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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by toye440: 12:03pm On Dec 08, 2020

I understand how emotionally traumatised u r right now, but taking the easy way out (suicide) is just what a loser would contemplate. I came up with this philosophy like no matter how urgly the situation may look like i will always protect my joy. No amt of anger, or a excuse for suicide is worth going to hell for.
I know it may be difficult but u have got all that it takes to overcome the mess, u r built for such a time as this, u hv what it takes to win. Cowards take the easy way out, dont be coward.
In every problem their is a profit, it all depends on where u place ur focus. I understand u feel betrayed and disappointed but are those flimsy excuses good enough to abandon ur children, would u rather take the easy way out like a coward and hv one promiscus man raise ur children?
Look, not even animals would abandon their offspring without a fight. Remember d law of emotions states: a stronger emotions will dominate and overide a weaker one.-ve emotions r major causes of psycosomatic illness. Man Up !!!!!

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by picklighthouse: 12:04pm On Dec 08, 2020

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

Hi friend. I sympathize with you, I really do. What you experienced will be difficult for many people to understand and relate with but believe me I know how that feels. So the first thing I will tell you is to be strong and not loose hope. It is not over until hope is gone. If you have hope, you can heal and emerge from this experience a better person.

And please forget suicide. It is the exit door for selfish people. That phrase may look harsh but that is what it is. You want to die so that your children will be fatherless? Who takes care of them? You don't care. Who plays with them? You don't care. Who counsels them when you are gone? Not your concern. Who instructs and guides them? None of your business. Suicide is for very selfish people who doesn't care about others. Their parents, wife/husband, children, relations, friends etc. Since they are out of the picture the pain every other person suffers doesn't matter. You are better than that. So don't even think about it ever again.

About your wife and your findings, two things:
1) Call her and let her know your frustrations. Pick up her phone and show her what you have seen. (If you think she may deny it, have a screenshot on your phone). Demand explanations. Please at this point don't hold back. You are fighting for your sanity and your family. Pour your heart out. Tell her to come clean in the interest of your union. And let her see the dangers of keeping it secret, like love leaving your marriage, trust eroded and possibly a divorce. I am sure she too doesn't want that.

2) If that doesn't yield the necessary result, call someone or people you trust to help you let her see the danger signs you are seeing as a result of her infidelity. Please don't call people that are not worthy of your trust or her trust. Only people of integrity and credibility.

3) My friend, I don't know what you believe in but truly God instituted marriage and if its going south he knows how to fix it. Pray to God for mercy on your home. He wants it to work more than you do.

NB. Please ensure you have your facts. Just talking without evidence(s) makes you look unserious or like someone looking to pick a fight over nothing. So go with your proofs.

I wish you luck brother.

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by EmmanuelBanks: 12:06pm On Dec 08, 2020

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

oga wetin you read for her phone nawaoo

you just deyy give us story since...so tell us the bad thin she do now

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by kapelvej: 12:06pm On Dec 08, 2020

JERRY1925:
U contemplating suicide without even telling us what the problem is.
Is it your wife coming home or chats with her ex that's ur problem?
I really don't get.

Last I checked every woman get problem.

Fact Is, u should not be thinking of suicide because I am sure u read the handwriting on the wall before marriage.

Exactly my thoughts

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by madjune(m): 12:07pm On Dec 08, 2020*

My wife's phone has always had a lock system through our early days, and when I questioned her, she said, "If you know us well, you can unlock it."

And she leaves the phone carelessly in my care around the house til this day I chose to play with it.

Lo and behold, the codes were my date of birth in numbers.
As I turned round, she simply gave me that childish grin and waltzed into the next room.
Sometimes, women can be plain devious with these things, other times, downright teasing or playfully mischievous.
It all depends on who you're with.

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Martinez39s(m): 12:08pm On Dec 08, 2020

• team nawalt
• team "it will never happen to me."
• team "she is different, she won't do that to me."
• team "red pill is for immature boy."
• team "just make money and women issue will stop."
• team "you are not married yet so don't talk about marriage, you will understand when you get married."

MeeztaFabulouz, you are just a man who was ignorant of female nature and realized that all the good things, years, energy, and money invested in your slut of a wife were all for nothing. It would have been better and you would have been happier if you remained single and allowed your life revolve around only your happiness, needs, and ambitions.

