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bro your problem is not special. ..
the bible says problem are comes to all men..thats why you need to take fasting as a life style
Yea so what you need now is fast for 12 days 6-6
if the devil allow you.
The purpose of the fast is to allow the holy spirit lead you on what to do...what next...
so yea...
1 Corinthian 2:10
But God hath revealed them unto us by his Spirit: for the Spirit searcheth all things, yea, the deep things of God.

yea so if you have any problems any day..follow fasting to stir the spirit of God for solutions
God reveal to us by his spirit
You command the presence of that spirit through fasting.

HighRiseConcept:
If you are married. And your wife is loyal and faithful to you. You don’t know what God has done for you

U never see loyal wife that respect you and u trust her, but she sleeping with other men.

Make it faster! I don't just know how someone will think of taking his or her own precious life. Those negative things can change to positive within minutes of not seconds.

When you over think issues, you get yourself into depression.

Dump her if you can't cope living with her. Why punish yourself?

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

You are alive and you are thinking about how to make. Life easy for your children

Consider when you are dead, do you think they will get a better father that will do that for them ?

Sucide is only going to create more depressing situations for your loved ones not your wife

You can't die because of her promiscuous life style, it doesn't make any sense

If you are no longer happy with the union, get yourself happy by sorting yourself out while still in the marriage

Time will heal every thing, every problem has a solution

She is leaving her life and your are planning Sucide,

My dear, leave your life and don't allow her to get you down

She doesn't care about hoe you feel so sort your way out while still in the marriage

Don't allow anyone to determine your happiness

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

If you think taking your life is the best try it and watch her
Bleep everything she sees on the street
Your kids will live to regret that decision of yours
Imagine people telling them your poor wretched dad committed suicide
The pain
The bitterness
They will end up hating you the more for making them pass through that shit
Killing your self won’t solve this
If you want try it and see
Your wife might be busy now arranging another Bleep while you want to kill your self
And I won’t even mind joining the knacking

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

If you love your kid.. do not take your life.
If you don't love then take your life, they will suffer more when you are gone.

Are you thinking or you are sure she is sleeping another man ?

If you are 100% sure , suicide is like running away from your fear or shame.

Why not just do normal run away to another state or Ghana start a new life . New puxxy ... Test good wed, for your information no smoker think of suicide. Smoke and forget about your worries adult only.

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

OP, don't commit a suicide pls. And pls stop think of killing yourself because of a woman or anybody. You will die while they continue their lifes. Just be grateful to God that He revealed this to you. "Once your enemy is revealed to you, then it will be difficult for such enemy to harm you".! If possible, stop telling people about the issue because it will add more salt to the wound. Many will advise you divorce her, you may end up breaking your sweet home. Call your wife and listed all these favours she had from God through you and ask if what she did was right, believe me, she will feel remorse and apologise. Warn her not do that again and insist in seeking a divorce when such thing occurs again. Some women are innocent but were only taken advantaged by wicked and devil men to destroy your home. Please, don't send her away in the interest of your children and your psychology disorder. Find means of rehabilitating her but Becareful and take some cautions. Reduce how you reveal your secret. if you are careful, you will understand whether she is her way or not. In interim, cultivate the act of eating together. On no account should you eat without her eating from the same plate with you. Continue to show love to her and your family. Don't add to the number of divorced homes. It's my little advise. My God make you happy. Good luck

MeeztaFabulouz:
7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.

Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?

Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.

This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.

Bro you need to be a man.

As a man your duty is not only to provide for the needs of your family but essentially to give directions on how things MUST be done in the home that you are labouring hard day and night to build. If you fail to take charge of your home, if you like cut off your head, you will never be appreciated.

Life is beyond material things. Moral standards, discipline and love are much more important because they go beyond the now.

Correct your mistakes by beginning to take charge of your home.

Nigeriabiafra80:
If you think taking your life is the best try it and watch her
Bleep everything she sees on the street
Your kids will live to regret that decision of yours
Imagine people telling them your poor wretched dad committed suicide

Help the guy small

baralatie:
mister man something is wrong with you and not your wife o!

I was about saying same , cause I don’t understand the whole write up

Wetin your eyes find reach her fone in the first place?

grandlexuz:
I am sorry to hear about your issues. Believe you me a lot of people on nairaland are insensitive and stupid. I know what it means to throw a sensitive issue like this on nairaland. I have been through the lions den. Being maltreated and abandoned by my wife when I was severely sick.

