Yamiriflathead:


In which country and under which law?
You're grousely incorrect
Ask every woman out there in Nigeria, they'll prefer to have their spouses around because they know husband's spend more when they're around.
I can put my child on say 20 or 15 thousand allowance monthly and heaven will not fall.
If she wants to make trouble I'll threaten her that I want my child and in Nigeria dad's can have their kids once they're above six, trust me she'll adjust.
You see those stories you read online about baby mamas?
It's because the men involved don't have their time

Yea bro, i dont mind spending more for my child. What is a woman compared to man? As a vibrant man with full potentials, I can feed three women and still remain solid. What I will not do is to trim myself to suit any woman. Thats why i said, if you allow a say queen they will scam you in the name of marriage but if you marry a real woman, the more you give her, feed her, cloth her, the more joy you will have. Imagine, one slay queen getting a court order for me to place her on a monthly salary just bc we had a child together while she rome the town with my money and one useless suger boy. Baby mamas na the real scammers. Ask wiskid how much he is paying for that his boy upkeep. That kind money saved in year is enough to build one cool mansion for a reasonable woman and her child. The point is, get a good woman and marry, its more fun than a stranger taking care of your kid in the name of babymama.

OP, what you have witnessed is what they call a "generational cycle". It didn't start today. Do not be surprised that the man's parents were also of the same condition. 90% of Nigerian lack foresight. They breed children that they cannot cater to and do not plan for the next generation. Poverty of the mind is so bad in this country that most people don't realize that they are breeding terrorists, agberos, prostitutes and yahoo boys. Don't get me wrong, there are a few people who were poor but were able to rise above their situation but what is the percentage of those compared to the general population. Cultural and religious dogma doesn't help matters. "Go and multiply". "You will seek favor from your children". Nonsense. These same people will mock you for being single and not having children but they cannot take care of themselves let alone their children. Poverty is a serious problem. It then becomes recycled from generation to generation. If that man doesn't change his ways, his children will forever remain on that level.

Deathissweet:
I understand that brokenness doesn’t have respect for anybody, meanwhile that is why you need to plan well before getting married or giving birth.

I shouldn’t be posting this but since I am not including anybody’s name, I don’t think I am doing something wrong.

I relocated to a new state few months ago so I have decided to make friends with matured foks because most guys of my age (30yrs ) here are yahoo boys. I am not judging anyone but at least I shouldn’t be painted bad in a new town.

There’s this guy I gave a ride in my estate last 2 month. He’s married with 3 kids. Ever since I gave him a ride. He has been disturbing me with calls to ask for money to the extend that any time I give him a ride and he sees money in my car. He will take it then ask for permission, every time we see. He always complain bitterly as if I don’t have my own problems too.

A lot of cases like that. The one he did last really pained me cox I gave him all my last card. He called me early in the morning that he wanted to see me. I was in the bathroom when he knocked. He brought in 2 of his kids early Monday momo, he started with his complains as usual and said there’s nothing for them to eat this morning that I should give him anything. I gave him all the cash I had and foods stuffs then he left.

A lot of cases like that from different people but that is not the point ...the point is inside this same hardship and all. This guy gave birth to his 3rd born. Even me that has a business, cars and my own house. I haven’t even reason giving birth yet.

Please I want to know what exactly motivate this people to start bringing up innocent children to come and suffer. I think this is what the government should regulate (giving birth ) not social media.

I have rad ur post twice. I still did not understand the purpose of this post especially trying to link it with the caption. Can u please point it out to me and others that feel same way I feel.
Thanks.

Most people give birth with the mindset that the child will bring blessing, without weighing their pocket, I wish to have 3 kids, but right now I can conveniently take care of 2 with the weight of my pocket by the mercy of God. I get so pissed when advisers general start poking their noses" won't you give birth again, don't you want a girl, these kids are old enough for a younger one, born wetin you wan born at once bla bla bla" . As if they will donate daipers or cloth or school fees for me.

