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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by fireprince14(m): 2:56pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
I think the reason why marriage is so messed up nowadays is because of our reasons for doing it. Marriage at its core is a partnership not a fairy tale or a constant booty call. You both come together to combine resources to build something bigger than either of you. If you love each other, no wahala but love is not a requirement. Like any other partnership though, you must be friends or at least tolerate one another well enough. You set the rules for your marriage based on what you can both deal with not what society dictates. The trick is finding someone whose broken pieces fit your own. We dread fucking one pussy as if sex is food or "keeping my man" as if sex is currency. To the OP, I won't tell you to ignore the naysayers here because they all have a point despite being misogynistic blokes. Read the positive and negative comments and then focus on the person you're with. Observe carefully and objectively every part of her. The good and the bad. Women can be absolutely crazy but they can also be incredibly divine. You'll find both ends of the spectrum in one woman and your readiness for marriage depends on how you can handle both sides of her. Once you're sure you can deal with all her aspects, it's time for your own examination. Do you want marriage for sex, a status symbol, a daycare institution or a housekeeper arrangement? Are you being honest about your bad sides too? Can you marry yourself if you have to? Once you have resolved all this, then hold on to your realisations in the years to come when she gains weight in the wrong places or when you lose your job. When you're tired of the sex or when the silences get longer. These are the things that will keep your partnership going. Above all, don't ever forget to pray all the time. Good luck. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Kuns84(m): 2:56pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
boyjo: In all honesty , I believe women started the disrespect by using "feminism" as an excuse to broke-shame, insult and belittle men. Its unfair to dictate to men how to react to the toxicity that has been thrown their way for years now by uncouth, bitter and miserable misandrists 7 Likes |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by anochuko01(m): 2:59pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
banmee: marriage is beyond just "loving" a person. There are certain attitudes i cant live with regardless of how much i "love" a person. Remove ego and selfishness and see how many marriages would start working. A person who is understanding, selfless, caring, genuinely loving and God fearing can hardly do any wrong. 3 Likes |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by InvertedHammer: 3:00pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
EgunMogaji2:/ I think a man should live his life to the fullest. And when he has nothing else to live for... then get married. If it turns out well, good. If it turns out bad, no regrets because already he has nothing else to live for. But then...why gamble with one's well-being? / 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Pelaiye2703(m): 3:00pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
Aileexa1: You're right but its beyond one's reasoning especially been with the wrong person. I'm still baffled why would lovers suddenly detest theirselves after years of courtship. |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by zubimete(f): 3:01pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
FuckThaMod:. Yes. I'm nt here to argue blindly with you. Marriage is a beautiful thing that can happen to sane individuals. 1 Like |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by lekki1444: 3:04pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
as a seasoned veteran the truth of the matter is that many african women will make marriage a nightmare because they dont have other passions in ther life. if a woman does not have a passion do not marry her because she will be waiting on you all the time to bring joy into her life and you are not capable of that.. and if she has no passion she will spend her time with vanity such as wasting money on clothes nails and hair. Look for a woman who has a strong passion be it Yoga, reading novels, exercising, coding, sewing, painting, making arts and crafts etc etc. women like this will leave you with enough space to breath and you will enjoy each others company as you both indulge in your own seperate passions. THE MAN MUST HAVE A PASSION TOO. because truth be told LIVING ALONE CAN GET OLD AND BORING ESPECIALLY AS YOU START GETTING TO 50. YOU DONT WANT TO BE THE 50 YEAR OLD GUY IN THE CLUB LOOKING FOR TEENAGERS WHILE ALL THE YOUNG BOYS ARE LAUGING AT YOU BEHIND YOUR BACK Also part of both of your passion should involve some kind of spirituality and some kind of body improvement regime like exercise 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by kingreign(m): 3:04pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
icebird25 [s:I've never regretted getting married, I hope not to ever regret getting married. Your census is a fallacy. 1 Like |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by kingreign(m): 3:06pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
Jodha: There's no such thing as wrong man or wrong woman. It's mostly a lame excuse to blame ones partner for his/her marital failures. 1 Like |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by banmee(m): 3:07pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
anochuko01: That's my point. When you go into marriage with expectations get ready to be disappointed. What you care about may not necessarily be what your spouse cares about. For example, i care about all the expectations you listed except the bolded. I don't believe in god but my wife does. Never stepped in a church in 20 years but one time and that was when we got married. I only did that because of her. See? Compromise. She wasn't dumb enough to throw me away because i did not meet one of her expectations. Couples need to understand that they will always be flawed in each others eyes. 2 Likes |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by cooooooks(m): 3:07pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
Just to clarify, should AuntRose: |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by cooooooks(m): 3:08pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
How does he find out who is the 'right' woman. I think that is the crux of his post. Jodha: |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by shugabasbn: 3:10pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
No perfect marriage, erase that from your cerebral but there is perfect home which comes with endurance, focus, sacrifices n prayers. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Toosure70: 3:10pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
I need another wife now. |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by helinues: 3:11pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
hashtagged: If all men remain single, where are you going to get the adopted child? 1 Like |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by cooooooks(m): 3:11pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
Well if the guy uses the aggregate marriage data, about 50% of marriages end in divorce. In the US, 70% of those divorces are initiated by the wives. So what should he take out of that? The divorce stats are very low in Nigeria, 0.2 % but that is because most people do not go through the cost of legally getting unmarried. https://www.vanguardngr.com/2020/10/the-rate-of-divorce-in-nigeria-latest-statistics/#:~:text=In%20one%20of%20their%20materials,the%20National%20Bureau%20of%20Statistics. KossyKiss97: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by cooooooks(m): 3:13pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
None of these are 'facts'. Perhaps if all the men you encounter are unfaithful, you should check your space. when2: |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by CheGuevara101(m): 3:14pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
helinues:People like you should get married so at least you can stop being an asslicker on NAIRALAND.