Forget about all those condemning you. I do understand your problem both from self experience and a medical perspective. If you really need someone to share life experiences and talk to contact me on whatsapp and you will never regret it. I live in Cameroon. My number is 237. 653 924 176.

Your case is different brother don't encourage men to act weak like a woman. Is he sick? Read this guy write-up it full of errors. First he complained the wife cheats but never admitted he caught her cheating

Secondly he jumped to the fact the wife love money

Then to the part the wife don't like him spending on him self

...again, she don't have time for her family.

All this she been doing to you for 7years. Then you as a man what you been doing ?

Believe me this guy is the problem of him self not the wife. Had it been he caught his wife cheating that's a different story

Complete house wife's are worst cheats. Ones they're idle & less productive funny fantasy enters their mind.

Juliusmomoh:
Thank God u know u made a mistake..
And beside suicide is not the best opinion here...
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U married her at the age of 28.. Don't u know girl of 28 are still in their hoeing stage ?... And instead of u to make her a complete housewife, u carry your hand go find wahala...
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Now the remedy...
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chinchonglee:
Lool!!
Once you think your wife or girlfriend is cheating, den she is definitely cheating or still in the process to cheat.
Quote me anywhere!

That woman is cheating 101%, its only that OP stylishly composed the post because he is feeling embarrassed with the situation.

The customer he said that he was her toaster when they were in sch had been fucking his wife long time, in fact she doesn't even send him that was why she left the chats undeleted.

I blame Op, he wasn't in control of her marriage since beginning and unfortunately its beyond his control now

By allowing her EX and former toaster to be coming to the shop is a sign of weak husband. There is no way she won't fall for at least one of them.

MeeztaFabulouz:
7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.

Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?

Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.

This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.

Please I will ask you to seek professional help regarding your depression. Whatever is going on between you and your wife is not too big for God to handle. Go into prayer and ask God for help.

Remember if you kill yourself you will live your children at the mercy of strangers to raise. Who can care for your children like you? Who can love them as you do?
Talk to your wife and both of you seek counselling. Although you have help your wife to establish her business don't look at it as a favor but an obligation to your family. Any advise beyond this will be one sided as we have not heard your wife side of the story.
Best of luck and God help

Greenlandncom:
Bro you need to be a man.

As a man your duty is not only to provide for the needs of your family but essentially to give directions on how things MUST be done in the home that you are labouring hard day and night to build. If you fail to take charge of your home, if you like cut off your head, you will never be appreciated.

Life is beyond material things. Moral standards, discipline and love are much more important because they go beyond the now.

Correct your mistakes by beginning to take charge of your home.

How ..?
How can you take charge without money?

bro calm down you didn't meet her a virgin, so why are you pained somewhat of considering suicide?


I'm not justifying her actions but a 26years old lady that you didn't marry as a virgin shouldn't surprise you of anything that might happened post marriage. why should a 26years old lady give her dignity to someone that's not going to pay her bride price ?


anyway suicide because you caught your woman cheating on you is the funniest things I have had lately, kids or no kids, you're entitled to dissolute your togetherness if there is a breach of trust, there is no qualms there, your kids will be fine

Before choosing to be in a committed relationship with my partner, I made two resolutions to myself how I'll handle situations if things goes south. I will never loose peace because of a partner. I didn't tell her the resolution I made. its just within me. So there you go.

1. At the very least, the only thing I need from a woman is kids, sex, and companionship. If she bear my kids and stop living up to her other duty as a partner, and refused to make it up, that is the end. I'm out. I refuse to fulfil my duties if she refuse to live up to hers.

2. A separated family is better than a toxic one. Its better for the kids to experience love with each parents separately, than to experience toxicity in a loveless home together. My kids will still have the best provisions from a father, and my supporting ascendants can take of them if need be.


The problem I see with you is that you are not in charge. You lack the willpower to accept your new reality, adapt, and cut off your presence, support, and allow her to actually go deep the rabbit hole she wants to go into. Be cold as ice. Your love and service should be absent, that is becomes clear you changed too. When the going gets tough, the tough gets going. You are a man in the sense that if you look after yourself well, with resources to complement, you can still get another woman far younger and beautiful than her, and that will be her karma. A woman will give you her loyalty when she knows too well that she is replaceable instantly with far quality woman than her.