Deathissweet:


I think this is the most reasonable comment so far. I am not shaming him because I have suffered and I know what it feels not to have. But my problem is why bring up another child when you can’t even take care of yourself


The problem now is with everything he his going through. He is still womanizing

Bros, no mind those poverty minded people, you hardly feed yourself but you are so quick to have a quikie that will lead to offsprings to come suffer in this hard life, those people are the ones destroying Nigeria cuz many of those children ends up becoming hoodlums that will be given 500naira to disrupt protest and loot businesses...


Is the man limb, blind or has any form of disability, I'm sure the answer is NO, so why can't he engage in anything to feed himself and his family, that shows some people just have this begging mindset.


Bro, don't give him any money to start business cux once you do, he will lavish the money and come up with another story, my brother, no carry person matter for head and carry your own for hand ooo.

Judybash93:


At least he doesn't have an extra mouth that depends on him

You think the present condition in the country will get better enough for anyone to marry if your assumptions are true?

A systemic failure is not the individual's fault. He's born to fail

Overcoming adversity against all odds is another story

OrdinaryNigeria:
I saw a hausa woman yesterday in her late 30 with 10 children and very broke. Political giving birth

WTF!! 10 children nawa for these people o

Op, you better give yourself sense and chase those people out of your life very quickly, or else they will soon bring you down to their level. Most people in Nigeria are not civilized reason for their often using debasing things like whether you are married or not to judge people. Some people rush into marriage and find out the reality themselves. But if you take care of these people, believe me, it is just a matter of time before you realized they were using you all along as a pun to solve the problem they created for themselves. And they are also using the sentiment of the society setting that if you see poor kids and don't help, that makes you a bad person. So the feeling of entitlement is in such people. And their tendency to make poor choices in life puts them in a league below you, or one of you will surfer from the incompatible relationship.

"Government needs to regulate birthrate instead of social media", you've said it all.

Giving birth to children that are uncared for is the leading cause of poverty and insecurity in this country.

a lot of factors contribute to rise in giving birth like

even bad governance itself

no light to watch tv

no water to drink

all that the man has for entertainment is his wife so that is why population increses

Olayetan:


Bros, no mind those poverty minded people, you hardly feed yourself but you are so quick to have a quikie that will lead to offsprings to come suffer in this hard life, those people are the ones destroying Nigeria cuz many of those children ends up becoming hoodlums that will be given 500naira to disrupt protest and loot businesses...


Is the man limb, blind or has any form of disability, I'm sure the answer is NO, so why can't he engage in anything to feed himself and his family, that shows some people just have this begging mindset.


Bro, don't give him any money to start business cux once you do, he will lavish the money and come up with another story, my brother, no carry person matter for head and carry your own for hand ooo.

Money for business ke. I have you ones and this niga is just an estate Neighbour not even a friend

adanonso:
This is my Priest Sermon on sunday and i Regret that i have four already. Now that Reccesion hits my husband Biz and Chest Pain is giving my tailor Biz Setback, i Regret getting married in the first place. And to think i was a good girl hopeIng for a happy married life make me wish i can turn back the time.

Don't have a single one again.

Not even for another man in a second marriage (if it comes to that).

Any household in Lagos that does not have steady combined N400K+ per month income, coming in from husband and wife, should not have more than 1 child.

N700K for more than 2 children.

For you to have 4, you should be making a combined income of at least N1m and have built your house.

Vicas2000:
Bringing the children to your house is a form of emotional blackmail. In hindsight, you should just go into your house and get some of your raw food e.g. 1 cup of rice and give it to him.

When you do that, he wont be able to say no to it.

Trust me, he used those kids to collect money from you. Those kids are not actually hungry. The money won't even go into feeding the kids.


There is a significant number of Nigerians that will "begi begi" just to collect money from you. THey believe they are entitled to your money and they even castigate you when you don't share it like you are doing wrong.

