newdawn2017:
I didn't say she is d only one. She is one of d very few here in our soil speaking up & campaigning against clusters b personality disorder & narcissism through her page on ig.

You probably misunderstood my comment but I'll leave it at that.

Preshmane:
let me tell you, time will come when you will regret ever marrying her and their will be a time when you bless the day you meet her, marriage is full of ups and downs.. marriage is a game if card cos you can't know your woman's character 100%..

@least you know past 50% of her character.
You must have seen some uncomfortable doings on her part that repeatedly kept reoccurring but you ignored.
That's where the big F comes in.

wisdomeze:
Please and please, don't listen to these little children who have all come bellow u to write "marriage is a scam" most of them are not even up-to their mid-twenties.

I got married at age twenty eight and today I am 33 and still strong in my marriage. If to say ur mama and Papa fear, by now u for no exist. Be a man by taking decisions ursef, u don't need anybody's opinion about this institution called marriage. We learn everyday. I never ready, I never ready naim make some people wey de 60years get children of 1year, 3years and 7years. Which strength dem wan use train the children? Most of them go begin take Viagra to satisfy their young wives sef.

My brother, until u take that bold step, u re not yet a man....

So a man who decided not to marry is not a man. Not everybody must marry.

anochuko01:

God fearing has very little to do with how frequent you are in church, but more about the level of your moral standards.
And your wife is cool with you because she was "understanding" enough to compromise (meaning she wasnt selfish).

lemme tell you my recent experience.
i was dating a girl coz i saw that she was clearly the type that wouldn't cheat. But this same girl throughout the 6months i was without a job coz of the pandemic never deemed it fit to spare me 200 naira (she's an essential worker who was getting paid all through the while). I loved her and she knew it, but nothing would make me settle with such a selfish person.

That's weird. She probably did not love you. Love is sharing and if she ain't doing that then good riddance..

zubimete:
. Yes. I'm nt here to argue blindly with you. Marriage is a beautiful thing that can happen to sane individuals.

Why won't it be a beautiful thing are you not a female? It's always a beautiful thing to females

I really regretted not marrying her early enough...

emkz:
I regretted mine, not necessarily for what she did but for my inability to follow my instincts about her which could have prevented the calamity. We were not married but things had been done towards that like introduction and trad before kasala burst. I was happy kasala burst before we went farther.

For anyone who wants to get married, by all means do so...but marry for the right reasons. You first need to understand yourself and your own limitations. If your aim is to have children, perhaps a contractual arrangement suffices. Unfortunately, many marriages today are not different from service contracts: I will provide shelter, food and security while you provide pussy when I want it and how I want it, and you must not provide it to someone else. Or I am marrying you because society expects and would respect me to be married as it shows I am responsible.

The Dutch Prime Minister is single.

Or I'd marry you only because I love you. These are wrong reasons to be married. For a potential spouse, look at compatibility, companionship, communication, character and charisma. Exude these qualities yourself and you shall find it in your potential partner. Love will fade, the butterflies in your stomach shall die, your partner shall irritate you, what then would hold your marriage?

The stories of wayward men and women are told everyday on this forum. Don't let them deter you. There are very good men and women from very good homes who are responsible to be wifed or husbanded. I know this because all my sisters have been married for years and no one has come to report that they have issues with them.

Don't go looking for a wife. Develop yourself and have the values of someone husbandable, creation will link you to your spouse.

In closing, my question to you is:

Why exactly do you want to get married? Are you truly convinced of the answer you give yourself?

You spoke with so much wisdom. God increase you and bless you more.

My gf is originally 80% boring.
I always have to push to start a conversation or a joke.
At this point, I am almost run out on efforts.



... Me I can't marry oh.

bouncin04:
I'm a single guy ( 32 years ) who's aspiring to get married maybe in 2 to 3 years time , but news about failed relationships and my experiences gives me cold feet , I can't handle being cheated on as I just got out of one toxic relationship . So I ask people already in marriages if they have for once regretted being married to their current partners , if yes kindly give your reasons and share how you are coping with them , and if no also share your formula towards keeping a happy home , so we learn . Thanks in anticipation .

My candid advice to u, pls spend the next 2 yrs learning tolerance cos marriage is the ministry of Tolerance and Offence, where u work twice as much and not get appreciated and u dont get to fight back when maimed emotionally except u intend to create a rill in that union.
I will always tell brothers if u cant forgive u have no business with that institution.
NB: in this dispensation marriage depends on money, so make that cash first.

Jodha:
Just marry the right woman...and yhull be happy for the rest of yhur life.... although life is not a bed of roses...but yhull scale through...

