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Perfectsouth:
no matter what happens, those kids will never suffer their mother's sin....
Wish she could give me my kids but she is using them as her bargaining chip

But while you guys were together and having sex you grew rich, so how come she the cause? She committed adultery?

Personally the nonsense that pained me in this ur story is the bullshiit about being fragile and unable to learn or work.. Like wtf.

Best you go for a divorce not all marriages are meant to be. In ur case you simply ignored a very bad boil and it festered.

Who knows if the kids are yours sef

[quote author=Perfectsouth post=96430848]Cc royalroy]
Your experience isn't a sweet one but surely it is one that can have happy ending... Do you know why? Beacause you are fortunate to -
1. be alive to tell your story, meaning you can change the narrative if you act right
2. you already know the causes of your set back, so why not avoid them? i.e. your wife and her family.
3. Your kids will not suffer what you suffered because of the consciousness you attach to the desire to not have them tow that path. In your case your dad neglected you, in their case you don't sound like one that will neglect them, except if you choose to and as for their mum you can't force her to give them care and love beyond what she intends giving.
Finally, it's obvious you still love your wife and you also don't want to tow the path of divorce, if after thorough and careful considerations you find you still want you two then make up your mind to carry the cross while seeking divine help for her trusting God to help rescue her. Wish you best.

You need direction oo. Seriously. You seem to be going round in circles without destination. You knew what your brother in law was capable off yet you entrusted your brain because you feel he wont do same to you. You knew what your wife was capable of yet you over look because she is your wife. You knew the beginning of your misfortune but you ignore and enter like a goat. Reading this i just concluded you need sence. You havnt made use of any since you met this woman. You are just doing things like a lost sheep. You need to go for counselling cause your problem is beyond you. You want to avoid what happened to you to happen to your kids that is why you want to die on top that woman. If this your story is true please na you no get sence las las. Please move on from your fears and face reality

What's the name of this movie? Bcoz no reasonable person in his right sense can be this dumb.

Guy, you need an out of that relationship asap. It is no longer a husband and wife matter but two families, get your family involved and get your kids out of that evil family before they get inducted.

Your problem is not your wife even if you did not marry her you would still
have same problem but in different form, what affected your father is the same thing fighting you, thou sayest the spirit of Lord

ahnie:
my questions....
1...Did the Yahoo guy that she stole fuel money from later slept with her?
2....Are you a sex freak?
3...after you were warned not to have sex with her...why do you always have sex with her and the romp days always coincides with your kids birthdays.
4...I noticed from your narrative that you're the clingy and gum gum type.


please be kind enough to answer my questions.

Dont be siiily..

Some one is facing a serious dilemma and your here asking foolike questions..

Isn't a man allowed to sleep with his wife, is he supposed to believe everything thing the prophet or who ever told him? At least at the beginning stage.., gum type? A man wants to be good and family man, and what you see is gum.. Women like you are in tje same boat with his wife.. Empty brain

Keep shut if you can't be mature

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Perfectsouth:
Cc royalroy

Well, I don't wNt my kids to go through what I went through so I forgave her.. God was answering my prayers and things started picking gradually.. I went to meet them, took them all out and did shopping for them..
I was planning on how to relocate them to where I was...
Now this is the revelation..
My wife has been used,thats the fact...
My photography business first collapsed.
I did about 5 businesses that just one of it can make me a millionaire, every business collapsed.. The more I sleep with her, the more things become worse for me...
All these revelation came after I was told to pray and fast..

When things started picking gradually for me this year, I payed for a shop 300k,it was almost my son's birthday. So I went to see them.. We slept together, I came back after the birthday.. Could you believe, I was chased away from that shop and till now, I was only able to recover just 50k from the money..
Before my mom's birthday again, I was doing some business and it started picking. Went for my mom's, she came for the birthday too, we slept together, and when I came back to my business, the war I fought was unfathomable.. It collapsed too..
I am a very prayerful person and believe me, in the 8yrs we've been together, I never slept with another woman. I sweared with everything they gave me cos they couldn't believe me..
Before my daughter's birthday, God was merciful to me and I started another business.. I was warned severely never to sleep with her again.. Till now, my business is gradually picking and am able to send them money for upkeep and my kids school fees....