It's damaging to your ego as a man to see two single guys were eating for free what you have been paying for and taking care of with your sweat. Even more damaging to your ego and psyche is the fact that some of the sex stuff she does with them she doesn't do with you. grin

Take the red pill because it's worth it. Red pill guys do not suffer what you have suffered because they know no woman, except your mother if you are close, is worth commitment and love (not hate either, just indifference). Digest Ubunja's miseducations; before you do that, visit the following threads:

– Meme thread Part 1
– Meme thread Part 2
– GLYCOLYSISS'S red-pill thread.

Yamiriflathead, I leave you to take it from here. grin

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Nobody: 12:09pm On Dec 08, 2020

Righteousness89:
You shall Know the truth and the truth will set u Free..

The First truth you should know is that if you kill yourself in any way or Form, you will open your Eyes Live in Hell Fire! And it's forever and Ever.

Secondly, this is the reason I am an advocate that young men and Women seek the Face of God before saying I do. And until you are sure GOD has showed you your Spouse, do not Marry! Marriage is a life time Commitment. Going your way might look sweet at the start but it will always end in Pains!

Thirdly, you Have Married! You Have Married! You are her Husband and she is your wife.
There could be Solutions but you need to approach the originator of the institution of Marriage and take Matters to HIM on the basis of His Mercy.

As you Pray you reach out to Elders you know she could listen to.

For those who are about to Enter, Ensure you Hear Clearly about your Spouse. If you didn't Hear! Pls no matter how juicy its looks, do not Enter!

Do not Marry because of He/she has Cash
Do not Marry because she has Big behind/Big Before or because He has 12 packs
Do not Marry because He/ She is this or that!
Do not Marry for Sympathy or Pity!

The Only Reason to Marry Him/ Her should be Because you Have Sort the Face of GOD and HE has given you the Go ahead!

It is Better to Be Single than to Marry who is not the will of GOD for you!

It will always End in Tears!

They that Have Ears to Hear! Let them Hear!

In as much I concur with ur sermon. I still have my own reservation, you see, there is a methodology between God and human. God will do his own part while humans will do his own part.

Leaving entire institution of marriage for only God to fix alone , to me its a mirage.

Going by ur illustrations, if God wants to help them fix their marriage, but either or both refuse, will God fix it?

In Africa we normally handle everything in our daily endeavors for God to do it alone for us and that is more reason we are dancing backward on second basis.

Not only marriage God instituted o, every human engagements need God intervention and it can only work if you do ur part and allow God to bless you.

Even in Bible, you cannot see where its written that .......pray and work oooo. ......but WORK and PRAY.

We shouldn't be too spiritual on issue of marriage which is pure physical.

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by candygirl4real: 12:11pm On Dec 08, 2020

baralatie:
mister man something is wrong with you and not your wife o!

Its very possible. How stories can be twisted to suit the complaints.

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Nobody: 12:11pm On Dec 08, 2020

This is what happens when you decide to marry a slay queen, looks arent evrything you know.

Just gat to live with it.

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by EmmanuelBanks: 12:14pm On Dec 08, 2020

grim33:
My guy don’t kill yourself.

You’ll gain nothing from that.

Here’s something you’ll gain from.
Read about “ redpill “ and “Mgtow “.

You’re only suffering because you’re not informed about the true nature of a woman.

Do yourself a favor and google the two key words I mentioned above ....

Thank me later.

pls Sir what's that "redpill" of a thin, I have been seen it...is there anything I can read regarding that, pls I want you to enlighten me Sir...

thanks....

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Martinez39s(m): 12:14pm On Dec 08, 2020*

madjune:
My wife's phone has always had a lock system since I met her.
I don't know how I came to terms with it, and we are living happily.
A woman and he phone are things of the world.
If you want to live long, don't concern yourself with things of the world.

Yeah, I understand. Blissful ignorance is better than harsh truth. grin

Na maturity dem dey use chop okra soup.

Maturity ko, maturity ni. There is no maturity here. Just the willingness on your part to live in a fool's paradise and partake in blissful ignorance instead of embracing the harsh truth. You are the simp in the plantation who can never be saved.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by IMASTEX: 12:15pm On Dec 08, 2020

Righteousness89:
You shall Know the truth and the truth will set u Free..

The First truth you should know is that if you kill yourself in any way or Form, you will open your Eyes Live in Hell Fire! And it's forever and Ever.