But if yhu marry the wrong woman....yhull be miserable...

how many people married the right person. This is africa where everybody is under pressure to get married and have kids b4 its too late

bouncin04:
I'm a single guy ( 32 years ) who's aspiring to get married maybe in 2 to 3 years time , but news about failed relationships and my experiences gives me cold feet , I can't handle being cheated on as I just got out of one toxic relationship . So I ask people already in marriages if they have for once regretted being married to their current partners , if yes kindly give your reasons and share how you are coping with them , and if no also share your formula towards keeping a happy home , so we learn . Thanks in anticipation .

Marriage is like every other business, just make sure you are the boss all the way. The aim of business is to make profit and the aim of marriage is to make legal babies. Which ever one, make sure you are the boss. During dating, sack anyone who is likely to challenge your captainship and marry the best subordinate. Na men dey bring wahala to themselves not screening the lady before marriage.

bouncin04:
I'm a single guy ( 32 years ) who's aspiring to get married maybe in 2 to 3 years time , but news about failed relationships and my experiences gives me cold feet , I can't handle being cheated on as I just got out of one toxic relationship . So I ask people already in marriages if they have for once regretted being married to their current partners , if yes kindly give your reasons and share how you are coping with them , and if no also share your formula towards keeping a happy home , so we learn . Thanks in anticipation .

every married person regrets at some point in their marriage

showafrica:


Marriage is like every other business, just make sure you are the boss all the way. The aim of business is to make profit and the aim of marriage is to make legal babies. Which ever one, make sure you are the boss. During dating, sack anyone who is likely to challenge your captainship and marry the best subordinate. Na men dey bring wahala to themselves not screening the lady before marriage.

the aim of marriage isn't for babies. it's for companionship pls

Liposure:
how many people married the right person. This is africa where everybody is under pressure to get married and have kids b4 its too late

pressure is everywhere. it's not an African thing but a societal thing

gracechellar:
the aim of marriage isn't for babies. it's for companionship pls

No bro... Any woman can keep you company all the way. God designed women for multiplication

helinues:


If all men remain single, where are you going to get the adopted child?

People not dey get Belle, 90% of adopted children are not from marriages. Clap for yourself

Samzzy94:


Definitely not mine, cos I didn't confirm such....

But you, you confirmed that yours are all bitches and whores. I feel so sorry for you, cos you grew up surrounded with whores and bitches as sisters and mother.

Ok

hashtagged:


There is no right woman, I would advise all men to remain single and adopt a child.

strong man. U dey para gan

Kuns84:


Did you know white people generally take a bath or shower only once or twice a week?
Forget how pale their skin looks, they are dirty asf.

those cuties i admire on TV. tell me its a lie

gracechellar:
pressure is everywhere. it's not an African thing but a societal thing

The pressure to get married in African societies is much stronger. Don't you even go there.

One useless pained female mod abi simp done delete comments from page 1... Thunder fire you, useless mod

Marriage is still an overated piece of shit

emkz:


Look at your moniker and ask yourself if you are qualified to discuss matters of love. For your information, read my submission I made on another thread some months ago:



And please, don't tell me to pay attention to God. I find that insulting. If you are truly a Christian, you'd understand that every Christian's relationship with God is personal. My relationship with God is between me and Him and you must never mention it in your discussion because it is not your business.

If you had a relationship with God then you won't utter whatever you said. Love can never fade. Go and learn.

Ciao

NB: My moniker doesn't mean shit. I created the account fully aware of the name. If you find what I typed insulting then it's because you should look into that. Read your bible again and ask God for insights on the matter of Love. God is Love and you claim you have a personal relationship with him yet you came out to say Love can fade Just listen yourself and stop this unnecessary rant.

blinking001:
Most married men feel deep regrets after getting married. It's an Esoteric truth actually. Most women are full of shit.

Yea man..most women dont deserve a responsable man because they ar retired n never tire hoes

emkz:


Please where did you read and how do you know Mark Rutte is gay? Please don't come to a public forum to throw speculations about his sexual orientation. It can be damaging if it's not true.

left out the question mark sign . it was suppose to b a question. Cost most of dem single over dere are homosexuals still in the closet.

malali:


Abi you are lesbian ?

no im not neither am i single

banio:
Every car is exotic and desirable. But after owing it. The car becomes a burden. A newer car would be desired.

That's the nature of marriage, most couples wish for new partners, new adventures etc.