Now this my wife have an immediate younger brother who is a travel agent, I remember last year I introduced a friend to him and even vouch and stood for him that nothing will go wrong.. Truly he did this guy's traveling to Dubai and the guy went.. But we didn't know what happened and this guy came back.. Maybe he was deported or not, nobody knows but this my friend came to arrest me and I was told to produce my Inlaw.. He came and we were both locked up for 3days..along the line, the matter got settled, I parted with some money after selling one of my equipment. And he too also raised some money.. So this year, when things were already picking up for me, he got into another problem and this time, they were gonna jail him, so I borrowed him 100k and he promised to pay them 50k monthly till he complete the payment.. It was a travel gone sour though I know some people he has done traveling for and they are doing fine in their respective country of choice.

So this year, someone decided to help me travel out, he gave me UNIVERSITY OF MANITOBA admission processing fees, it was 120cad, but I gave this my Inlaw 150$ believing that atleast, since I am his Inlaw and have done him alot of goods before nothing will go wrong..
That was in August..
Fast forward to 2days ago, I messaged University of Manitoba since I wasn't getting any update, and I was told my application was not submitted neither paid for, I almost collapsed... So what he did was doctored some documents and sent to me and I believed him..
Right now, I am in a fix..
About my wife's promiscuity, I have all evidence of their chat..
After forgiving her over that chat, when I went for my daughter's birthday, I wanted to go through her phone, she gave me a heavy fight that I can't go through her phone, the phone I bought for her with my money..
When she slept, I opened it with her Fingerprint.
The chats there are so damaging. Some have slept with her and still wanting to do more, some she is already negotiating with.
She works in a beer parlor now and she is already using waist beads, she knows I hate these things..

I can't tell it all but if you have a question to ask, or anything you think I missed, ask me and i will tell you the truth..
My Inlaw hasn't pick my call to tell me why that happened..

If you think this is a fabricated story,
I have all evidences.
If enough people ask for it, I will release it here..

such is life

Love is a curse and you have been cursed.please let her be and live your life cut all ties with her and her family and find a way to have your children your curstdy.she we never be a role model to them.Always remember this,a hoe is a hoe. she will never ever gonna change.let her go you will live long you keep keeping in touch with her just hope you don't die young.

Op are you sure those kids are yours? Have you proven that? Ehn. Your parents have nothing to do with your current predicament. Everybody has his or her own life to live.

I lie? I even knw one SB Ojo like dat[quote author=Perfectsouth post=96543255][/quote]

Your wife's mom to me is the problem. So how do deal with her without "your" wife? The mom is the influence. Her experience with her husband is what she's transferring to her.

Handle the mom or forget about them.

I blame you sha. You saw the red flag but you still went on with it.

Wahala for who marry repentant Olosho

A very sad experience.

Hmph, give me this your pastor's number (I need to ask him/her some things Abeg.
Please stop having sex with her, if she's badluck to you and refuses to go for deliverance as well as change then please divorce her. You can't continue in badluck na. Have nothing to do with her and her family as wlllt please, you deserve better.
Also, why will you marry someone with no prospect? She even said she's too fragile to work! Lol.
Check my signature Abeg. Class is for a week and starts on the 9th, don't wallow in your joblessness and low paying job! Don't waste money buying things you can learn to make yourself. I'll also guide you on how to run your business! Don't sleep on this, limited space!
Edit: by the way, when they say be careful whom you have sex with, some of you will not hear! Una don read this one now. Guys, ladies, please be careful! Some people are nothing but badluck!