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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Nomorelove: 3:14pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
emkz:You were making sense until you said Love will fade. If it fades then you were never in love. Even the bible said among Love, Faith and Hope, the greatest is love and love never ends. If you're a Christian, pay more attention to God. 1 Like |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by JovialJune(f): 3:15pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
Ghostmode2two: Damn, you are strong I don't know what I'll do if my husband cheat on me, I really dont 1 Like |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Hathor5(f): 3:15pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
fireprince14: One of the few mature comments on this thread. Marriage seems to be under attack here. Yet the same people who attack it will shout 'family is everything' so allow me to modify the bold and say that two people come together to start and build a family of their own. Those who propagate baby-mamaism, would you have liked to grow up with your parents separated? Answer the question sincerely and do not put your kids through what you do not want for yourself. 2 Likes |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by emkz: 3:16pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
kapelvej: Bless you too bros!! |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by emkz: 3:16pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
iamDrRhymes: Thanks bros 2 Likes |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by MrNipplesLover(m): 3:17pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
Let's be holy here and fear God.... if u want peace of mind in ur life, just find one beautiful lady put dick in her pussy and let her born ur babies for u... get her a nice apartment outside make she dey enjoy her life, while u are also enjoying the sweetness of life. that's how u can have everlasting peace of mind away from a woman's headache. no be everybody this go work for, but perfectly my own fate. let's be holy, pls. thanx. 3 Likes |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Magmata: 3:18pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
emkz: Exactly! We are what we attract. People hate to accept that what we see in others is nothing but our own reflection; once we realized this, self development becomes easier. Looking for something means we don't have it. The same applies to looking for certain qualities in a separate entity; it's definitely a search for what we lack. Become what you want first and save yourself the effort of blind searching. It is true that man see what he is in others and at the same time search for what he lacks in them; organic or inorganic. Pretence attracts Pretence just as genuiness attracts genuiness. May we be guided. 1 Like |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Liposure: 3:19pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
khingTony:god will bless u |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by anochuko01(m): 3:21pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
banmee:God fearing has very little to do with how frequent you are in church, but more about the level of your moral standards. And your wife is cool with you because she was "understanding" enough to compromise (meaning she wasnt selfish). lemme tell you my recent experience. i was dating a girl coz i saw that she was clearly the type that wouldn't cheat. But this same girl throughout the 6months i was without a job coz of the pandemic never deemed it fit to spare me 200 naira (she's an essential worker who was getting paid all through the while). I loved her and she knew it, but nothing would make me settle with such a selfish person. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Oluwaseun2020(m): 3:21pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
humilitypays:So you don't want to be a born again. .. what happens if the robber is caught? and killed and she becomes a widow... The main aim to being born is again is to follow the truth and be free from sin.... You said the guy is rich...money will not grant you heaven. ...and protection of God. God want a situation where we want him not money because the earth will pass and we will pay for ever sin we commit on earth... So at redemption your sin will diminish and soon you will find God leading you and talking to you as a friend. .. What your friend has nothing compared to what God has for him...its a total package of free health. .he wont visit hospital ever again...to treat any health challenges. .he will have heaven securing him against attacks. .. i know many president who got killed by assassination with all the body guards around At redemption alot of things you dont know will be unveiled to you.. You will have define supply of your needs... stress free wealth. .not all this struggling around.. the blessing of God comes with no stress. You will drink poison and it wont affects you You wont be afraid of robbers...,kidnappers You will have spiritual power to heal the sick... Thats God plan for the redeemed. .. Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you"--this is the LORD's declaration--"plans for your well-being, not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. He has plans to release his spirit into your life. why because success true success luke 16:7 So if you have not been trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will trust you with true riches? True riches comes from God. . The one your friends has according to the bible is world riches. i will give you an example. . I fasted last month and someone i that fought with me and blocked me on Facebook. .showed up and gave me 150 thousand... without any strees..that true riches... It can be assessed by redemption |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Liposure: 3:23pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
icebird25:wow wow wow. I can't believe this |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by newdawn2017(f): 3:23pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
UndauntedYOCA:I didn't say she is d only one. She is one of d very few here in our soil speaking up & campaigning against clusters b personality disorder & narcissism through her page on ig. |
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by emkz: 3:23pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
Nomorelove: Look at your moniker and ask yourself if you are qualified to discuss matters of love. For your information, read my submission I made on another thread some months ago: emkz: And please, don't tell me to pay attention to God. I find that insulting. If you are truly a Christian, you'd understand that every Christian's relationship with God is personal. My relationship with God is between me and Him and you must never mention it in your discussion because it is not your business. |
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