Secondly, this is the reason I am an advocate that young men and Women seek the Face of God before saying I do. And until you are sure GOD has showed you your Spouse, do not Marry! Marriage is a life time Commitment. Going your way might look sweet at the start but it will always end in Pains!

Thirdly, you Have Married! You Have Married! You are her Husband and she is your wife.
There could be Solutions but you need to approach the originator of the institution of Marriage and take Matters to HIM on the basis of His Mercy.

As you Pray you reach out to Elders you know she could listen to.

For those who are about to Enter, Ensure you Hear Clearly about your Spouse. If you didn't Hear! Pls no matter how juicy its looks, do not Enter!

Do not Marry because of He/she has Cash
Do not Marry because she has Big behind/Big Before or because He has 12 packs
Do not Marry because He/ She is this or that!
Do not Marry for Sympathy or Pity!

The Only Reason to Marry Him/ Her should be Because you Have Sort the Face of GOD and HE has given you the Go ahead!

It is Better to Be Single than to Marry who is not the will of GOD for you!

It will always End in Tears!

They that Have Ears to Hear! Let them Hear!

You have stated the fact but a quick one, how about revered religious men who have experienced marital issues that destroyed their marriages eventually. I.e. Ighila, chris, etc.?! They teach the word, organise marital counseling & anointing filled, do it mean they didn't hear from God?

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by thuxzwda1: 12:16pm On Dec 08, 2020

MeeztaFabulouz:
7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.

Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?

Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.

This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.

Find a babe that can give you better head and f**k you out of this depression...

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by John4B: 12:17pm On Dec 08, 2020

u want to take ur life because u feel ur wife is cheating on u, my advice is this: if u can't tolerate that ur wife anymore kick her out

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by King44(m): 12:17pm On Dec 08, 2020

Onlinebar:
I'm definitely putting my mental health above that of my kids.....we will all learn to adapt

okay... May you not experience what it feels like having a broken children amen.

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Righteousness89(m): 12:21pm On Dec 08, 2020

IMASTEX:
You have stated the fact but a quick one, how about revered religious men who have experienced marital issues that destroyed their marriages eventually. I.e. Ighila, chris, etc.?! They teach the word, organise marital counseling & anointing filled, do it mean they didn't hear from God?

Being a Pastor , Bishop, Pope or whatever is a Title.
You can teach all the Word! But did you Follow GOD'S will!
If you don't Heed to GOD'S will you will miss it! And you will get the Consequences!

There are Many Pastors that are trouble today because of that! And they are Paying Heavily for it!

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Righteousness89(m): 12:24pm On Dec 08, 2020

Fussion1000:
In as much I concur with ur sermon. I still have my own reservation, you see, there is a methodology between God and human. God will do his own part while humans will do his own part.

Leaving entire institution of marriage for only God to fix alone , to me its a mirage.

Going by ur illustrations, if God wants to help them fix their marriage, but either or both refuse, will God fix it?

In Africa we normally handle everything in our daily endeavors for God to do it alone for us and that is more reason we are dancing backward on second basis.

Not only marriage God instituted o, every human engagements need God intervention and it can only work if you do ur part and allow God to bless you.

Even in Bible, you cannot see where its written that .......pray and work oooo. ......but WORK and PRAY.

We shouldn't be too spiritual on issue of marriage which is pure physical.

I am Sorry for you!
You think u Wise??
Go ahead and do it!
We will wait here for you

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Nobody: 12:27pm On Dec 08, 2020

baralatie:
mister man something is wrong with you and not your wife o!

You see this your wisdom ehn..God will bless it.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Nanavati(m): 12:33pm On Dec 08, 2020

AM SERIOUSLY THINKING of what to tell you now. please pray for God's direction and also remember that suicide is not an option expect you don't love your children

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Barristter07: 12:34pm On Dec 08, 2020

CAPSLOCKED:

MOST MARRIED PEOPLE LIVE LIKE THIS AND IT'S STARTING TO FEEL LIKE MARRIAGE HAS OUTLIVED ITS USEFULNESS.

