3. Anoda Guy Would Marry Her B4 U Return Too. 4. She Would Lose Interest In U B4 U Return. Yes. Mark My Word. My 2nd Advice Is Dat If U Are Not Comfortable With It Or U See Dat As A Burden 4 U Because Of Ur Sch, Just 4get Abt Her Totally & Consentrate On Ur Sch. Until U Finish Ur Sch, U Can Look 4 A Wife To Marry. Her Chance Of Waiting 4 U To Graduate Is 2%. Just 4get It, Anoda Guy Would Take Her B4 U Return. Dat's D Ugly Truth.

I have nothing to say brother righteousness89 the floor is yours

:Person wey just wan start him life Is you normal sir U Wey Normal, Are U Take Know Say Him Won Just Start Him Life? I Don't See Him As A Kid As U See Him.

Adebami895:
Good day, my fellow nairalanders. permit me for the blunders, this is just the way I can put it.

I have this pretty and honest girl am currently dating, she is 18 while am 21. We have been dating for 8 months now. My parents knows her and her family knows me as well except her dad. She is really into me and I love her dearly too. I have been in relationships but this current relationship seem to be different because I have never been in love to this extent. Despite the richer and well to do guys disturbing her for relationships she still stick to me,Although I never make her lack anything even when she never requested for it. she loves me so much that she can’t do without texting and calling me daily, sometimes she even tells me to send a selfie of my self so that she can see my face. This girl is just one of a kind and God knows I truly love her and I will love to marry her if things continue this way. She runs a small business online and am even planing to surprise her with some cash next year to make the business grow. I love it when a lady is hustling.


The problem am having right now is that she is a Virgin, We normally engage in pre-intimacy, although am not satisfied with that, but since I truly love her I just have to wait till she is ready. So recently she finally told me that she is ready to get disvirgined. We have already make a date for that and I have already make plans on booking a 5 star hotel room to make it special and memorable.


I started having second taught this morning that I should not disvirgin her yet because I will be leaving for school next year to further my education while she will start processing admission to gain entry into tertiary institution of her choice, with this reason I felt if I got her disvirgined she might meet some bad peers that will make her engage in some sort of negativity and definitely she might become a hoe or she might be craving for sex while am not with her, but i felt if she is still is still a Virgin she will have my fear in her heart and be for me only.

Should I disvirgin her ?or still let her be a Virgin. Am confused, I just don’t want to loose everything. I don’t want to later end up a looser in the relationship. Please nairalanders I really need your advice!! Bashing is welcome as well

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Seun
Mynd44
Fynestboy
Richiez

As usual with Nigerian men and their entitlement mentality, you believe you must have the first slice of the cake aka deflower the precious virgin otherwise you lose out of the relationship. And as expected, your fellow entitled eediots will advise you accordingly.

Read this well. The hymen isn't for you. Deflowering her isn't your job. That job is meant for her husband and since you're not that, all I see is a selfish guy who is lusting after a young girl. You don't love her if your most concerning thoughts is about what would happen to her virginity when you're not there so delete that claim.

You have been advised and since you're young and impressionable, I know what your final decision will be.

I only pity the foolish girl who thinks having sex with you is a proof of love. She should know better.

Sixfeetbelle:
As usual with Nigerian men and their entitlement mentality, you believe you must have the first slice of the cake aka deflower the precious virgin otherwise you lose out of the relationship. And as expected, your fellow entitled eediots will advise you accordingly.

Read this well. The hymen isn't for you. Deflowering her isn't your job. That job is meant for her husband and since you're not that, all I see is a selfish guy who is lusting after a young girl. You don't love her if your most concerning thoughts is about what would happen to her virginity when you're not there so delete that claim.

You have been advised and since you're young and impressionable, I know what your final decision will be.

I only pity the foolish girl who thinks having sex with you is a proof of love. She should know better.

Well said