In matters of love, and in the face of those lovey-dovey act, the foundation should be bedrocked on logic, pragmatism, and damage control. Dont let those emotions and display of affection fool you, your eyes must be sharp on the ball. And if she change, you change as well. Chances are, she can do all these because she is assured of your support no matter how ridiculous her behaviors. She knows the password to your loyalty, which is that you can't leave her for the sake of your kids. Yes, what's keeping you miserable.

How about your parents taking care of your kids if you do not have the time? You need to accept that modern women are totally different from the fairy tales men are bombarded with through media. Times have changed. And to navigate smoothly in this new terrain, you must update your mindset to fit with the 21st century women, understand how they think and play accordingly.

You are the one that is making yourself miserable. She has made up her mind to not uphold the integrity of your family, and you should adapt to this new reality, not wishing on the return of past glory. Accept it with grace as a man and move on. A relationship worth fighting for is one where both people are willing to make it work, not just you. In every relationship, the one that needs the other the least has all the power, and you must make it clear that she is not only replaceable, but disposable if she mess up. Free yourself, its in your hands.

So you carry woman matter for head, so much that you even wan kill yourself. Go kill yourself now. Mtcheeeeeew

Bigggloadofcum:
Hmm!

This matter carry weight o. As proper and justifiable as it is to check the phones of our spouses, the discovery might turn out to be SUICIDAL.

First, you are within ur marital right to check on ur wife's phone even though a few persons might disagree with that.

From your writeup I could deduce u are broke even though you try ur best to provide for ur family. The woman you married doesn't feel the need to respect someone who she feels she's better than financially.

This is a real story. When I was 9 my dad was going through serious financial challenges and even though my mum was totally supportive, he felt incomplete. One evening I saw my dad with a rope.

He didn't say a word to me... He went out. Late at night he didn't come home and we started looking for him but he was no where to be found. There was no phones like there is now.

Late on oga came back looking frail and disconnected from this earth. We welcomed him as usual. Next day he called me and told me that he had hung the rope to a tree and was about tying it round his neck but he thought about my siblings and I.

Few years down, thinks turned around tremendously. He became happy, our family became happy.

Now b4 you take that suicidal step, think of your children, double ur hustle but if that woman is cheating on you, kick her ass out. You deserve better.

A woman shouldn't be the end of you. There is always light at the end of the tunnel.

Well spoken bros!

just tell er tu change d kind of people she chats with if u not ok with er chatting with er ex.... period....
no go kii yur self.. n mumu thing...


u neva even catch er dy fuvk another man u dy complain....
bro please calm down.... abeg
we gan wen still dy date.. we dy face challenges from girls....


only God know how dis marriage of a thing dy self....

God help us all ooo

MeeztaFabulouz:
7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.

Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?

Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.

This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.

Please, connecton WhatsApp.

berrystunn:
How ..?
How can you take charge without money?

This a weak man question. For a man to ask this question it means u suppose be gay not a man trust me

Although i'm not in your shoe and would never allow myself be in one cuz the way everyone handles relationship is quite different and varies from person to person

Firstly, no woman can be giving me that bullshit story of an Ex checking on her everytime and the other one coming to restaurant cuz company shits. me don't believe all these bullshit story cuz which kind play DOG DEY PLAY WITH LION as i don't TRUST VAGINA people. they are very heartless and insatiable nomatter how much you do for them and how you do it. WOMEN always like to go after better offers regardless even though the disguise of a better offer na scam na just for the man to Get inside her Pant but yet they are too fool to see that

My Advice! forget about the sucidal thought, no woman deserves it. you are blessed already man cuz you got kids. women generally are useless be it wife or girlfriend or whatever they may be. as i always tell my fellow guys. "never take any woman serious" getting too emotional makes a man too weak and redundant

Just keep playing along with your wife and act like you still don't know whats going on. even soon she might decide to leave the house and go with another stupid man fooling her promising her heaven and Earth, leave her, dont beg her, let her go, na her problem! just hold on your kids and be responsible for them cuz they are your blessings and reward from that marriage.

I Pray you get back up financially and better than before. females generally are loving when is beneficial. They associate only for the benefits, when its no longer beneficials they seek another Host to suck blood from cuz they are like Mosquito

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

baralatie:
what gives the impression that the op is kind?