I'VE FIGURED MANY PEOPLE (WOMEN ESPECIALLY) GET MARRIED BECAUSE OF THE "WEDDING". YES. FOR THEM IT'S THE WEDDING PARTY, FANCY DRESSES AND PICTURES, AND ATTENTION THAT MATTERS. WHAT HAPPENS AFTER THAT DAY IS HARDLY GIVEN A THOUGHT AS LONG AS THE WEDDING DAY IS REMARKABLE AND MASSIVE.
MANY MEN ENTER INTO MARRIAGE TO SATISFY THEIR FAMILY AND RELATIONSHIP PARTNERS. THERE'S HARDLY ANY FAMILY TODAY THAT CAN SAY THEY'RE 100% HAPPY WITH EACH OTHER. IT'S LIKE THE REGRET SETS IN 30 MINUTES AFTER THE WEDDINGS AND EVERYBODY WISHES THEY SHOULDN'T HAVE DONE THIS.

WHAT FOLLOWS ARE SILLY EXCUSES, THAT "NO MARRIAGE IS PERFECT". THE TRUTH IS THAT MOST MARRIAGES SHOULD NEVER HAVE HAPPENED, AND THE VERY FEW MARRIAGES THAT EXISTS WITHOUT REGRETS ARE THE PERFECT ONES THAT MOST LOSERS PRETEND DOESN'T EXIST.

Sound!!! @bold

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Nobody: 12:38pm On Dec 08, 2020

Righteousness89:
I am Sorry for you!
You think u Wise??
Go ahead and do it!
We will wait here for you

Ur God is not magician, compare Nigeria headquarters of religion in the world to other less religion in Europe and north America, the earlier you knw the truth the better for you OK

Let me tell you truth, marriages among less spiritual people in Nigeria are enjoying and rosy farrrrr more than ministers and workers in houses of God, they only enduring it because of doctrine on divorce.

I will also advice you that when you wake up in the morin just pray and make sure you put your life into hands of God to fix it for you , after that go back and sleep.

God who created universe and banks will credit ur account at the end month to fix ur life for you. He is Jehovah jireh.

When you have severe headache pls don't take drugs or injection o, go to mountain on sunny day and pray for complete six hours, after all ur God is Jehovah rapha.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by dangervu(m): 12:44pm On Dec 08, 2020

Mr Poster ! my first advice for you is find inner peace within yourself ! make yourself happy, you have loved her unconditionally and probably make her your source of happiness,s she manipulates you ! your first assignment make up your mind that you want to be happy regardless the situation this has helped me alot ! alot of things don't bother me any more ! start doing stuffs that make you happy !

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by ChuksGab(m): 12:47pm On Dec 08, 2020

Righteousness89:
You shall Know the truth and the truth will set u Free..

The First truth you should know is that if you kill yourself in any way or Form, you will open your Eyes Live in Hell Fire! And it's forever and Ever.

Secondly, this is the reason I am an advocate that young men and Women seek the Face of God before saying I do. And until you are sure GOD has showed you your Spouse, do not Marry! Marriage is a life time Commitment. Going your way might look sweet at the start but it will always end in Pains!

Thirdly, you Have Married! You Have Married! You are her Husband and she is your wife.
There could be Solutions but you need to approach the originator of the institution of Marriage and take Matters to HIM on the basis of His Mercy.

As you Pray you reach out to Elders you know she could listen to.

For those who are about to Enter, Ensure you Hear Clearly about your Spouse. If you didn't Hear! Pls no matter how juicy its looks, do not Enter!

Do not Marry because of He/she has Cash
Do not Marry because she has Big behind/Big Before or because He has 12 packs
Do not Marry because He/ She is this or that!
Do not Marry for Sympathy or Pity!

The Only Reason to Marry Him/ Her should be Because you Have Sort the Face of GOD and HE has given you the Go ahead!

It is Better to Be Single than to Marry who is not the will of GOD for you!

It will always End in Tears!

They that Have Ears to Hear! Let them Hear!

God bless you for this wonderful piece

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by LikeAking: 12:47pm On Dec 08, 2020

Mens dey climb ur wife steady,steady.

Bitches

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by tweakdude1: 12:48pm On Dec 08, 2020

Bro, This is touching but listening.

Please do all these:
1. Take it to God in prayers.
2. Discuss with her about it.
3. If your dad is alive talk to him( be wise).
4. Discuss with the elders in your church
5. Talk to your pastor (Let the church decide)
6. Read your bible

Thank you.

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Decryptor(m): 12:48pm On Dec 08, 2020

98% of married women who got married from the late 90's till now cheat on their husbands!