Perfectsouth:
for a fact, she didn't connive with her brother... I will release evidences soon.. I thought she will change, I don't want my kids to go through the trauma of separation like I did.. I was trying everything to avoid a reoccurrence of what happened to my parent and since same thing happened to her, I thought she will change

I think it's time to move on. Cut ties with that lady and do all u can to take ur kids from her. They are safer with you than her. One of my friend had to stage kidnapping to take away his child from a lady. Try and take away those kids from her and let her do what ever she wishes with her life. Say to yourself it's time for a new start. Cut ties with her family members as well and surround yourself with positive minded people.

With all this you are still sleeping with her, what about if she give you hiv?

She be olosho u still dey Call am ur wife, Bros if you don't wake up you will Jess have HIGH BP for noting, pick ur Kids and move on, tiz kind Olosho nofit train pikin Oooo!!! MARRIAGE NO BE BY FORCE!

Perfectsouth:
As I type this, it's with tears in my eyes.. I am pained, they've done everything bad to me.. Sincerely, I don't deserve this ill treatment have gotten from this family...
It is gonna be a very long read but I know you will learn a thing or two from this..
I might not be able to touch everything but if you feel there is something I need to share and I didn't, point it out and I will shed more light on it....

This may seems a bit lengthy but you should learn one or two lessons from it..
I come from a not broken not memded marriage same as my wife but hers was worse than mine..
My father used to be a rich man. When car dealing was very lucrative, he was a top notch car dealer in akure.. So along the line, he started fornicating. His was on another level, he always take them abroad to sleep with, shop for them and do every every.. We are five in my family, I being the first born..
I had to train myself through university with photography with the help of my mum too. I remember when I was looking for project money, one of my father's wife, the one that went to give birth in Dubai just came back and they were doing naming ceremony.. I could remember I was in the rain with my mum and they were pointing at us, though we couldn't hear what they were saying.. How did I raise my project money? Sponsoring 5 kids wasn't an easy task since 3 of us was in the university. So I went with my to her work place, she was a nurse so we collected all the aprons used during immunization and washed them.. Then I also hustled to complete the money...
It was a very rough and tough life but all along, we didn't even seem like someone who has a father..

Let me jump to the reason for this thread..
I vowed never to allow whatever happened in my family happen to me in the future..
I met my wife when I was in 200 level.. I was 23 and she was 21..

Cc royalroy

Walk away with your kids

Beverlyjean:
The only thing o have to say to u is that u are a natural fool

Easy my dear. Not to the already psychologically weary

Savagethe21st:
did you marry again

no. But hopefully very soon as I'm still trying to get a divorce from my ex wife. But the door is closed now. I'm never going back to suffering

Genea:
First of, you trust a lot. Secondly, you don’t have a wife, stop sleeping with her. Thirdly, distance yourself from all these people and just chat with them cause of your kids, in fact collect your kids and annul your marriage, Lastly, if ever you get into a new relationship, don’t be a walkover, people have problems, you can’t solve everything, so mind your finances and help only when you can. Stop borrowing or using your tour last card to help people, you aren’t a messiah

D sweating almost ruined the fine makeup

7BigSquids:




Why not share to teach younger men coming behind a thing or two like this Op is doing here

it's a long story. Maybe one day I'll share but all I can say is that the guy needs to leave without ever looking back

Hey mehn, you sure those kids are yours?

xtervaganza:
it's a long story. Maybe one day I'll share but all I can say is that the guy needs to leave without ever looking back

I agree. I avoided 2 by first of all checking and I ran unscathed

Korllami007:


You want to send Op to grave.

