Gamesmart:


I get your drift now.

Before you said not "lustful physical appearance", when that is the most important thing to most men.

To have the best chance of successfully attracting, retaining and satisfying a man and his desires, he should feel you are one of the finest things he has seen on planet earth to the point blood rushes to his heart. He has to feel he is very lucky to have ever seen you and for you to even give him a chance to date you. When he is having sex with you, he has to be thinking in his head "Na me dey f**k this fine gal? I can't believe it. I can't believe my luck and that she would even let me. I am truly lucky and blessed. I can f**k her till I die".

The first 10 times he f**ks you, if he does not come way too early at least once, he is either (a) "not that highly excited about f**king you; you are moderately fine or not fine" or (b) "you are fine but not good in bed the way he likes it".

After you get passed that enchantment of his mind, then your personality should seal the deal.

Without lustful physical appearance, you are operating a future relationship starting with batteries that were not fully charged.

Mhen yhu pinpointed everything on sex... that's lust...

For a relationship to really...a man must look beyond the sex yhu have to offer him..

Yes he'll be physically attracted to yhu but...if he doesn't see yhu beyond those physical attributes..the relationship is going no where...

For instance....I meet a guy that's physically my total spec....yes I'll be excited at first o....but if the content does not match the container ... there's no need...

That's the problem with relationships today... it's tied by sex and money...and when yhu remove those two things...yhu have nothing...

Marriage is the most badly written contract on planet earth. In fact there is no laid down contract written in marriage which is why marriage is a big SCAM. Marriage equals surrendering your life to someone and placing a bet on it.

galantjoe:
Marriage is full of regrets when things went south.

Marriage is like business contract where one partner provides means of livelihood while another provide companionship, sex, homemaking, etc. Where each fails in his or her responsibilities that is when bubbles burst. Regret come in.

Point of correction, business contracts are written down rules and signatures attached, plus penalties are properly laid down. Pls marriage is no biz contract. It is a blind betting game.

Woooow, thank you for this! It's timely for me

emkz:
I regretted mine, not necessarily for what she did but for my inability to follow my instincts about her which could have prevented the calamity. We were not married but things had been done towards that like introduction and trad before kasala burst. I was happy kasala burst before we went farther.

For anyone who wants to get married, by all means do so...but marry for the right reasons. You first need to understand yourself and your own limitations. If your aim is to have children, perhaps a contractual arrangement suffices. Unfortunately, many marriages today are not different from service contracts: I will provide shelter, food and security while you provide pussy when I want it and how I want it, and you must not provide it to someone else. Or I am marrying you because society expects and would respect me to be married as it shows I am responsible.

The Dutch Prime Minister is single.

Or I'd marry you only because I love you. These are wrong reasons to be married. For a potential spouse, look at compatibility, companionship, communication, character and charisma. Exude these qualities yourself and you shall find it in your potential partner. Love will fade, the butterflies in your stomach shall die, your partner shall irritate you, what then would hold your marriage?

The stories of wayward men and women are told everyday on this forum. Don't let them deter you. There are very good men and women from very good homes who are responsible to be wifed or husbanded. I know this because all my sisters have been married for years and no one has come to report that they have issues with them.

Don't go looking for a wife. Develop yourself and have the values of someone husbandable, creation will link you to your spouse.

In closing, my question to you is:

Why exactly do you want to get married? Are you truly convinced of the answer you give yourself?

emkz:
I regretted mine, not necessarily for what she did but for my inability to follow my instincts about her which could have prevented the calamity. We were not married but things had been done towards that like introduction and trad before kasala burst. I was happy kasala burst before we went farther.

For anyone who wants to get married, by all means do so...but marry for the right reasons. You first need to understand yourself and your own limitations. If your aim is to have children, perhaps a contractual arrangement suffices. Unfortunately, many marriages today are not different from service contracts: I will provide shelter, food and security while you provide pussy when I want it and how I want it, and you must not provide it to someone else. Or I am marrying you because society expects and would respect me to be married as it shows I am responsible.

The Dutch Prime Minister is single.

Or I'd marry you only because I love you. These are wrong reasons to be married. For a potential spouse, look at compatibility, companionship, communication, character and charisma. Exude these qualities yourself and you shall find it in your potential partner. Love will fade, the butterflies in your stomach shall die, your partner shall irritate you, what then would hold your marriage?

The stories of wayward men and women are told everyday on this forum. Don't let them deter you. There are very good men and women from very good homes who are responsible to be wifed or husbanded. I know this because all my sisters have been married for years and no one has come to report that they have issues with them.

Don't go looking for a wife. Develop yourself and have the values of someone husbandable, creation will link you to your spouse.

In closing, my question to you is:

Why exactly do you want to get married? Are you truly convinced of the answer you give yourself?

God bless you abundantly

Gamesmart:


I said that from the word "go" na.

I said your priority is to keep him happy.



I try.

Yes.

You really tried.

Jodha:


Mhen yhu pinpointed everything on sex... that's lust...

For a relationship to really...a man must look beyond the sex yhu have to offer him..