It's the brainwashing through cultural and religious lenses. Don't fall for it. Learn to tell people you are broke. and stick with it.

That shows how manipulative and entitled he is.

He should have told himto eff off.

Deathissweet:
I understand that brokenness doesn’t have respect for anybody, meanwhile that is why you need to plan well before getting married or giving birth.

I shouldn’t be posting this but since I am not including anybody’s name, I don’t think I am doing something wrong.

I relocated to a new state few months ago so I have decided to make friends with matured foks because most guys of my age (30yrs ) here are yahoo boys. I am not judging anyone but at least I shouldn’t be painted bad in a new town.

There’s this guy I gave a ride in my estate last 2 month. He’s married with 3 kids. Ever since I gave him a ride. He has been disturbing me with calls to ask for money to the extend that any time I give him a ride and he sees money in my car. He will take it then ask for permission, every time we see. He always complain bitterly as if I don’t have my own problems too.

A lot of cases like that. The one he did last really pained me cox I gave him all my last card. He called me early in the morning that he wanted to see me. I was in the bathroom when he knocked. He brought in 2 of his kids early Monday momo, he started with his complains as usual and said there’s nothing for them to eat this morning that I should give him anything. I gave him all the cash I had and foods stuffs then he left.

A lot of cases like that from different people but that is not the point ...the point is inside this same hardship and all. This guy gave birth to his 3rd born. Even me that has a business, cars and my own house. I haven’t even reason giving birth yet.

Please I want to know what exactly motivate this people to start bringing up innocent children to come and suffer. I think this is what the government should regulate (giving birth ) not social media.

Nice write up and you have a good heart, dont throw that good heart away！

Yankee101:


You think the present condition in the country will get better enough for anyone to marry if your assumptions are true?

A systemic failure is not the individual's fault. He's born to fail

Overcoming adversity against all odds is another story

Creating preventable expenditure in the face of adversity is a smart way to go in my opinion. I understand your point though but it's not for everyone.

You better stop doing what you can't continue to do for life now. Strictly tell him no. No give rides anymore.
He may plan bad things against you. Don't ever open your door or pick his call. You don try.

Person wey see hard life but still fit Bleep fit do you bad -

what's more painful is the fact that they don't return money borrowed because they think you have no need for it, so annoying.

JONSYN7154:
first of all thanks for the insult.
Did I know he womanize?

next time learn to read before commenting

Seerade029:
I have nothing to say than.

all fingers ain't equal.
if everyone is rich, there will be hyper inflation.


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I didn't even read your post before, but after reading it.
Tell them man to learn a skill. (Plumber, furniture, tailoring, mechanic, welder, barber etc).
The truth is there is job in Nigeria but, we humans ain't satisfied we want to go higher (it's good though, but start from somewhere)

and if you can help him with #50,000 - #100,000 cash to start business, do so.
if you can't, ignore.

Why should he give him money to learn a skill is he his father or why should he be giving birth anyhow without nothing I. Place for family

If I were the guy I will bone him and tell.him I also have my own problems

Deathissweet

He's simply taking advantage of your soft spot for him, simple as ABC.
I had a driver like that once, he opened shop on my head. 10k, 5k, 3k, etc for someone who was delivering 2k per day for me and I wasn't even the owner of that particular vehicle, it was only put in my care. It went on like that for months before his friend told me that he was just taking the advantage of my kindness. Imagine that!
That man and his family were living and managing their lives before you came into the picture. If you leave that environment today, they will still continue with their lives without you. Don't forget that

osusuallstars:
This mans case is even small sef,
Go to the core north and see a 35-45 years unemployed ,illiterate, and no meaningful means of livelihood with 15-27 children
Why do we have almajiri?, book haram and bandits
I remember one sani with 27 children from 4 wives. He will always quote what Qur'an said " marry and born as many as you can so that I will be proud of you on judgment day....