She is not far from the truth... It is a very well known, observed and researched fact that most nice guys get the short end of the relationship stick. Matter of fact, it is often said that "Nice guys always finish last"!

It is a terrible thing that people don't value what is good, both guys and ladies.... That's why you see ladies cheating on good guys, and guys cheating on good ladies.

Mr. Op needs to lick his wounds, pick up what's left of his dignity and do the needful... The wife needs to be talked to by an elder. They should call for a family meeting if possible... She needs to repent and choose between her marriage and the "good life".

If she is done with the marriage, she should speak up, let them go their separate ways. That's what civilized people do, not cheating.

Some people in marriages are merely suppressing their true desires and pursuits. This is how fraudulent the institution has become. Making hypocrites of people... I keep saying it: Stop pressuring people to become your spouse, and don't get pressured to marry someone even if you are pregnant for the person or the person is pregnant for you.

Righteousness89:
You shall Know the truth and the truth will set u Free..

The First truth you should know is that if you kill yourself in any way or Form, you will open your Eyes Live in Hell Fire! And it's forever and Ever.

Secondly, this is the reason I am an advocate that young men and Women seek the Face of God before saying I do. And until you are sure GOD has showed you your Spouse, do not Marry! Marriage is a life time Commitment. Going your way might look sweet at the start but it will always end in Pains!

Thirdly, you Have Married! You Have Married! You are her Husband and she is your wife.
There could be Solutions but you need to approach the originator of the institution of Marriage and take Matters to HIM on the basis of His Mercy.

As you Pray you reach out to Elders you know she could listen to.


For those who are about to Enter, Ensure you Hear Clearly about your Spouse. If you didn't Hear! Pls no matter how juicy its looks, do not Enter!

Do not Marry because of He/she has Cash
Do not Marry because she has Big behind/Big Before or because He has 12 packs
Do not Marry because He/ She is this or that!
Do not Marry for Sympathy or Pity!

The Only Reason to Marry Him/ Her should be Because you Have Sort the Face of GOD and HE has given you the Go ahead!

It is Better to Be Single than to Marry who is not the will of GOD for you!

It will always End in Tears!

They that Have Ears to Hear! Let them Hear!

pls, kindly refer me to Bible chapters and verses that state marriage procedures. thank you.

Kapilta:
Uncle wetin dey work you? Life always sorts itself, keep living so you can see the magic. You can decide to leave her or stuck with her but one thing for sure, everything will balance itself. Sha no die.

Life always sorts itself, my motto for life, nice one

rafcrown:
Personally, I believe majority of women are not to be trusted. Married or single.

and men are to be trusted ? i find it funny how nigerian men cheat but expect their wives to be faithful

Can I know the details of their chats?

jidamsel43:
No woman worth the demise of a gentleman. You never how many years you've destined to use on the surface of the earth.

Take a break from the union and concentrate on your life. [s]Many women will crawl to have your attention later when you make it[/s]

Nonsense! Women's attention are troubles to a man's spirit.

Righteousness89:
You shall Know the truth and the truth will set u Free..

The First truth you should know is that if you kill yourself in any way or Form, you will open your Eyes Live in Hell Fire! And it's forever and Ever.

Secondly, this is the reason I am an advocate that young men and Women seek the Face of God before saying I do. And until you are sure GOD has showed you your Spouse, do not Marry! Marriage is a life time Commitment. Going your way might look sweet at the start but it will always end in Pains!

Thirdly, you Have Married! You Have Married! You are her Husband and she is your wife.
There could be Solutions but you need to approach the originator of the institution of Marriage and take Matters to HIM on the basis of His Mercy.

As you Pray you reach out to Elders you know she could listen to.


For those who are about to Enter, Ensure you Hear Clearly about your Spouse. If you didn't Hear! Pls no matter how juicy its looks, do not Enter!

Do not Marry because of He/she has Cash
Do not Marry because she has Big behind/Big Before or because He has 12 packs
Do not Marry because He/ She is this or that!
Do not Marry for Sympathy or Pity!

The Only Reason to Marry Him/ Her should be Because you Have Sort the Face of GOD and HE has given you the Go ahead!

It is Better to Be Single than to Marry who is not the will of GOD for you!

It will always End in Tears!

They that Have Ears to Hear! Let them Hear!

I have someone who could help monitor her calls and WhatsApp chats..

Hit me up for their contact
Dami.ojo@yahoo.com