Bro, OP has sent himself already to grave. I wonder how... Just let me caution myself to avoid using abusive words here. Why on earth would you go back to a confirmed prostitute in the name of valuing your kids. If care is not taking, your kids will leave the worth life you can't imaging if you can't distance that prostitute you called a wife before she infected you with incurable disease that may leads to death. Let me tell you, she will dump them (your kids) for a useless man without thinking twice after your enemy has passed on; so tell me who will now take care of the kids you value and wants to die for.
Even Christianity allows you to divorce your wife on formication level. I have seen pastors remarrying on the bases of fornication so who are you not to?
If truly you love your kids as you claim than yourself, for their sake leave that prostitute and move on.
If guys here get your wife no, in lease than 3 days they will flood your DM with her nudes. So MOVE ON

Perfectsouth:
As I type this, it's with tears in my eyes.. I am pained, they've done everything bad to me.. Sincerely, I don't deserve this ill treatment have gotten from this family...
It is gonna be a very long read but I know you will learn a thing or two from this..
I might not be able to touch everything but if you feel there is something I need to share and I didn't, point it out and I will shed more light on it....

This may seems a bit lengthy but you should learn one or two lessons from it..
I come from a not broken not memded marriage same as my wife but hers was worse than mine..
My father used to be a rich man. When car dealing was very lucrative, he was a top notch car dealer in akure.. So along the line, he started fornicating. His was on another level, he always take them abroad to sleep with, shop for them and do every every.. We are five in my family, I being the first born..
I had to train myself through university with photography with the help of my mum too. I remember when I was looking for project money, one of my father's wife, the one that went to give birth in Dubai just came back and they were doing naming ceremony.. I could remember I was in the rain with my mum and they were pointing at us, though we couldn't hear what they were saying.. How did I raise my project money? Sponsoring 5 kids wasn't an easy task since 3 of us was in the university. So I went with my to her work place, she was a nurse so we collected all the aprons used during immunization and washed them.. Then I also hustled to complete the money...
It was a very rough and tough life but all along, we didn't even seem like someone who has a father..

Let me jump to the reason for this thread..
I vowed never to allow whatever happened in my family happen to me in the future..
I met my wife when I was in 200 level.. I was 23 and she was 21..

Cc royalroy

So sorry for ur troubles

We all have our fair share of similar mistakes.

U had a good resolution of not wanting to toe ur fathers line.

But, there is one big mistake u made which I have equally made:

When u come from such family and dont want to make similar mistake, u must avoid premarital sex, ensure u wed properly in a living church.

Also, a lady that will sneak out to club while with u is a no go area when it comes to marriage, not even as a bed mate.

A woman that sends nude pix is a disaster waiting to happen let alone a married woman, she is doomed.

The only legal ground the bible gives for a divorce is adultery.

Yahoo plus men done use her destiny. She is just a walking corpse.

Help her if u can. The work no go easy. U equally need deliverance urself.

And pls, remove those kids from her for now

Perfectsouth:
thanks bro for the words.. Since I stopped mating with her, have seen improvement.. [b]Don't just don't want to break up with her yet [/b]cos she will do everything to stop me from seeing my kids

It seems it is your destiny to suffer I swear. You are mentally affected and the matter is affecting your health but you are ignoring the sign. I dnt pray you die, those kids will face that nightmare at ur absence. Runaway and continue your life. You can secretly abduct those kids from where they are after she stop taking care of them but not so soon. If not, you may not live to takecare of those kids as you wish. You are weak I guess.

Korllami007:


You want to send Op to grave.

Bro, OP has sent himself already to grave. I wonder how... Just let me caution myself to avoid using abusive words here. Why on earth would you go back to a confirmed prostitute in the name of valuing your kids. If care is not taking, your kids may leave the worst life you can't imaging if you can't distance that prostitute you called a wife before she infected you with incurable disease that may lead to death. Let me tell you, she will dump them (your kids) for a useless man without thinking twice after your enemy has passed on; so tell me who will now take care of the kids you value and wants to die for.
Even Christianity allows you to divorce your wife on formication level. I have seen pastors remarrying on the bases of fornication so who are you not to?
If truly you love your kids as you claim than yourself, for their sake leave that prostitute and move on.
If guys here get your wife no, in lease than 3 days they will flood your DM with her nudes. So MOVE ON

Not just you married to a wrong family, Nigerian women in general are useless and pure water waste bag.
Pu:ssy is no longer expensive, you can get it with just a bottle of coke.