Life is complex

.if you are godly yourself. .you will find a godly girl..learn from marriage that work..like oyedepo and adeboye. ..
get this book.. making marriage work by faith oyedepo. .thank me later

cooltola:
Marriage is sweet when u marry the right person. Marry a trusted friend
Not all marriage will end in divorce. Loving a spouse is more than a feeling. Loving a spouse is an action. When the foundation is not strong, the marriage is not meant to last.
Signs of a shaking foundation
1.lack of trust.
2. A cheating spouse
3. Addictions of any kind
4. Money problems
5. Disrespect
6. Lies and secrets
7. An abusive spouse
8. Lack of intimacy
9. Anger problem
10. In laws wahala.
11. Not praying to God
12. Unforgiveness

@ the highlighted...True!

gracechellar:
the aim of marriage isn't for babies. it's for companionship pls

When you have companionship for 50years without issue, then your eyes go clear well well, you will soon know wipe Eran to Yi ni won pe ni NOMO!

Ghostmode2two:
There is no perfect marriage and you shouldn't be scared of going into marriage. Just put it in your heart that nobody is perfect and anything can happen so you won't be disappointed and heart broken should the worst scenario happen. I have been married for over 17 years now, just this year my wife exhibited something tilting towards cheating, I called and told her that I didn't say she should not have sex outside but she should not do it under my roof, that if she finds a man she love more than me and she is ready to marry such a man, she should tell me and I will divorce her so she can marry whoever she want. Later she called me, saying she have a confession to make, I told her I am not interested in her confession because I am not God. If she has done something bad that warrants confession, she should confess to her God as she seems a Christian. Till date she is afraid me of me, she told me she explained everything to someone outside and the person told her that I have very strong policies. I also told her that I don't trust her anymore also told her that whenever I get her caught in any funny situation as regards cheating, I will not be surprise at all!

.if you are godly yourself. .you will find a godly girl..learn from marriage that work..like oyedepo and adeboye. ..
get this book.. making marriage work by faith oyedepo. .thank me later

Ghostmode2two:
There is no perfect marriage and you shouldn't be scared of going into marriage. Just put it in your heart that nobody is perfect and anything can happen so you won't be disappointed and heart broken should the worst scenario happen. I have been married for over 17 years now, just this year my wife exhibited something tilting towards cheating, I called and told her that I didn't say she should not have sex outside but she should not do it under my roof, that if she finds a man she love more than me and she is ready to marry such a man, she should tell me and I will divorce her so she can marry whoever she want. Later she called me, saying she have a confession to make, I told her I am not interested in her confession because I am not God. If she has done something bad that warrants confession, she should confess to her God as she seems a Christian. Till date she is afraid me of me, she told me she explained everything to someone outside and the person told her that I have very strong policies. I also told her that I don't trust her anymore also told her that whenever I get her caught in any funny situation as regards cheating, I will not be surprise at all!

.if you are godly yourself. .you will find a godly girl..learn from marriage that work..like oyedepo and adeboye. ..
get this book.. making marriage work by faith oyedepo. .thank me later
Get the free pdf file on Google.

organism3:
marriage as never been perfect From beginning, remember no trouble for Adam until Eve came. my advice, is that u read books from diff authors that HV been married for some time and pray to God to guide you right. Some people still feel happy going home after work.

if you are godly yourself. .you will find a godly girl..learn from marriage that work..like oyedepo and adeboye. ..
get this book.. making marriage work by faith oyedepo. .thank me later
Get the free pdf file on Google.

bouncin04:
I'm a single guy ( 32 years ) who's aspiring to get married maybe in 2 to 3 years time , but news about failed relationships and my experiences gives me cold feet , I can't handle being cheated on as I just got out of one toxic relationship . So I ask people already in marriages if they have for once regretted being married to their current partners , if yes kindly give your reasons and share how you are coping with them , and if no also share your formula towards keeping a happy home , so we learn . Thanks in anticipation .

Bringing this here, you might end up being more discouraged than you are already. I have seen so many failed marriages, but that is not a good enough reason for me to think less of the institution. Love/marriage is a beautiful thing but you have to unlock the tricks to achieve that.

1. Do not settle down with a woman based on her looks. Those are ephemeral. I am not saying it is not important, but it should be secondary. Look out for a woman who is naturally homely. Look out for how she relates with her family members, there lies her true character...

2. When you meet her, do not outdo yourself in pleasing/impressing her. Gifts are good, but they should be given seasonally. A woman who sticks with you when you are not being generous is a keeper.

2. When you finally meet her and marry her, you have to operate as a team. It is impossible to treat a good woman right and for her not reciprocate the gesture. Try as much as possible to avoid third parties. Crises are normal, but they are not meant to break you. There is a lesson in every crisis. I wish you the best!


Addendum

I just read through your thread on the bad relationship. In view of that, may I also add that you work on that "weak" (pardon my language) disposition of yours. A woman who knows that you would beg regardless of what went down would keep messing up and she won't respect you.