Yes he'll be physically attracted to yhu but...if he doesn't see yhu beyond those physical attributes..the relationship is going no where...

For instance....I meet a guy that's physically my total spec....yes I'll be excited at first o....but if the content does not match the container ... there's no need...

That's the problem with relationships today... it's tied by sex and money...and when yhu remove those two things...yhu have nothing...

Oya, explain from my post that you quoted if I said a man should not look beyond sex for relationship.

Gamesmart:


Oya, explain from my post that you quoted if I said a man should not look beyond sex for relationship.

Yhu should goan read yhur post again....

Yhu were talking about how elated a man should be about having sex with his gf....how the feeling should be continuous. ....

Yhu didn't say anything remotely outside sex...

And most men are full of what? The truth is when you marry the wrong man, you will regret marrying, when you marry the wrong woman, you will also regret it.


It is both parties.


quote author=blinking001 post=96779812]Most married men feel deep regrets after getting married. It's an Esoteric truth actually. Most women are full of shit. [/quote]

Honestly 99percent of guys here , are misogynist, they hate women and talk down on women for no reason, nairaland is a home of abuse men, just wondering how some ladies are marrying some of them here, I hope they will cope.


areuote author=AuntRose post=96784319]
You can't handle being cheated on? So you completely rule out the possibility of you cheating on your wife. You won't be taken serious one bit if this stereotype you have towards women persists. Change it first.


You're saying trash... Why the hatred towards women by NL guys? It's so annoying and disgusting [/quote]

AuntRose:

You can't handle being cheated on? So you completely rule out the possibility of you cheating on your wife. You won't be taken serious one bit if this stereotype you have towards women persists. Change it first.


You're saying trash... Why the hatred towards women by NL guys? It's so annoying and disgusting

It's not just NL men, men in general...both offline and online.

hashtagged:
I told you guys marriage was scam but una nor listen.
Every woman that walks the face of this Earth is a either a LovePeddler/cheat or nagging bitch or a devil or will soon become such so it's better to stay single or adopt/get a baby mama if you need kids never marry i repeat never if you want to enjoy life

Hahahahahaha uncle we must marry you our IMO girls

Iceberd25, , u need help.

Uyi168:
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Provide proof that EVERY married man out there is regretting ever getting married or u remain silent..

brainpowerng:
I believe I'm eligible to offer you my one cent on the above-mentioned topic.

I've been married for more than 10 years to a woman I love always. I can tell you a lot about women because I have a grandmother, a mother, a sister, a wife and even a daughter. They are uniquely created by God in a special way.

You see, a lot of people will always get it wrong when it comes to marriage because they entered into it without a purpose. They got married just to get a license to fornicate! But I tell you this, a time is coming in your marriage when sex will stink to you, your spouse will beg for it and you won't have any urge at all. But what keeps the marriage going? Purpose!

I got married to my wife because she perfectly complements my inadequacies as I am to her her. I saw that we could work/walk together to attain my purpose/set goals in life and Walla! we're married.

Has my marriage been the bed of roses? Far from it! I've once felt like running away before, yes you read me right!

Every marriage is a work in progress, your abilities would be tested, it's a journey and not destination in itself. Do you want me to shock you? There are some levels of attainment in life that would be impossible without a woman pushing you.

Above all, build yourself an impeccable character, know what you want and pursue it for without a purpose, abuse is inevitable.

I could write for all eternity on my experience in a 10-year old marriage, but let me rest here.

Blood of Zachariah!! You mean the there will be a time I will not like sex after marriage? Chai can't wait to get married because of this urge

Jodha:


Yhu should goan read yhur post again....

Yhu were talking about how elated a man should be about having sex with his gf....how the feeling should be continuous. ....

Yhu didn't say anything remotely outside sex...

AAAAHHHHH!

See my family's enemies o.

Wetin be this, madam?

Gamesmart:


I get your drift now.

Before you said not "lustful physical appearance", when that is the most important thing to most men.

To have the best chance of successfully attracting, retaining and satisfying a man and his desires, he should feel you are one of the finest things he has seen on planet earth to the point blood rushes to his heart. He has to feel he is very lucky to have ever seen you and for you to even give him a chance to date you. When he is having sex with you, he has to be thinking in his head "Na me dey f**k this fine gal? I can't believe it. I can't believe my luck and that she would even let me. I am truly lucky and blessed. I can f**k her till I die".

The first 10 times he f**ks you, if he does not come way too early at least once, he is either (a) "not that highly excited about f**king you; you are moderately fine or not fine" or (b) "you are fine but not good in bed the way he likes it".

After you get passed that enchantment of his mind, then your personality should seal the deal.

Without lustful physical appearance, you are operating a future relationship starting with batteries that were not fully charged.

You now see how women bring unnecessary arguments into the life of a man?

Gamesmart:


AAAAHHHHH!

See my family's enemies o.

Wetin be this, madam?



You now see how women bring unnecessary arguments into the life of a man?