Ask skales67...the wife-banger grin

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Nobody: 12:49pm On Dec 08, 2020

kalu61:
l don't often like responding to wise men like you who knows everything but misunderstood simple things. You grab the first sentence leaving the rest.
You didn't see where l asked him, is suicide the worst case scenario? I guess, you didn't.
Op didn't state any solution taken to resolve his issue from proper communication, third party or prayers but jumped into contemplating suicide.
We all get depressed.
I'm not responble to what you understand but what l say.

Thanks for your mature reply.
It's not just the first sentence but even till the last sentence is not too good. Although you made a valid point by saying suicide is not the way out no matter the situation but other things you said spoilt your post.
A man who has laboured for seven years in sweat and stress just to make his marriage work and have a happy family only for you to say "Not every marriage must work and if yours is destined for it, there nothing you can do about it."

It's like after you've laboured years in school to make it in life, someone comes and tell you not everyone is destined to make it in life, and there's nothing you can do about it. That kind of statement not too good.
It's painful inexperienced, unmarried guys on Nairaland always carry their inexperienced mentality on married couples' threads. Some are even quick to call the husband a simp.
We're talking about marriage not gf/bf relationship. Some people would only realize how immature some statements they made were when they finally have their own wives and kids, labouring day and night to keep the family together and have a happy home, and how severe a heartbreak in marriage can be.

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by LikeAking: 12:54pm On Dec 08, 2020

Give her real beatings, then throw her out.

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by authority2006(m): 1:01pm On Dec 08, 2020

MeeztaFabulouz:
You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression.

What did your wife do again? Because I didn't listen well the first time you spoke about her sins or misdeeds.

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by authority2006(m): 1:05pm On Dec 08, 2020

madjune:
My wife's phone has always had a lock system since I met her.
I don't know how I came to terms with it, and we are living happily.
A woman and he phone are things of the world.
If you want to live long, don't concern yourself with things of the world.

Na maturity dem dey use chop okra soup.

Simp

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by cescky(m): 1:07pm On Dec 08, 2020

Cmanforall:
King Solomon!

Hope youre not one of those kids on nairaland!

Never call ones opinion foolish because you disagree with it. Learn that today and NOTE your TEACHER!

Invading or snooping in your partners phone can hurt your relationship.

This is different from open relationships where both parties leave their phones unlocked or share their passwords.

Double foooolish opinion.. Dont quote me if you have NOn, zilt zero sense to make..

I mean why am i your partner, you've seen me naked and vice versa, we have children etc and can't go through your phone?

How old are you?.. Gerrarahia mahn

Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by authority2006(m): 1:12pm On Dec 08, 2020

CAPSLOCKED:

MOST MARRIED PEOPLE LIVE LIKE THIS AND IT'S STARTING TO FEEL LIKE MARRIAGE HAS OUTLIVED ITS USEFULNESS.

I'VE FIGURED MANY PEOPLE (WOMEN ESPECIALLY) GET MARRIED BECAUSE OF THE "WEDDING". YES. FOR THEM IT'S THE WEDDING PARTY, FANCY DRESSES AND PICTURES, AND ATTENTION THAT MATTERS. WHAT HAPPENS AFTER THAT DAY IS HARDLY GIVEN A THOUGHT AS LONG AS THE WEDDING DAY IS REMARKABLE AND MASSIVE.
MANY MEN ENTER INTO MARRIAGE TO SATISFY THEIR FAMILY AND RELATIONSHIP PARTNERS. THERE'S HARDLY ANY FAMILY TODAY THAT CAN SAY THEY'RE 100% HAPPY WITH EACH OTHER. IT'S LIKE THE REGRET SETS IN 30 MINUTES AFTER THE WEDDINGS AND EVERYBODY WISHES THEY SHOULDN'T HAVE DONE THIS.

WHAT FOLLOWS ARE SILLY EXCUSES, THAT "NO MARRIAGE IS PERFECT". THE TRUTH IS THAT MOST MARRIAGES SHOULD NEVER HAVE HAPPENED, AND THE VERY FEW MARRIAGES THAT EXISTS WITHOUT REGRETS ARE THE PERFECT ONES THAT MOST LOSERS PRETEND DOESN'T EXIST.

I always laugh and smh anytime anyone uses the words " everyone, everybody ". It's error of generalisation.

And again, was your life or anyone's life for that matter perfect before getting married? No perfect life, no perfect marriage, nothing is perfect in this life. The only perfect people are dead people. That's not excuse but reality

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