Did the Quran really say this?

showafrica:


Everything you said its true but how do you manage sleeping with a woman every night without getting her pregnant. You may say condom but if you are really married you will know sometimes you don't have any choice than to dive in like that and abortion is worst than having 10kids. I would say the man no plan well for his family. Before thinking of marriage, man should have some kind of stable source of income.

How is abortion "worst" than having 10 kids?

Gamesmart:


How is abortion "worst" than having 10 kids?

If you witness one, you will understand... Every life deserves a chance.

LastProphet:
Africans are taught at home, in church and mosque that they were born in order to give birth to more people. So don't be surprised even a dying African must still marry and born because that is our destiny. We can't solve any major problem of the world like finding cure for corona, inventing any technology etc, because we are focused on just giving birth to beautiful kids. If you graduate from university as a chemical engr here, even your parents will not ask you how many chemicals you have engineered after graduation, the only thing they will ask you is when you will marry. The same crap preached in churches, same crap in nollywood movies, so my brother don't be surprised to find failures around everywhere who have only 1 single contribution to humanity which is child bearing

You've said it all, it's in the culture.

A family man who is:
A broke man,
An unrepentant begger,
A womanizer.

U better cut him off your life. Those are kind of people that brings trouble to folks they perceive rich.

winterfell007:
I'll keep typing it on a fora i see myself. Nigeria's biggest issue is overpopulation. Our population far outstrips the few available resources we have. This singular reason why there's so much poverty in the land. Other issues like poor leadership and corruption only adds to the terrible condition.
The richest countries in the world are countries whose population are very optimum to match the available resources. Countries like: Luxembourg, Norway, Qatar and other European countries have optimum populations. Their family unit is usually made of four, that includes father, mother and two children, in some cases three, in rare cases four. It's never more than four children.
But come down to African, a man on a 25k salary in the north will be marrying two wives and having close to ten childrens living on his meager income. They're many others like that, so tell me why the cycle of poverty won't worsen in Nigeria and Africa at large?

Our biggest problem is lack of using our brain and corruption.

China, USA, Japan, Germany etc all have huge populations and less resources than Nigeria.

Luxembourg, Finland and European countries are rich because they use their brains and they do not sing, dance and support corrupt politicians because "he is from my tribe/zone".

Qatar is rich because it has more oil barrels than people. They are stupid people, who worship some mystical God 5 times a day, that are just lucky oil is on their land.

Black people, especially Nigerians are stupid human beings. They will rather pray to God than use their brains, and trying to correct them will only lead to defiance and claims that "You don't know God. He is all seeing, knowing and can do anything. He can do anything and has done miracles in my life".

This is why when any issue occurs in Nigeria, our brain dead leaders tell us to "pray" and the foolish people accept it.

showafrica:


If you witness one, you will understand... Every life deserves a chance.

I will understand what?

We should bring chldren into the world that we can not take care of and create Almajiris?

Komu1048:




Bro, so because you don't want to help a recurring beggar now, ft should now regulate child bearing. You think the guy is only begging because of his family?


Naso people dey beg me front and back to marry. Me wey dey count my losses this year as rain do me shege. No body ask me how I go see money to re-establish. Nasoso u don dey old ooo, go marry, go born etc

Foolish Nigerians with their foolish advice.

Gamesmart:


I will understand what?

We should bring chldren into the world that we can not take care of and create Almajiris?

Lol, you know its only in the North Almajiris exists and we know why. Them no Bleep pass China and India. The Almajiris are useless to the society because there leaders are waiting for Niger delta oil. The massive lands in the North can employ 10 x the population of the current Almajiris in the North and everybody will be happy.

showafrica:


Lol, you know its only in the North Almajiris exists and we know why. Them no Bleep pass China and India. The Almajiris are useless to the society because there leaders are waiting for Niger delta oil. The massive lands in the North can employ 10 x the population of the current Almajiris in the North and everybody will be happy.

So in the South we are taking care of the children we are bring into the world?