Yhu wrote paragraphs on sex..
And made barely a sentence on personality...

yYot:

When you have companionship for 50years without issue, then your eyes go clear well well, you will soon know wipe Eran to Yi ni won pe ni NOMO!

eyah

Hathor5:


The pressure to get married in African societies is much stronger. Don't you even go there.

true. I didn't deny it. I only said it's everywhere and people choose the kind of pressure they wanna listen to

showafrica:


No bro... Any woman can keep you company all the way. God designed women for multiplication

I'm not bro. THanks. For didn't design any woman to keep you company. it's the wife. He didn't make eve to make babies

gracechellar:
I'm not bro. THanks. For didn't design any woman to keep you company. it's the wife. He didn't make eve to make babies

Gen chapter one verse something... Say go ye into the world and multiply. Adam was alone for years... When konji wan finish am, God come make eve. Any woman can serve as eve but to born, u need a wife wey go answer mummy

foreveryoung1515:
Marry your friend. that's what I didn't do and I do regret it over and over again.

You don't need to regret. Call God into your relationship, He will fix it.

Gamesmart:


It is not about rocking my boat. It is about facing reality and stop engaging is wishful thinking and self-deceit.

This is the kind of self-deceit people propagate and others believe that lead to so much unhappiness in life.

Well... the fact that you are having a BAD MARRIAGE or in a TERRIBLE RELATIONSHIP does not mean there aren't millions out there who are having a blissful marriage. Its absolutely selfish of you to shove down your experience on other people's throats, and making them think or believe they cannot have a blissful marriage. Speak for yourself and stop the generalization.

Please, for everyone reading this, it's very POSSIBLE to have a good and pleasurable marriage. Dont let anyone deceive you or make you think otherwise.

I rest my case.

KossyKiss97:


Well... the fact that you are having a BAD MARRIAGE or in a TERRIBLE RELATIONSHIP does not mean there aren't millions out there who are having a blissful marriage. Its absolutely selfish of you to shove down your experience on other people's throats, and making them think or believe they cannot have a blissful marriage. Speak for yourself and stop the generalization.

Please, for everyone reading this, it's very POSSIBLE to have a good and pleasurable marriage. Dont let anyone deceive you or make you think otherwise.

I rest my case.

Bless you absolutely for saying this. We have many twisted minds, many satanic and anti Godly minds and many anti success minds here, many broken minds here who are willing to drag as many as possible into their own dirty experience due to wickedness and hatred and all sort of nasty selfish reasons. Unfortunately for those who are gladly or ignorantly following them, the end is utter destruction thereof!

Jodha:

Yhu wrote paragraphs on sex..
And made barely a sentence on personality...

AAAAAHHHH!

Una dey see how women bring unnecessary arguments into ones life?

So it has moved from "anything" to "barely a sentence"?

God dey!

KossyKiss97:


Well... the fact that you are having a BAD MARRIAGE or in a TERRIBLE RELATIONSHIP does not mean there aren't millions out there who are having a blissful marriage. Its absolutely selfish of you to shove down your experience on other people's throats, and making them think or believe they cannot have a blissful marriage. Speak for yourself and stop the generalization.

Please, for everyone reading this, it's very POSSIBLE to have a good and pleasurable marriage. Dont let anyone deceive you or make you think otherwise.

I rest my case.

Millions ko, Gazillions ni!

More like millions of marriages fail.

Just another woman fighting for marriage because she is panicking.

https://www.nairaland.com/6298872/ever-regretted-being-married-partner/10#96794209

yinkbell:


You don't need to regret. Call God into your relationship, He will fix it.

A typical black person!

https://www.nairaland.com/6267414/married-men-asking-single-guys/7#96628322

Gamesmart:


F**k your God!

The God of misery that you waste your life trying to please so badly because you fear his "vengeance".

When next you go to your place of worship, help me deliver a giant middle finger to him.

I don't know you, never met you, I'm not the cause of your misfortunes, pls take your failures and sadistic life away from my lane.


Rubbish and ingredients

kingreign:

I don't know you, never met you, I'm not the cause of your misfortunes, pls take your failures and sadistic life away from my lane.


Rubbish and ingredients

Just give am middle finger, that is the simple favour I asked of you.

He has not done well in your life, he deserves it!

I am not surprised so many have negative mindset about themselves and their spouses. Which invariably will affect their marriage. Its garbage in, garbage out. I have no regrets marrying my hubby cos my input dey determine output. I dey enjoy my marriage wella. What about u?

kingreign:

No insults meant but I should be blunt at this point.
You have nothing to say about marriage. Wait till you go thru a spiritual class on marital counselling, and eventually get married then you can discuss about marriage. Marriage is more spiritual than you are seeing.


This is coming from someone who is happily married and has a marriage counsellor has spent 40years in their blissful union and still waxing strong.

Half truth. So many married people give their experiences on how marriages open to them,Bliss or Toxic, meanwhile one may not marry and still gives comprehensive opinion/counsel much more than married one. It all depends on how one understands philosophy of life not necessary you are fully into it, after all she or he has been into relationships before. Or you want to tell me boyfriend n girlfriend relationship experiences don't usually count/help in marriages.